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RiverLight

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  1. THANK YOU for posting this. I needed to read exactly this, right now in my life and on today, of all days. Thank you.
  2. Thank you sooooooo much, Sober. You always have just the right words of encouragement and support. Thank you for this. Yes, I do need to see what you see in me. Massive hugs to you!!!!!
  3. I had a really tough interview yesterday and feel really discouraged. At my level in my field I get test questions and case scenarios and it's only just gets harder the higher you rise. A lot of the knowledge I've gained has slipped through my fingers over the years. I don't know what I am going to do. I feel very stuck. I should take another certification course, I haven't in a couple years and I worry I don't have the energy. Not only that, but I asked my boss to take social marketing off my plate, and I think he's angry. But at the same time, he kind of dumped it ALL on me when I expressed interest. I wish work was easier for me. I am really down right now.
  4. Stressed. I have to ask my boss tomorrow to take social strategy off my plate because it's stressing me out too much, I have to meet with my CEO Tue morning about my annual review (for some reason... because he had a say in it I guess), I have a three-hour interview on Wed, then a two-hour client meeting Friday. This week is going to SUCK. Not looking forward to it, except for perhaps my interview.... I want to get the hell out of my company. It's with a well-known brand and is a great opportunity. 5-10K more in salary too. I pray I get this job offer... I really want to leave . my company SO badly now. I had a great annual review though.
  5. Agreed. Especially about taking ownership of one's own shortcomings rather than taking them out on others. I have seen mean-spiritedness in numerous people. There is NO excuse for it. I have been hurt one too many times by people like this. It's THEIR problem, NOT yours. Never let someone's cruel words ruin your own sense of self or inner peace. It's all on them, not on you to absorb. Well written and well said.
  6. I am facing some depression lately. It has to do with work. Small company, lots of gossip, it's too small (20 people), and I feel cramped and overwhelmed with too much work. I need a larger company. I have interviews this week and next with another company. I need something good to happen. I need a change!!!
  7. I had my work annual review today, it was very positive overall, and I got a 3.5% salary raise! Woohoooooo! Very exciting. Though I still want to leave, lol.
  8. It was my husband's bday yesterday! I still am not totally used to calling him my hubby! LOL. It's been two months since we got married.... life has been grand between us! We're very very happy! Though we each have our work stress to manage and deal with. Last night we had a really fun celebration for him at a fine restaurant in the city. And tonight we will celebrate more properly since it's Friday night and we don't have to think about work! I miss him so much during the day when we're both working and I cannot wait to see him when I come home each night! I really love my husband!!!
  9. So they expanded my responsibilities, but now I'm totally overloaded and overwhelmed. GRRRRRR. I'm totally excited to be doing something different and new, but I am not happy that once again, my plate is overfull. I have to talk to my boss and worry that he's going to push back. I wrote him an email on Friday letting him know that I was working Friday afternoon (when on one else was), that I have to work this weekend too, and that I want to discuss removing 1-2 clients from my plate on Monday. I worry I will have to speak with HR if he doesn't correct the problem. And the guy who was just promoted above me? He is reading sports articles at work. My other colleague who is at my level also sometimes works on the weekends. There's an uneven distribution of work and it's not right. The good news? I am interviewing with another company and had a very positive second interview. Maybe I'll be able to leave my company sooner than later... I hope so. I am really fed up with what I see going on with upper management. My boss is best buds with the one who got promoted and he shows favoritism which amounts to unfairness within our department. Not right. I guess I am just griping. I am lucky to have the job that I do... it saved me last year when I really needed full-time work and it gave me the 20K salary bump I needed. Now I want another 10K higher or more, lol. Not looking forward to this conversation with my boss.
  10. Thank you, Brian! Yes, you make a very valid point. It IS on them! This is how they operate.
  11. Thanks Sober! I need some encouragement right now, so thank you! Yes, the good news is, I can only go up from here since it's been a flop so far (for the most part).
  12. I am stressed. I was given a new responsibility at work (social media marketing strategy), which is great, but now I have a quick deadline to come up with a Facebook growth strategy for one client by Monday and it's stressing me out. I have so much to read and learn about first, before even delving into a strategy. The only reason why they gave me this? Is because I do this on my own and am pretty successful with it. This company flies by the seat of their pants... they took the responsibility away from someone who has been doing this work for TEN YEARS. BUT she wasn't very successful. So they brought the responsibility back to our department, before even deciding on a person to be in charge of it. It's going to be OK.
  13. WOW. So, now I am in charge of social media marketing strategy for three clients! A BIG CHANGE!!!!!! I am very flattered I was given this responsibility! I will still carry my other digital marketing role, but it will now be split between the two. All I had to do was present to my team a few concrete ideas on how it should be done, and voila! I was given the responsibility. I am sure it helps that I have a FB page for business and am very successful with it. But I am VERY happy that I am expanding my role and my skill set, and I am most thrilled to be moving away from a field that I've begun to question and not enjoy. Now all I need to do is succeed with flying colors, expand our clientele who want social media services, and then ask for a big fat raise! LOL. IF all of that happens, then there is no need for me to leave my company. I am still on the lookout though and will be open to other higher paying roles. But I am happy! All is good.
  14. I think it's very dangerous territory you're treading in. Definitely do not cross any boundaries or start talking sexually with this man. Keep the boundaries strict and strong. It is Ok to have a new male friend who has helped to revive you and lessen your burdens, but it is a completely separate thing to start down the road of a real emotional affair. No good will come of that. And if he drops you as a result? Then he wasn't a true friend and you know what his true intentions are.
  15. I feel stronger and more resolute in my outlook and stance.
  16. I am feeling exasperated by people. The one woman from my other forum who insulted my blog? She wanted me to function as an inspiration for her.... she read my blog and assumed that I could be some sort of life coach for her. I'm not in a place to take that on right now. I have too much to focus on in my own life. So when I told her I couldn't be her life coach, she then told me that in my blog I come across as a pseudo life coach and insinuated that my blog content is very generic. Well, my blog happened to be awarded as one of the top 75 happiness blogs, and I certainly do not claim to be any kind of life coach. I was very insulted by her comments. I put my heart and soul into each of my articles. She had even told me before this that she was envious of my accomplishments and career path. WHY do miserable people want to take down happy people?? I know she's really unhappy. I just don't get it. I run into this ALL the time. Unhappy people want to tear down happier people. Unsuccessful people want to tear down those they envy who ARE successful. Why not LEARN from those who are happier and more successful? Why not honor and model yourself after them instead? Why try to tear them down? My current boss tried to do that to me as well. He wanted to take credit for my hard work with a client. I wouldn't let him. I also see on my other forum SO many stories of toxic work environments where injustice prevails. Where inept bosses promote those who are slackers and overlook those who are hard workers. Where others who slack get away with it, and those who work hard, have to pick up their slack. It sickens me. I hear SO many stories of abusive bosses. I personally have had many of them. But with my current boss, I made it clear I will not allow him to take credit for my work. I stood up for myself. It's a dog-eat-dog world..... unfortunately, it's one where we constantly need to protect ourselves from harm's way, including harmful & toxic people who exist everywhere you go: work, interpersonal relationships, family, and the Internet. There's no shortage of toxic people. The older I get the more I realize that I want to insulate myself. I suppose that's what growing up means: seeing the world as it truly is.
  17. I am feeling exasperated by people. The one woman from that forum who insulted my blog? She wanted me to function as an inspiration for her.... she read my blog and assumed that I could be some sort of life coach for her. I'm not in a place to take that on right now. I have too much to focus on in my own life. So when I told her I couldn't be her life coach, she then told me that in my blog I come across as a pseudo life coach and insinuated that my blog content is very generic. Well, my blog happened to be awarded as one of the top 75 happiness blogs, and I certainly do not claim to be any kind of life coach. I was very insulted by her comments. I put my heart and soul into each of my articles. She had even told me before this that she was envious of my accomplishments and career path. WHY do miserable people want to take down happy people?? I know she's really unhappy. I just don't get it. I run into this ALL the time. Unhappy people want to tear down happier people. Unsuccessful people want to tear down those they envy who ARE successful. My current boss tried to do that to me as well. He wanted to take credit for my hard work with a client. I wouldn't let him. I also see on that other forum SO many stories of toxic work environments where injustice prevails. Where inept bosses promote those who are slackers and overlook those who are hard workers. Where others who slack get away with it, and those who work hard, have to pick up their slack. It sickens me. I hear SO many stories of abusive bosses. I personally have had many of them. But with my current boss, I made it clear I will not allow him to take credit for my work. I stood up for myself. It's a dog-eat-dog world..... unfortunately, it's one where we constantly need to protect ourselves from harm's way, including harmful & toxic people who exist everywhere you go: work, interpersonal relationships, family, and the Internet. There's no shortage of toxic people. The older I get the more I realize that I want to insulate myself. I suppose that's what growing up means: seeing the world as it truly is.
  18. One woman was talking down to me SO much as though I literally am a child who needs to be taught how the world works. I finally clued into how she sounded and cane across: condescending and demeaning. She’s only doing that to feel better about herself. I know this. But it’s still irksome.
  19. You’re sooooo right. That’s how this forum is. Full of people who antagonize and want to argue. Not my style. I like peace and uplifting each other, not tearing into random people. Some people just don’t know how to behave properly and treat people with respect and common courtesy. Yes, I may leave. I don’t know. I’ve also gotten to know a few ppl whom I like. But two people recently tried to tear me down and I won’t stand for it. One woman ripped apart my personal blog after I told her I couldn’t be a life coach for her. Nasty nasty people. ridding your life of toxic people is a first step to greater happiness. Trust me.
  20. A woman on another forum kept talking down to me, as though I know nothing about this world and as though I am 5 years old. I got sick of it all and told her I’m done with listening to her. I need to frequently take breaks from that forum. It’s sometimes not good for my mental health. Ironically it’s a support forum.
  21. I am appalled by how many BAD therapists there are out there. I have been in and out of therapy my whole life and since I was 17. And in all my years of therapy, I have only met ONE good therapist, and that's when I was 17! Maybe there was another along the way who was OK, but the point is, I've met far too many bad therapists who have not helped me very much. My current one shamed me the other night. As a direct result, I've decided to therapist-shop. It made me wonder how truly helpful she's been over the last two years. This is not the first judgmental and shaming comment she's made. I am also frustrated with the limitations of the healthcare system when trying to find a good therapist. I want an energy worker/energy healer type of therapist right now. I want an earthy crunchy type, and perhaps a Shaman. But does my insurance pay for that? Probably not. And can I see them after work hours? Probably not. So I am limited to the host of bad therapists available within my insurance network who are nearby to where I live, in addition to an even more limiting pool of those who can see me at 7:30 at night. I am super annoyed.
  22. I need a new therapist. My own therapist shamed me the other night about something I felt. I expressed my feelings about a certain situation, and she said "that's messed up". What kind of therapist judges and shames their client? I've known for a while that she's not the right match for me. She's far too uptight and conservative for me and I don't know how helpful she's been over the last two years. I am angry about her comment towards me, but I didn't absorb her judgement or allow it to make me feel bad about my own feelings. But that's a bad therapist for you. In all my years of therapy, I have only had one good therapist!!!! Unbelievable. There are more bad therapists than good, in my opinion. And damaging. Some people should not even be a therapist. Most are healing their own wounds, too.
  23. I'm kinda bored right now, waiting for hubby to get home. My hubby! So different but sooooo very nice to finally say that word. I worked from home today which was a nice change but boring as heck! I actually may prefer the office to working from home. Working from home is very isolating. I need to be around people, I've learned. It was unhealthy for me after a while. What else? How I am feeling right now? Great, considering it's TGIF Friday and a long weekend ahead. Yippppeeee.
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