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    stardreamer got a reaction from LoneSquirrel in Are You A Day Or Night Person?   
    yeah... my schedule gets so messed up sometimes, especially when i have a lot of work to do. i would like it to be a "wake up at noon" "go to bed around 3 or 4 am" type thing.
    i don't like trying to sleep after the sun comes up, it's a lot harder. i like to at least fall asleep while it's dark
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    stardreamer got a reaction from Epictetus in Are You A Day Or Night Person?   
    yeah... my schedule gets so messed up sometimes, especially when i have a lot of work to do. i would like it to be a "wake up at noon" "go to bed around 3 or 4 am" type thing.
    i don't like trying to sleep after the sun comes up, it's a lot harder. i like to at least fall asleep while it's dark
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    stardreamer got a reaction from Epictetus in Are You A Day Or Night Person?   
    I am curious about the schedules people keep and whether there is any prevalence of daytime people vs. nighttime people who have depression. I'm also curious if there is a larger number of people who have no real schedule and their bedtime/wake-up times are all over the place, in people who have depression. Discuss!
     
    I think you can make multiple selections.
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    stardreamer got a reaction from samadhiSheol in Does Anyone Else Feel Like It's Too Hard?   
    i got this book, 'get it done when you're depressed', supposedly it offers strategies of how to do practical things when depressed, written by somebody who has gone through it. i haven't read it yet but people say it has relevant info.
    one part i did read about the book, was where it said, you are never going to feel motivated, so stop waiting until you do. and that made so much sense to me. supposedly the book talks about stuff you can do to make that happen. i plan on reading it soon
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    stardreamer got a reaction from melplus in Does Anyone Else Feel Like It's Too Hard?   
    i got this book, 'get it done when you're depressed', supposedly it offers strategies of how to do practical things when depressed, written by somebody who has gone through it. i haven't read it yet but people say it has relevant info.
    one part i did read about the book, was where it said, you are never going to feel motivated, so stop waiting until you do. and that made so much sense to me. supposedly the book talks about stuff you can do to make that happen. i plan on reading it soon
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    stardreamer got a reaction from virvellian in Does Anyone Else Feel Like It's Too Hard?   
    basic stuff:
    here are some things i have found that help stabilize the situation.
    1. make sure you eat enough. it's hard to care about eating sometimes when you're depressed, but "not eating" is something that i've found makes my mental state worse. 
    2. drink enough water.
    3. eat healthy/take vitamins. it's well-known that vitamin/nutrient deficiencies can cause or contribute to depression. so this is a good base to cover.
    4. sleep enough. i can say from various instances of personal experience, that not sleeping enough definitely makes the symptoms worse. they say that serotonin can't replenish itself if you don't sleep at least 7 hours. so make sure you get enough sleep for your body to recover and repair itself.
    5. meditate. this is a big one... personally i've found that "not meditating" is one of the worst things i can do. even if you start with just a few minutes a day, keep going at it and work up. this significantly helps you gain peace of mind.
    6. just take a walk for like 7 minutes a day. this won't take much time and it helps in terms of exercise. eventually you can work up to something more.
    7. stand in the sunlight some every day or every other day... vitamin D absorbs through the skin and improves mood. (if you take a walk in the sunlight, you can get #6 and #7 done at the same time.)
    I have found that consistently doing these all the time helps keep the base threshold of mood from going into a really bad place. it raises the general level of mood. and if you can do these things, then eventually you can do more. just start small but be consistent.


     
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    stardreamer got a reaction from desperados in Is Suicide Really Selfish?   
    i think that focusing too much on it being "selfish" is probably self-defeating. but suic*de itself is very self-defeating. it's the ultimate self-defeat... it is the acceptance of defeat in the face of things you feel you cannot change, which may not be a true perception of reality... our depressed brains lie to us. think about the idea that what your brain is telling you about the bad future is probably mostly lies. wouldn't it be a terrible thing to believe a bunch of lies and then do something that is permanent based on those lies?
     
    i don't like the word "selfish" and as others have mentioned, it is not useful to put labels like this on it.

    but yes, the more damage you cause in your wake, the more harm will be caused to others. 
     
    random people you don't know could be harmed or traumatized by it, if they found you, etc.
     
    if you did it in a way where friends would find you, then your friends may be harmed by it too. Even if they didn't find you they may suffer trauma over it.

    it's not just about you. it's not only about other people either.
     
    it sounds like you are wanting someone to negate "selfish" as a reason not to do it, so you can increase the idea that it's ok to do that.
     
    i won't do that. and i don't think anyone else will either.

    i really hope you can find some peace, even if it's a small peace. please come up with some solutions that involve life.
     
     

     
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    stardreamer got a reaction from duck in What I Am Doing To Improve Life   
    I respect what you're going through and I respect this thread... having the will to fight and improve your life is important
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    stardreamer got a reaction from duck in What I Am Doing To Improve Life   
    sometimes i also wondered if getting on here and posting equates to something like "practicing being depressed". but it also seems to help...especially when there is nowhere else to vent or it's not a good idea to talk to people you know about it. i am not sure where the line of balance is on that.
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    stardreamer got a reaction from Dolphin2013 in What I Am Doing To Improve Life   
    I respect what you're going through and I respect this thread... having the will to fight and improve your life is important
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    stardreamer got a reaction from Camellia in Just Curious (Poll)   
    I like the direction of your poll but I think you need more options. "Suffered child abuse by parent" is not even listed. "Suffered other abuse by non-parents while a child" might be something else to add. And also bullying. People have been through a lot of sh-t. "Relationship with parent is strained" is a very cute statement that does not even begin to cover it for a lot of people. 
     
    Childhood can be an especially big factor since it happened so young, and imprinted on your thoughts at a young age. Also, other types of trauma are major sources of depression, including trauma suffered while an adult. 

    I suspect that a large percentage of depressed people have suffered at least one form of abuse or trauma in their lives. Maybe I will make a poll about it.
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    stardreamer got a reaction from sabishikunaru in Introversion   
    Do you ever feel like you just don't want to see people? I live with people so I can't really "not" see people. But I tend to be very selective on who I see. I am more likely to spend time online talking to people. In person I only want to see specific people who I feel a connection to at that time. A lot of times being around people seems kind of extraneous.
    I can be quite outgoing with people I feel safe around. But a lot of the time I just like to keep to myself or confine in-person social interaction to really close friends.

    How does introversion or extroversion work for you?
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    stardreamer got a reaction from Garnetred in Introversion   
    Do you ever feel like you just don't want to see people? I live with people so I can't really "not" see people. But I tend to be very selective on who I see. I am more likely to spend time online talking to people. In person I only want to see specific people who I feel a connection to at that time. A lot of times being around people seems kind of extraneous.
    I can be quite outgoing with people I feel safe around. But a lot of the time I just like to keep to myself or confine in-person social interaction to really close friends.

    How does introversion or extroversion work for you?
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    stardreamer got a reaction from Fizzle in Introversion   
    yeah, this totally  happens. i think the key is to have a few close friends. that's usually how introverts manage their social needs. you can learn how to make friends again if you're rusty. everyone, even introverts, have a need for some type of social interaction, even if it is not very frequent.
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    stardreamer got a reaction from Orso in Introversion   
    lol we are not tired of hearing your voice
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    stardreamer got a reaction from AtTheGym in What Helps Your Depression Most? #2   
    I'm still in this, I can't say I have recovered from it, but here are some things I have found so far that I noticed have helped me. I hope maybe it will be helpful to someone else.
     
    1. Eating healthy food, as healthy as possible.
    2. Making sure to eat enough meals every day.
    3. Carbohydrates: I have noticed that going extremely low carb has a really bad effect on my mood. I think at least 100 grams of carbs/day is the minimum to not have some kind of really bad mood crashes, at least based on my experience. (Carbs help create seratonin.)
    4. Making sure I get enough vitamins.
    5. Standing outside on the ground barefoot for a few minutes every day (not on concrete/asphalt, on the grass or actual ground). I don't do this enough, but it definitely helps.
    6. Standing outside in the sunlight for a few minutes daily or at least every other day (can be combined with standing on the ground). This provides vitamin D which is a mood enhancer.
    7. Spending time with my cat. I try to spend 15 minutes holding/petting my cat twice a day. It's good for the cat and good for me too.
    8. Exercise, somewhat vigorous exercise like fast walking, for 10-15 minutes, seems to create endorphins.
    9. Getting enough sleep. I think I read that if you get less than 7 hours sleep the body can't repair the seratonin properly=worse mood.
    10. Massage/touch: this also releases hormones that are good for your mood. Even if no one else is there you can do it yourself. I like to say "I love and forgive myself" while doing the massage, it is like you are giving a positive message to your body.
    11. There is this stuff made by Bach Flower Essences, Rescue Remedy Spray, you can get it at health food stores. It's a tincture of herbs for mood. Basically you spray it on your tongue when you are freaking out and need to calm down. I am not sure if it works for everyone but it has worked for me and also some other people I know of.
    12. Meditation/spiritual practices. This is a major one. 
    13. Good times with friends. Being with my friends who are being positive reminds me that there is a version of life where people are happy, and that maybe I can be that way too.
    14. Allowing yourself some time or one day a week to just not worry about any of your problems... during that day you are OK to just relax and be positive, and not worry about anything, and if any depressive thoughts come up you just tell yourself that today I am being positive, and dismiss them. I don't think this would work every day but it does work for designated periods of time, to give yourself a break.
    15. Staying as positive as possible
    16. Being grateful for things, there is this exercise where you say 100 things you are grateful for, and I think really it helps turn your perspective around.
    17. I do my best to remember that I don't have to live in this darkness, there is light, even if I cannot feel it or see it at the time. I try to remember that there is a happy version of things, and that is the version I want to have. 
    18. Being out in nature (or exercising in nature). I'm pretty sure that most people who live in cities don't get enough nature time... it is beneficial for our health I think.
     
    That's all I can think of right now.
     
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    stardreamer got a reaction from Fizzle in Does Anyone Else Feel Like It's Too Hard?   
    basic stuff:
    here are some things i have found that help stabilize the situation.
    1. make sure you eat enough. it's hard to care about eating sometimes when you're depressed, but "not eating" is something that i've found makes my mental state worse. 
    2. drink enough water.
    3. eat healthy/take vitamins. it's well-known that vitamin/nutrient deficiencies can cause or contribute to depression. so this is a good base to cover.
    4. sleep enough. i can say from various instances of personal experience, that not sleeping enough definitely makes the symptoms worse. they say that serotonin can't replenish itself if you don't sleep at least 7 hours. so make sure you get enough sleep for your body to recover and repair itself.
    5. meditate. this is a big one... personally i've found that "not meditating" is one of the worst things i can do. even if you start with just a few minutes a day, keep going at it and work up. this significantly helps you gain peace of mind.
    6. just take a walk for like 7 minutes a day. this won't take much time and it helps in terms of exercise. eventually you can work up to something more.
    7. stand in the sunlight some every day or every other day... vitamin D absorbs through the skin and improves mood. (if you take a walk in the sunlight, you can get #6 and #7 done at the same time.)
    I have found that consistently doing these all the time helps keep the base threshold of mood from going into a really bad place. it raises the general level of mood. and if you can do these things, then eventually you can do more. just start small but be consistent.


     
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    stardreamer got a reaction from Fizzle in Mother Is Intrusive And Harmful   
    yes... if you got to where you had other social outlets, then you wouldn't feel it was necessary to engage with people who don't treat you well.
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    stardreamer got a reaction from Donaldopato in The "how Do You Feel Right Now?" Thread   
    I am sorry that the post I made caused so many problems. If I had known this would happen, I would never have posted it.
    I am sorry for any emotional hurt caused by my post. 
    If I wanted to send that, I should have sent it over a private message. I apologize for not realizing that at the time.
    As Senordomino said, I did not intend it to be hostile or an attack. I only wanted you to consider the information about the terminology.
    I am sorry for any emotional ramifications caused by my post, and the manner in which I made it. 
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    stardreamer got a reaction from Mia42 in The "how Do You Feel Right Now?" Thread   
    I am sorry that the post I made caused so many problems. If I had known this would happen, I would never have posted it.
    I am sorry for any emotional hurt caused by my post. 
    If I wanted to send that, I should have sent it over a private message. I apologize for not realizing that at the time.
    As Senordomino said, I did not intend it to be hostile or an attack. I only wanted you to consider the information about the terminology.
    I am sorry for any emotional ramifications caused by my post, and the manner in which I made it. 
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    stardreamer got a reaction from PurpleStorm in The "how Do You Feel Right Now?" Thread   
    I am sorry that the post I made caused so many problems. If I had known this would happen, I would never have posted it.
    I am sorry for any emotional hurt caused by my post. 
    If I wanted to send that, I should have sent it over a private message. I apologize for not realizing that at the time.
    As Senordomino said, I did not intend it to be hostile or an attack. I only wanted you to consider the information about the terminology.
    I am sorry for any emotional ramifications caused by my post, and the manner in which I made it. 
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    stardreamer got a reaction from SFChristianGirl in The "how Do You Feel Right Now?" Thread   
    well it's been fun these past couple of months talking to you guys. i got a lot out of the site, but it is clear that this is no longer a safe space for me to be. i am not going to put up with continuing to get attacked even after i apologized to everyone. it is sad to me because that means my sources of emotional support just got fewer. but there is only so much i'm going to put up with.
    i wish you all well, i wish you all healing. 
    goodbye.
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    stardreamer got a reaction from Els1e in The "how Do You Feel Right Now?" Thread   
    I am sorry that the post I made caused so many problems. If I had known this would happen, I would never have posted it.
    I am sorry for any emotional hurt caused by my post. 
    If I wanted to send that, I should have sent it over a private message. I apologize for not realizing that at the time.
    As Senordomino said, I did not intend it to be hostile or an attack. I only wanted you to consider the information about the terminology.
    I am sorry for any emotional ramifications caused by my post, and the manner in which I made it. 
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    stardreamer got a reaction from freckledface in The "how Do You Feel Right Now?" Thread   
    I am sorry that the post I made caused so many problems. If I had known this would happen, I would never have posted it.
    I am sorry for any emotional hurt caused by my post. 
    If I wanted to send that, I should have sent it over a private message. I apologize for not realizing that at the time.
    As Senordomino said, I did not intend it to be hostile or an attack. I only wanted you to consider the information about the terminology.
    I am sorry for any emotional ramifications caused by my post, and the manner in which I made it. 
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    stardreamer reacted to sairyss in The "how Do You Feel Right Now?" Thread   
    mercury is in retrograde...
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