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LoneSquirrel

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  1. Bye, Guys!!  Thanks for making a squirrel feel special.  I'll miss you.  :icon12:

     

    1. hocico

      hocico

      Aww :sadwalk:I feel like crying now, I am going to miss you being on here sweet squirrel :console:

    2. samadhiSheol
  2. I just want to say goodbye to everyone here. My posts are all being moderated, and it looks like I'm going to be banned soon. I love all of you and will miss posting with you. --LoneSquirrel
  3. I'm attacking you bitterly and relentlessly? I wrote a post in support of you, and you told me my thinking was "juvenile." "Naive" wouldn't have been much of an improvement. After I told you your post hurt me, you continued on with your arguments. So who is attacking who? How did you think I would react to you calling my thinking juvenile? Did you think I would say, "oh yes, I see what you mean. My thoughts are totally wrong in light of the fact that you have said they are juvenile." ??? If you believed that that would be my reaction, then you are in no position to call my thinking juvenile or naive. But I don't think you thought that at all; I think you knew I would perceive it as a jab, and that's why you said it. I've been on both sides of the fence on this issue: I've been the pretty one, and I've been the gross one. You can call me naive all you want, but you're mistaken about that. The fact that my experiences don't match up with yours doesn't make me naive. As far as moving this discussion to PM...recent events here have taught me that I will be painted as the bad guy if I cannot document what I've said, so no thank you to that. I'd rather have people see what I've said--and be able to stand by what I've said--than allow others to say things about me that I cannot refute.
  4. I want to thank all of you who have offered supportive words to me. It does help me feel less alienated to hear that people care. Thank you for your kind words.
  5. I feel similarly. Hugs to you, tryinghard.
  6. I'm not so sure we all do. I can't say I feel understood here at this point.
  7. I'm sorry, lady. Please don't give up yet though. There are still a few things you can try...when you're ready.
  8. Do you know what things you like to do? If I remember correctly, there seems to be confusion about what your diagnosis should be, but if you aren't enjoying anything, that can be linked to depression. And not liking anything can make a person feel like they don't know who they are.
  9. I hope you've been able to come down from that, Brian.
  10. I don't think that anyone here thinks that about you, KS.
  11. First of all, I don't lump in all of the people who liked me when I was thin...just most of them. Because they proved themselves to be a**holes. And I don't think it's fair for you to fault me for my opinions that are based on my experiences. The things that happened to me happened, and I have reasons to believe that many of the things that happened were directly related to my looks. And I disagree about your contention that not being conventionally beautiful or thin is a far cry from having features that are seen as ugly or off-putting. Unless you are talking about something really unusual, I don't think it's a far cry. If the person avoiding you based on your looks thinks that fat people are gross, but they don't have a problem with big noses, not being thin is what's going to cause them to avoid you. And I can tell you for a fact that there are plenty of people out there who see being fat as not just unattractive, but as a character flaw. They think that fat people are lazy and have no self-control. So those people may tend to exclude fat people while they are able to overlook other things that are often seen as unattractive. I was trying to be supportive of you, and you took it as a call to get offended. When you said that my thinking was "juvenile" I could not help but get offended. My experiences have been such that I do not see things the way you do. I don't think that's a reason to call my thinking "juvenile." Nothing I said to you was intended as criticism, but you've offended me and put me in a position where I feel like I have to defend myself, and it seems like you're doing it on purpose. I'm sorry I took the time to write something to you that I thought would be received as support and love. I now wish I had just posted " " instead, but at the time I thought that what I was writing would be seen as more meaningful, and that it would be more appreciated than simply posting an emoticon. You were someone I thought was a solid friend to me on here. Now I'm left questioning even being here, because I thought that you--of all people--wouldn't say something like that to me. You could've just disagreed with me, but instead, you felt the need to call my thinking "juvenile." You clearly aren't sorry for that, because you keep trying to beat me into submission so that I'll abandon my own thoughts and experiences to side with yours. Debating these things would've been fine if it had been approached that way, but it wasn't. You had to insult me instead. I'm not okay with that. I guess we're just going to have to agree to disagree. You can think that my experiences and opinions are worthless all you want to; there probably isn't a whole lot I can say to get you to see why I hold the opinions I do. So it seems pointless to try.
  12. I get tired of defending myself too. I would not mind getting liposuction myself, Lauryn. But I kind of don't want to, because I don't want to attract the sort of people I attracted when I was thin. There was no shortage of guys who wanted to be around me, but when things got tough and I needed people to give me rides to get around, a few of those guys tried to strike a deal with me. I was not willing to be someone's booty call just to get around town, so I stayed home all the time instead. It didn't matter how good a friend I had been to these guys; they wanted sex, because they thought I was attractive, and to them that was all I was good for. Incidents like that let me know how s****y people can really be. And you can bet that if I looked like I do now, I could've avoided having "friends" like that in the first place. I wasn't trying to put you on the defensive, Lauryn. I was just saying that there are plenty of s****y people out there, and you don't need to do anything to be part of their world. There are people who care about you as you are now. If you want to look a certain way to feel better, by all means, do that. But I'd hate to think that you would choose something like that to get friends who may not even be worthy of your friendship. That is just the way I see it, because of my own personal experiences.
  13. Bad. I feel really bad. I've spent most of the day upset about crap people have said to me on here. According to people on here, my lack of Christian faith is the reason I'm depressed, I "need benzos," and my thinking is "juvenile and erroneous." In addition to that, I spent a good part of the evening trying to defend myself over a disagreement here. I was telling someone earlier that my friends are here. I'm not so sure about that anymore. I feel like dog s*** on the bottom of a shoe.
  14. Wow...that hurts. I don't really feel like you understood what I was trying to say. I'm not opposed to plastic surgery if someone wants to do that for themselves. And I don't think that a nice-looking person can't have good friends. I've tried to explain my point of view and be supportive, but if my thinking isn't mature enough for you then I guess there isn't much more I can say.
  15. Hugs to you, LH. I hope you're feeling better soon.
  16. Lady, I am so sorry. I wish I could do something that would help you.
  17. Yes, of course we are all influenced by looks. And I'm not trying to say that being influenced by looks makes a person terrible. But if someone is worried about the "looks" factor to the degree that they aren't willing to interact with you if your looks don't meet their standards, I don't think they're going to be a dependable friend. And I'm not saying there's something wrong with you wanting plastic surgery...I just think it's something you should only do if it's something you really want...not because there are some people out there who may not appreciate you as you are.
  18. Hey, Lauryn. I assumed she meant that you may be feeling unattractive, and that you may be thinking that that is the reason why your friends are acting this way, when they may be acting this way for other reasons. I can't speak for WOTL, but that's what I thought she meant.
  19. I think we all get down about that kind of stuff sometimes. I just hope you won't let it color how you feel about yourself overall, Lauryn.
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