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Hairpy Burpday

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  1. You should be allowed to be who you are, but the problem is that you don't allow yourself to believe that being allowed to be you, that being allowed to think what you want to think, and do what you want to do is alright, but it is. There's so much for you to do, and you should be able to enjoy being yourself. Everyone can be judgmental at times, but the same ways others judge you is also the way we think of others at times: As long as we accept ourselves and find someone who is right for us, we are allowed to be who want to be. There's nothing wrong with liking transgender women:These people can be awesome people and seeing as they just see people as humans and not really divide them up into genders, its definitely a good thing if you get to know some of them and see how relaxed, how non-gender biased they can be and how fun they can be to hang out with or to love . I know its kind of scary to submit your thoughts, but then again thats how it is with most issues that are bugging you. However, listening to other people help you out and knowing that you'll always have us to be your pillars will definitely help. We are your pillars!
  2. I think it definitely gets better. I was once in that situation.. but I think that there's groups out there for you. Social groups , institutions and societies are designed for this. Just make sure you get out there and have a good time, and remember that what you need to do now is focus on making friends, and also know that some friends are bad people.. but the ones that you want are the nice, good people. Also, remember to give them space and just have a good time and don't put too much pressure on yourself. That way, you'll get to enjoy and be happy just the way you want to be... and also get a new lease at life. I understand how much loneliness hurts, and it doesn't have to be that way anymore. You'll always have me as a friend and you can count on me! :) Get into more social situations and remember that you're the maker of your destiny, and that you'll be able to make things better for other people too! You're more powerful than you know :)
  3. What I know is that in regards to waiting for text messages, if the person keeps you waiting for a long time before she replies, it usually means that the person doesn't know how to appreciate you. I think what you need to do is change your mindset regarding thee people... if some of them don't know how to appreciate you and keep you waiting in regards to communication or connecting back to you, then you deserve better friends than them. Also, I do know that some girls like to backstab and say bad things behind each other's back, but to be honest those people are guys that you should avoid. Negative reactions have caused your anxiety and its time you relaxed, calmed yourself down and know that you deserve to be treated positively. If exercises and a lot of things don't help, then you definitely need to change the way you think =) Best to accept whatever comes, but hope for the best. But as long as you stay strong and not think too much about how some people ignore you and get to know those girls who appreciate you, you're on the right track. As for you, I think that its better for you to not take pristiq and the such because as soon as you stopped taking it, it got worse . A permanent cure will be you having a more positive outlook which will benefit your health, relationships and allow you to have some more fun.
  4. I know that you'll be able to improve :) Don't discount yourself. If some people give you negative reactions, move on and be positive about it. Everyone faces rejection in some way, but it's better for you to keep persisting. The people who're right for you are out there, and they want to get to know you because they'll find that you're a nice person . :) Keep fighting!
  5. Hello! :D I do think that for you, it would be better if you looked for some societies /clubs/meetups that people your age should join, and it'll definitely help you out if you manage to get to know some people who lived close to you. You guys could hang out, have fun and perhaps even game or relax together. I'm sure that there's plenty of gamer groups around, and there's some gamer girls , gamer parents and all sorts of gamer people around for you. All you need to do is put yourself out there in situations where you'll get to mingle, have fun and enjoy . These positive, helpful memories will definitely enable you to take an important step towards making things better for yourself and putting those awful memories (bullying and the like ) that caused a lot of your OCD, social anxiety and depression. Perhaps for you, it'll be better for you to join clubs where the people around you are around the same age, or just slightly older than you- you'll have plenty of cool older brother/sister archetypes for you to hang around with, and it'll also give you plenty more stuffs to look forward to. When there's a will, there's a way. Keep fighting and try the alternatives that I and DurandalBlue suggested :) It'll definitely help! We want to be here for you, and we'll be here for you !
  6. Welcome Jessica. I think that perhaps you could join an LGBT community group - some people will probably understand your situation, and they'll definitely be able to relate to you having a sexuality that isn't straight . But what you need to do first is to understand that it's okay to get help - you've kept your feelings to yourself for so long, and it's going to be a breath of fresh air to be able to rant about what worries you - what lingering sadness you have in your heart under the cover of anonymity. We welcome you with open arms, and we want you to know that your happiness is extremely important :) You've come to the right place for company and support, and we want you to know that you can talk to me and us for help or friendship any time you want. You've already had enough of sadness , gloom and unhappiness.. you deserve to experience what it means to be free. And we'll help you do that!
  7. I think that for you, what's important is that you need to appreciate yourself and be kind to yourself and your feelings. You have went through a lot, but being soft-hearted.. or depressed is not a weakness. It's a sign of what you went through in the past, and you have every right to talk about it and confide in someone about your feelings. If some people do not appreciate you, then that's their problem.. you're you, and I don't see why you're inferior... don't see why you should beat yourself down. If your family judges you for what you're feeling, then its better to talk to other people about the situation, because understanding people will be kind to you and not betray you. And I've a very important thing to say : People who backstab people who are depressed seriously have some major issues. People should be compassionate. If they cannot even think about what other people are going through and put themselves in other people's shoes, then they seriously need to get their brains checked. You 've compassion, and that's what separates you from people who do not know how to help other people out and understand their situations. Emotions are a powerful thing. But the real weakness when emotions are concerned is the inability to rant them out, or to express your thoughts about whatever situation that's landing you in that negative mental state. When other people need our help, I know that we'll offer other people the assistance they need with open arms. But you need to be fair to yourself too : If you need help or assistance, rant away and let us know about your situation... we want to make sure that you'll be able to fight these negative emotions off, and regain the happiness you really need and deserve! You are strong, and you've fought so hard... let us join you in this fight... we want you to experience the true meaning of the word called "happiness " because you deserve to smile. Smile so widely that your cheek muscles hurt and be so happy that you 're experiencing many, many wonderful moments. This is one journey that we're going to take together!
  8. I want you to know that those people who stick with you after this are your true friends. I understand that you might look down on yourself a lot ( That might be the bigger part of the problem - what other people think about you doesn't really matter as long as those people who cherish you and you yourself know that you're someone who deserves to be loved, cared for and appreciated. Don't ever doubt yourself :) Things will get better, and I'm sure that we were all in a similar situation at some point where we did something wrong/bad and sorta messed up.. but everyone makes mistakes, and the sooner you learn to forgive yourself , the better. There's nothing wrong with you! I think that you need to learn to see the good in yourself- there's plenty of it!
  9. Perhaps you need something more to look forward to. If you had some source of happiness and joy, you would perhaps be able to concentrate on doing something positive for yourself and making a positive difference. You're powerful, you're wonderful and you're you.. a very special person. Nothing can take that away from you.
  10. It's likely that he has sort of being scathing his whole life, and you need to consider breaking up with him and moving on. He is not healthy for you, and if he doesn't understand you or make the effort to give you the comfort and emotional security you need, you're better off with other guys. Truth!
  11. You've went through too much, and I want to say that you're an inspiration.. despite all that you went through, you're still the proud mother of wonderful children... and you still fight and grit yourself through your days. There's no better type of mother than one who fights for the sake of her and her children even when things are tough. You're wonderful :) I think that the best thing to do right now is file for a divorce with this guy, because what he's doing is clearly unhealthy for you, your children and your happiness. I know that this might seem kind of drastic, but I see no future with someone who's emotionally abusive. You need to cut your ties with this guy, and perhaps try to get yourself into the dating world again... I'm sure that 90% of the guys in this world are better than this mean person you're currently with. There's no point overthinking things because if your problems are caused by him, its better to eliminate the problem itself. He says that he's there for you but then ruins your day by saying emotionally bad stuff? That's the mark of a liar right there... he can't be trusted. Good news is the sooner you take measures to counteract your situation, the better things will be. In the meantime you could perhaps occupy yourself by joining things such as Yoga classes,and other constructive things to take your mind off the current situation. You've went through too much abuse (even one bad word being sad to you is already considered too much abuse ) and you need to know that there's nothing you can't overcome. You need to know that you deserve better, and you need to know that you definitely need to meet a guy who's better than your current partner. I'll be here if you need support, and to be honest I can definitely see you getting better. You just need to keep fighting, and you'll eventually win.
  12. Zdude *hugs* I know how much you've went through, and I really, really want you to allow yourself to be happy and get yourself into meaningful relationships that mean a lot to you... and I promise you that you'll get there one day. Now... you just need to allow yourself to think positive, and IGNORE every bad thing that any other person has said to you. There's absolutely no point for you to think that you don't deserve happiness, but you do. I want you to get into more groups out there where you'll be able to make new friends and eventually perhaps get into relationships with someone and people who will love you and heal your broken heart. You so do deserve happiness... and nothing can take that away from you, nothing!
  13. I can tell that there's a lot more, but the main cause of most of these problems is the fact that you doubt yourself a lot, and you wonder if you are a good friend or you aren't a good friend. The fact is you are... you've went through some bad experiences that have sort of numbed your ability to feel happiness and think positive things, but the fact is that you deserve happiness and nothing should get in your way... I understand that you think that you might think that you may ruin relationships, but what if you are a blessing ? Because you ARE a blessing :) Anyone who doesn't think that way is going to miss out on the chance to get to know you, and that's truly a pity because you're a nice person who deserves better than to feel this way. I also know one thing : You need more things to look forward to: Your emptiness is something that clouds your mind and makes you doubt yourself. The best way to get over it is to get into more things where you'll get to socialize : Slowly but surely learn to relax and take fate take its course and remember to appreciate yourself. Appreciate yourself, love yourself, like yourself and learn that you have good qualities that plenty of other people want to have. Don''t ever hate you because you can provide people happiness, and you definitely deserve happiness too. Give love a chance, give life a chance and most importantly give nice , warm people the chance to get to know you. You'll experience joy and happiness :) Most importantly, anytime you feel as if you're doubting yourself or thinking bad thoughts, remember that you deserve better than to think those bad thoughts. You're the king of your destiny, and you deserve happiness and you WILL get happiness!
  14. I want to remind everyone that for every bad day you have, there's going to be a million happy days round the corner. There's no reason to think negatively because If you can make your mind your best ally, then you're going to overcome any mental battle you face. Most of all, don't give in to sadness and remember that all of you deserve to be happy and deserve to stay that way without any exception. I hope I helped!
  15. Your life will get better. I think that its what you make of it, and in some ways... there's like plenty of ways for you to overcome this. You need to introduce more things into your life to ensure that you're happy, and that things will be okay. The more things you have to look forward to, the better. You need to make your mind your best friend, and the better you look at things and the more things you have to look forward to and enjoy, the better things will be . The sun will fight the fight in your story, and I'm very sure that you deserve happiness. Don't ever think that you don't deserve happiness - you do, and anyone who says otherwise shouldn't be considered your friend or in any way a helper. You will win, and I want you to regain your happiness. It means a lot to me and I'm sure that it means even more to you. You got this in the bag!
  16. I think that the people around you don't appreciate who you are, and they are just unreasonable. Simply put, you're someone currently being stuck with people who're mean.. and you should go out of your way to meet nicer people. These new people will appreciate you and ensure that you feel better about yourself. There's nothing about you that you should downplay, except that some people will definitely try to make you feel down. But these people wouldn't be worth your time .. the people who're worth your time are the people who make you happy, and the people who will definitely help you to find joy in your life. These people are out there, and they're waiting for you. Give yourself a chance, and make sure that you meet them as well!
  17. You'll never be truly alone. There's so many things you could do to get to meet others. If you did some sports or some positive encouraging thing where you helped others and enabled others to feel better, you'll start to realize that you can impact other people's lives in a big way, and with that realization.. you'll definitely know that you can change your life too. The world is better with you, and you're nothing less than a blessing. Any twist of fate or any sort of negative thing that doubts your belief in that statement is merely trying to disprove the truth- you can't disprove truths because they are the real thing - You are an awesome person. And you're about to get even more awesome. Don't forget that!
  18. I think that you're hiding a sad story that needs to be told. *uses a key to unlock it * But ranting and telling us your story is the best way to overcome it.... you can trust us :) Now, tell us what's on your mind. *hugs*
  19. Welcome here and I hope that you like it here! I do think that you might be taking things a little too hard on yourself.. you're not at fault for everything, and sometimes these things just happen. When we're growing up... we can deal with hormones , feelings, love and sometimes the mixture of emotions can just create a mood which makes you want to escape from everything that creates pressure. To deal with it, I suggest getting involved in more fun stuff, perhaps some parties or good , nice fun like gaming, sports and the like. The more things you have to look forward to, the better things will be because they'll take your mind off your body image issues, and sports will also enable you to work towards building a healthy self-esteem and happiness in the future. I also think that the people who judge you are in some way jealous of the company and the good life you have : That's why they make such an effort to ruin your day because of jealousy or anger .. these two are powerful forces, and it's better for you to not really care too much about them ( be wary if they've any schemes or any of the sort, though ) because they probably do this to everyone they're jealous about. Also, reading or listening to more instrumental music can help you calm your mind down and not think too much about what others think of you: Rather, remember that those who like you for who you are will appreciate you regardless of your circumstances and appearance: They want you as who you are right now, and you're clearly a nice person. Offering to help others around here and wanting to make a positive difference clearly shows that. I do understand wanting a private place to vent: If you have any worries or negative thoughts on your mind... we want to hear them and help you deal with them because you deserve happiness and nothing less. I think that some of the activities I suggested to you will definitely also enable you to get to know even more people: Leading to you having even more bosom friends that you can share happy moments with in the future. There's no reason to be fearful: Things are getting better and if you allow it to improve, then you'll be really really happy. Most of all, you wanting to help other people definitely shows that you're anything but a burden. You're a blessing, and nothing less than that. You're probably a friend who won't let other people down, and that kind of friend usually stays loyal... you're a blessing to people, and you should be proud of yourself. You've the power to make people happy and you want to exercise it! If you need any advice for any of your worries or problems, we'll always be around for you!
  20. Hello :)))) Welcome to this place .. I know that you'll enjoy it here. If you need to tell someone any issues that're lingering on your mind, don't hesitate to tell me. I'll help out as much as I can!
  21. I know how easy it is to hate yourself and to blame yourself : Possibly, there's plenty of people around you who've said scathing words to push you into a state of self-hate: But all this isn't the real deal: You deserve to be happy, and these self-punishing thoughts need to disappear from your mind.. only when you feel good about yourself, you'll be able to really make yourself feel good. Just ignore all everyone else has to say: As long as you do good things with good intentions in mind taking into account the feelings, hopes and wishes of others... you're a good person. I know its easier said than done, but this is one fight you got in the bag. Don't doubt yourself.. and just remember that you're better than what everyone else thinks and anyone who thinks otherwise is horribly misguided.
  22. I think that you don't have to worry so much about what others think about you.. we all have insecurities , but what matters is that how our actions help others and our intentions when we commit those actions. Even if you've made some mistakes or if you have some negative thoughts, the really nice people would support you and not make you feel ashamed. Take this as the beginning of recovery and you'll find that things will really start getting better. Perhaps you might wanna try doing some charity work or humanitarian commitment where you'll be able to make a positive impact on other people's lives and also help to create a better situation for other people who're struggling. Also know this: No matter how big the setback you face: As long as you can pick yourself back up and keep fighting and also remember that you're an awesome person with many talents ... you'll be okay. You're strong and powerful in many ways, don't doubt yourself and also don't ever think that you aren't capable of making a positive impact: You so are!
  23. Welcome to this forum :) I don't have too much experience with cymbalta and other antidepressants, but what I want you to know is that if you need anything, some support.. some advice or just some companionship, you've come to the right place. If you got any worries.... we'll be here to support you because we want you to be happy, and you deserve to be happy, no matter what. I think that part of the problem you're facing is anxiety... as long as you do mind relaxation exercises or meditation.. or maybe listen to more calming music, it'll help you to stave off some of the negative thoughts, and also help you regain your mind as an ally again. :)
  24. Had a minor error in the post that I couldn't edit... so I corrected it here. Believe in yourself and know that you got this!
  25. Your fiance didn't appreciate you... I know that's very bad of her, but you are a kind person and the person she's seeing at work may end up being someone who's mean. She'll regret breaking up with you because you're a very loyal, very careful person who wants everything to work out and you do plan for the future.Your previous two girlfriends were lessons you should learn from, and sometimes these hardships can lead to positive moments later on. But your third ex girlfriend was really horrible, and I can see why you are suffering because of that. She's really mean too... she played with your feelings, was emotionless when you wanted to talk to her about it and barred you? Some people don't know how to appreciate the good life when they do have it... and she'll be regretting it later on. You've had three failed relationships, but what if these failed relationships were buildups for the moments where you'll eventually succeed in finding the love of your life? Perhaps it'll be good if you also put yourself out there ... there's dating sites, there's book clubs, there's societies and everything.... don't give up. There's always hope if you have the willpower and determination. Besides finding a loved one, these clubs and societies will also allow you to meet new people, where you'll be able to surround yourself with people who will become your bosom friends, share your interests and some of these will become your hangout buddies and if you're lucky you'll even meet someone who will love you and care for you because they like who you are. You might fear dating sites, but your looks don't matter ... a lot of women want guys who're sweet, sensitive and nice and if your outlook shows this, you'll be surprised by how much people want you-nice,sweet,sensitive and caring guys are a rarity and you're a blessing to womankind. Be kind to yourself too and give yourself and a lucky girl the chance to be happy together. So much to learn and do and so many good experiences to come- forget the past, and remember that if you allow yourself to recover and move on and appreciate the future, then things will get better. Also, remember that you can always talk to us at any time... want want to see that you're happy and dating a girl who appreciates and loves you for who you are and will go the distance to repair your broken heart.
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