Jump to content


Advanced Member
  • Posts

  • Joined

  • Last visited

About RichW

  • Birthday 04/07/1983

Profile Information

  • Gender

Recent Profile Visitors

2,185 profile views

RichW's Achievements

Advanced Member

Advanced Member (5/9)



  1. I get that, I really do. Whenever someone asks how you are, you're supposed to keep it short and sweet. Course there's still a stigma attached to depression but as a society we are getting a hell of a lot better. For all you or the OP know, the people you're writing off could be going through it themselves and they're having similar thoughts. I need to keep my distance, nobody's interested, nobody will understand etc. Maybe we've been written off by people who think we'll never understand ourselves, maybe we'll never know. Life is full of shades of grey, very little black and white, but what we do know in this echo chamber of a thread is that people will always let you down. It's one thing to want to avoid advocating false hope, it's another thing completely to piss on hope. I do believe to the wrong person, posts like this can be a damaging self-fulfilling prophecy that undermines the whole safe space thing. If I ignore that, I'm only doing what the people you allude to are doing about depression. **** it, speaking of distance, I think I need to give this place a wide berth for a while.
  2. I really don’t think posts like this should be on here, they’re not helpful at all. Someone else could see this and feel like giving up. We don’t need it here.
  3. Nothing good, unfortunately. Eat crap, drink too much, ruminate and close off. Self-sabotage, basically. I’d love to be the kind of person who can take a 5 mile run to clear their head, but I’m not.
  4. It’s fairly normal in depression for a low to follow a high, depression doesn’t stop just because you’re having a good time. I suppose most people will recognise it as post-holiday blues or something like that. Even people with good mental health tend to feel a bit flat after something they’ve been looking forward to is over. Fairly natural that with depression, the highs and lows are more extreme. Just got to remind ourselves that there will be other highs.
  5. Billionaires aren't good for the economy. Here in the UK, even during this crisis when millions have lost their livelihoods, temporarily or permanently, when people are desperate for work, Amazon have felt the need to televise adverts talking about what a great company they are to work for. Shouldn't have to beg really. Most individuals pay a higher proportion of income tax than Amazon do corporation tax. They're leeches.
  6. I find it genuinely terrifying some of the things people will choose to believe and I think this pandemic has brought out the worst in a lot of people. Covid is real, this isn't a "plandemic". Yes, most governments only care about wealth and power but they never needed this to maintain wealth and power. It's far too convoluted and it'd be such a waste of effort. Saying that, the wealthy and powerful have definitely found their ways to take advantage of it as they would any crisis, manufactured or otherwise. Nobody could plan this, not even Bill Gates. I've had two vaccines now. If I need to have boosters, so be it. I don't care that it's not 100%, we've been in damage limitation mode for getting on for 18 months now. Well, we should've been, here in the UK we should've been in an envious position as an island with a world leading public health service and the benefit of forewarning as the virus spread across Asia and mainland Europe, but priorities eh. At the time our government cared more about the tourism and hospitality trades than the virus, delayed lockdown too long, tried to re-open too soon and blamed everyone else for their policies. I don't care that I don't know what's in the vaccine. You could read me a list of every component and I'd still have no idea, I don't expect to know what's in it because I'm not a scientist. Fortunately there have been enough people who've dedicated their lives to study and research who've worked on it. As far as I'm concerned, if you're anti-vax you're anti-doctor, anti-science, anti-expert and frankly dangerous. I've seen bits here and there of people talking about a great reset too. It could have been a great opportunity to take stock and reflect. Reassess our priorities, our way of life, the things we take for granted, to address systematic inequalities. As if the most right wing British government of my life would ever entertain such ideas. To be fair to our government, they did pretty much end homelessness during the first lockdown. It only took a global pandemic for them to take the issue of homelessness seriously, they had every opportunity over their past decade in power to do so too but chose not to. Of course, their "goodwill" is as short lived as the people who elected them. Mental health wise, on a personal level it's been very strange. The way people panic during a pandemic, well the ones who believe it's real at least - it's old hat to me. Even a global pandemic isn't as scary as my own imagination. The way people have responded and their attitutdes towards it have certainly shaped the way I see people and our country, I just wish it were for the better.
  7. I know it's not without its risks but I don't think I've got any other option right now. It's either that, bottle up, stiff upper lip, build a wall, or alienate anyone I care about. I'm not a good person to be around, physically or virtually. I've been depressed ages and frankly, it's boring, it's tedious. And this is to me, so god knows what it must be like for anyone else close to me. So where do you start? How do you thicken your skin and build a bit more resolve? How do you stop being so bothered about what other people think, how do you take your own thoughts and feelings, put them in a box and just forget about them? How do you get over the idea that you've got no right to how you feel? How do you get past the feeling that you're nothing more than a burden? How do you deal with the conflict of feeling like, morally, you should be able to be honest with yourself and others around you, while feeling like you can't because you don't meet society's expectations.
  8. It's such a surreal time right now. COVID won't be here forever but I'm more worried about the after effects than the virus itself. I'm from the UK and I'm disgusted by the way our government have handled the situation. Likewise with Trump. Over here we've had a decade of our government basically just trampling on living standards for the masses while rewarding the mega rich. Homelessness and poverty went through the roof before this, and all this pandemic has been to them is an excuse to extend their priorities. Course, for some, anxiety comes with a tendency to catastrophise and depression comes with a tendency to cloud judgment. Right now, from where I'm sitting, I just can't see life getting any better. But there have been plenty of things I couldn't see at times too. Thought I'd never find a job, thought I'd never find someone, this bad thing would happen, that good thing would never happen etc. But we don't know, and sometimes it's great to be wrong. May take a while, but to look back and laugh and think what the hell was I thinking? - what a comfort that is.
  9. Wish I had the answer. You're lucky, it could be worse. I don't know if people think they're being helpful when the say stuff like that, I don't know if people think it's something we've never realised ourselves, but it feels like a kick in the teeth every time.
  10. Competence, yes. Don't think we're likely to excel though, but why should we anyway? I know for a fact that I've had countless times when I could justify to HR going on long term sick for mental health but I've never been able to justify it to myself. Sometimes I think I'd be worse off if I were off work, even with all its frustrations and stresses. Now I'm coming at this from a British angle, I have no idea what protection there is in the US. Here, for now at least, we've got the Equality Act which makes it illegal to discriminate against a list of protected characteristics, and mental health is one of them. Course, as far as employment goes it's worthless to anyone who doesn't have a permanent contracted job with guaranteed hours. I've had over 20 jobs and only one of them has been permanent. I once did three years as a temp in the same place, no guaranteed hours, just fortunate that they kept coming. If they wanted rid of me they wouldn't have even had to sack me, no disciplinary routes or procedures or anything like that, they could've sent me home mid-shift or called me telling me not to come in any time they wanted and I'd have had no come back. Still, there's a hell of a lot of lipservice out there from employers who want to be seen to care about mental health, but very little to back that up.
  11. Bit spaced out. Been on duloxetine, stopped taking it a few days ago. Last time I was running out I rang my GP, didn't notice any benefit, so wanted either an increase in dose or a change of meds. Got fobbed off. I'm just frustrated and hopeless. I've been depressed half my life but I've never been suicidal - course anyone who has been or is suicidal should take priority over me but as a society we're not even doing that.
  12. In a word, stupid. I've always been a sucker for nostalgia and I can have rose tinted specs, just not about the present or the future. I know I'm looking at the past differently, from such a messed up time. I know it's illogical, I know anxiety and depression are but they still happen. What do you do.
  13. Short answer, I suspect no but I'd love to be wrong. I dunno, I kinda see depression like an addiction. If an alcoholic stops drinking they're still an alcoholic. If you win the lottery, go on holiday, see your favourite band, get any enjoyment from life for whatever reason, it doesn't mean we're not depressed. I don't think society really gets depression. It's not being dumped or sacked, your team being relegated, whatever. We could win the lottery and still feel like crap. On the other hand, depression isnt necessarily sitting alone at home listening to The Smiths and crying either. I think depression is as much a part of us as any other health condition is anyone else. It's how we manage it that counts.
  14. We're nearly 5 years. I'd say yes, but at the same time I'd say she's kinda at a loose end too. I mean I don't envy her. She seems to be accepting that I wasn't interested at all. I think she believes me. I didn't believe it when it came up, I played it down, made a joke of it. Then again it keeps coming up. Only time will tell I suppose.
  • Create New...