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  1. Evergreenforst4


    Something that I have struggled with and I believe is common for many is patience. I observe this when people are driving who want to drive very fast even to pass others in oncoming traffic lanes or motorcycles weaving through. However, while it may seem we save time by forgoing patience and we get our results quicker it is not without risk and cost. For example skipping education to go straight to a job may seem desirable but they may have less future opportunities without the degree. Perhaps a hard worker would argue that they can rise through the ranks on merit without education but an even harder worker would work and pursue higher education or be awarded an honorary degree. But this is not always healthy. People may expend their health and become ill from pushing themselves too hard too fast or sacrifice those they love. In the worst case, being impatient can cost life and limb of people. This patience can also extend to time with people. Getting to know people can take time and therefore patience is also important. Overall, patience may not seem rewarding initially but I reflect and remember that even the greatest trees were once acorns and these did not sprout and grow in only one day. A civilization such as Rome was not built in a day.
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    Anger is a powerful emotion and something I often think about. Why do we get angry? I believe we become angry when we percieve something to be an injustice, anger seems to be the natural emotion that flows from this. When mastered anger can be a powerful way to confront injustice but used incorrectly it can have devastating consequences. From my studies I found a proverb 16.32 "Better a patient person than a warrior, one with self-control than one who takes a city." In the midst of anger it can be difficult to think level headedly or rationally. It is important to be the master of your anger and assess the situation. Responding assertively is a good way to handle anger in a non emergency situation. In our society we have people who hurt others because their anger has consumed them. When I feel myself on this dark slippery path, I reflect on what kind of person I want to be. We have a choice to be ruled by anger or to rule the anger. When I feel angry, I redirect excessive anger so that I can be assertive. Also we are not omnipotent and only have one perspective and not the perspective of others which together may give a more accurate picture of a situation. An example is you are angry at a friend because you percieve them to have stolen something when in fact it may have simply been misplaced. Although the opposite could also be true, someone is victim of theft but ignorance is bliss. Because of this we cannot rely on emotions alone to guide us through life because these emotions do not always percieve reality as it truly is but at our core we still must manage the feelings we experience, we need insight, observations and logic as well or people may be misinformed. This is my thoughts on anger. In short it is beneficial to trace a feeling or emotion to a root and whether this root is planted or simply a dead tree that deserves our time and investigation.
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  4. Hi, someone once told me that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. You have said you have a few good moments so the problems you have are temporary. It may help you to try to change the way you think and view problems instead having that be the defacto solution. I learned in psychology that rather that say what not to do, you must say what you will do. You have to find something to replace thoughts you have so you may want to work with a therapist to come up with things you can do to fix your problems.
  5. 季彦霖 选择失忆 Pronounced xuan ze shi yi Singer is Ji Yan Lin and in english the song is selective amnesia
  6. I do see cruel things in humanity but I do not believe that humans are completely evil. Maybe if you have a mentor or someone who you look up to that may help. I don't think humans were meant to be alone, they need interaction. There are billions of people in the world and I hope you can find a good match for you.
  7. Maybe try to think how he feels? If somebody seems perfect and they have a suicidal past, maybe deep down they just want to be loved. Maybe he just tries so hard everyday just to be normal and just wants somebody to love. I had a suicidal past but I was never married. My girlfriend left me while I was overseas in the military on Valentines day because she got with her co-worker. I can't really explain how I felt that day but I feel like a part of me died because I felt very close to her. My advice would just be for people to think and consider before they decide to make a commitment or before they decide to leave someone. Just take a deep breath and carefully consider the situation. I don't know enough to really offer any other advice.
  8. My experience with working is that with most jobs, a big part of the job is being able to get along with other people and control your emotions in a work setting. Does your boyfriend go to counseling?
  9. Try to avoid things that trigger you and come up with a safety plan when you have moments of depression. I feel a lot of pain in sorrow in my life but I try to still live because I have had moments when I did feel joy at time or another in my life and I can't really describe how joy feels but it gives me hope.
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