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salparadise6132

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About salparadise6132

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  1. salparadise6132

    How Do You Feel Right Now #6

    So not true, my friend. So not true. What I hear in your words of support on here just does not jive with the above. Hugs!!!!!
  2. salparadise6132

    How Do You Feel Right Now #6

    We've all been there, my friend. Welcome!!! Great supportive people on here!!!
  3. salparadise6132

    How Do You Feel Right Now #6

    I sweat like **** too my friend. For me, I think it's the Effexor. Now, I am sick - fever of 102 F. Had to call into work today and I'm worried I won't be up to working on Thursday. It's a very physical job and when you are aching all over, have no energy, and can't even think, it would be tough. Two summers in a row I've caught a stomach flu. Weird.
  4. salparadise6132

    How Do You Feel Right Now #6

    I am reasonably sure you are being extra hard on yourself. But. Even if you are - Choose Step One, girl: Do good, and forget the past. What a wonder is transformation! Think "A Christmas Carol." What a story that is! It is never too late to love!!!!!
  5. salparadise6132

    How Do You Feel Right Now #6

    I am gliding through. A good day at work. My daughter, 17, has had her heart broken and mine is breaking with her. Feeling strong, but, questioning whether I should be.
  6. salparadise6132

    How Do You Feel Right Now #6

    Yeah, belle, it is a tough, but not impossible edge to walk. I am a firm believer that a healthy relationship involves two people who are, first and foremost, OK on their own - in other words, two independent people for whom the other is a lovely bonus, not a crutch-like need. But, that said, in a relationship there has to be conversation, connection and love from each other, enough that both people can feel empowered to be independent and thrive on their own. I know, this is a tough balance. And I also so know that I may be full of crap! lol.
  7. salparadise6132

    How Do You Feel Right Now #6

    I know what you mean, bellerose! The one thing I miss about my ex (long ago ex, now) girlfriend was that I never felt lonely with her. (In my previous marriage, I felt alone with her, at the end, all the time.) With my GF It was all presence, warmth and comfort, even when we didn't speak. I felt we could be the only two people in the world and I would not care! I would say that being comfortable in silence with someone is the height of connection. I would say that, but I can't, really, because it turned out she wasn't in love with me, at least at the end, and all my feelings of contentment, of "being home," were delusions, or something approaching same. I guess that all of that is to say that I don't really know much. Nevertheless, in the spirit of those who don't know much still offering their thoughts, I would say that, with trust and true love, being silent with the other (provided, of course, that verbal communication is healthy and forthcoming) is a sign of relationship health. I mean, no one can talk all the time. And words are faulty, inaccurate, and a lesser form of communication than a loving spiritual connection. In my case, it turned out that the woman I loved (love - for I always will) probably never felt as comfortable in those moments as I. Yet I still cling to the belief that, with the right woman (for me) this comfort in silence will be mutually felt. One question: Do you feel you get enough verbal connection with your BF? You need that, and if he is not willing to talk, that is an issue. On the other side, if you are getting reasonable verbal support and empathy from your BF, are you open to try to let the non-verbal moments bloom into a beautiful, unstated, comfortable, present connection - like the connection the mute fire or the fluffy blanket gives on a cold night?
  8. salparadise6132

    How Do You Feel Right Now #6

    Tired. Not too bad emotionally. Just trying to stop my brain from straying.
  9. salparadise6132

    How Do You Feel Right Now #6

    That's good, Nat. It means that you're still in the game!!!
  10. salparadise6132

    How Do You Feel Right Now #6

    Hugs to you my friend velvet. We all have our ups and downs. They don't mean that we will be down forever. Interesting that you say personal fireworks are just legalized in PA. The hands down best fireworks show I have seen in my 53 years was a post-game summer fireworks display at the ballpark in Pittsburg. They had three rafts in the middle of the river from which they were launching, and... I'm not a huge fireworks person but holy cow it was magical!!!!
  11. salparadise6132

    How Do You Feel Right Now #6

    Hi Dolphin. We all make mistakes, even the people who got the form right. Please don't be so hard on yourself. @RiverLight I read your blog post. Anxiety and doubt are perfectly normal human reactions to a new job. Everyone, and I mean everyone fakes it a little until they make it in a new job. Please give yourself a break and try not to over analyse and diagnose yourself. From here, this all looks perfectly normal!!! I like that you are going to study up and learn, though. That is the positive way to go!!!
  12. salparadise6132

    How Do You Feel Right Now #6

    You are! I know it!
  13. salparadise6132

    How Do You Feel Right Now #6

    Yeah, 37C here today, humidex made it feel like 44. Supposed to be hotter tomorrow! Don't you love what we're doing to the lakes? Lake Erie has had a massive algal bloom over the last few years - like a fifth of the lake is covered! Jeez. I'm taking my kids up to the big lake, Superior, in August. I think all's clear up there! Not as many people or big cities on it to despoil it - not yet at least!!!! Oh, and feel free to take a leak on Scott Walker's lawn for me. Freaking Asshat.
  14. salparadise6132

    How Do You Feel Right Now #6

    So sorry to hear, Dolphin!!!! Damn! Big hugs!!
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