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  1. I have to look at my situation 2 ways; 1 is that I'm lucky I'm not told off or put down for having depression. But then 2 it's also heartbreaking that no one wants to talk to me about it ever, and I'm extremely isolated. When I was first diagnosed with BPD I said to my dad 'so we finally figured out a diagnosis' and before I explained anything I was told 'yah but you don't have to listen to them.' That was years ago, and I've never brought it up again. My boundaries involve a locked door, sealed lips, and fake smile. Be proud of yourself for not only acknowledging your issues, but getting yourself help! Your brother thinks depression doesn't exist because he's never had it. There's a difference between losing your job and feeling depressed for a few months, and being diagnosed with long-standing mental illness. There is a difference, but I find people like that just lump it all together in their heads. I'm curious what he thinks about the tens of thousands of people who end their own life every year just in the U.S.... Weakness? Or futility? Being told to pray it away... that's like telling someone to pray the gay away. It's just absurd. If you didn't ask her for a solution she shouldn't be giving you one. And no one gets to tell you how and when to use your own spirituality, or how, or why. Atheists get depression, too. I wish you luck and success with your therapy.
  2. I watched The Last House on the Left I think I'd seen it before when I was a young teen but mostly forgot about it. Very intense! Would recommend for horror fans.
  3. Or are we just making more categories, more diagnoses, and adding awareness to it all? The population has increased extremely fast over recent generations, and I think it's making people more isolated. Millions of people floating in the ether with no purpose or connection to each other. I was watching some documentaries and doing some research about the Behavioral Sink concept, and population studies on mice by John B. Calhoun. If you're interested in psychology and societal-issues at all I'd recommend giving it some of your time (Youtube videos are always easy to find). We don't seem to have any plans in the developed world for monitoring or addressing our growing population. I wonder if mental health issues are worse in densely populated areas of the world. I feel like we're only at the beginning of researching and figuring out mental health, I'm worried I'm going to see it become more prevalent and dangerous as I grow older. How are we supposed to address this as a global community? Even when we have everything; food, water, shelter, medicine etc., we end up with millions of mentally destabilized people. So what's going on?
  4. Hi again MMD. I can empathize with the feeling of boredom. I believe the word I found was 'anhedonia' - being unable to find pleasure. The things that I used to look forward to, thoughts about the future that would excite me, hobbies that I would plan ahead for - they all seem pointless now. Like if I do something constructive, it is me forcing myself to do it. I don't feel anything from it. I've not been sleeping well, at night if I don't feel tired (which is most nights) I just stay up til' I know I can pass out listening to Youtube or podcasts. Usually 5am or later it seems. It's because I think about how the next day will be the same. More pointlessness. More loneliness. So then I don't want to sleep. But when I do sleep, then I don't feel like waking up. Hopefully things change sooner than later for you. Wish I were more help!
  5. I don't have any hopes of ever being able to have a real conversation with my dad about anything meaningful, such as my mental health, or things I've felt were traumatic for me. He either thinks he has the right answers and that's that, or he will take the conversation personally and make it about him instead. I think I was 17 when I gave up hoping that one day we could have a deep chat, or talk about real-life stuff. That was almost a decade ago and I was right. Fathers are supposed to be a beacon of strength and understanding, but sometimes, people have their own issues that they either can't resolve, or won't even acknowledge. If your dad causes problems when what you are seeking is compassion, then he's probably got some deep seeded issues of his own. I'm sorry you don't get to go to him how you'd like to. It's a really sucky feeling.
  6. I overthink as well. I tend to describe it as my head being very loud, most of the time. When I was on meds it helped, but after being on them for years I realized I had just kind of turned myself into a zombie. So sure, it wasn't as loud and I wasn't always worrying and overthinking - but I wasn't doing anything important, ever. It messes with my sleep, too. The most help I've ever managed with that particular issue was taking a DBT program, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy. If you can find any videos online, or local help for meditation, or to learn something called 'mindfulness' it could help you. Being able to calmly and gently redirect your mind back to what you want to be thinking about (or not thinking at all) instead of the rapid fire loud worries that pop in and out, that's what mindfulness teaches. I hope you can figure out something to reduce the urge to hurt yourself.
  7. Hey @Jaysi I see this was posted a little while ago, so I don't know if you are coming back to check the site at all. If you could let us know a little of what has happened in your life, maybe some ideas could come up. Was there any transition? Like finishing high school, losing a relationship, moving out, changing jobs, anything like that? If it truly is just out of the blue, it could be any number of reasons. Could be a mental health concern, could also be something like a thyroid condition affecting your mood? Try to journal every day, even if you only write a couple sentences. Keeping track of mood over time can help you look back and figure it out, as you get better at it you can write in possible reasons for mood shifts etc.
  8. What do you think. Sometimes I feel like I'm just straight-up allergic to feeling trust toward anyone.
  9. I feel like so much of me has already died, that I'm not too sure why I'm alive at all.
  10. I have BPD. The usual gamut of severe anxiety n.o.s., dysthymia, depression, blah blah blah... I feel like most of my days lately are just trying my best to keep myself out of the hospital. If push comes to shove I'd rather give up and get stupid-drunk or high, or just sleep for 15 hours - instead of the urge to seriously harm myself or run to the ER. This is ridiculous. I'll still put all of my effort into DBT since I am lucky to have it available to me. But quite frankly I just feel like it is b.s. I get the merits of it. It's very zen-buddhist-hippy "learn to love and accept yourself" sorta thing. That's great. I even have paintings of Buddha around my house. I have always had a general understanding of mindfulness, and concepts like the root of all suffering is desire. I guess I can't help but feel like I am all but TOO self aware, and I know that I am stuck in my head - sitting on the floor and being fascinated with some little object just seems to me like "okay BPD kid, just play with this so you don't think about suicide anymore." Sort of like sticking your fingers in your ears and shouting LA LA LA to the voices in your head; just in a mature and zen fashion. Radically accept, but distract yourself. Follow one path of thought, but evaluate three different states of mind. Don't judge behaviors and thoughts, but chain analyze every issue... It just feels so ridiculous to me. I am really trying. But all I have every class is these grand existential questions that usually baffle the instructors. I tend to shy away from asking them anymore. My psych got me on lamotrigine, which really seems to help the outrageous mood swings. But I am incredibly, deeply depressed right now. I barely move during the day. I don't feel like existing. So many people seem to think DBT is the end-all cure-all for BPD, and the only real answer. Do you think that's the case? Maybe it just doesn't work for some people.
  11. I feel all of those same descriptors as well... I value my chance to exist, and the fantastic anomaly that is my brain. However, it is my prison. It keeps me walled off from the entire world and doubt the value of my existence every single day. I'm in DBT right now but I'm not convinced it's doing anything... Just wanted to stop in and say you are not alone. I can't really offer much, but -hugs-
  12. At this point in my life I have learned that if you can't truly love yourself, then you are going to stay stuck within the human condition that is loneliness. I had found true love, but it has also turned into one of the single most painful and life destroying facts of my existence. I'm not sure I can recover from it, so like what you said - maybe I should just step in front of a truck at this point. Better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all? I'm not sure that is an equal statement for every person... I am weak too. I'm not sure that any person can truly fill that void and that empty feeling deep inside. Like falling head first into death with no one around you for the journey. Thing is we are all alone in that. Also - we are all in it together. Everyone feels alone, but everyone has to die. I'm not sure I have any advice, but I wish you well and send hugs.
  13. I've just started a DBT program, and mindfulness helps... I guess. To me it seems like I'm just supposed to distract myself so I don't get upset. Just forget about everything and you will be fine. Well okay, sure. I guess I used to be more mindful when I was younger and still dealt with all of these issues, but all it did was let it fester under the surface unresolved. I keep bringing myself back to the present moment, but it's still just pain. I'm told that it's okay to feel what I feel, and just sit with it, radical acceptance and all that. But for how long can you just sit with pain without wanting to end it? I don't want to be present all the time. I want to disappear into myself. I don't know that I feel hyper vigilant. I'm not sure how to describe it... I feel annoyed? Like I'm constantly poking myself with a stick or snapping a rubber band on my wrist just so that I don't have a panic attack. Like sticking your fingers in your ears and going "la la la," but in a more calm and reserved manner. It's constant. I don't always want to be fighting my mind. I don't want to have to do this over and over day in and day out. I just want to breathe without having to focus on it. I just want to think clearly without being terrified of my own thoughts. Anyways. -hug-
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