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I need a hero

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  1. Thank you everyone for your candid responses. She reached out to me and reassured me that she did in fact have a good time and does want to see me again. We had to reschedule a few times, but we finally agreed to meet again tonight, wish me luck!
  2. Idk. I'm still a virgin, so it just makes it all the more awkward for me. United States is so heavily sexualized it makes me sick. Sex is shoveled in my face on a daily basis. I can't get away from it. It makes me feel that much more inadequate. Like I'm not a fully developed adult or something, idk.
  3. Well the reason why I don't think she's interested is because her body language spoke louder than her words. She said she had fun and would like to see me again, but she gave me a half hearted hug and she didn't seem that happy or talkative towards the end of the date. Not only that, but she hasn't initiated any contact since. I would think if she was interested, she would initiate some form of contact, but she hasn't. So that's why I feel like she didn't like me, which also leads me to think that there must me something wrong with me.
  4. I went out on a date today. It's the first date I've been on in years, don't know how many years. It's weird. I was set up with her by someone I met on Tinder last year and talked with for months, but never actually met. She found another guy, but apparently I made quite the impression on her, cuz she still remembered me and decided to reach out to me and told me she's setting me up with her friend. I was talkative, so was she. I think she's very cute. Don't know if she finds me attractive. We met at Starbucks and went mini golfing. She was fine with it and seemed excited. There was some awkward moments of scilence, which I guess is expected when you're meeting someone for the first time. I made her laugh a few times with jokes or commentary. She said she had fun and we should hang out again, but for some reason I don't believe her. I don't think she really liked the date. She seemed somewhat disinterested by the end of the date, which leads me to believe that she didn't have a good time. Idk. I've been alone for my whole life. I have a mother who pressures me every day of my life to find a girl friend, I have friends who are already married or going to be married. I don't know what it feels like to be loved or to be in love. I feel like I will never find anyone, and I have good reason to feel that way because I know that there are people who never find anyone and I think I might be one of those people. Its so hard for me to even approach women. I feel so intimidated. Most women I see who I might be interested in are holding hands with their partner, so what can I do? I don't even know how to properly flirt with women or show that I am interested. I'm stuck and it's so depressing. I don't think it can be fixed at this point. I'm too far behind the curve. Most people my age know what they want or have already found that special someone, and I'm here struggling to even connect with anyone. Idk what to do anymore. It's hopeless. I don't even know why I'm posting on here or if I'm even asking anything. I'm tired of trying. There has to be something wrong with me. Some type of illness or disease that keeps me from being loved. I'll be alone forever.
  5. Why can't i just go insane?

    Yeah I feel like me personally, I have a lot of people in my life. A lot of different groups, but in a lot of them, it's a superficial relationship. Not real strong. They're mostly acquaintances. It's hard for me to gain real strong friendships. And I'm sure I'm to blame for most of it. I find myself afraid to reach out and take the step in making in effort. Part of it is fear of rejection. I've also learned that the older you get, the less and less friends you have. People start their own families, careers, people just start getting busy! It becomes harder to maintain friendships. But in your situation, I would recommend reaching out and strengthening your relationships with your direct family. At least you have them. Some people don't even have families. Hang on to them for support if it's possible. I hope you can pull through this rough patch!
  6. Why can't i just go insane?

    Do you have anyone close that you can confine in? A childhood friend or family perhaps? Anyone that you can trust? Someone who you can share life with? You need that real physical connection with people. It can't be superficial. I understand that the forums can only do so much. But I'm glad that you're still here and you're fighting.
  7. Why can't i just go insane?

    It sucks that you've been having such a hard time lately. The world can be a cold, and cruel place, I know. All of our situations are unique. All of us on here have suffered and that's why we're here. I myself have a hard time making deep connections with others and I've lost a lot of people in my life for one reason or another. I'm not sure how me, or anyone else here can help you. All I can give you are kind words of encouragement to stay strong and to let you know that we do care.
  8. Starting up Paxil again

    Hey everyone. I've started up Paxil again a few weeks ago. I was on it for a few months a couple of years ago. The thing is, I don't remember any withdrawal symptoms back when I stopped taking it the first time. I didn't think there were any, but after reading the posts about them, I've been worrying about it. I've never liked the idea of popping pills for these kind of mental issues to begin with. Can anyone elaborate on the withdrawal symptoms of Paxil? How long do you have to be on it in order for withdrawal symptoms to take place once stopping it? I've been cycling on it. Taking it for a week or 2, stopping it for a few days here or there. Has anyone done this and will this offset the possibility of withdrawal? Or will that just take away the drugs effectiveness? Because I do think the drug helps, but I would much rather not have to rely on pills to fix my mental issues.
  9. Oh man don't even get me started on tinder! I've been on there on and off for 2 and a half years and went on maybe 2 "dates." Never met those girls again. And then I was texting 2 other girls for months and months and got no where with them. Always tried to make plans to meet them, and they always had an excuse. I just got tired of trying.
  10. I'm in the exact same boat. I too haven't had much luck with any women. I can never really get past a friendly acquaintance stage with women. I never properly learned how to show a woman I'm interested. Usually when I try to flirt, I come on way too strong or it just comes out the wrong way. It's debilitating. It's gotten to the point that I don't even want to try anymore.
  11. How to act around people faking depression...

    Lol. I don't really think there's any reason to ban him. I'm pretty sure he's never going to post again.
  12. How to act around people faking depression...

    Depression can come from seemingly nowhere. Those circumstances that your wife's sister-in-law is currently going through, are all very reasonable triggers for someone to become depressed. Sometimes depression doesn't even need a reason. It's just there. So I don't think it's fair to say that she's "faking." You're not a professional, and neither is anyone here on this forum. But to suggest that me, or anyone else on this forum is "using" depression as a way to get petty support from others is a pretty disrespectful thing to say. Or to suggest that your wife's sister-in-law is jumping on the "depression bandwagon" like having depression is trendy or something. I don't appreciate that and I don't think anyone on this forum appreciates that. Depression is a terrible thing to deal with. No one wants depression and no one wants to deal with it. That's the reason why this forum is here. Not for people to make a profile to ask how they can call someone out on "faking" depression after insulting the members of the community. Think before you post.
  13. Therapist Ending Therapy Against Client's Will

    I've never had a therapist end a relationship with me. It's always been me who quit or stopped seeing the therapist. So I can't say I know exactly what you're going through, but it sounds awful. No one likes rejection. A relationship between a therapist and patient is a very special one and has to be built up over time. Also understand that there are many out there. I'm on my 3rd or 4th one right now. You will find someone you click with. I know you will.
  14. How Do You Feel Today? #32

    I'm actually feeling real hopeful today. I'm going to start therapy again. In the past, I've always avoided therapy. Didn't like the thought of it, or I didn't really try it and follow through with it. I have trouble opening up about my personal feelings and that has always been my problem. But I think I'm ready to open up and stay committed and hopefully get to the bottom of deep rooted issues.
  15. I agree completely. My mother is a big believer in this. When my grandfather died back in '99, my grandmother never dated. Never remarried and she's still going strong. When my grandmother on the other side of the family died, my grandfather died maybe 1 or 2 months later, of a broken heart. I don't think guys can be alone. We need a good woman in our lives. I feel like that's the reason I don't feel whole.