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cabforashy

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  1. Yeah it's good to see that so many people still post here :) don't worry about getting ahead for now, just take one day at a time. 1. That's good, exercise is good, but please don't ignore the other points in that post. Staying active is important, but it can only do so much on its own. 2. Why are they at a standstill? Are you going through a legal process at the minute? Just to offer another perspective on it, yes, she may be leaving the kids alone to work, but at least she is working and they have clothes and food on the table. It's easy to judge people who do that, but I work in Dublin and my son lives with my parents most of the time. It's not because I don't want to spend time with him, it's because I'm trying to make his life better and build a future for us both. Working nights isn't fun, I wouldn't imagine she'd do it if she didn't need to, and besides, at least it's only at night when they're likely asleep anyway, not during the day all day. You say she has 'admitted' to seeing people like she should need to hide that, but you also maybe need to realise that ex is ex, and you need to let her go. She's a grown woman and she is entitled to see people if she chooses. IMO she is maybe actually doing the right thing - at least she's not bringing home a different guy every night while the kids are there. Please try to understand that you're not the only one going through this break up, and she is as entitled to her own life as you are. People move on. Why does your daughter refuse to speak to you? Do you have any reason to believe they're missing school? 3. Great! Let me know how it goes. Remember though, it's down to you and your attitude as much as it is to theirs. OWN your sessions. 4. That sort of career would drive anyone crazy. You need to think about trying to take your life in a new direction that you're happier with and makes it easier to cope with illness, etc. What sort of work / hobbies do you enjoy the most?
  2. My advice would be to try to break things down and deal with them one at a time, as little problems rather than trying to tackle everything at once. It sounds like you're having a really rough time, and I'm sad to hear that, but this too shall pass. 1. I understand that you need money for legal fees, but your health is the utmost important thing right now. Everything else can be fixed over time, so please take some time to relax and take care of yourself. I understand that can't be easy when you have so much going on, but try to enjoy the time with your sister while you're not working (which will be temporary, stop worrying :)) and make do some projects around the house or some cleaning up or chores. Always takes my mind off things for a bit. Get some gentle exercise, eat well and visit a doctor if you can for a check up. There must be something else they can do to help you in our modern scientific age :) 2. My sister is going through a similar situation with the kids. Where do things stand legally at the minute? What types of bad decisions is your ex making? Is it affecting your children's wellbeing? 3. In conversations with your counselor, do you bring up your ex or do they? Is it important to you to discuss your ex or are other things more important, i.e. talking about anxiety? If you're paying for therapy, make it about YOU. Take control of your sessions, don't be afraid to say whatever you need to. Counseling is very unnerving sometimes, but just remember that it's a safe place for you to be you, with no judgement. Vent and ask for advice on specific things that matter to you. 4. Can you tell me a little bit about your previous career or what sorts of jobs you generally do for work? Sorry for all the questions, just trying to get a better picture so I can help better :) we're all here for you and it's great that you're reaching out. Welcome!
  3. Hi guys, I'm new! :) 26 yo, have battled depression, anxiety and BP since childhood but as you'll all know it has it's ups and downs. Lately I've been feeling more down than up, but my brilliant boyfriend got me an activity self-help book to try to help. It looks great, the only problem is, I'm stuck on the first exercise, but realizing that alone helped so much. It's filling in a list of people you could share the book with, i.e. your support network. There are around 9 spaces. I'm not sure I could fill more than 2. It got me thinking that I should really try to include more people in my life that I can relate to, and who I know will be there for support if I need them. My friends and family are great, but it's not enough, as they wouldn't understand a lot of things. If this sounds like you or you can relate, get in touch :) or even just to say Hi. It's great to be here. Thanks.