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This is a very good reference. Thank you. GR

Hi. I haven't been on much lately. Going through a hard time right now. Been feeling down and stressed recently. I don't know what to do right now. My life has lost it's direction. Feeling really lost right now. GR

Unless the doctor thinks you're in danger, I don't think they can have you involuntarily committed.

I currently am dating someone with depression. Both my boyfriend and I are dealing with depression. I like it though, cause we understand each other better and can be there to support each other.

Sad and depressed. Upset in general.

I'm monogamous. I don't think I could handle the emotional effects of being otherwise.

Hi everyone. Thanks for the warm welcome. I hope that I can get to know you all better. GR

I understand what you're saying. I'm not mad at you. I'm mad at myself for getting into this situation. I should've known better. Now I have to figure out how to break it off. I am very thankful to you and everyone else who posted in response to this.

I can't explain it. I went to see my therapist yesterday and I almost told him, but then I clammed up. I don't know if it's feeling ashamed or what exactly. I've told him about everything else concerning the relationship, but he doesn't know about the BDSM yet. Like I said, I'd never participate in it. So, basically what I'm hearing from everyone is that this relationship is a bad judgement call on my part. I'm inexperienced and I didn't know better. Lesson learned, I guess. Thanks for your support. I'll keep you all updated.

My definition of love? I think of love as unconditional caring for another person. In a romantic way, someone that you feel like you can't live without. And the other person would feel the same way towards me. Maybe even stronger. When I said researching, it was only for informational purposes. I have no intentions of engaging in that kind of activity. The first mention of sex was at 5 days after we'd started dating. He initiated the discussion.

That's okay, I'm really just concerned. My viewpoint might be a little one-sided as I've read a lot about abnormal psychology and have read a lot of examples of some of the worst kinds of mental and physical mistreatment, and it's sensitised me to these kinds of issues. I don't know your particular situation or the details of your situation, it's just on the face of it it sounded like a possible cause for alarm. The main thing is just to be careful and not rush into something before you're truly ready for it (and by that I don't mean the BDSM stuff (it's perfectly possible that you might never be comfortable with that stuff and that's perfectly okay), I mean just being careful and taking the time you need for even the small first steps). P.S. I do still recommend reading the The Gift of Fear, not just for the circumstances you find yourself in now but because it has some extremely valuable insights into how to recognise bad people and potentially bad situations before you might get into them. I actually buy a copy for all of my new female friends just as a gift. Obviously it's not infallible and it doesn't make you immune to danger but it is a book that can potentially save your life. Thank you. I really appreciate your concern for me. It concerned me too. That's why I started this post. I kind of want to see what my therapist says about all this, but I'm embarrassed to ask him. We're taking this whole relationship slow. I think we both let our feelings take control and now we're both overwhelmed by everything. We're going to take it easy with things now. You don't have to worry about me jumping into this BDSM thing right away though. It's something that I would really have a hard time doing. I already have trust issues in general with everyone and I think that this would make things worse. Thank you for the book recommendation. I'll get a copy for myself. It sound like it'll be helpful.