Weight does matter. Don't join the crowd that say that weight doesn't matter. I am sure you are better than that! I have been suffering depresion, loneliness, anxiety and other mental issues all my life all caused by my self perception as ugly and unwanted. So I can relate. However, I firmly believe that weight (or more correctly body composition) is very manageable for both women and men. If you are facialy unattractive, that is a different story (my case) and that takes more work to fix because you simply cannot move your eyes closer or make your head smaller. But if your only problem is weight, you are a lucky person. The problem is that people are not wiling to make sacrafices. And by sacrafices I mean a complete change in your life. Everything. The moment you get up in the morning, you need to think about the key actions in your day that will help you to achieve your goal. You have to plan meals, cook every day, go sleep early, exercise, learn about nutrition, buy expensive supplements, drink more water and go to the bathroom every hour. You are going to have to learn the science behing fat loss. If food tastes too good, spit it out. You have to limit interactions with certain people that make you eat things you can't eat. Yes, you might have to abandon some of your friends if they don't support you. You might have to limit time you spend with your family if that makes you eat unhealthy. You have to limit parties, celebrations even lunches with colleagues. You are going to have to face people who will laugh at your new lifestyle. I personally moved from my old flat to a new one that has gym in the same building. And the worst part is, if you have bad genes that make you naturally store more fat, you have to do most of these things for the rest of your life. Every. Single. Day. Never stop. And it is going to get tougher and tougher. Two weeks into your diet you will feel hungry, angry, tired, depressed. You will want to give up. Your work performance will suffer. You will meet people who will be stuffing themselves with sugar and not gain a single gram of fat. You have to acknowledge the brutal unfairness of this world and just be focused on your goal. But you know what? It is worth it... This is how it is done.