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  1. hello, aside from getting a caregiver, since you mentioned her health is good, tell her to ask her specialist to help her get connected with a support group. In addition, there are lots of senior communities that you can find for her via google, whereby they have activities and group outings. Just type toronto senior communities and groups. I think that will be great for her, especially when it's summer in Toronto right now. I think that'll be a good start.
  2. Hi fenderbg, I understand about not trusting your family to discuss this, as you are the best person to judge this. It's important to disclose this to someone you trust and is comfortable with. I think given that you never really spoken to anyone about it, I think starting with counsellors is a good way to go, unless you know there is a friend or coworker that you trust and know you can share this with. I understand how you feel about the 'shame'. It took me yrs before I was comfortable in seeing them but trust me, that was the best thing that I have ever done for myself. They really do help. The key is to find a person that you are comfortable with and click with. If you don't, just keep looking until you do find one that you feel you can talk to them about whatever you wish to discuss. You don't need to tell others about you seeing a specialist if you are not comfortable yet. Well, procrastination isn't always depression but your initial post certainly does sound like a symptom of depression. What happens with depression is that you just lack the motivation to do things, even when you want to or need to. If you think this is what you have been through ever since grade school, then yes I think seeing a specialist is the right way to go. It's great that you are able to start here on this forum. It is a good start.
  3. Hey Jeshika, welcome! I'm new too as you can see, haha. I was having a bad moment so decided to join a forum. It's great you are seeking professional help. Aside from medication, are you seeing a therapist? Are you aware of support groups? They are a great place to meet other people that are going through the same or similar things as you. In addition, volunteering is a great way to meet people that share similar interests as you. I'm currently looking into volunteering and hoping to start soon. I was thinking of a women's shelter, as I would like to contribute in helping the community out and people in need. I hope you'll be able to find at least a few good friends from this forum. Cheers!
  4. hello loistarr, to be honest it really doesn't seem like they are your friends, as friends should be supportive, understanding and caring. It certainly isn't your depression that drove them away, it's who they are that drove this friendship away. I understand 15 yrs is along time but people also change a lot in that time frame. Perhaps at one time, you guys were actually great friends, but you guys are just at different places in life due to different experiences and that is perfectly normal. There are lots of other people out there that can be the understanding and supportive friends that your current friend(s) is failing to provide. Regardless of whether you have depression or not, as a friend, they should be there for you when you need it.
  5. Hi fenderbg, From what I'm reading, it doesn't sound like you are lazy. It more so seems like a symptom of depression. I think it's great that you want to do your job still, that is always a good sign. Have you ever seek help for depression or something like it? I think speaking to a counsellor about your current state might help you get past the 'lazy' stages and help you do what you want to do. Just so you know, you are not alone. Depression can be debilitating but there are also lots of resources and treatments that are very effective. All the best.
  6. Hi Amber, University will be a great way to meet people that cares about you and who you are genuinely! What I realized the past 2 months is that even if I had the perfect life, perfect family, and perfect upbringing, not everyone is going to like who I am so I should accept myself for who I am, with all my positive and negative experiences. Because the truth is, there are a lot of people in this world and a lot of them are caring and supportive and will be there for you. My parents are not supportive at all but I'm lucky to have great coworkers. I think you'll be able to find a tight supportive network once you are in university. I made great friends from my university days. There are a few of them but quality over quantity. :) Also, whatever feelings you go through, good or bad, just remember that you are amazing just who you are. Don't discount your abilities, don't let your symptoms get you down even more. I heard a great prof mentioned once that you are more than your symptoms and diagnosis, it's just one part of who you are. It's not your entire being, just a part, like your interests, your skills, your personality and etc. There will be setbacks here and there but that's a very normal progression during the path of healing. The most important thing is to not let the setback get to you, just know that it's normal and the most important thing is not to lose your focus/goal in moving forward and getting better. That is my goal too. We are much stronger than we think or believe we are. All the best. :)
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