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  1. Not everyone finds their people early, and it’s hard when you’re dealing with those feelings of isolation, but I just want to let you know that there’s hope! I had similar issues when I was younger, and didn’t have many friends because for various reasons, I just didn’t ‘fit’. I had weird interests, and was going through some things that were kinda heavy at the time. It wasn’t until I was older, in grad school, when I had grown into my ‘weird’ and owned it more, and when the people around me weren’t so preoccupied with fitting in that they were afraid of being associated with someone who didn’t, that I started finding more acceptance socially. There is a whole big world out there outside of school, and you’ll meet so many more people once you’re out, some of whom will turn out to understand and accept you better than you could have imagined. In the mean time, I hope you can be kind to yourself, and know that self love is important. You are a person with so much value, and eventually you’ll find a place where others see that too!
  2. I know it can be really hard to feel it in the face of ‘failures,’ but you innately have worth as a person, independent of professional or academic performance. I also had a tough adjustment when I started college, and experienced academic failure for the first time, which lead to feelings of worthlessness. But over time, I came to realize that my value wasn’t just tied to success. Regardless of where you are in life right now, or whether you’ve achieved what you thought ‘success’ looked like, you are a unique person who has a lot of value. I’m sure there are things about yourself that can make you proud to think about, larger traits like kindness or a good sense of humor, or little things, like being a good cook or making really great playlists. No one can offer the world what you do, even if it doesn’t always feel that way in the midst of depression! It helps to start picking out the little things you are proud of and trying to keep them in mind sometimes. Even if you are in an isolated place in life right now, that doesn’t mean it will always be that way. I really hope you find a way to reach out for help, whether it’s to a counselor or trying to rekindle old friendships, and see that there is a way forward, even if it didn’t look like what you though life would when you were younger. Baby steps forward are still steps to be proud of, and little changes add up in big ways! You deserve to be happy and loved, regardless of where you are professionally or financially.
  3. In terms of friends and partners, I'm terrified of letting people in because of my depression and anxiety issues. I'm afraid that I'm such a mess I'm only going to wind up hurting them too. Has anyone else felt similarly/how have you handled it? Am I being too harsh on myself or should I hold back from relationships until I'm less of a mess?
  4. Had an experience recently where I wound up hospitalized with seizures because my decongestant interacted with Effexor and caused Seratonin Syndrome. Now I'm a little nervous about my meds, and I'm just wondering how common experiences like this are, and if there are any other unexpected things to look out for that my prescribing doctor might not have told me?
  5. Hi, I'm 19, and have only recently begun to deal with my depression. In fact, I've only recently begun to admit that I even have it. I've sought help, gone on medication, and started feeling a lot better. And while the rational part of me knows that I'm doing the right thing, and trying to deal with it in a constructive and healthy way, the irrational part of me says I'm being a wimp and I ought to be ashamed that I can't handle this on my own, that so many people have it worse and do just fine. I was raised with a big stigma towards depression, learning to see it as weakness or attention seeking, and while my parents have been great about overcoming their prejudices and supporting me, I still havnt quite come to terms with things. So my question is, what do you do when the stigma in question isn't society's per say, but your own? Is there any way to rationalize being a little kinder to myself? Additionally, there is a sibling issue. I've treated my depression like some deep dark secret to be ashamed of where they're concerned because I'm afraid of their reactions. I finally got to the point where I could get over it enough to mention it in passing to my brother (the most sensitive/kindest out of us) and he's made disparaging comments. Now I'm terrified about the rest of them finding out. Any advice?
  6. Hi. I'm al little unsure of what to do here, so please bear with me. I have depression and anxiety. It feels weird to be able to just say that, beauty of anonymity I guess. I have spent the past couple of years trying to deal with things on my own, because for most of my life I was raised to think that not being in control of your emotions was weakness, and weakness was pretty much worse than a sin. I grew up where the only people I knew of who had depression were my weird aunt who sits in the car at family parties, and a friend of my mom's who killed himself. Needless to say, and I in no way want to invalidate their struggles, I did not want to identify with those people. I don't want to be the one people talk about behind their back, and I really don't want to **** myself. A few months back, things got pretty bad, and I finally sought help and went on a prescription. It has been helping a lot, but I almost feel guilty about that, like I took the cheater's way out and I should have been able to manage this on my own. I've been lucky enough to have the support of my parents, but it's been hard dealing with my own stigma towards depression. I always saw it as a weakness, and it is hard coming to terms with the fact that it is just something I have to deal with and not hating myself for it, especially when a lot of my family is still very judgemental towards the condition without even knowing I have it. I'm not going to lie, I've cried buckets reading through a few posts on this forum, because for the first time since I've starded dealing with my depression, I don't feel so alone. I look forward to talking with you all, and reading what you have to say. Hopefully this can help me come to terms with the fact that I do have depression, but that doesn't mean it isn't possible to handle it with grace and still be functional and likeable.
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