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Bebop

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  1. Sorry for the late response. I currently do Python, and I think if you focus on how to actually apply it to personal projects it's easier to stick with. If you're just starting out try to make things like simple calculators, journals, etc, even without a GUI.
  2. Something I've used on and off is the Pomodoro technique. Working in sets of 25 minutes with 5 minute breaks, to build up momentum and work in tasks in smaller chunks. It's important to not make it stifling, though. Once I'm back on my feet if I want to take a 15 minute walk instead of 5, I do.
  3. Just honestly wanting the best for someone, and thinking the whole person is pretty swell. The bad side isn't something ugly, it's just what happens when they don't do the best with what they've got. A lot of non-judgment and good vibes.
  4. Spent a good few hours coding and did what I set out to do. Suspiciously simple today. ... And then got distracted from everything else by Terraria!
  5. Recovery from these things is personal, difficult, and something you can ask about here any time you feel the need to, first of all. I lost a close friend, someone I considered like a brother, when I was 16. I'm 27 now. I only really got over it and started feeling comfortable with memories of him when I was 25. I was angry and sad about it for a long time. Then I stopped thinking about it actively, and eventually found some old posts of his on a forum again. It helped me remember what it was like to really have him around, and I was at a point in my life where I was just done being so upset at myself or other people for our ****-ups. It's not really a logical process.
  6. Depression is a difficult thing to deal with, it's not as straightforward as problems like breaking your smartphone or getting food poisoning obviously. So people may try to throw anything at it in the hopes it has some effect. Keep on keeping on, right? Truthfully, depression is a very personal thing and while actions (like better life habits) can help, in some cases it's purely an internal battle, not an external one.
  7. Gaming can help depression, I think, but there's always the risk that people will medicate themselves with it to the extent that they won't make any progress towards self-improvement. I'm certainly not one to lecture about medicating yourself with things like MMOs... When I first started online gaming, I still had pretty serious anxiety. Terrified of phone calls, especially in public. Had to work myself up all day to even say a few words in the guild's Vent server, even with a friend of mine there. MMOs were the first place I started using voice chat with new people and working together on goals, which has changed a lot over the last several months. I got and still get occasional comments about a few quirks in my speech that are leftover from childhood speech impediments, but people just ask if I'm from such-and-such a country. Most don't comment at all, might not even notice. At one point I was a recruit in a pretty hardcore PVP guild, when I was a new player. I have no idea how I got in there, actually. Those were some intense matches and I wound up moving for a more laid-back group, but I always respected the guy who ran it and try to bring some of his values into how I deal with people now. He had an incredibly mellow, team-focused attitude and believed that players had to keep their cool to avoid disrupting their teammates, and that anyone could learn to improve. Oftentimes he'd talk to players individually to see how they were doing. Eventually I started leading small groups on my own, which helps other people have fun and gives me some actual company when I'm at home as often as I am. I wound up learning a little about leadership and phrasing when I had to recruit new members, too, from a friend of mine who started a cross-server Discord channel for people to hang out in and organize matches through. Still not very good at it, but I love how detached it is from all the in real-life right now and how I can get results, analyze the situation, call the shots, and win, even playing high-pressure classes that no one else wants to play. In smaller games and modes, it really does start to feel like a community because you begin to recognize the players around you and make friends based on more than just skill levels. One friend of mine started playing long after I did, and when he wanted to try his first non-practice PVP game we got together a premade team for him before he tried solo queue just so that he could get used to it. You even develop respect for good players on other factions and feel more comfortable being part of the wider community on the forums, in-game, or on various channels. You meet people through people and some enemies turn into friends. One player I kicked from our group for being an intolerable asshat a few weeks ago came back, apologized, and is trying to be more chill about things with us. I can't comment much on neurology, but I would say that having some success doing this has given me a confidence boost in other areas of life, where I'm less stressed about just asking for a shot, losing out, or "grinding out" the hours or the wordcount of a novel. It was fantastic to start off knowing nothing about something, maybe not even trying to play too well, but slowly picking up on things and getting a victory. A lot of my life's failures, like losing a job, or being unemployed for long periods of time due to depression, have felt irrecoverable with the clock just ticking down.
  8. When I was 14, I talked to my closest friend at the time about it and she wound up helping me a lot and even going with me to the school counselor a few times. Friends might not understand (she never suffered from any health issues, shrugged off all the high school bulls***, too), but they do care and if they're your friends in the first place then they see something in you whether or not you see it. Personally before talking to a school counselor I didn't know, I wanted to talk to someone I did and get emotional support in trying to help myself. Finding what to actually do can take a few tries. I lived in a pretty bad home situation and talking to adults generally didn't pan out, there were always excuses and I didn't have sufficient evidence of physical violence or police wouldn't do anything for other types of abuse.
  9. I'll start by saying, speak for yourself, not for me.
  10. When I was younger one of the ways I coped was through drinking and smoking, even though I was more of an outcast. Truth be told, I think as long as you're still talking to people they both bring you to the same place, where you get to know more people and find exciting things to do. I don't think it's really that glamorous to be throwing up drunk on your friends or whatever, it's just something people do when they're younger and thrill-seeking or because they think they'll fit in if they do.
  11. I've felt that way on and off. My depression has roots elsewhere, but being alone frequently and struggling to connect with people didn't help with it because I've always been someone who finds joy in connecting with others. I think it's normal for people to want that, some more than others. We need to develop ourselves sure, but no one truly exists in a void separate from the rest of the world. I often felt like I lost part of myself, and I still feel now that there's a part of myself I don't know how to express because of depression. I'm rather quiet offline but when I was a child I loved to talk to people about everything. The only place I feel that way now is in my online games where I manage a small group of people playing together, sharing tips, etc. I even lost touch with my family. I realized the other day that I haven't had a real conversation with any of my siblings in years, even though we still see each other for lunch once in awhile.
  12. Hello, new forum! I'm 27 years old and lived with depression for around 12 of those. Things have improved a lot for me but I'm having trouble adjusting to the changes in my life, and finding people interested in talking about depression, health, and mental health. I have a lot on my mind some nights and reading blog posts only helps so much. I'd much rather be sharing experiences and hearing from others.
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