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  1. Hello! It's great that you have been asking people to sit with you during lunch. You are a very brave & strong person. You can overcome this! Welcome to the site!
  2. Hello, Haley! Welcome to the site! I hope you find it helpful!
  3. Hello, Tim! You can beat depression. Many of the most successful people in history have battled it & have still been able to accomplish their goals. It's great that you have been able to function somewhat normally. I know how exhausting it is to fight depression, but it can be done! Welcome to the site!
  4. Wow these are really wonderful quotes! I really like the one by Flaubert. The most glorious moments in your life are not the so-called days of success, but rather those days when out of dejection and despair you feel rise in you a challenge to life.
  5. You should really share your inspirational quotes in a post on here, since outside links are not allowed. I always like to say that "you are stronger than you think". It's not the most eloquent quote, but it really helps me.
  6. It sounds like you do not have strong boundaries at all with your husband. He needs to respect your feelings & choices. Relationships aren't meant to be a one way street where one person is spending the time pleasing the other. It should be mutual. I'm not exactly sure what advice to give to you, as I have never been in this type of situation. I hope that someone who has comments. I'm really sorry that you are going through this, & hope you get the right kind of help.
  7. Please don't call my belief in continuing to fight against depression a platitude. I truly mean what I say. The "why" question is different for everyone. I cannot give someone a purpose for living since it is so personal. I can only try & encourage them to keep fighting to the best of my abilities. Please pardon me, Jules. I didn't mean to offend. Just wanted to hear your reasons. It's alright. I just wanted to make sure that everyone knows that my advice is genuine. I personally believe that life is full of ups & downs. I try to look at it like the seasons. When you are suffering, it's like the winter. It feels like the cold will never go away. But logically I know that the sun & warmth have to come back someday. Life is full of ups & downs. I have to suffer in order to know true happiness. I view life as a journey.
  8. Please don't call my belief in continuing to fight against depression a platitude. I truly mean what I say. The "why" question is different for everyone. I cannot give someone a purpose for living since it is so personal. I can only try & encourage them to keep fighting to the best of my abilities.
  9. I can understand how upsetting that comment is, but I want to offer a different perspective. I could be wrong, but that person could have meant that we choose how we react physically, not mentally. What I mean is that although we cannot change our emotions, we can decide to take steps to overcome them. For example, when many people, including myself, wake up in the morning, everything in my mind tells me to stay in bed. It is a struggle to get out. I would much prefer to just lay there. But I decide to get out & do something. It is very hard, especially when you are struggling with a mental illness, but it is possible to overcome. Btw, I can relate to your situation. I don't have much money, & the thought of it upsets me very much. I hope that you don't take my post the wrong way. I understand how difficult it is to function with depression, & truly hope that you are able to find some support soon.
  10. I am so sorry that you are struggling with postpartum depression. Although you shouldn't beat yourself up over shopping too much, you need to get it under control before it really gets overwhelming. Have you talked to your therapist about this? Maybe the depression has made you more susceptible to overspending. But in the end, we are all responsible for our actions. The good thing about that is that it is in your power to change it. You can overcome this! I hope that you continue posting on here. Welcome to the site!
  11. Great point! Many of us, including myself, forget that most successful people had times in their life where they were struggling.
  12. I know that when I'm in a really bad place, it's difficult to see how I can ever get out of it. Advice that is not specific or too large, like "just get help" never resonated with me. The things that have helped me the most are simple, daily goals that are achievable for almost anyone. What are some daily things that help you out? I'll list a few... 1. Drinking lots of water. Before I started drinking enough water, I felt tired all the time & was easily irritated. Now I have much more energy. 2. Writing down whatever I'm thinking, & then tearing up the paper. 3. Getting some kind of exercise, even if it's just walking around the house several times.
  13. I do not believe that the world will ever be perfect. There will always be negative & hateful people, no matter what time period or political system is in place. That being said, you can choose to be a positive light in a world full of darkness. Be kind to those around you. Try your best to help out others. It doesn't have to be anything big. Just giving someone a hopeful & positive comment on this site can help. If the majority of people lived by this principle, of helping those closest to you, then there would be much less hate in the world. I think that's the best way to start creating a more positive world.
  14. makemesmile, I am glad that you are beginning to feel better. I can relate to how your are feeling. I think that it is not happiness that you are feeling guilty of, but maybe you are uncomfortable with the change? We can become so used to being depressed that any positive emotion feels like a threat since it is changing our way of thinking & feeling. Change is hard. But I want you to know that you truly do deserve to be happy.
  15. You need to start out completing very short goals. Don't focus your energy on any goal too large, otherwise you will feel frustrated & overwhelmed. Make sure that you are getting enough sleep, exercise, sun, & water. It sounds simple, but daily tasks can be difficult to accomplish once we get to a certain state of mind. Do you have any family or supportive people nearby where you are living?
  16. This is going to seem idiotic, but the best solution is to not overthink things. You just have to do it. I am that way at least. If I contemplate things too much, I won't get anything done. Take each task one by one. Figure out how to accomplish it, & do it. You have a wonderful family to support. You CAN do this!
  17. I am so sorry that you are struggling. I know how hard it is to stay positive when improving yourself causes exhaustion & frustration. Change is hard & difficult, especially when you are dealing with other issues. I will not tell you that it will get better right away. It is going to take a while. How long nobody can tell. But I hope that you know the fight IS worth it.
  18. I've never personally experienced this. I hope that who has comments. Have you ruled out any physical causes?
  19. I'm very sorry about your father. I hope that you felt better by sharing your thoughts.
  20. Hello, Four! to the site! I'm sorry that you grew up in an abusive household. It's great that you have found the strength to leave your house. Don't rush things. Recovery is slow. I hope that you find the site helpful! Jules19.
  21. Oh god brain fog is one of the most frustrating things! You are definitely not alone in this. I can't give much advice since I haven't taken lexapro. Hopefully someone else that has will comment.
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