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  1. justthinking

    Could I be Depressed?

    Sound like it could be depression. And the things you mentioned could be contributing factors. You didn't mention any relationships or social connections. Do you have children, or close family members? Do you belong to any clubs, support groups, church, etc.? I have experienced what you are describing a couple times. I had to force myself out of my comfort zone and make a deliberate effort to be out among people. It was hard at first but it was worth it. Being with others helped me get my focus off myself and how I was feeling. Does a local hospital have a Diabetes support group you could attend? Find something you enjoy doing, and find some people to do it with. Volunteering is also a good way to get your focus on others. I have found that the more I think about myself, my feelings, etc, the worse I feel. i need to get a completely new perspective. I watch comedies and comedians (it is proven that laughter increases the happy chemicals in the brain). I also enjoy reading so I try to always be reading a self help book. In Pursuit of Happiness by Frank Minirth and Take Your Life Back by Dr. David Stoop were some of my favorites. Also, have you heard of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy? That might help.
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    don't know what to do with myself tonight

    Tatum, I have worked through most of the things you have mentioned (without meds). I took Prozac for a while when my kids were little, but I felt weird (kind of unreal if that makes sense). I wanted to be able to feel, even if it hurt, so I could work through my issues. I realized that I needed to be the one to make the choices, do the work to get through my past, my hormonal issues, etc. I listen to New Life radio call in program, I read self help books, watch my diet (avoid caffeine, processed foods, etc.) try to get 7-8 hours of sleep, exercise, etc. If you're open to reading, some books that have helped me are: The Hormone Cure by Sara Gottfried; Change Your Brain, Change Your Life by Daniel Amen; and Mood Swings by Paul Meier.
  3. Hi Wolf, welcome to the group. I read your entire post and I can relate to what you are going through. I have suffered from PTSD, panic attacks, anxiety and depression my whole life because of childhood trauma and abuse. I have been able to not only manage it, but recover without the use of meds. It has taken several years, but I can honestly say that I am happier and emotionally healthier than I have ever been in my life. I am an avid reader, so I began to read books about anxiety, the brain etc. The first one I remember reading was Adrenaline & Stress by Dr. Archibald Hart. This book taught me how adrenaline (fight or flight) leads to anxiety. And then after a period of anxiety, depression follows. And the worse the anxiety and panic and the longer it lasts, the worse the depression that follows. I have learned to manage my stress and anxiety and pretty much eliminate depression. I also read Change Your Brain, Change Your Life by Daniel Amen. And listened to New Life radio call in program with Steve Arterburn. I think you can listen to this program online also. I learned so much from this show. Listening to the callers' questions and the counselors' answers helped me figure out so much stuff. I also heard on that show that too many people are basically just addicted to meds. I'm not saying there isn't a time and place for them. But according to the counselors on New Life, meds may be needed short term to help calm your brain so that you can do the work to improve your situation. Read, learn, grow as a person so you can overcome whatever is triggering you. Their opinion is that there are too many irresponsible doctors who have just continued to write out prescriptions for meds instead of helping the patients deal with the things that are causing their problems. I hope you are able to find out what is triggering you and that you can develop healthy coping mechanisms. Life is so wonderful and so fulfilling when you aren't enslaved to your emotions. I am living proof.
  4. I'm happy to hear you are feeling better and that you were able to talk. Do you think he would be open to marriage counseling?
  5. I think I know what you mean. I learned that I had to back off with my husband. I think I was just "too much" for him sometimes. Do you have someone you can talk to? It helps me to talk things out with my sister and get things off my chest. Then I'm not dumping all my feelings and emotions. on him. I am glad you are on meds and I hope they help. I have found when dealing with mine or others mental illness that knowledge is the most important thing. Have you done much research on bipolar?
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    abusive relationship help

    @sage_1912, how are things going? Do you feel like you are making any progress?
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    Depressed in Isolation

    That is so exciting that you have dreams of becoming a doctor. I say Go for it. Wishing you all the best.
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    Depressed in Isolation

    @Youngbull, I'm so glad you are able to open up on this forum. You say that you don't want to talk to people about your depression. But you did that on here and look how much positive feedback you have gotten. I also struggle with depression and I am an introvert. I like being alone, but then sometimes I just wish I had something meaningful to do in my life. Sometimes I feel so lonely and useless. You seem like a very caring and compassionate person. Have you looked into doing something in the care giving field. Maybe try volunteering at a nursing home or rehabilitation center. People in those places are so hungry for attention and love. They won't judge you, they will just enjoy your presence and the attention you give them. In the end you will feel loved and cared for. And if you like it, you may be able to get a job in that area.
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    abusive relationship help

    @sage_1912, sorry you're having a hard time. I also, suffer with PTSD so I know how you feel. You said that you try to heal. What does that mean? What exactly have you done? I think for me, the best thing that helped was to invest my time, brain, energy etc. into a new chapter of my life. Instead of trying not to think about the past or trying in my own strength to get over, I just replaced my past with my new present. Are you out of high school? If so, what are your hopes, dreams and goals for the future? If you don't know, get a blank journal and start dreaming. What do you like to do? What are your hobbies? Sometimes hobbies can turn into careers? What are you gifted at? What have people told you that you are good at? Is there any training or volunteer work you can do to prepare? Picture yourself in a year, 2 years, 5 years. What kind of person do you want to be? Start today working toward that person. If you continue to dwell on the past you will get stuck there. Focus your attention on the future. If you like to read, try Happiness is a Choice by Frank Minirth, M.D.
  10. Hi @moon09, How are you doing?
  11. @Munchies, sorry you're having such a hard time. I read your responses regarding no motivation, etc. I am currently reading a book called There's a Lot More to Health Than Not being Sick." It has been a real eye opener for me. I learned that if I want to be well, I have to b willing to make the changes. I assume you also want to be well. I've read all your posts and lists of everything that is wrong with your life. Start a new chapter, turn the page, start making decisions and doing things to add to the "Right Things" list. Do you exercise? If not, start a routine. Start slow. Like walk for 5 minutes, next day, 10 minutes, then 15, 20, etc. What is your diet like? Avoid sugar and processed foods. Stick to lean proteins, nuts, whole grains, fruits and vegetables. The first step on the road to recovery is admit the problem. You did that. The second step is making decisions that will help you heal. Also, if you are searching for meaning and purpose, look up Ravi Zaccharias on YouTube. He attempted suicide when he was 17 and survived. Now is a speaker and author. He is very smart and insightful.
  12. Munchies, I can totally relate to your post. I overthink everything!! Have you heard of the book The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron? It described me exactly and helped me so much. It sounds like you also may be a highly sensitive person. And yes, depression follows anxiety. Once I figured that out, the trick for me was to try to manage the stress and anxiety. Someone commented on here once that an overactive Amygdala is the problem. I googled it and found a website called unlearning anxiety . com. It helped me understand the amygdala and offered solutions. Also, yoga, deep breathing exercise, Tension Tamer tea, doTERRA essential oils have all been a big help to me. Saying a prayer that things go well with your new job.
  13. @CassAnn I agree with the excellent help the previous posters offered, Especially Blueblood's comments about our responses to events in our lives (see quote below). I also have PTSD, also from a lot of trauma throughout my life and also, mostly from men. As I've gotten older and have learned to look at my childhood abuses through adult eyes, I have been able to process things a little better, without the emotions. I often remember a recurring dream I had as a child. Just last week I was reading some devotional material about the darkness and that dream came to my mind. I started to feel panicked and began to wonder if the dream wasn't really a dream, but my childish way of processing an abuse. The thing is, children can't process and analyze things the way adults can. Children suppress events but the emotions stay in your mind. When something happens that reminds you of that abuse, your emotions instantly react, before you even have time to think about it. That's PTSD and panic attacks. I have spent the past decade or more trying to understand myself, forgive my abusers and learn to process events without having a panic attack. I have read dozens of self help books. It has taken a lot of work on my part, but I can honestly say I am a lot more emotionally healthy. If you are open to reading, I would recommend The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron; Take Your Life Back by David Stoop; and The Lies We Believe by Chris Thirmin.
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    Just thoughts in my head

    @thisismylife77, how are you doing?