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  1. lovingladyo4

    Intro to cervical cancer

    Dear sweet precious friend, my heart breaks that you have to endure all these uncertainties. Even if you would have had your whole life to prepare for this moment in time, nothing could prevent you from plummeting and asking why. I don't know that we will ever have the answers on this side of eternity, and so for now, I hope and pray you get connected to some kind of a support group, either survivors through the hospital, or even a moms group in your area that will love you and encourage you. I honestly believe that our most meaningful relationships will be the one thing that can carry us through our dark days. Take one day at a time, and reach out for help the second you need it. I am so glad we had a chance to meet here. Praying for you and trusting God to show you how much He cares about your situation.
  2. Hi Nissala, I'm so glad you took a couple minutes of your time to unload your concerns on this forum. I can identify with some of what you experience, and thankfully, from years of hard work and trusting God for help, I am not buried under negativity anymore. As in many forms of mental illness, our minds automatically obsess over things unnecessarily, and as we all know, the outcome never changes. I am not a professional, and therefore cannot offer any clinical advice, but I can share from my own experience what helped me short-circuit interfering thoughts leading to anxiety. Remember to give yourself permission to cope from any past circumstances, with the goal of disarming them in your thought life and putting them in their proper place. This takes time, and involves the intervention of a therapist or counselor. Treating only the symptoms does not bring a person any closer curing the cause. Since I am a Christian, I exchanged the lies in my head for truths found in the Bible. There is a reference to this that goes, ".......whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable - if anything is excellent or praiseworthy - think about such things." Feeding my mind these truths is no different than feeding your stomach when you want food. Whenever a debilitating thought comes into my mind to ruin me, I exchange it for words that bring life. It is possible to rest your brain, because when you change the way you think, you actually chemically change the connections in your brain. Ask yourself if rumination will solve the problem. It won't, as you well know already, so you can take steps to interrupt the vicious cycle by wilfully choosing to replace those thoughts with ideas, suggestions, and activities that will build you up instead of tear you down. If you had a record playing in the room stuck on replay, you could only tolerate it for so long. After a short period of time you would go over to the record and take charge of the problem by unplugging it, and then finding something else that brought you pleasure. This step is where the toughest work is, because it's where behavior actually changes. You have to do another behavior instead of the old one. Try googling some research on resetting your brain and see what you can find. Starting off with some self-therapy can get yourself into the pattern of recognizing the opportunities to make some changes. I sure hope some of this helps, and thank you for letting me share my thoughts.
  3. lovingladyo4


    I'm glad you took the liberty of writing in here and sharing this heavy burden with those of us who understand. Sometimes people on the outside looking in cannot see the depths of what you experience, which is why I depend on only a certain few in my life to support me. They can't always fix my problem but knowing they are on my side side, rooting for me, makes all the difference in the world. Do you have someone in your life you are able to discuss this with? Perhaps, a trusted friend you respect, a pastor, a clergy member, a counselor, or therapist, hotline worker, or support group? Depending on where you live, you can make some phone calls, to hospitals and churches, and find out where groups meet together. We all need someone to lean on, I don't care what is going on in a person's life, we were never intended to stay isolated and cut off from meaningful relationships. Depression is very treatable through natural methods such as diet and supplementation. Perhaps your body has a deficiency, like magnesium or niacin, that contributes to your feelings. For starters, it might be a good idea to monitor what you put in your mouth: no sugar of any kind (read all labels and if the product contains sugar, do not buy it), no alcohol, no processed foods, no preservatives, no GMOs, and no caffeine. All of these disrupt the hormones that govern your ability to feel well. Exercise releases serotonin and dopamine into your bloodstream, making you feel better. Turkey contains tryptophan, a calming neurotransmitter, which will help you relax. Deep breathing, especially the exhale, triggers the vagus nerve (from the nervous system) to bring you into a state of relaxation. Relaxation is triggered from the parasympathetic nervous system, and deep breathing helps regulate it. I could name many more methods you can implement that don't cost a penny, and are extremely easy to do. I think it's a matter of getting educated on how a person's body works, and making some positive changes. Depression can originate from hundreds of different things, so it's important to uncover what is causing yours. Maybe you would like to keep a daily log and start writing some things down. I did that and it helped me zero in on what I needed to pay attention to the most. Don't be afraid to take that first step. Staying stuck is a horrible place to be, and once you believe changes can be made, you will begin to feel a new confidence seep its way into your life. Thanks for letting me share my thoughts.
  4. lovingladyo4

    my intro - hi!

    I can relate to what you share about generations ago where these types of illnesses never got any attention, and never had a name to them. I remember as a young person growing up that if you ever heard the word "mental-illness" horrid images flew through your mind making you believe the individuals trapped inside the illness were deranged rejects and undeserving of society's attention. Funny how those memories proved to be so untrue. In looking back, in the same way you did, I can see more clearly that all those nameless problems really did originate from chemical imbalances in the brain, but no one cared to address them, probably because they didn't know how. I'm curious, how far back can you trace mental illness in your family? I am now in my mid 60's and have sure learned a lot since treating myself. Since the mind, body, soul, and spirit of a man all work in unison, if one is hurting they all hurt. By divine plan, that's how interconnected we are as humans. So it's impossible to pay attention to just one aspect of our existence without probing into its influence on the other three. Take the body for example. A healthy lifestyle starts with balancing your hormones. Diet is the single most important factor influencing your hormones. Sugar, simple carbohydrates and processed foods cause blood glucose levels to spike, throwing off the body’s production of insulin. When pathways from the brain prevent neurotransmitters from either being produced, absorbed, or released, and are blocked, they cause many of the symptoms you are familiar with. These symptoms affect our moods, our outlook on life, and our ability to maintain good health. Poor diets of chemical laden foods are full of hormone disruptors which cause imbalances. Alcohol induces depression, and depression warps our view of ever becoming a whole person and robs us of hope. Caffeine ramps up the release of cortisol, throwing off the rhythm of adrenal glands. Monitoring and stabilizing blood sugar is paramount because it affects the release of cortisol. Too low of carbs signal the release of cortisol and adrenaline, which, upon building up within the bloodstream, can wreak havoc on the immune system and mental functioning. Exercise aids in the release of serotonin and dopamine. Natural supplements such as ashwagandha act as natural antidepressants. A proper diet is paramount to good mental health because 70% of serotonin in manufactured in the gut. These are just a few key factors to consider when trying to control the balance of hormones. When our hormones are so out of balance, they open the door for our emotions to dominate our outlook on life. In my own experience, talking with a Christian counselor helped me understand the complexities of my problems, where they originated from, what influenced them, and what my options were for eradicating depression from my life. The goal cannot be reached without considering the mind, body, soul, and spirit. We are created beings vulnerable to the generations that went before us. But the good news is - we don't have to stay stuck! I sure hope and pray you find the path you want to take to being made whole again. Thanks for letting me share my thoughts and I hope some of it helps.
  5. lovingladyo4

    I need help

    I think you did the right thing by writing down all these thoughts and feelings. Sometimes we just need to get them out in the open because in doing so, it helps release some of the pent up emotion. Knowing that someone will listen and understand can be uplifting. The worst part about carrying a heavy load is when we feel we are all alone and no one shows they care. You didn't make any mention if you are seeing a counselor, therapist, pastor, clergy member, friend, or family connection to discuss all this with. Is that something you would consider? We all reach a point in life when we need to lean on others, either for prayer or encouragement. Trying to fix a problem can be an overwhelming task, and lead to fear of failure or burnout. But when we are surrounded by those who can listen to our heart's cry for help, and lift us up in prayer, we begin to find that hope is real. This happened to me so I am speaking from experience. I wouldn't be where I am today had it not been for the love and grace of God sustaining me in my darkest hours. I personally am convinced one of the best effective methods for learning to cope with seemingly impossible situations is to talk about them with someone you trust. I hope and pray you are able to connect with someone who can love you and support you during this fragile time in your life. Thank you for sharing from your heart. I promise I will be praying for you.
  6. lovingladyo4

    Hi! New member with my story.

    I have been on this website long enough to say with confidence that the people here understand these kinds of situations and many can personally relate to your feelings of desperation. I was in that place one time too, and yes, medication did help me along with counseling, diet, and lifestyle changes. I implemented many time-proven methods to keep my symptoms under control, and even eliminated most of them. I think sometimes we can surprise ourselves by how much we overcome. The human spirit is designed that way I believe. Crossing hurdle after hurdle can be exhausting, which is all the more reason we need others to walk-the-walk with us. I have found solace confiding in just a certain few people when I face my darkest valleys or feel the most defeated. Kind encouraging words from a close friend builds us up and gives us a fresh perspective. I have spent many hours studying the brain and all its various components, in hopes of uncovering an explanation as to what I could personally do to help myself become a whole person. I'd like to share a few bits of that information if it's ok with you. On days when you are battling anxiety or depression, exercise not only helps eliminate toxins that can mess up your hormones levels, it releases copious amounts of serotonin into our bloodstream. I am 64 and my goal is to walk 30 minutes daily. I also jump on my rebounder because any vertical physical activity (like jumping rope) gives the lymphatic system a chance to detox. Synthetic lotions and body product will often contain ingredients that contribute to hormone disruption. Same thing with all processed foods; chemicals added to the food supply are responsible for staggering amounts of thyroid problems involving hormones. Panic attacks are rooted in fear. A Christian counselor helped me uncover my deepest fears, and explained why they were there and what I could do about them. This was biggest turning point and hope once again entered my life. If visiting with a trusted counselor isn't an option, then perhaps finding a church womens group for friendship and camaraderie. You don't have to belong to the church to attend many of these, but call around and have your list of questions ready. Hopefully you'll get a feel if it's something you want to get involved with. Stay busy with hobbies or activities that bring out the best in you. Everybody has an interest, and immersing yourself in something that is fulfilling and rewarding can be a type of therapy. Do you like cooking or crafts? Check out your local community classes and see what is available. The fall schedule is probably out by now, and maybe something will catch your eye. These are all very simple explanations of what a person can do to offset the extreme emotions they war against. I do believe medicine can solve some of the problems, but not all of them. My hope and prayer for you is that God will lead you and guide you and show you how you can find relief from the emotional pain you have suffered with. Feel free to write back if you'd like.
  7. lovingladyo4

    Stop mentally beating myself up.

    Self criticism and self condemnation are ugly enemies and seem like a universal struggle. I think it's common for people to get down on themselves for doing silly or stupid things, but when it grips a person in the way you describe, I would have reason for concern too. I have heard psychologists refer to a what is called "healthy self-appraisal" which is associated with reducing these negative thought patterns. What's interesting to keep in mind is that the brain remembers negative thoughts and stores them to be repeated over and over. Once I studied how the brain is so intrinsically involved with emotions, I was better able to believe I could retrain my own and reverse the destructive patterns. Even though therapy is helpful and useful, I am still convinced that knowing how these horrific negative feelings enter our life in the first place helps us better understand what factors came into play that explain why we feel the way we do. Some people are born with chemical imbalances in their brain and others experience a traumatic events that leave them emotionally paralyzed. In my own situation, it came from my parents. They were both miserable people and I inherited their genes making me predisposed toward depression. It wasn't until I was well into adulthood that I learned about how to retrain my brain, how to release the feel good hormones into my bloodstream, which natural supplements balance out hormone levels, and why speaking with the right counselor is crucial in the mental healing process. My progress did not happen overnight, but I was determined to think more highly of myself than my parents ever did. It might be that past events in your life resulted in you having a very low self-esteem. And, if others along the way contributed to your feelings of low self-worth, it's no wonder that you have lost sight of how precious and valuable your life really is. Find one thing in your life you do well. Find one thing in your life you like more than anything. Make a list of all your strengths. Try to focus on the good instead of the bad. Believe in your heart your life matters. Believe you were created with a purpose. Start slow and grow. I hope some of this helps, and thank you for letting me share my thoughts.
  8. I became aware that I never introduced myself on this forum. I thought it would be a good idea to "meet" all of you, since we all come to this same location to either give support or receive it. I use the name lovingladyo, I'm married, have four children, and have been through seasons of life where I struggled desperately with anxiety and depression. I am seeing that this forum is a safe place for people to share their concerns while being open for ideas and suggestions from others. That spells out "community" to me, and I am happy to be a part of it. Right now I am in a very stable place, and I am so thankful for that. I am already noticing how people's lives overlap in a variety of ways, and I truly hope everyone gets some encouragement here. I will talk to you soon!
  9. lovingladyo4

    First Post

    I'm glad you felt the freedom to write in and unload your concerns. I think reaching out in times like this is always a good idea, as it tends to interrupt the intensity of what we carry around on the inside. Sometimes just talking about our concerns is a type of therapy, and helps release the pent up emotions that become so overbearing. I have been in situations where I thought I would lose my mind from accumulated worry or fear, but when I had a chance to engage in meaningful conversation with someone who cared, I felt the tension lift. Maybe you are just the type of person who is sensitive and has a personality that tends to feel things at a deep level. Those are beautiful qualities to have and can certainly be your strengths in many situations. Sensitive and caring people break easily I have noticed, so special precautions need to be set in place to safeguard their hearts.Perhaps this is why you internalize the weight of all that is happening in your life. Anxiety is no small thing and neither is getting married and moving into a house! Getting to the bottom of why you are depressed is paramount to your getting healed from it. Have you been able to have meaningful conversations with a counselor, therapist, clergy member or someone else who can help you uncover what is causing this? Sometimes people are born with chemical imbalances, and sometimes an event can trigger the onset of anxiety and depression. Something is bothering you and I hope and pray you can figure out what it is. Also, hormonal disruption or the wrong meds can be the culprit. Drugs can only accomplish so much, and there are other methods to treat your condition. Simple things like enough sleep, the right diet, plenty of exercise, enough sunshine, giving your attention to your favorite craft or hobby, interacting with people on a regular basis, and things like that. Once a person fully understands what biological processes kicks into gear when these things are done, they tend to have more motivation to continue. If you would like to explore another option, try googling functional doctors in your area and check out their profiles. They can have you take a simple saliva test that will reveal where any hormonal imbalances are and provide natural supplements to bring the levels back to where they need to be. Myself and my two daughters used this approach and had tremendous success! Exercise helps release serotonin into your bloodstream. Check out the article and see if it helps. Please feel free to write back! We can talk more if you'd like.
  10. lovingladyo4

    I have no friends...

    I sincerely apologize for the number of typing errors in the answer I just wrote! Shame on me for not being more careful. I hope it all makes sense to you.
  11. lovingladyo4

    I have no friends...

    Keria, thank you for taking yet another risk and exposing your deepest heartfelt concerns. I can't say my circumstances were just like yours, but the feeling of not connecting is one I faced when I was younger, and believe it or not, even in some instances when I got older. But I learned a lot about myself, changed my priorities, which often times did not come easy, and decided to pick and choose my battles. Finding my strengths and other things I liked about myself did happen over time, and only with the help of some beautiful Christian friends, one beautiful Christian counselor in particular, who helped me see the good qualities I possessed, regardless of what the rest of the world thought. I learned not to depend on people for my fulfillment in life, which was difficult much of the time. Is this an easy way to get your head up above the water and remain afloat??? Of course not, but I was determined to find my purpose and my worth, and it wasn't going to include the people who rejected me or chose to disassociate with me. I can look back now, and see how these moments of my life sharpened my character and gave me a new way to look at people. For starters, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you, so get that lie out of your head. People can believe whatever they want, but it isn't necessarily a reflection of who you are. I truly believe it's more of a statement of their own insecurities and their own low self-esteem, all of them vying to look more important amongst friends to help boost their own self esteem. High school and teen age years is tough territory to navigate through. Knowing ahead of time the obstacles you will face, and anticipating what to expect, can give you time to firm up the areas of your own life that you want to keep stable and secure. I know how hard that is, or how impossible that seems, when others don't give you one inch to just be yourself. and the distance seems to grow with each passing day. God designed meaningful relationships to help build us up. We would all wither away and die if we did not have some type of constructive relationship. In your country, are you finished with high school after 4 years? Could this be the end of one season of your life, and the beginning of a new one? You may have a personality type that tends to be more introvert (that's how I am) and does better with just one-on-one rather than large group settings. Make a list of all the qualities you like about yourself. Are you a thoughtful person? Caring? A good listener? A giving person? Artistic or creative? A good writer? Do you have a willing heart? Are you a people person? Do you love adventure and new experiences? Keep writing till your fingers hurt. That's how many positive things you can admit are true about who you are. Maybe one of the first changes you make make is to give yourself permission to see the good inside yourself. There will be many times in your future when you are going to want to pursue your passions in life, and having a good idea of what your strengths and talents are will get you closer to reaching that goal. Here are just a few other thoughts I'm having while thinking of your situation; 1. Don't ever be afraid to reach out for help. The feelings you experience are very real to you, and expressing them to someone who cars and understands can help restore your confidence in yourself. Talking with the right person will not only help build trust, but will give you a chance to put your emotions into words, much like you did on this forum. connecting with others a way to cope with seasons of anxiety and depression without worsening your symptoms. 2, Stay persistent or aggressive in finding ways to constructively cope with your feelings. Many teens resort to drugs and alcohol, or reckless behavior to mask what they are not able to face. What are your personal interests? Can you find some community recreation in that area? An activity where you don't have to depend on individuals to make you feel successful and accomplished? 3. Create healthy habits - meaning explore ways to increase your physical activity, minimize negative self-talk, and cut back on social media. These three things alone can bring a huge change to your mental health and decrease your symptoms of depression. One interesting example is something as simple as working out. Did you know that exercise in involved in the production of certain neurotransmitters in your brain that are called the "feel-good" hormones? The feel good hormones are serotonin, dopamine, and epinephrine. Having continual fresh doses will alter your outlook on your surroundings and give you a stronger sense of "wee-being" 4. Pray and ask God to help you. That may sound like an unusual suggestion, but there is a reason why I so strongly recommend it. The answer is because God wants to be involved in every single detail of your life, and will hear your cry for help when you call out to Him. 5. Do you have a job? You may feel the world is against you but high school is not the whole world. There are other avenues out there that will embrace you and give you opportunity. High school is not all there is. A job can give you a better perspective on this. 6. Would you ever consider volunteer work? If this is something you've never thought of, you would be amazed at what you can learn about yourself when you freely give to another person. it's summer where i live, and summer camps are in full swing everywhere. Is there one close by you where you can give a few hours everyday? 7. Understand that people will always let us down. I could write a book on how many times I encountered deep disappointment, and even rejection, from someone who couldn't figure out how to handle me, and see me for who I was. It happens. It's a sad fact of life, and that is all the more reason why we need to invest our time and interest into something where we are not always co-dependent on people for our fulfillment. I know I've rambled on here, but there is so much more I could say. I sure hope you feel free to message me if you'd like to talk more. Thanks for letting me share my thoughts. i will be praying for you. P.S. You don't need to be a Christian to seek out their wise counsel. And it's ok if you are not a religious person either. They will love you for who you are and meet you right where you are.
  12. lovingladyo4

    feel like it's all over

    Hi Sarahbeth - What a pretty name you have! I'm glad I saw your post here and as I read it, I tried to picture your situation and why you feel this way. I've often thought about how as humans, we can reach such low points and what contributes to stress and depression. I've spent many years of my life studying subjects related to the makeup of a person and what contributes to emotional and mental setbacks. My discoveries have been quite eye opening. I don't believe a person is ever without hope, but they may be at a place in their lives where they cannot find that hope. That was me at one time. I was stuck with no way out. It wasn't until I met a beautiful Christian woman who walked me through every area of my life and placed it up next to God's word, that for the first time, I felt a surge of hope. I learned I was really valuable. I was convinced I had worth. I realized my self identity and self esteem had been so brutally damaged that I lost all reason to ever believe in myself. So I concluded that much of what a person experiences in life is the result of 3 things: how we are born, the impact of our environment, and the choices we make. While we can't control the first two, we do have options for the 3rd factor. God always gives us choices, and when He is included in those choices, our lives can turn into something so different than what we could ever do on our own. I am wondering if one thing that might be extremely beneficial to you is to get connected to someone who has made it their life mission to help people in desperate situations. If it were me, I would begin to make some phone calls in search of just one person to talk to. It may be a hotline worker, or multiple different hotline workers, a pastor of a Bible believing church, a woman's support group, your local social service center, or other trusted friend you look up to. If you could find just one person to lean on, and to listen to your heart, it would make all the difference in the world. We all need that feeling of acceptance. I hope and pray you will find it in yourself to keep moving forward, and embrace the truth that says you are a precious person, created with skills, talents, and gifts. You are a one-of-a-kind Sarahbeth, and God loves you just the way you are. I hope you feel free to to write back or message me if you'd like to talk more. Thank you for letting me share my thoughts.
  13. Hi Polly - thank you for writing in and unloading this heavy concern. I feel the sadness in your words, and the longing for fulfillment you crave from your husband. I don't have the answer as to why he chooses to remain distant from you emotionally, it may be something as simple as he doesn't know how. I don't say that lightly - but it might be a strong possibility. What level of emotional support and involvement did he show when you were dating, if any? The reason I ask that is because sometimes in a relationship, we miss the obvious at first, and it's not until later that these issues become so critical. That's what happened in my own marriage. I would have to say that my husband too is a wonderful man, friendly, likable, a hard worker. etc. but he truly does not know how to be an emotional person, and love me the way I need to be loved. I think it will always be that way too. It would be so easy for me to hold this against him, and at times I have carried much sorrow in my heart because the man I married can't meet me where I am. If I'm honest, I have grieved over it. What helps tremendously is to see your worth as a person without your husband. Define your identity by other aspects of your life. In other words, love yourself for who God made you to be. You have a unique personality. You have wonderful talents and strengths that can bless others. You have a purpose for being alive. None of that will ever take the place of the longing in your heart though - I get that. But since you seem to feel there is no change in sight, your only option is to make the most of your life by focusing on other things, and continue to love your husband the same way God loves you. Is that an easy thing to do? of course not. It is a choice. It is not a feeling. These unmet expectations can hurl you in a direction that will overtake you if you're not careful. The mind works that way. Have you ever considered a third party intervention, like a pastor at a church? It might be worth your while to make some phone calls and ask around. Finding the right kind of person to confide in can give you hope, whether you go together as a couple or go all by yourself. It's important to find an avenue of your life you can move forward in to protect your heart. Please don't stay stuck, it will continue to hurt you more and more. Accepting that this is how your husband is might be the hardest thing you'll ever do in your life, and finding a way to live in peace might require so much from you, that you're sure you can't do it. But you can do it with the right kind of support. I am a Christian, and I have found that in my own life and countless friends who have had their own struggles, that there is safety, security, and hope when unloading these heavy burdens to someone who can understand you at your deepest levels, and give you godly wisdom that works. I can only encourage you to believe you have options for moving forward in your life. It may be down another path, but you can find fulfillment as a person with or without your husband. Is this the optimal marriage? No, of course not, but it can bring you healing, and ultimately be a springboard for seeing changes happen. Your husband may have his limits, and continue to choose how he operates, but you can begin to see there is more to live for. The last thing on my mind is to pray and ask God to arrange a time for you to approach your husband to talk more about this. Maybe you can set up a time slot away from the home, at the beach, or at a lake, or other tranquil setting, and just tell him in the most non-threatening way you can, how much your marriage means to you, and how desperately you'd like to know what governs his thoughts and actions toward you and why. The human heart is always receptive to love, and it's possible that when you create an atmosphere of love, he may be able to respond differently. I am sorry so much of the weight has to rest on you, but I am speaking from experience when I say these things. I know your situation id different, and yet I believe with all my heart that when we act in love, we are doing what we have been called to do. I truly hope you will write back if you'd like, and we can talk more. I promise I will be praying for you.
  14. lovingladyo4

    Does snapping a rubber band really help?

    Hello - and thank you for such a nice greeting! I have heard of the rubber-band theory, and while it might be helpful to re-route a person's thought patterns, I would be more concerned as to why destructive thoughts are there in the first place. Yes, I understand everyone has their coping mechanism for dealing with stress and anxiety, like exercise and things like that, but I believe these kinds of intrusive thought patterns require additional attention instead of letting a rubber band become your form of therapy. I would hate for you to feel that's the best you can get. I personally believe a better solution to the problem would be to understand your brain chemistry, why it is the way it is, and what other options you have for re-training it. It is possible to reverse these patterns. A person may be born with chemical imbalances in their brain, and be genetically predisposed toward negative thought patterns. Much of the reason has to do with the receptors that would normally uptake serotonin, and how they block it from entering the blood flow. The other part has to do with brain memory. If a person goes through their whole life thinking a certain way, the brain remembers these things and will automatically act upon them. A person's thoughts change their their cells and genes. You have the capability to influence your physical and mental realities. Your mindset is recognized by your body – right down to the genetic level, and the more you improve your mental habits, the more beneficial response you’ll get from your body. You can’t control what has happened in the past, which shaped the brain you have today, programmed your cells, and caused certain genes to switch on. However, you do have the choice to choose your perspective and behavior, which will change your brain, cells, and genes. The Bible says a person is changed by the renewing of their mind. It also says that as a man thinks, so is he. Have you ever heard these verses? I would be happy to explain them to you if you have an interest. The mind, body, soul, and spirit of a person all work in unity, and when one is hurting, or out of balance, they all hurt. When we learn what God has freely given to us, His power to transform us into new creations, we find freedom, peace, contentment, love, acceptance, reassurance, and a long list of other things. Thank you for letting me share my thoughts. I hope some of this helps.
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    First Appointment

    Typing correction from the post above - second last paragragh "Then after you unload this burden, you will have achieved at last one goal." SHOULD READ "Then after you unload this burden, you will have achieved at least one goal. "