First of all, I don't lump in all of the people who liked me when I was thin...just most of them. Because they proved themselves to be a**holes. And I don't think it's fair for you to fault me for my opinions that are based on my experiences. The things that happened to me happened, and I have reasons to believe that many of the things that happened were directly related to my looks.
And I disagree about your contention that not being conventionally beautiful or thin is a far cry from having features that are seen as ugly or off-putting. Unless you are talking about something really unusual, I don't think it's a far cry. If the person avoiding you based on your looks thinks that fat people are gross, but they don't have a problem with big noses, not being thin is what's going to cause them to avoid you. And I can tell you for a fact that there are plenty of people out there who see being fat as not just unattractive, but as a character flaw. They think that fat people are lazy and have no self-control. So those people may tend to exclude fat people while they are able to overlook other things that are often seen as unattractive.
I was trying to be supportive of you, and you took it as a call to get offended. When you said that my thinking was "juvenile" I could not help but get offended.
My experiences have been such that I do not see things the way you do. I don't think that's a reason to call my thinking "juvenile." Nothing I said to you was intended as criticism, but you've offended me and put me in a position where I feel like I have to defend myself, and it seems like you're doing it on purpose. I'm sorry I took the time to write something to you that I thought would be received as support and love. I now wish I had just posted " " instead, but at the time I thought that what I was writing would be seen as more meaningful, and that it would be more appreciated than simply posting an emoticon.
You were someone I thought was a solid friend to me on here. Now I'm left questioning even being here, because I thought that you--of all people--wouldn't say something like that to me. You could've just disagreed with me, but instead, you felt the need to call my thinking "juvenile." You clearly aren't sorry for that, because you keep trying to beat me into submission so that I'll abandon my own thoughts and experiences to side with yours. Debating these things would've been fine if it had been approached that way, but it wasn't. You had to insult me instead. I'm not okay with that.
I guess we're just going to have to agree to disagree. You can think that my experiences and opinions are worthless all you want to; there probably isn't a whole lot I can say to get you to see why I hold the opinions I do. So it seems pointless to try.