LeilaNadine

Hi Aidan, I can look into this for you, which post is it?

Hi Aidan, Congrats on being sober and clean, that’s quite an achievement 😊 It sounds like you’ve been through a lot. I hope things continue to get better for you. Please know that no one is here to judge you, but to support each other. I look forward to reading your posts warm wishes Leila

Hi there Has anyone been in contact via email about this? If not I can look into this for you warm wishes Leila

Hi NickyLynn I’m sorry to hear your feeling this way and that your being treated like this by your work colleagues. Please know that this is likely nothing that you’ve done, just a few people acting out. Have you addressed the situation with them? If not how might that feel to bring it up with them? Or maybe a supervisor? In relation to your therapists, in the UK we have registering bodies such as BACP and UKCP, finding therapists on their directories can be a good idea. The reason for this is that it makes sure that the therapists you are seeing are fully trained as they have to be in order to be on the directory and also any behaviour like you described would have likely resulted in complaints which they take seriously and may stop them being on the directory. Do you have anything like this where you live? It may stop you getting bad therapists. Having said that it may take a few times to get a therapist your truly click with. I hope things get better for you soon 💕 Leila

Hi Cam and welcome to DF 😊 I’m so sorry to hear of your struggles. I hope you find the forums helpful and supportive. I think it’s lovely that you want to help others, it shows a very kind heart that you would use your experiences to support people. 💕 Warm wishes Leila

People will only show you what they want you to see on social media. They won’t show you the struggles. It’s like a filter of perfection. The bad stuff is there but people will work hard to ensure you don’t know that.

Hi Karlbarx, You are definitly not alone in this. What you have overcome already is inspiring! This is but a chapter in your life. I know it can feel like there’s no light at the end of the tunnel when things are tough however life will get better and you will feel better, even if it doesn’t seem that way right now. Thank you for reaching out to us, I want you to know also that you are certainly not garbage. Garbage wouldn’t be asking for support in an effort to help themselves. Warm wishes Leila

Hi Justsurvivesomehow and a warm welcome to the forum. Thank you for reaching out to us. There are many members here that can relate to what your going through and I hope you get lots of support on your journey towards healing. Warm regards Leila

Could you do it without seeing it as something to pass or fail? Say for example you have an image of self care on there as a reminder to take 5 minutes for you. There’s no pass or fail, just a gentle reminder to do something you enjoy or something that relaxes you. If you don’t do it every time it doesn’t matter, you don’t have to be at war with yourself 💕

Hi Frida and a very warm welcome to DF Thank you for reaching out to us, this is a very welcoming forum with supportive members, a lot of whom can relate to what your going through. Im sorry to hear about the lack of support from your family, please know that you have a safe space here to share. How are you finding the medication so far? Warm wishes Leila

Concentrating on yourself and your wellbeing is a great way forward, I think that confidence and a sense of self identity follows this. Once your feeling that confidence and you’ve given it to yourself it’s hard for others to diminish as you dont need it from them so much. What I would say about the jabs in conversation is that you are quite within your rights to establish healthy boundaries because that’s not ok. Whatever that means for you whether it’s walking away or addressing it, you don’t have to take it. This might sound super cheesy but have you ever made a vision board? Putting out visually what you want to achieve and putting it somewhere your able to see it every day is a nice reminder to work on yourself.. and it’s something creative to do...for you.

Hi Sabiflitch, I tend to think that sometimes in relationships it can be easy to put our partners on a pedestal, turn them into someone that can do no wrong in our minds and exhaust ourselves worrying about their happiness. I’ve been here in the past and it made me lose sight of what I wanted, who I was and how I deserved to be treated. How would you feel about thinking what you want out of life, what makes you feel good and how you’d like to be treated by someone? You deserve the best. I also remember thinking that instead of finding someone that makes me happy, being someone that makes me happy is far more rewarding. The former falls into place when this happens as you are no longer turning to them for the happiness that you can offer yourself. They become part of your life instead of its entirety.

Hi Anonimu, I wanted to say first that I know that it can feel daunting to reach out to strangers on the forum, thank you for joining and for explaining what your going through, we are glad your here, the members are supportive and welcoming and I hope you find being on DF a great help. The feelings of apathy that your describing aren’t uncommon when suffering with depression and I know that many of us have gone through the same, it can be tough and feel impossible and like it might last forever. Usually it doesn’t, your depression isn’t you, it’s something your going through right now and you can come out the other side. I can understand that it might feel like the only way to cope by drinking, maybe it could be beneficial to have some other ways, maybe someone to confide in such as a counsellor, your doctor, here on the forum or some forms of self care. There are also some great help lines available to access support, I can help you with some numbers if you’d like them? Please reach out to us whenever you need some support, the door is always open Warm wishes Leila

It warms my heart to see posts like this, I’m glad your feeling good as you also deserve the world. You know the door is always open should you ever need us.

Hi there and welcome to the forums, how are you today? Thank you for reaching out to us. I'm sorry to hear that you are suffering with depression and anxiety. That sounds like a lot to go through dealing with symptoms without the support of a doctor. Do you have a support system at home such as friends and family? There are many members here who I’m sure can relate to what your going through, I hope that you find the forums supportive and you find comfort here. Warm regards Leila