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  1. Thank you for creating this 20years. One small space for "us" on this forum is a good thing. And hopefully won;t be dominated by religious discussions from believers.
  2. Hi! It seems to me you tend to do a lot of back and white thinking (splitting) and that this tendency spills over into the way you look at people. The grey in your thoughts and observations is missing and you tend to jump to sweeping conclusions that aren't good for you or others. You lump huge groups of people into neat but faulty groups and that is only going to make it harder for you to develop good relationships with others. Sometimes having a hard early life like you have had can make it more likely someone does a lot of splitting. When it comes to introversion and extroversion I think you are confusing a few things. Introversion is about predominantly gathering info internally and not liking too much activity and stimulation in certain contexts. Extroversion is about gathering information predominantly externally and liking a lot of interaction and stimulation. Empathy and social skills are entirely a different things and vary across both introverts and extroverts. Empathy and an inclusive way of interacting with others is more common in woman than in men in a bell curve sense, I think you are actually talking about empathy and inclusive social skills when you are mentioning introversion. Introversion and extroversion are also totally about an internal state and not about what others can necessarily see, Many introverts put on a veneer of extroversion because thats often what the outside world expects. About 2 thirds of the men in my social group and family are introverts. I'm assuming you know introversion isn't about self esteem, confidence or social abilities. It's not shyness and is about a preference. I agree that it would be much more useful to start speaking about specific relationships in your life and how you feel about them rather than generalising them into faulty groupings. I think those generalisations will damage a lot of things for you otherwise. Speaking here is the first step so thats good.
  3. The only peace I have managed to come to with this has been as a result of building acceptance that I can legitimately feel two apposing things at the same time and try to stop myself from trying to force supposed oneness when I dont feel that way. Someone advised me to look at it this way and I,m very grateful as its helped me enough to get a tiny bit of peace.
  4. Hi Jalee, Even though my experiences aren't exactly the same as yours I relate to many things about it and I feel for you. Seperately I have other peoples faces fade in and out into my fathers face and its happened with someone else too.. Very inconviouently it happened with a previous therapist who happened to look a little like my father. And when the past is up I have had big problems looking at myself and recognising myself and found myself wanting to harm my face. I had no ownership of it and then hatred towards it, I also understand needing a t but finding it terrifying. Could you break it up into teeny tiny steps? Sometimes I will tell myself I wont do anything but will just spend 2 minutes googling therapists. That I wont do anymore. I keep doing that for each step and try not to think of what comes next, I tell myself nothing else comes after. It sometimes helps me inch towards things I cant do. Take care. Remember that all in all the last therapy was a success.
  5. It is also important to set an alarm on your phone or some other reminder to eat if you are struggling. Its part of your medicine. Without nourishment your bain and body will fail more and more and it can affect the bodies ability to use depression meds. Hang in there. You can do it.
  6. I often feel, more recently, that I should be named Cognitive Dissonance. My internal conflict is constant and extreme. I hope you find some peace.
  7. Depression can cause physical pain and it can exacerbate pain conditions. The first for me feels a little like flu pain. Aching body and muscles and sometimes twinges etc in my head and body, I have have fybro and that of course can be set off but the other I associate directlly with severe depression phases for me when the psycho motor stuff is kicking off badly.
  8. That sounds tricky. Do you think they play up as you experience increased stress or have you not yet found any pattern? Hope you gain that control and they work with you better. Ps. ah, senor domino and I were thinking along the same lines....
  9. H Skylark, Im sorry to hear you have been diagnosed with ptsd and have all this going on. I will admit to wondering about ptsd and you when we had previous conversations. This may not help you but I do think starting understanding what is happening can be the door that opens a way through to something better, Even if it doesnt seem like that right now. All I can say is do all you can to find a more stable place for yourself and do lots and lots of grounding. Hopefully they have started to cover that with you if you werent aware of it already. I am very set off by any real or perceived betrayal or loss of trust from others actions. I have started to approach this by saying to myself that some people will always do what is in their interests with zero regard for others or worse but that I can learn to make good decisions and take actions that help protext me. You can learn to do that too.
  10. Its really hard trying to work and doing this type of therapy and I sympathise as its a quandary for me too. There can be emotional numbing that happens with ptsd and the distance and disconnection from others and the world is very common. Fear of intimacy or mixed feelings about it too are common. Its a bit different to anhedonia. Chronic depersonalisation as a habit rather than a reaction to intense emotional states can happen for other reasons than so called big t traumas and although it will certainly worsen if they happen and someone is that way inclined. There are many different levels of it and it can be hard to put into words. Really important for you to practice lots of grounding at the moment.
  11. Hi wrenn That sounds horribly upsetting. Im so sorry. Do they know you have ptsd? If they do could you get your pdoc to write a letter spelling out that you should have no contact? Im assuming this was one of the traumatising situations you were in? It is so a given that seeing the children would be horribly triggering/. I dont think those without can ever fully understand and if they dont know you have ptsd there would be even less likelihood of them doing so. I hope you find a way to protect yourself and also the privacy of these children,
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    Oh I never did at all. I went through a mass of therapy that was damaging and have a mass of issues that interfere with therapy for me,, Unfortunately.
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    It sounds like it would be wise to discuss this with a therapist at some point. Especially since it is a possible normal question for an evaluator to ask. Are you familiar with the concept of abandonment issues? It can really interfere with therapy if someone has difficulties in that area. The first most important thing would be to learn to discuss it with the t when these thoughts come up about something said. Guessing wildly without evidence of what someone is thinking is often called mindreading.It can also fall into projection. I found it helpful to research the different styles of therapy and figure out what is more likely to suit and what isnt. It gives me a good place to start.
  14. Hi Bolt on. Sorry I didnt see this before. Theoretically it is treatable and most with it will be much improved. It of course depends on many things including treatment and the persons ability to receive it. I find myself stuck behind many of my old long term defenses. I am working my way through them and hoping that will change. What you describe is classic ptsd stuff though. The hypervigilance makes closeness and connection very hard. Part of recovery of about swapping unhealthy coping for healthy coping and part of it is about processing trauma. Even without doing much of the latter I have improved a lot by working on the former. I would also check to see if you are experiencing a little depersonalisation as its common and can cause some of the feelings you describe.
  15. I hope you do go and speak to an adult. What about speaking to your dr or a therapist? Online tests wont be accurate or complete but I think they can flag things up that need to be properly investigated by a professional. If you were fine I dont think you would be doing the tests or coming on here. Having difficulties speaking to others is a good and important enough reason all on its own to get help. You deserve support with this.
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