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  1. Thank you for replying. I really needed these words. I am still trying to pull through. I needed the reassurance. Even though things are hard, I'm sure things will get better eventually.
  2. Thank you for replying. I do realize that a lot of people suffer from overthinking. Sometimes it feels like I'm the only one. I am definitely thinking about going to therapy after I graduate (hopefully, keeping my fingers crossed). I am trying to take life one day at a time.
  3. Hi, I am writing this because things in my life are not going well. I will try my best to keep it short. I'm in my final semester of college but I'm struggling with my classes right now. I am sure I will graduate but I will have to work hard to keep my grades up. Plus, I'm starting to notice that some of my friendships/social bonds are starting to fade. Im worried if ive damaged my relationships with others. I have made some mistakes in the past that I feel guilty for. I am trying to move on from the past but its hard to do. I tried talking on the phone to a hotline twice but it wasnt helpful. I am still able to get through the day. But everyday feels like a cycle of overthinking. I am writing all of this because I am currently not happy with how things are going. I really just need some uplifting and encouraging words.
  4. I have made some really dumb and bad choices this year. 2020 has been full of ups and downs for me. I woke up feeling guilt, regret, and anxiety over the past. I have the hardest time letting go of the past. I struggle to even let go of embarrassing memories. I wish I could take back some of my choices. Sometimes the guilt can strike when I'm having a good time. When I wake up, the guilt and regret are hard not to dwell on. I have a very time not beating myself up Does anyone else struggle with self forgiveness? Advice?
  5. I recently felt ignored and ostracized by someone. I don't want to give all the details. But I'm wondering: how do you mentally and psychologically cope with being (or feeling) ostracized? Ignored?
  6. I'm glad you replied. I appreciate the compliment of my effort. It really means a lot to me that someone recognizes my effort and is willing to assist when they can. Speaking of what you wrote, I always use to think that once you gain confidence that all your mental challenges (seeking approval, feeling hurt by others' criticism, comparing yourself to others, feeling shy, etc.) will "vanish". But I realize that is just a misconception. Even the most confident person in the world can feel insecure from time to time. But your insight was helpful.
  7. I can relate to what you wrote, in a different way. I have made myself look like a fool in front of certain people. When they gave me a certain reaction, I ended up taking it personally and mentally reviewing it in my head for the remainder of the day. I have a pretty bad habit of beating myself up. Sometimes, I can be my own worst critic. What helps is reminding myself that I am a human being and I am INCAPABLE of being perfect. Humans are not designed to be perfect and will make mistakes throughout life. That usually helps me to be a lot easier on myself.
  8. I'm glad you replied. I'm glad you were able to relate to this post that I wrote. I (somewhat) have the misconception that confidence issues are usually issues that young people deal with. But it can affect people of all ages and from all walks of life. I try to stay positive about my confidence issues. Each day is a new day and an opportunity to work on yourself. The fact that you said you failed at gaining confidence shows that you put some effort into this. It's good that the effort is there.
  9. Thanks for this. I'm glad you can relate. I try to give myself reminders when I experience any kind of negativity. I have to remind myself to stop being so hard on myself, which is one of my worst habits.
  10. Thanks for your reply. I'm glad this post has resonated with you. I am still using the skills I learned but I need to be more consistent at doing them. I definitely relate to the self-improvement and progress part. I have made efforts to improve my situation in terms of confidence and self-esteem but still feel like I haven't made progress. I am going to use your advice of radical acceptance and compassion. I am not always compassionate towards myself and I will find a way to break this habit. Visualization sounds very helpful, so I will try to put that in my routine. You are right about self-improvement. It is not a smooth road. It comes with bumps along the way. Aspects of my confidence that I want to change are: social skills, assertiveness, and possibly approaching women. Ways that I can treat myself with more love and compassion is to meditate, do deep breathing exercises, read self-help books, journaling, and working out (realistically).
  11. Thanks for your reply. I'm glad you responded to this. I've been having a pretty bad day in regards to my confidence and needed some comforting words. I'm glad you can relate to my situation. I am 22, if that helps. I am glad that old age has lessened them for you. But thanks again. If my words in this post can resonate with anyone here or help anyone to feel better, then I'm glad I've helped others feel (at least, slightly) better about having confidence issues. I appreciate it, once again.
  12. I have some confidence issues. For about over a year, I've been working on improving myself but I've come across some setbacks. I've done things such as improving my body language, socially engaging with others (to the best of my ability), deep breathing in negative situations, giving eye contact, and other things. I have other issues such as taking things personally, being sensitive, and uncomfortable in social situations. Even though I've done these things, I will admit that I've been inconsistent at doing them. I'm sick and tired of being shy, unassertive, and not confident. Plus, my issues with anxiety make it hard for me to be confident. My confidence issues cause me to feel depressed because I feel like it is hindering me. Sometimes I fear that I will always be this way, despite my BEST efforts. Insight? Can anyone relate to my situation?
  13. I'm glad you can relate as well. I am struggling to be assertive too. I have tried to take deep breaths when I feel angry but it usually doesn't work for me. When I feel angry, I tend to write my feelings down, listen to music, watch YouTube, or surf the web to let go of these feelings.
  14. I'm glad you can relate. It is something that I've struggled with that I am currently trying to break out of. I have been assertive before but only a few times. I feel that once I start to start work more on my confidence then it'll become easier. I am still trying to deal with the anger and resentment from not speaking my mind ad standing up for myself when I should.
  15. I have a hard time being assertive and speaking my mind. This is a issue that I've been dealing with my whole life. I have a moderate level of self-esteem. My self-esteem is not high or low, but in the middle. I am currently working on my self-esteem. But one of the biggest problems I struggle with is assertiveness and speaking my mind. There are times when I have been assertive before but it is still something that I struggle with. If a person does something that makes me angry, I tend to hold it in instead of communicating to them about it. I feel afraid of their reaction but it still consumes me. In the end I pay the price for it by being eaten up by my anger and resentment. I tend to be shy, quiet, and socially reserved which doesn't help. I want to stop being shy and get over my social anxiety. I have held a lot of grudges because of this. I have a hard time speaking my mind and making myself understood. I really need help with this part of my life. I'm a 22 yr old male, if that helps. Does anyone else struggle with assertiveness? What has helped you? Insight?
  16. I am having guilt and anxiety over some past mistakes. OCD has managed to grab a hold of it and distort it. It is making me question if I really did something or not. I am very sure what happened but OCD is making me doubt it. I know that doesn't make sense but it is starting to really bother me. This guilt and anxiety won't go away. They are eating me up. It just recently started bothering me yesterday. I haven't been able to think about anything else. I want to talk to a counselor but I can't at the moment. What is the solution to false memory/real event OCD? While waiting for professional help? How long will it take to feel better if I apply certain techniques? Have you been through something similar?
  17. I am dealing with severe anxiety that makes me feel like I can't move on. I have a constant fear of the unknown. I have so many fears about everything that could go wrong in my life. It is making me feel sick to my stomach. Plus, I am struggling to forgive myself for the past. I have been going to sleep to escape from my feelings. I had a counseling session with someone at my school that was very horrible. I am DESPERATE for relief. I can't concentrate or focus in a normal way.
  18. Thank you for replying to this. My OCD has definitely worsened over these past few weeks and I am feeling like I'm going through a downward spiral. I am definitely going to seek therapy. This is a MUST for me at this point. I've been suffering from anxiety and other mental health challenges for longer than warranted. I just want the peace of mind that I desperately seek every single day. I am in a constant war with my mind. Thank you for the OCD advice of observing my thoughts. I will try to utilize this information to the best of my ability. I will probably spend more time on this site since I've been going mental hell these past few weeks. Thank you for replying.
  19. Hello Depression Forums, I am going through a really hard time. I struggle with OCD and general feelings of anxiety. I am dealing with severe feelings of guilt and regret. I feel like no matter what I do, I'll never be able to forgive myself and move forward with my life. I have tried to journal, write my thoughts down, analyzed my thoughts, pray, and search for solutions on the internet. I am doing what I can to get over these feelings but they aren't going away. I feel regret over the past. Every single day, I wish I could change the past. I am DESPERATE for relief. Since I have OCD, I have different thoughts that bother me. Even when something stops bothering me, something else keeps popping up to make me miserable. I want to stop suffering really bad. These thoughts are making me really depressed. I am going through a very DARK phase right now. I am suffering from real-event OCD. I have been analyzing my thoughts over and over. I want relief ASAP. I haven't been able to concentrate or focus the same way. I stayed in my room because I've been tormented by my thoughts.
  20. I am having trouble with thoughts about the past. I really want to get rid of the distress these thoughts have on me. I don't have a counselor to talk to right away. I feel guilt, shame, and doubt about the past. But I keep having false memories but they get mixed in with guilt. This has a lot to do with my OCD problem. How do you fix this? What is the solution?
  21. I have a counselor but I cant talk to him immediately. I'll have to wait until next week to talk to him so it is very complicated. I'm taking medications as well but they are not really that helpful. I'll send you a PM shortly after I submit this post. I hope to find some help from them.
  22. Thank you for replying. This post somewhat helped. I'm glad you were able to relate to me. Thinking logically hasn't helped me at all. I have tried to think logically but the logical part of my brain argues with my "overthinking" part of my brain. So that wouldn't work for me. There were times that I didn't notice it was 43 minutes into the hour though. But those times made me feel mental relief, even though I realize that I am continuing a mentally destructive thought loop relating to OCD. I don't think my day would have "felt" cursed at all but when I look at the clock, it starts to make a difference in how I feel. it is a destructive thought loop that gets in the way of my happiness. I will definitely look at some YouTube videos about OCD success stories. Thanks for trying your best to reply to this.
  23. Setting another time for something else is not really specific to this problem. I have no idea on how to do that. This is more of a one-time situation. Your advice is too vague and it was too confusing. I don't mean to offend you, but this reply wasn't helpful at all.
  24. I'll try to keep this short. I feel angry and helpless because of my ocd. today I was arriving somewhere and predicted in my mind that I would arrive there by 12:43 pm. but then I arrived by that time. it has caused me to feel angry and helpless. I'm worried that I can predict bad things to happen in the future. I'm angry at how accurate my prediction was. I feel like the number 43 is cursed. since I arrived at 12:43, I feel like my whole day is cursed and cannot move on with the day. this ocd situation is the only thing that I can dwell on even though I know its unhelpful. but I feel like I need an answer to move on with the day. I feel like my thoughts need to be "corrected". they are getting on my ****in nerves. how can I move on with my day, despite these bad thoughts?
  25. I read a dream interpretation after having a bad dream. I had a dream about thunder and lightning. I read a dream interpretation about it, which was probably a bad idea. It told me that if you have this kind of dream, you'll have a bad fate. Now I cant stop thinking about it. I have ocd which has worsened my worry. I wrote about this but no one has ever replied to my post. How do I get over this? OCD thinking problems? Amy input? Advice? Please help.
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