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Sophy

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    Sophy got a reaction from samadhiSheol in Stable   
    Aww, beautifully worded and more importantly, beautiful content. Glad you are feeling a bit better.
    Those horses, yeah.
    It's hard teaching them to be more mellow, but it can be done and more importantly it is so worth it.
    Life with a stable stable and mellow horses is gooood.
    Allow yourself and the horses to get as much relief as you can during this period of unspooked calm.
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    Sophy got a reaction from JD4010 in Wow. Long time, no blog. I'm grateful for...   
    Hey guys : )
    I've tried this too over the years... I wonder if there's one important element to making it "work".
    I think maybe we tend to write down the things we feel we SHOULD feel grateful about.
    It seems like an obvious thing to do, because given depression, it's sometimes hard to FEEL anything much, let alone gratitude.
    But I think this subtle difference (what you you genuinely FEEL grateful for and what is stuff you "SHOULD" objectively feel grateful for) is a huge difference.
    When we suffer from depression, people point out to us all the time what we "should" feel grateful for.
    It's not a help. It's an additional burden.
    So if we do this to ourselves - and it can be so subtle - it can creep up on us in a gratitude list, even without us meaning to do it... I think it can be quite damaging and it can certainly make the task of keeping a gratitude journal turn into something crappy.
    I think true gratitude - the stuff we FEEL is often not the stuff everyone else (including us?) thinks we should be grateful about.
    For example, I'm grateful that when it rains there are less people out and about, cos I don't like crowded places.
    Or, I am grateful that I have a few colleagues at work that are incompetent beyond belief. Their presence in our company means that anyone who's vaguely skilled and competent is not under any pressure, because "OMG look at such and such's work". In theory, my boss needs to let them go  - their work is a nightmare and an embarrassment to themselves and the company and customers comment on it all the time. But my boss can't bring himself to do it. So, given that the situation is what it is, I'm actually grateful for their presence, cos it massively takes the pressure off me and my other colleagues!
    Anyway, my point is that I think it's quite a bit of work to unearth the (weird, funny, counter-intuitive and probably often somewhat embarrassing) things we truly FEEL gratitude for, instead of making a goody-two-shoes list filled with all those "shoulds" that mean nothing to us, because depression makes them feel hollow and distant.
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    Sophy got a reaction from nirah007 in Wow. Long time, no blog. I'm grateful for...   
    Hey guys : )
    I've tried this too over the years... I wonder if there's one important element to making it "work".
    I think maybe we tend to write down the things we feel we SHOULD feel grateful about.
    It seems like an obvious thing to do, because given depression, it's sometimes hard to FEEL anything much, let alone gratitude.
    But I think this subtle difference (what you you genuinely FEEL grateful for and what is stuff you "SHOULD" objectively feel grateful for) is a huge difference.
    When we suffer from depression, people point out to us all the time what we "should" feel grateful for.
    It's not a help. It's an additional burden.
    So if we do this to ourselves - and it can be so subtle - it can creep up on us in a gratitude list, even without us meaning to do it... I think it can be quite damaging and it can certainly make the task of keeping a gratitude journal turn into something crappy.
    I think true gratitude - the stuff we FEEL is often not the stuff everyone else (including us?) thinks we should be grateful about.
    For example, I'm grateful that when it rains there are less people out and about, cos I don't like crowded places.
    Or, I am grateful that I have a few colleagues at work that are incompetent beyond belief. Their presence in our company means that anyone who's vaguely skilled and competent is not under any pressure, because "OMG look at such and such's work". In theory, my boss needs to let them go  - their work is a nightmare and an embarrassment to themselves and the company and customers comment on it all the time. But my boss can't bring himself to do it. So, given that the situation is what it is, I'm actually grateful for their presence, cos it massively takes the pressure off me and my other colleagues!
    Anyway, my point is that I think it's quite a bit of work to unearth the (weird, funny, counter-intuitive and probably often somewhat embarrassing) things we truly FEEL gratitude for, instead of making a goody-two-shoes list filled with all those "shoulds" that mean nothing to us, because depression makes them feel hollow and distant.
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