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justthinking

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  1. @Munchies, sorry you're having such a hard time. I read your responses regarding no motivation, etc. I am currently reading a book called There's a Lot More to Health Than Not being Sick." It has been a real eye opener for me. I learned that if I want to be well, I have to b willing to make the changes. I assume you also want to be well. I've read all your posts and lists of everything that is wrong with your life. Start a new chapter, turn the page, start making decisions and doing things to add to the "Right Things" list. Do you exercise? If not, start a routine. Start slow. Like walk for 5 minutes, next day, 10 minutes, then 15, 20, etc. What is your diet like? Avoid sugar and processed foods. Stick to lean proteins, nuts, whole grains, fruits and vegetables. The first step on the road to recovery is admit the problem. You did that. The second step is making decisions that will help you heal. Also, if you are searching for meaning and purpose, look up Ravi Zaccharias on YouTube. He attempted suicide when he was 17 and survived. Now is a speaker and author. He is very smart and insightful.
  2. Munchies, I can totally relate to your post. I overthink everything!! Have you heard of the book The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron? It described me exactly and helped me so much. It sounds like you also may be a highly sensitive person. And yes, depression follows anxiety. Once I figured that out, the trick for me was to try to manage the stress and anxiety. Someone commented on here once that an overactive Amygdala is the problem. I googled it and found a website called unlearning anxiety . com. It helped me understand the amygdala and offered solutions. Also, yoga, deep breathing exercise, Tension Tamer tea, doTERRA essential oils have all been a big help to me. Saying a prayer that things go well with your new job.
  3. @CassAnn I agree with the excellent help the previous posters offered, Especially Blueblood's comments about our responses to events in our lives (see quote below). I also have PTSD, also from a lot of trauma throughout my life and also, mostly from men. As I've gotten older and have learned to look at my childhood abuses through adult eyes, I have been able to process things a little better, without the emotions. I often remember a recurring dream I had as a child. Just last week I was reading some devotional material about the darkness and that dream came to my mind. I started to feel panicked and began to wonder if the dream wasn't really a dream, but my childish way of processing an abuse. The thing is, children can't process and analyze things the way adults can. Children suppress events but the emotions stay in your mind. When something happens that reminds you of that abuse, your emotions instantly react, before you even have time to think about it. That's PTSD and panic attacks. I have spent the past decade or more trying to understand myself, forgive my abusers and learn to process events without having a panic attack. I have read dozens of self help books. It has taken a lot of work on my part, but I can honestly say I am a lot more emotionally healthy. If you are open to reading, I would recommend The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron; Take Your Life Back by David Stoop; and The Lies We Believe by Chris Thirmin.
  4. Just thoughts in my head

    @thisismylife77, how are you doing?
  5. Just thoughts in my head

    No need to apologize. Getting it out helps. Talking, journaling. Something that really helps me when I'm feeling stuck is to find some small things to succeed at. Make some small goals. When you accomplish those, make a bigger goal. The accomplishment empowers you so that you can focus on the goals and not on your depression. Thinking about the depression just leads to a downward spiral. Try not to focus on what you haven't done. Earning a master's degree is a huge undertaking and something to be proud of. If you're open to self help books, these have really helped me: Change Your Brain, Change Your Life by Daniel G. Amen M.D.; Rethink How You Think by Dr. David Stoop and Take Your Life Back by Dr. David Stoop.
  6. How do you get to sleep?

    You're welcome. Happy to hear you are doing a little better.
  7. How do you get to sleep?

    Really nice to realise someone I don't even know was thinking about me though, so thanks! You're welcome. Happy you're doing a little better.
  8. How do you get to sleep?

    Porcelina, how are you doing?
  9. Depression - what works for you ?

    Sorry you are having such a hard time. I have suffered with anxiety and depression. But I don't take meds. Most people are deficient in Magnesium and Vitamin D. These are both necessary for a healthy mind. Also nutrition, eating protein, avoiding processed foods and sugars, and taking probiotics. The biggest thing for me is occupying my mind with something - like reading good books, doing something for someone else, etc. Have you heard of Ravi Zaccharias? He is an author and speaker. He survived a suicide attempt when he was younger. He has written a bunch of books on meaning and purpose and he speaks to young people. There are videos on YouTube. I think so many young people today are struggling because they have been told there is no meaning or purpose. I don't believe that. We have to have a purpose. Praying you are able to find some hope and help.
  10. Will my creativity ever return?

    I have experienced some of that as I've gotten older. It is very frustrating when I think about how productive I was 10 years ago. Have you thought that it might be physical? I went to a wholistic doctor who helped me get my hormones balanced. Turns out my thyroid was low, which can cause fatigue, mental fog, lack of motivation, etc. Also, all the hormones in the body work together, so if one is off it can affect several others. Unfortunately, most PCPs aren't trained to figure this out. They mostly just run tests and prescribe meds. And I want to encourage you not to give up. I believe your creative self is still in there. Maybe starting a journal would help - writing down your thoughts, making lists, prioritizing tasks, etc. Also, I read self help books. Take Your Life Back by Dr. David Stoop might help you. Praying you find help and hope.
  11. How are things going? Were you able to find help for your nephews, and their Mom?
  12. How do you get to sleep?

    I have trouble turning my mind off at night when I'm under a lot of stress during the day. The trick for me is to eliminate the stress and relax. I read a book several years ago called Adrenaline and Stress by Dr. Archibald Hart. I learned a lot about how stress affects the body. Sleeping pills are not a good idea. They can cause dependency and are dangerous. I agree with AnxiousRedHead about the Lavender essential oil. You can put it in your bath also, or apply it to your neck before your shower.
  13. Sorry I am just seeing your post. How is your daughter? Have you taken her to a hospital? Praying for both of you.
  14. I am so sorry you are stuck in the middle of this. But your concern for your nephews shows was a caring, compassionate person you are. The needs of the children must come first. My daughter is a mental health case manager so she deals with situations like this every day. Your brother and his fiancé need some help. Don't look at it like you are hurting them. Look at it like you are helping the children. They are the innocent victims in this case. Seriously my daughter and son in law take better care of their dogs. They spent Christmas Eve at a Veterinary hospital with one of their dogs because he was lethargic and not eating for 2 days. Please try to find an agency in your area that can give you help. Saying a prayer for all of you.