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    long journey got a reaction from rhyl in Certified Peer Specialist   
    Good for you! There is so much power when two "equals " exchange their truths. Yes, there's room for professionals, but there's a power imbalance and less authenticity when trying to get well with professionals.
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    long journey got a reaction from rhyl in Certified Peer Specialist   
    Thanks for the encouragement. Waiting to see if I get accepted. The training is provided through the state. (They even pay for it.) I'm pretty sure funding came partly through Obamacare. Let's see what happens to it, now that the republicans are trying to butcher the recent health care measures. What a shame. No offense to a lot of the super beautiful- hearted christians that I know are out there.... but I'm so confused about the lack of compassion by this current administration and by a lot of Christian republicans.
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    long journey reacted to rhyl in Certified Peer Specialist   
    This is awesome!  I'd love to hear how this training goes; I am organizing a non profit for mental health peer advocacy and support and I have looked at some of the courses available, trying to decide if it's worth it to take them.  Please keep us posted! 
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    long journey reacted to HeartagramGirl in Certified Peer Specialist   
    glad to hear you are doing well.. good luck!!
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    long journey got a reaction from glfinding in Amazing account of the experience of depression   
    Reading a book called This Close to Happy by Daphne Merkin. A memoir that really nails it. Super honest and insightful. So personal and relatable. It's about her lifelong struggle with depression and anxiety. Beautifully written and very compassionate.
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    long journey got a reaction from glfinding in Certified Peer Specialist   
    I'm feeling hopeful about a training I may be attending in the near future. It helps you learn how to give the best possible support to someone with mental health issues. There are quite a few job opportunities in this field, especially Minnesota, where I live. Just thought I'd share my good news!
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    long journey got a reaction from rhyl in Certified Peer Specialist   
    I'm feeling hopeful about a training I may be attending in the near future. It helps you learn how to give the best possible support to someone with mental health issues. There are quite a few job opportunities in this field, especially Minnesota, where I live. Just thought I'd share my good news!
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    long journey got a reaction from Positivenegative in Certified Peer Specialist   
    I'm feeling hopeful about a training I may be attending in the near future. It helps you learn how to give the best possible support to someone with mental health issues. There are quite a few job opportunities in this field, especially Minnesota, where I live. Just thought I'd share my good news!
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    long journey got a reaction from ladysmurf in Certified Peer Specialist   
    I'm feeling hopeful about a training I may be attending in the near future. It helps you learn how to give the best possible support to someone with mental health issues. There are quite a few job opportunities in this field, especially Minnesota, where I live. Just thought I'd share my good news!
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    long journey got a reaction from HeartagramGirl in Certified Peer Specialist   
    I'm feeling hopeful about a training I may be attending in the near future. It helps you learn how to give the best possible support to someone with mental health issues. There are quite a few job opportunities in this field, especially Minnesota, where I live. Just thought I'd share my good news!
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    long journey reacted to Follena in Feeling drained, sad and withdrawn   
    Hi Violet; so glad the medication has helped and that you have so many positive things, most of all a job you love and are making decent coin. I offer you my sincere condolences on the loss of your mom. You say you have mixed feelings about this and threw yourself into work. Do you think you might benefit from seeing a counselor to talk about your feelings about this loss? I say this because maybe that feeling of restlessness is something inside that needs expression? Sometimes we want to shake things up and make a big change, when really what we're doing is running away from facing something? I'm not saying that with any authority, it's just a thought.
    I like goincrazy's suggestion of a vacation. Maybe a retreat of some sort? Where you can stop and think about what it is you're seeking. We are such complex beings sometimes we need silence to hear what's really in our hearts. You sound like a highly disciplined person, meditation, exercise, etc. But you feel you're missing something. I wish you so much success in your continued journey in life.
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    long journey reacted to Violet31 in Feeling drained, sad and withdrawn   
    I used to come here a lot while dealing with severe depression. Then I got into remission, partly because of new medication that really worked wonders and still does, but I get waves of depression from time to time. I´ve been on a downward spiral since before the holidays and I need help right now.
    This may be because my mother died last year and I had very mixed feelings about her passing. I threw myself into work and work even more than before, so when I get a spare time, I feel numb and melancholic.
    I do exercise, eat healthy food, do affirmations and have a job I really and truly love. Got myself out of a financial mess too, but now that I´m making decent money, I feel tired of life and want a radical change. I´m sick of my meditation routine, sick of my workout, sick of my social life, sick of everything.
    I feel I want to sell everything I own and go around the world. I know it is not rational and would not solve anything. I need to clear my head and I know the first step is to get this out in the open. Then take it from there.
    Hoping to hear from someone. Thanks so much for reading this.
    Love to all of you who live with this disease. Know that you are heroes and incredible survivors.
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    long journey reacted to sober4life in What Do You Want Right Now (Pick One BigThing)   
    I want to go for my morning walk and get hit by a car and crawl into the woods and die.
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    long journey reacted to King of Medicine in Would you have an issue dating an older virgin?   
    So...I'm 28. And I'm a virgin. Would you date someone like me?
    Yes
    Would it bother you to wait until at least a few months into the relationship to be intimate?
    No, but I'd appreciate to know the reason why, so I don't start thinking it's something wrong with me. If you basically explained it to me like you explained it in this thread, you can take all the time in the world.
    Would it bother you to be with someone who is so inexperienced?
    No
    Would you find it weird?
    Not really. I can see how the years fly by and you wake up one day realising you haven't done half the things other people your age have done.
    Are there specific reasons why you wouldn't want to date a virgin?
    No
     
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    long journey reacted to walruscarpenter in Would you have an issue dating an older virgin?   
    Thanks for the replies everyone! 
    The guy that I am interested in seems like a very sweet and understanding man and I feel like I am probably worrying about nothing, but it's still intimidating...
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    long journey got a reaction from blackrider in Would you have an issue dating an older virgin?   
    You seem very real, intelligent and sensitive. I would think a man would find those qualities very appealing. I dated a thirty five year old virgin. I helped him out of that situation! Sex is powerful. I think it's smart to go slow. Truly, I don't think being inexperienced would be a turn off to most people.
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    long journey got a reaction from LoneSquirrel in Would you have an issue dating an older virgin?   
    You seem very real, intelligent and sensitive. I would think a man would find those qualities very appealing. I dated a thirty five year old virgin. I helped him out of that situation! Sex is powerful. I think it's smart to go slow. Truly, I don't think being inexperienced would be a turn off to most people.
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    long journey got a reaction from gs22 in Would you have an issue dating an older virgin?   
    You seem very real, intelligent and sensitive. I would think a man would find those qualities very appealing. I dated a thirty five year old virgin. I helped him out of that situation! Sex is powerful. I think it's smart to go slow. Truly, I don't think being inexperienced would be a turn off to most people.
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    long journey got a reaction from Natasha1 in Would you have an issue dating an older virgin?   
    You seem very real, intelligent and sensitive. I would think a man would find those qualities very appealing. I dated a thirty five year old virgin. I helped him out of that situation! Sex is powerful. I think it's smart to go slow. Truly, I don't think being inexperienced would be a turn off to most people.
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    long journey got a reaction from hocico in Would you have an issue dating an older virgin?   
    You seem very real, intelligent and sensitive. I would think a man would find those qualities very appealing. I dated a thirty five year old virgin. I helped him out of that situation! Sex is powerful. I think it's smart to go slow. Truly, I don't think being inexperienced would be a turn off to most people.
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    long journey got a reaction from sober4life in Would you have an issue dating an older virgin?   
    You seem very real, intelligent and sensitive. I would think a man would find those qualities very appealing. I dated a thirty five year old virgin. I helped him out of that situation! Sex is powerful. I think it's smart to go slow. Truly, I don't think being inexperienced would be a turn off to most people.
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    long journey reacted to Gisele in Would you have an issue dating an older virgin?   
    In a sort of weird, possibly unrelatable way part of me almost admires your problem. I mean that with the utmost sincerity and please be absolutely assured this doesn't infer that what your feeling is somehow less of a problem.
    I only say it because for the longest time my experience of sex was limited to those I didn't and could never love. Sexual adventure? Yes. Caring for anybody? No.
    A big part of me thinks the order you're doing it in might be a whole lot better. A bigger part of me would hope you're harsh and unforgiving with any suitor than cannot treasure your choices so far as a vital part of you.
     
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    long journey reacted to womanofthelight in Would you have an issue dating an older virgin?   
    "They" also say, "nothing ventured, nothing gained," and that the things you regret at the end of your life are the things you did not do.
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    long journey reacted to gs22 in Would you have an issue dating an older virgin?   
    @walruscarpenter  I just wanted to say something about the sexual assault issue.  Indeed, sexual assault has come to be understood as encompassing more than what is considered rape.  What you described also happened to me, and I was just dwelling on this today, and it got me upset all over again, though it happened many years ago.  Actually, it happened to me twice.  At the time I didn't intellectualize it as sexual assault but I felt merely upset about these two incidents.  In my case, I've confided in a very few people, and no one who knows me well.  I could just see them blaming me or saying I hadn't protected myself well, which I know but that kind of thinking is of no help to me.
    With regard to your actual question, I agree with your friends.  The right guy would not care.  He would also understand the reasons why, not that you should have to explain them.  Many women struggle with body images issues, even while in relationships.  Every guy is different but why not ask that guy out, the one you're interested in?  If he cares about you, he will actually be supportive of you and what you've been through.  You'll need to open up a little so he can begin to understand and appreciate you.
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    long journey reacted to walruscarpenter in Would you have an issue dating an older virgin?   
    So...I'm 28. And I'm a virgin. I have never really been on a date, I've never kissed a guy and I have obviously never been intimate with anyone. 
    My friends assure me that when I find the right guy, he won't care, but the older I get, I find it harder to believe that. Most guys my age are definitely not virgins, and many of them have slept with multiple women. I just don't understand why a man would pick me when he could have someone more experienced. I don't think I'm a prude or anything, I am interested in sex and trying new things, but I have literally zero idea what I am doing and I feel that guys my age or older will find that really strange. 
    There are multiple reasons why I have waited so long. The first is that I have struggled with my weight and my body image for a very, very long time and so I have never had confidence, which I think men can really sense. I am very, very shy around men and I have turned down dates because I was too intimidated. 
    The second reason is that I was sexually assaulted when I was 20.  It wasn't rape, but there were hands and unwanted touching involved, which made me feel really used and violated. I didn't tell a soul for six years, I just pretended like it never happened and I never dealt with how much it bothered me. 
    Lastly is that I have always wanted to wait for someone I love. Initially, I wanted to wait until marriage, but as I get older I think that I would be okay being intimate with someone that I was in a serious relationship with, after a few months. For me, I think sex is something really intimate that you should share with someone you love, and I really want to share that with someone that I could see myself marrying and having children with. Ideally, I would like to only be intimate with the man who will become my husband, but unless I wait until marriage I can't predict that. 
    However...I feel like at my age, this makes me seem really weird. I know very few people who have only been intimate with just one person. I know three other people my age and older who are virgins, but two are very religious and the other has a looooot of intimacy/commitment issues. 
    There is a guy that I really like and that I want to ask out, but I am really intimidated. I don't know his sexual history, but I am guessing that he isn't a virgin. I am just worried that if I start dating him he will dump me if I'm not interested in being intimate right away or that he will think I am a weirdo freak. The older I get, the more this scares me. 
    Would you date someone like me? Would it bother you to wait until at least a few months into the relationship to be intimate? Would it bother you to be with someone who is so inexperienced? Would you find it weird? Are there specific reasons why you wouldn't want to date a virgin?
    This is something that really freaks me out, so I'm interested in the answers. Thanks in advance. 
     
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