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  1. I like to compare mental health to physical health. When someone is sick they will rest, take medicine, drink lots of fluids and vitamin c to get better. When people are healthy they can choose to exercise and eat right. I think when people have a good day they should still remember the things that helped them get to that good day and not forget about them.
  2. If it was me I would trust the specialist not the general practictioners because that is what they are devoted to. It is good to detect these kind of cancer risks early because your odds will be good.
  3. Here is a super list I have learned from various people With self -smiling -exercise -rituals -laughter yoga -power poses -positive affirmations -sleep -accomplishments With environment -sunlight -plants -ASMR -music -aromatherapy -therapy animals -positive role models With edibles -hydration -vitamin d and b12 -dark chocolate -red wine (depends if you drink or not)
  4. This is a difficult question! 🙂 There was this movie I saw about a dog named Hachi and everyday he waited at the train station for this professor. One day the professor died and that dog spent the rest of his life waiting there every day by the station. When I was waiting for love I felt like I was waiting everyday at a station for someone that was long gone. But I remember the brief moments when I was loved and it made me feel alive. I dont know what would cause a dog to wait at a station for years and years but maybe that person made them happy. But its difficult to feel like a toy on a shelf or worse to already feel 6 feet under to be covered in cobwebs cast aside and forgotten. I just look to the past and imagine and watch sad dog movies.
  5. I will make case. One of the greatest reasons is simply because you will get further in life. Do you want to have happy marriage or relationships? Being nice will help. Do you want to be healthy? Being nice will help, being nice is better for physical and mental health. Do you have conflict to resolve? Being nice helps you resolve the conflict. For me being nice has helped me so much. I used to always be so angry but I tried being nice and I still was angry but I use that anger to bodybuild so I expend the energy so I can be nice. Instead of wasting my energy tearing others down, I build myself up and this is crucial for maby young men because they have testosterone and they need to get their energy out and they need an outlet. People without outlets have trouble like drugs or prison so everyone needs and outlet what makes nice people better is they choose a healthy outlet that does no harm and I think if you try to be nice you will make many friends and people will do nice things to you even though they dont have to.
  6. here are some things to consider. If you or your partner is struggling mental health a counselor is helpful and you can still be together but just also go to counseling. Beyond that just try to be supportive and find out what makes the other person smile, give them hugs and smile when you greet them
  7. When I learned to love someone else, it expanded my small dark world. I had feelings that I never experienced before and it made me happy again like when I was a child. My soul was like a rusty old junkyard and when I learned to love it was like someone just visited one day and started fixing the place up with new life. Sometimes you might feel sadness or worry because things long rooted. I ended up getting betrayed but all the feelings of love still made me feel alive. The passion, the fear, the hurt, knowing for a moment someone cared about you and it made me feel alive and human. I could have stayed in my small world but I gave someone new a chance and I do not regret it.
  8. Psycholuigiman, I think environment plays an important role in the ability to validate yourself. For example when I was in the military, the environment was stressful sometimes depending on what was going on and we were sleep deprieved and there was a lot to do in the day so people did things in that environment that they normally would not do in another environment. Sometimes you may find that less sun or hostile workplace or school is the negative environment. You have to find your locus of control. While we cannot control others you can report things that are clearly wrong. For example I witnessed a sexual assault happen and it really bothered me so I reported it. I grew up in some horrible environments in low income and I have seen things happen that should never occur. What has helped me the most is to take myself to a better environment. The trick is to use your imagination. Because when I feel sad or like I dont belong, I listen to music and I day dream that I am somewhere else in a fantasy environment. And in this other world I go to it is much better than I world I live in now. What this does for me is it allows me to see what a better world, a better future would look like. And if I can see it then it makes it possible for me to work towards it. You can think of any time or place in history or even outside of history, think of a place that makes you happy and just stay there. That is the power of imagi ation but it is limited. An example of the limitation is when I was in the military all my friends smoked like crazy and I hated smoke and everywhere felt dirty with all the sand and old diesel vehicles and rusted junkyards. I liked some of the stuff but the air was always bad so I brought a little plant with me and he was my best friend. Then I realized I love plants and gardening and they make me happy so when I feel sad I imagine myself in the forest or I actually just go hiking and I keep a whole bunch of plants now and have a greenhouse room to meditate in.
  9. Sorry I am not too good with english. I think there is nothing wrong with competition. In U.S. they seem to make it feel like life or death sometimes like a barbaric fight. but you can lose most of the time and it is not the end of everything. many successful people lose all the time. Chuck Norris the martial artist use to lose a lot of tournaments but he kept learning how to improve. I heard stories of people failing a lot to create electricity. The secret is if you look at the top people in the world they are really losers at some point who had failures but they simply did not quit.
  10. Hi Psycholuigiman, I have seen your posts before and you are pretty cool. I think intention means matters, I have made tough forceful suggestions to be people and it was because I sincerely believed it was best for them in the long them and not just to be bossy. In that regard, I think if you have perspective you should feel free to tell your friend the truth and help then explore ways to save. Ultimately, you are NOT your friends keeper, you can give valuable input but if they choose to make what you view as poor decisions they must pay the consequences in the future. If people are never disciplined, they only form of discipline they will get is from mother nature who does discipline. For example being out in the cold rain without a jacket can make you sick. Playing with an electrical outlet can get someone shocked. Yes we can tell these people to be careful but eventually they will be disciplined from nature itself for making poor choices but as a friend you would like to spare them from the suffering so you warn them when it appears they are heading down a less desirable path. To me that is the opposite of being harmful but if you feel in doubt there is nothing wrong with trying to simply do no harm.
  11. Hi, I have had a lot of success dating or just hooking up in general. My first tip is avoid making friends, dont waste your time with someone if they are using a dating site for friends, those people are the worst for those with mental health issues IMHO. Second, stick with the popular sites you are using, take good pics (ask a friend or someone) and use a guide for writing good profiles. A lot of people are not normal especially in U.S there are a lot social issues so dont feel bad. Just put your best self forward though and have realistic expectations and be outgoing. Guys have talk first typically and it does not have to be hard just keep it simple and polite. many religious women look for virgin men so you could also try popular dating sites if you do have belief or anything. Also just exercise regularly it will help with stress because the problem is "normal" people avoid people they dont think are normal like the plague. One way is combat this is to try to appeal to the better nature of people but you should find someone like yourself and when two broken people get together it can be rough so you have to prepare for that dating is rough.
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    Something that I have struggled with and I believe is common for many is patience. I observe this when people are driving who want to drive very fast even to pass others in oncoming traffic lanes or motorcycles weaving through. However, while it may seem we save time by forgoing patience and we get our results quicker it is not without risk and cost. For example skipping education to go straight to a job may seem desirable but they may have less future opportunities without the degree. Perhaps a hard worker would argue that they can rise through the ranks on merit without education but an even harder worker would work and pursue higher education or be awarded an honorary degree. But this is not always healthy. People may expend their health and become ill from pushing themselves too hard too fast or sacrifice those they love. In the worst case, being impatient can cost life and limb of people. This patience can also extend to time with people. Getting to know people can take time and therefore patience is also important. Overall, patience may not seem rewarding initially but I reflect and remember that even the greatest trees were once acorns and these did not sprout and grow in only one day. A civilization such as Rome was not built in a day.
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    Anger is a powerful emotion and something I often think about. Why do we get angry? I believe we become angry when we percieve something to be an injustice, anger seems to be the natural emotion that flows from this. When mastered anger can be a powerful way to confront injustice but used incorrectly it can have devastating consequences. From my studies I found a proverb 16.32 "Better a patient person than a warrior, one with self-control than one who takes a city." In the midst of anger it can be difficult to think level headedly or rationally. It is important to be the master of your anger and assess the situation. Responding assertively is a good way to handle anger in a non emergency situation. In our society we have people who hurt others because their anger has consumed them. When I feel myself on this dark slippery path, I reflect on what kind of person I want to be. We have a choice to be ruled by anger or to rule the anger. When I feel angry, I redirect excessive anger so that I can be assertive. Also we are not omnipotent and only have one perspective and not the perspective of others which together may give a more accurate picture of a situation. An example is you are angry at a friend because you percieve them to have stolen something when in fact it may have simply been misplaced. Although the opposite could also be true, someone is victim of theft but ignorance is bliss. Because of this we cannot rely on emotions alone to guide us through life because these emotions do not always percieve reality as it truly is but at our core we still must manage the feelings we experience, we need insight, observations and logic as well or people may be misinformed. This is my thoughts on anger. In short it is beneficial to trace a feeling or emotion to a root and whether this root is planted or simply a dead tree that deserves our time and investigation.
  14. Is this forum considered social media? I think it depends on the people who use it.
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