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  1. Hello! I've been a poster in Depression Forums before, in the past. I've struggled with depression, of course, and my depression has had a detrimental effect to my long-term marriage. I'm still married to my college sweetheart for 22 years. I do not plan on ever leaving, because we have a solid, comfortable family life. Yet, there's been this empty lonely void inside of me that I've tried to fill with entertainment and hobbies. My recent hobby over the last month or so has been making quite a few new 'pen pals' through a popular messaging site. These pen pals of mine are usually men. And of all my new casual chat buddies, one man in particular has become a daily online friend and confidant over the last weeks. Because of this man I've been corresponding with, I've felt more bubbly joy and excitement than I've felt for years. I'm stuck in a dead end job and even THAT is no longer depressing me. I feel more confident and attractive after having exchanged photos with this man. He's funny, sweet, kind, and full of whimsical quotes and fun questions. He's shared his childhood and life circumstances. We share the same geeky, dorky sense of humor. We're very different in ways- he's an urban professional, I'm a small town woman who was a stay at home mom for years, now I have a modest-paying job. He's a different race than I am, and that makes him even more enticing. He's taught me about experiencing racism and has many interesting anecdotes. Our online friendship is mostly platonic, but it does have a flirty element to it, with all our joking around. :) He's trying to take it in an even more flirty direction, wanting me to share sexual thoughts and his as well. I know that if I cross that line it will be a serious betrayal to my husband. I know I should stop writing to this man, because it IS an emotional affair. We'll never meet, he lives in another region of the US and I have no reason to travel. It will never be a real life physical affair. My husband does not know of my online friendships, and I rationalize it by thinking it's just a 'role playing game' or 'he's just my pen pal.' But he has done wonders for my self esteem, and my depression has been lessening- the depression that had me crying almost every other night for a few years. Mornings not wanting to get out of the house. Now I work full time, I have energy to deal with the job, I've made more strides with my hobby as a creative writer and indie novelist. I've felt uplifted over the last month or two, and I think my joy is a direct result of these men I'm corresponding with and this guy, especially. He's like a soul friend. We have a 'heart' connection that's fun and interesting. I worry that he will eventually get tired of my reluctance in wanting to 'sex talk'. He may decide to just stop writing me. And when that happens, I'm afraid I'll end up being more sad than I thought I would, because I've had so many funny and warm exchanges with this guy. I don't know what to do now. I'd like to enjoy this friendship as it is, while it lasts.
  2. I can definitely relate with the bolded. I've been struggling all my life from yo-yo dieting, weight gain and loss and regaining. As a teenager I used to go on self created, semi-starvation diets, but never to the point of what you could call a full-blown eating disorder. I'm practicing good mindful eating habits right now and joined a church group where we talk about emotional eating and food addiction. It's helped a lot!
  3. @random alice I'm here if you need to talk, too. I'm sorry that your celebrity obsession still bothers you for so long, even after you stopped looking him up and watching him as much! I just wanna send good hopes to you, that you can get over this if it bothers you. I had a bit of a resurgence because of the 'anniversary day' when my CO stuff started, but now it's passing and I'm trying to focus on other things and resisting looking him up. You posted about that dream you had, and it struck something in me! When I was out with my husband in a different town last weekend, to see a movie (it was a religious, Biblical movie) that wasn't playing in our town- I saw a popcorn counter worker that VERY much resembled my CO! I remember ducking into the bathroom to 'LOOK AWAY' from the sight of that guy. My husband went up to buy the popcorn. This worker was so cute, of course, because he looked like him, and I felt bad/guilty because my husband really does not look like my CO in any way, except maybe eye color. I didn't want to look at that young man! He was likely much, much younger than my husband or me, maybe even 15, 20 years younger. I bet if I'd gotten a closer look at the employee, I would've realized he didn't look exactly like my CO, but from several feet away, he DID. Since it was a movie theater worker, he probably gets comments about it. "You sure look a lot like....." ;) At least it was someone I will never likely see again. And speaking of the movie we saw, there were 2 super-handsome actors in it, but did I start getting obsessed with either of them? Nope! Nothing. I'm still stuck on the old CO, so there isn't anyone new yet. Which is good.
  4. You all are welcome to PM me any time, too. I'm not on every day, but I check this page every few days.
  5. Okay. How long has this person been in your thoughts? They must be a pretty wonderful person, then. Nothing wrong with admiring someone, but in the process of admiring them, you want to feel good about YOURSELF and YOUR life too.
  6. I'm so sorry, @nikki114 Are you developing a new CO? Or is it revived feelings for a former one? I'm reading this board again to day to stay strong, because today is an 'anniversary day!' It was one year ago today that I fell so hard for the CO I had through most of the year in 2017. Yes, I remember the exact date, because it was St. Patrick's Day then. I've JUST begun to get over him, and an anniversary like this is making it tempting to go back and look up things related to him. I also hope so much that I don't fall for another actor (or even character) so hard ever again. Or any other man in my ordinary real life, which would be worse if not a celebrity. Today and last night I spent some time with my real mom friends in real life, and it was very fulfilling. We tried out a winter sport (still snow here, yes), and ate yummy food and had deep, meaningful talks. One friend of mine had suffered the worst tragedy imaginable several years back- the suicide of her own child. We talked about our religious faith we all share, God, and we all emotionally supported her because she's nearing an anniversary. I feel fortunate that the only thing that's 'broken my heart' over the last year was a shameful feeling of extramarital 'love' for a famous actor! It really brought me down to earth, and the realization that there is nothing wrong with my life. Others- like my older friend whose child committed suicide- have suffered intensely. Really puts it in perspective. However, I DON'T mean to minimize the pain of CO's. I DO believe that it's a symptom of a greater pain and depression. We all need to work on the inner source and true reason, which for most is loneliness and low self esteem. I'm available for you if you want to write to me, or post anywhere. (hugs)
  7. Welcome, @kristenb and @musiclover83 thank you for sharing! I'd like to welcome you to this forum, and Iet you know that I will read your posts and try to help you if I can. I am a "recovering" CO addict. :) This forum was so beneficial- almost like a secret diary- to share inner unhealthy feelings that just aren't accepted in society, especially for grown, mature, functioning adults like we present ourselves to be. I know if you feel how I did, this stuff is 'supposed to be' for 13 year old girls, but I don't believe any of us who posted here are 13! It's grown women, some as old as late middle age, and a few men as well. @kristenb- I think the best thing for you to do is to cancel or unfollow your CO on social media, if his relationship is making your life feel miserable. Use a blocker such as Blocksite for Chrome, just google 'site blocker' to find one that works for your devices. I used one to block Tumblr, and some celebrity-related sites like TMZ, People.com, OhMyDisney, etc. Another suggestion I'd like to make, is to find a 'replacement hobby.' I've been reading up on certain periods of history that I've always been obsessed with. Lately I've re-sparked my interest in a certain history topic. I've joined a new forum, bought a new book and everything! Even though I have a great interest in the historical figures, those people are long dead. There is no celebrity or actor involved. There have been some movies or documentaries made about them in the past, but any actors who played them have not sparked anything. The thing is- I can't CHOOSE which actor sparks my adoration. It's always totally out of my control. I see the guy, and 'BOOM!' it happens! :) I have good news to share for the members who have been here a while. I'm almost 100 percent recovered from my CO! I still adore him, but I've been satisfied and okay enough in my OWN life that I don't need to obsess about his, whether it's his marriage or his co-actresses. He was in the news recently because he personally knew someone who suffered a tragedy. The article popped up in my feed and I read it, because I'm also very saddened by the tragedy and was curious. Luckily all the article showed was quotes of his Twitter tweets. I noticed he had the same avatar for Twitter- a cute childhood photo of himself. It made me want to re-follow him for just a minute, but I stayed strong and I didn't! He had his birthday recently (gahh he's 11 years younger than me!) and I wished him a secret 'happy birthday' thought/prayer while I walked our dog through the quiet, snow-blanketed forest trail. Winter is beautiful where I live. Later that day on my computer I stumbled upon something on Twitter. Someone in my movie fandom who I still follow had drawn a new, adorable fanart picture of his character as a birthday gift, and of course it made me smile. :) I liked and shared it on my own page. And that was it! He doesn't make me sad, or jealous, or covetous anymore. I think of him fondly, I'm still a fan, I agree and support his social and political causes- but the 'obsessive longing' is no longer there. Staying away from his social media, and replacing things related to him with OTHER things have helped me get over him. My own marriage is doing great. We had a nice Valentine's Day together. My husband finished a big ski race yesterday, and this was so cute- He skiied down the final big hill backwards! What a goofball. He didn't fall either, he's still a very strong athlete in his favorite sports. One of our daughters recorded it on her phone. The crowd at the bottom of the hill cheered loudly for him, but not as loud as the kids and I! We were his biggest fans. That's how it should be! From now on, NO movie star will ever take the place of my guy! - Isn't that how the old song goes? :)
  8. Yes, and I had to quit and block Tumblr because of it. It was feeding too much into the obsession to see all these other women and even teenage girls young enough to be my CO's daughter lusting over him. On one hand it was nice to see that I don't have weird taste, but on the other hand, it's saddening to see that he appeals to such a great variety of women. One tumblr blogger even said she wanted to 'have his babies.' I did not need to see that! I think I'm SLOWLY but SURELY getting over this CO! Thanks to one of my kids, I'm starting to re-ignite an interest in one of my old fandoms from years ago- that hugely popular book/movie series that I was into 10+ years ago. I'm getting back into it because my son now enjoys the books and movies- he missed out on all the big releases in the fandom's peak period because he wasn't born yet- so now I'm re-watching with him, re-reading, plus reading fanfics of it, and I'm enjoying it again! The annoying thing is that the lead actress in that series- is ALSO the star of my favorite movie from last year, (CO was in the cast) and when I see her I get slightly jealous because I remembered her cheek-to-cheek selfies my CO took with her. I remember having a little crush on a character from that fandom too, as well as the actor, who sadly passed away. He wasn't a CO but just an awesome actor and it made me sad to see him playing that role, knowing he's gone. :(
  9. I've definitely experienced the bolded over the last year! Except for me, it was more a fictional CHARACTER my CO played, NOT the actor himself. Fortunately, I'm starting to spend much less time thinking of my CO *the actor*- I've been successfully avoiding all media of him over the last few weeks. Despite that, I STILL adore and feel attached to one of his characters. I've had a 'character ship obsession' which inspired me to write fanfiction. I could sympathize with my CO's character as this lovable, sweet muffin of a guy, who caught a bad break in the canon movie. He needed to be loved and comforted- but through another fictional character. I wanted this poor character to be happy and loved, so I wrote about it, and a lot of other people in the fandom wrote things along a similar line as well! There was even a minor 'ship war' between the ship I supported and the ship that I disagreed with because I thought it wouldn't jive with 'canon.' (LOL). And no, the character I shipped him with had nothing to do with me- because he was a man, not a woman! :) I'm actually married (as I've said elsewhere in the thread) but my husband is busy and gone a lot, and I feel lonely in many aspects, probably friendship most of all. My CO is always seen in interviews being positive and bubbly, and goofy and laughing, and he's friends with all kinds of cool performers. So in a way, I'm jealous of him for the kind of friendships he has. (I've just been concerned lately that there would be rumors about him being 'flirty' with other celebs, just because of his overly affectionate and super-friendly personality.)
  10. I'm glad it all worked out that you were able to get it off your chest to her! I sometimes wonder how you would go about telling a counselor (or even a trusted friend or family member.) How would you explain it in a way they wouldn't take it lightly, and laugh it off? I could be visiting with my mom, for example. I could ask her 'Did you see (Movie) last year?' and my mom would probably say sure, she watched it with my nephews and niece on DVD. And then I could mention, 'You know that one character in the movie? That guy who...' And my mom would say, 'Yeah?' And then I would say, 'Well, I have a huge crush on that actor. He's the most adorable man I've ever seen.' My mom would probably laugh a little, and say 'Oh, sure! I used to have a huge crush on (old time actor) from (old time movie)!' She probably wouldn't realize the heart wrenching pain of it. If I I went on to say 'I think about him constantly, he shows up in my dreams at night sometimes, and I'm insanely jealous of his real-life wife, and even the actresses he works with'- then my mom would laugh again and STILL think it's silly. Or any of my real life friends. So I wonder if a therapist would not think it's a big deal, unless you really explain it in full- that the obsession hurts, it makes you cry, the obsession makes you feel guilty and horrible if you have a significant other that you love. So how DO you tell??
  11. @Honey1992 @HeatherG @Helpme26 Can I suggest something that might help? Can you think of things that you were interested in, loved, or was fascinated by BEFORE you saw your favorite movies with your CO's in it? I've been doing that for the last few weeks. I've checked out and read the genres of books I used to like- mystery novels, true crime, and historical non-fiction about subjects I was interested in, (the Titanic disaster, WWII and the Holocaust, Biblical figures, famous crimes, historical people like Abraham and Mary Lincoln and General Grant, Einstein, President Kennedy, etc.) There are TONS of things out there to read and research about, and once you do, it helps get your CO off your mind. I've tried to 'grow up' in a way- going back to real intellectual interests I've always had instead of characters and actors in a movie. There's a whole world of things out there to fill your mind! Heather, I'm glad your counselor understands!
  12. @Audrey822 thank you for this post. It sounds like you're trying to help me sort this out- and I'm so thankful, because I don't have any therapist at the moment. I go to a women's Bible group, but they aren't the people I'd talk about CO's to, unless I called it a 'depression issue' or was vague about it. So thank you! :) I think the bolded is where I'm at with my marriage right at this point, at the beginning of 2018. I feel loving toward my husband lately, and that is because even though he's busy, he has consciously tried to work on things and so have I. Through a lot of communication. I don't know if I told you, but my husband had military deployment PTSD from when he served overseas in the early '00s. He didn't get any counseling help for it until about 2013. It was around 2012 that my daydreams/CO's/crushes over men outside my marriage started. Looking back it makes sense. My husband is more conscious of his moods and doesn't rage, or rant, or "belittle" the way he used to. He's a good guy. I also have a tendency to put people on a pedestal, too idealistic. When we were first married I expected my husband to be the "ultimate source" of my happiness. It was too much to expect. Thank you again. :) I'm sorry if anything I posted in the past (like questions to you) offended you at all. I assumed you're doing okay because of the grandchild, and meeting your CO, but I know you said you still struggle. I'm sorry.
  13. @SophieViolet95 Good to see you again. I'm sorry you're struggling with another CO. I keep wondering as soon as mine fades, that another one might start. @Audrey822 I know you want to help and I like your questions, they do make me think. I guess I do feel a strange kind of romantic love for my CO, even though it's love for a stranger from afar. I hate feeling like that and want to force myself to stop it. The last time I felt love for a stranger from afar, I obsessed over a guy online who wrote to me (starting because he wanted to sell me furniture.) Because my marriage was in a rough spot at the time (from 2012 to 2014) I developed an obsession with a married guy who was not a celebrity. In a way, I thought that celebrity crushes were better, because they were completely unobtainable. Heck, the guy I knew online and had EA feelings for in 2012/2013, I could've driven a few states away to visit him, but I did not! I stopped looking him and his family up on Facebook. That obsession faded away completely by the end of 2015. Slowly but surely, he left my mind. I still hope he's in a happy marriage too because the way he was so friendly and funny to me, you wonder if he might have been thinking 'affair.' It was something that I feel horribly guilty about, because all that time my husband never KNEW, other than the fact I was withdrawn. I don't like the thought of having romantic feelings for any guy other than my hubby. I love my husband dearly, and we're invested in almost 25 years now all together. So having a celebrity crush that's this strong, unlike all the other celebrity crushes, feeling jealous of his significant other, feeling jealous of the co-actresses, is very confusing and I don't know why it started. It started around February, when a movie I was excited about was soon to be released. I'd read a book that was a novelization of the movie, then I started looking up more about the actors, just because I loved the characters, and somehow became totally SMITTEN with two of them. I even visited this thread around that time, with the fear- 'Oh no! I'm getting what the Celebrity Obsession thread people talk about!' One was the gay actor, and I don't have feelings for him, he's just handsome- but the one that I fell hard for is the CO I have now.
  14. @Audrey822, I am doing the cold turkey approach- I blocked Tumblr, I decided to stop writing fanfiction (unless it's for a different movie than the one I've been writing for all this past year), I blocked celeb gossip websites, entertainment news websites, and I won't randomly click on entertainment related articles, including the Big Blockbuster Movie that my CO's young actress friend stars in. I have a keychain with a funny little creature character on it, that makes me happy. In the meantime, I'm trying to replace CO stuff (including the fanfic writing) with reading other kinds of books like mystery novels or historical non-fiction, the genres I used to enjoy in the past. I've also started becoming obsessed with low-carb and Keto recipes. I'm collecting them so that I can get myself and my family to eat healthier. I do nature photography, and take nature walks. I also stay away from too much social media these days- especially Facebook, so I don't develop non-celebrity crushes. (About 5 years ago, in late 2012, I corresponded with a man on email and social media which ended up in me having a crush and 'emotional affair' feelings, and I NEVER want that to happen again!) Actually I know it won't, because my marriage is in a better place now than it was in 2012. :) @cornflakegirlI know it's so hard to stop, but the less time you spend seeing pics of your CO or his acting, whether it's TV shows or movies or interview videos, the better you'll feel. At first, when I stopped following my CO on Twitter, I started 'missing' him. I know, it's weird, but I did.
  15. Audrey, it's hard for me to explain, but in a way- it's right in the post. I try to focus more on the fictional characters my CO played instead of the actor and his celebrity life. His characters (one of them in particular) make me smile! Simple as that. It's that humor and sunshine and energy and positivity my CO radiates, both in character and in interviews. I don't know, but there's something so relatable about his characters. Even though they're male characters, they remind me of myself when I'm in a sunny mood and I'm at my best. I guess in a way, he inspires me! My favorite character my CO played was someone who was hurt and betrayed by his unrequited crush, and for some odd subconscious reason I identify with him. In the canon movie, this guy was resilient and brave at the end, and he was shown to be happy and 'recovered' later. (I even wrote some fanfic to explore more of how this character was able to move on, lol.) My CO represents humor and spunk and a 'I'm confident and comfortable in my own skin' attitude that I wish for myself. When I think of him, I feel like 'hey, I can be like that!' There are a few female actresses and singers that make me feel the same way, but for some reason I like this male celebrity the best. The 'hearbreak' part of it is that he's so adorable and handsome (to me), he's married to some girl who looks nothing like me (a skinny brunette from what I saw from pics. I'm the opposite of a skinny brunette) and he's always schmoozing with beautiful, glamorous actresses. He'll never be in MY life as a friend, or anything. He's still a movie star whom I don't actually KNOW. :( I guess carrying around the keychain Beanie Baby of the funny children's movie character he voiced is almost like having a little of my CO's 'joyful spirit' with me. In a way, I don't want to give up certain aspects of him. As time passes, he'll fade from my mind and another CO will probably take his place. I'm 47, so I can probably expect up to 30 more years of CO's. By the time I'm 75, I will crush on celeb boys that I could be the grandma of. ;)
  16. Thank you so much, alacroix. I still sometimes feel really sad about this, becuase it steals the joy of married life away from me, just because I'm not actually friends (or in a romance) with this actor I've only known about for less than 5 years. Discreet is good. To the world, having a cartoon character on a keychain is cute and fun and quirky, but when I'm walking outside sometimes I stick my hand in the pocket and feel the little guy/creature/thing whatever you call him, and it's a silly little connection to my CO. :)
  17. It's fine with the title change. I agree that 'unhealthy' ought to be taken out because for some, it's a positive thing. Thank you, Audrey, for having it changed. I'm probably most in alignment with @alacroix. My CO admiration, and thoughts, and daydreams, and sometimes heartache, (on and off) affects me as a wife and mom. I'm guilty of spending too much time with fanfiction when I could be doing more productive writing (like short stories for publishing) and even just cleaning the house or playing board games with my youngest more often. I have depression, but it ebbs and wanes, from feeling almost normal and happy some days to complete despair in others. On a good day, I can spend less time in fan/movie/CO related activities, but on a bad day, I like to use the fictional characters as an escape. Not my CO though. Seeing anything about him is a little heartbreaking, (mild now, compared to more painful last spring and summer when the CO episode was at its peak). I still adore him and not only am I not his wife, but he'll never be part of my life in any way. I try to focus only on the fictional characters. Does anyone carry an object around that represents your CO? Some people in this thread mentioned having the person's picture as their lock screen, or a photo near their bed or in a drawer. I have a silly one- when I was Christmas shopping a few weeks ago, I saw these little Beanie Baby keychains. I found a keychain of the animated character my CO did the voice for in a popular family movie. So I bought it and put my key on it, and 'he' goes in my purse or coat pocket wherever I go. <3
  18. I think it's because my conscience and brain is forcing me to think of him in a platonic or even a 'motherly' way. I don't want to be romantically attracted to him. I guess if you're 14 years older than your CO, you would simply imagine yourself being younger! Just as others here have imagined themselves older to be closer to their beloved's age. @Honey1992- I know the DC Comics heroes are Superman, Batman, etc, and there's bazillions of movies of them in recent years but the only one I saw recently was Wonder Woman. (I thought Diana's love interest, the pilot was very attractive!) I didn't like how that ended of course...
  19. @nikki114- I don't dislike anything in my CO's life, but I'd rather not hear or see anything about his wife and his small children. He was married before I even heard of him, not to mention he was 15 years old when I got married myself- LOL- but it doesn't stop making me envious of her to have him as her mate! The good thing is that his wife is not famous at all. I only found her name when I looked him up on Wikipedia over a year ago. @Honey1992- Actually, the most fun fantasy about my CO is that he stumbles upon my fanfiction stories. I wrote a few fanfics over the last 8 months about the movie that he and his co-star (the gay guy from the UK) were in together. They both had mentioned in an interview that they would both LOVE to see a movie made specifically about those 2 characters. Kind of like another movie from a few years ago where it 'told the villain's tale.' So my daydream was that my CO (or the gay UK actor I like) would find my fanfics, and they would love them so much that one of them contacts the scriptwriters about them, and then I'd get contacted by a representative from the company! I know, it's probably every fanfiction author's impossible dream! I also have another daydream where I was my CO's babysitter when he was a young kid, and he fondly remembered me once he became famous as 'his absolute favorite babysitter' who played video games with him, and was willing to listen to him sing and dream of being on Broadway. (Probably because of the age difference of me being 11 years older!) :)
  20. Hi, @Honey1992 - I just started blocking main celebrity news sites and Tumblr. I found the article about the actress because it was on my Google home page on my android tablet. I just need to stop reading articles about actors on my Google home page! Because three times last week, it led to things where my CO was mentioned. It's hard because the girl is everywhere. I'm even reading a novelization book of one of her movies that has her picture on the cover. It doesn't help that I (and my husband) have been fans of that movie franchise for many years. My CO is not in that movie's cast, but I can see him wanting a role in it in a future installation because he's a fan in such an adorable way!
  21. @Audrey822 I'm terribly sorry that something I asked caused you to have painful memories again. Has your husband sought counseling with you? It sounds like he has some issues or at least he's severely introverted, to not want to interact with you. I had to talk (or nag) to my husband about his ignoring me with his workaholic tendencies. He was so busy, it seemed like he forgot about me a lot of times and I got his 'leftovers', but on the other hand when he wanted to spend time with me, I was in my hole on the Internet reading or writing and ignoring him. So it went both ways! We're still a work in progress. Now, he says he's happy to drop 'work' and I'm happy to drop my activities, to pay attention to each other. It's something we've had to talk out and compromise with and it's HARD work. But compared to just 2 or 3 years ago, our marriage has improved. I really hope that your husband gets some help, he might have depression issues or health issues of his own. Playing video games is a male way of 'escaping' no matter what age. Also Audrey, it's so uncanny but your family background sounds identical to my mother's. And she was in two unhappy marriages. And she even had celebrity crushes because she talked about them.
  22. I have a little crush on a famous UK movie actor too! He's IMO one of the most handsome men on earth. He's gay- so for some reason it makes it safe and fun to crush on him, because there is no "other woman" in his life. And if he has a male partner, that's awesome and I'm happy for him! LOL. My CO is friends and co-stars with that guy. In my opinion they're equally handsome, but the gay guy is the one who gets the most swooning from female fans. By any chance does your CO act in the Marvel Comics movie franchise? If he's who I THINK it is, I adore him and his character very much! (Plus I feel sorry for him being dumped by a certain singer, who has a habit of putting her exes in her song lyrics! LOL!) If anyone in this thread has that particular guy as a CO, let me know because he's another 'fun crush' of mine. I'm not obsessed with him at all, I just admire his acting and his eye-candy qualities. I've low-key liked him for 5 years now. And- oh gosh this is a vent again- I'm very jealous of the pretty young UK actress who stars in the big blockbuster movie that is out now. (you can probably guess that movie, and this girl!) It's because my CO is an acting buddy of hers, and I ran across an article that she's going to co-star with him again. I just hope and pray she isn't his love interest. I don't want her in a kissing scene with my CO. I'm jealous enough. Plus, it is creepy! This girl is so young, she's only 5 years older than one of my children. She's 12 years younger than my CO. My hope is that she sees him as more of a 'big brother.' She seems to be very fond of him, because in an interview she asked him to attend her big premiere, and he said he wanted to attend it with her. (I did not dare look up anything about whether or not they went to the premiere together. I don't want to know!) I'm starting to obsess over this girl's friendship with him more than my CO's actual wife, it's weird. Probably because she's in the public eye, she's everywhere, and I adored her portrayal. My husband and son liked her character too, so it's a 'fan thing' we share as a family. I hope so much that she has a serious boyfriend or marries someone soon! My CO seems like such a sweet pure family man and daddy to his kids and faithful husband. I hope and pray that his feelings for this actress are purely noble and big-brotherly! Sorry, this has nothing to do with my own life. I am going to have to block everything celebrity news related. I can't stop thinking about my CO's friendships. He's such a charismatic man, so overly affectionate and 'gushy' to his co-stars. He's like a teddy bear who hugs and loves on all the people he acts with- male and female. It's one of the things I love about him, so naturally I'm envious of those who get to receive his sunshine in real life. ETA: @Audrey822- I feel bad that you feel bad about your life. You are expecting a grandchild for the first time, didn't you write that? And you are comfortably retired and don't have to be on your feet working 40 plus hours a week like so many people do. And you met your CO and he was nice and friendly to you! (I'm honestly jealous of you for that!) My CO is married and that's a fact, but if I got to meet him and he smiled and chatted with me in a friendly way- I'd be over the moon!
  23. @alacroix, I've had this CO for almost 1 year. About 10 months. I really want this one to fade, because he's a big A-list star now and is slated to be in more movies soon. He's getting unavoidable with his adorable sweet face and laugh. (sigh)
  24. I have another positive thought on my whole CO problem- which is a sign it's becoming more of a normal and healthy crush now- The daydreams I have about my movie-actor CO aren't romantic at all. They have more to do with being 'buddies' with him, or having been his tutor or babysitter when he was a preteen-young teen and I was in my early 20's. I think the reason is because my CO is 11 years younger than me! Currently, I'm more jealous of his friend and co-actress than I am of his wife! There are a bunch of videos online where they're being cute and joking around, with all kinds of banter over this big movie she stars in and he's a dorky fan of. (and my husband and I also share his love for this movie franchise too!) Their friendship is so cute, though, and that's why I'm jealous. I know those videos are out there because of news articles I stumbled on about my CO's friendship with this beautiful young actress, but I haven't actually looked at them- trying to be strong! I'm also hoping so much that my CO stays faithful to his wife, who isn't famous at all. I don't want him to be like those other celebs who cheat on their 'ordinary' spouse after their star rises, with fellow celebs. It makes me want to look up this young actress' personal life. I want her to have a boyfriend, because I don't want her with my CO!
  25. Welcome @advice_seeker @alacroix @nikki114! I love this thread because I can relate and feel for all of your recent posts here. I've been doing well- had a nice relaxing holiday season with my husband and kids. For those of you new, I'm a married woman for almost 22 years, to my college sweetheart. I never dated much before him, and we married somewhat young. I've also been going through a 'midlife crisis' for the past 5 years where I have had CO's and extramarital crushes, simply because it's been so LONG since I've experienced 'new romance.' I have this little theory that having CO's is like a vicarious, secret little 'new romance' experience, but without having an affair or being unfaithful or immoral to the husband I committed my entire life to. Since I grew up as a born-again Christian, affairs (and even divorce for reasons like 'losing the spark' or 'midlife crisis') are simply NOT okay with the family values I had always held dear. So for me, having a CO is 'safe?' I'm much more into my current CO than any random guy in my town, that's for certain! I don't socialize much, I'm introverted and a homebody, and even the idea of even having an affair for real is revolting.
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