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  1. I hear where you're coming from. For the most part people here are kind and interested in listening to what you have to say, but I've encountered one or two people who felt that offering tough love, which felt more like finger pointing and yelling, was the way to go. I listen to the blamers, respond, and move on. At the same time, we're all going through our personal issues and we don't always know what advice to give, which may be the reason for the silence. People may not be able to give you the advice you want, but they are reading and listening.
  2. I didn't sleep until the early evening and was up by noon!
  3. I've had the same feelings. There are times when I struggle to will myself out of bed to go, and when I do go I struggle to look lively through the whole shift. When the day's over I fall asleep during the commute home and only have enough energy to sit online when I do get home. Things will be different one day, but until then I have to survive the work week.
  4. I have to respectfully disagree with you. I've heard that a statement such as "It looks like the lobby needs cleaning" could come off as passive, as well as using "we" instead of an "I" statement. Saying something like, "Jenny, after you've finished setting the tables could you clean the lobby?" may work better. I've also heard that pointing out when they do something right instead of when they do something wrong works wonders as well. "Jenny, thank you for cleaning the lobby. It looks spotless." I agree with speaking with the other shift managers. They may be able to give advice and tips on how to handle this group. Good luck to you. No one deserves that type of bullying at work.
  5. I recently tried tai chi and liked it. My mind's usually got a million thoughts running through it, but for the first time in I can't remember my mind quieted down as I had to concentrate on the moves. I'm looking forward to trying it again. I'm sure there are tai chi DVDs that you could find if you were interested in doing it at home.
  6. I'm sorry to hear that, justpete. Seeing that this thread's a few months old, I hope that you were able to find a therapist that was able to stick around for a longer period of time, that is if you were interested in trying again.
  7. That's my problem. I find another one once I'm bored with the old one. My current one's gone on for almost two years. I don't know what it feels like to not have an obsessive crush, though it'd be nice to not have one for once.
  8. I'm dealing with those same feelings. I read through this thread and can relate to what a lot of people in here are going through. I posted about my situation in another thread and don't want to rehash the details, but basically I'm in the same boat. Office life is stressful for me, and if I could do more solo and creative pursuits, I'd be happier.
  9. I stopped watching my crush's show, but I'm still following the news on him on social media. Defeats the purpose.
  10. I'd like to get away from everything for a year, take the time to discover myself, and start over. I need some type of solo, soul-searching journey.
  11. If I could be more open about my issues, I would, but there's just too much at stake. I can't have everyone in my business. There are times when I wonder if it'd make things easier. Today I holed myself in my office, partly because I'm getting over the flu, and partly because I didn't feel like being around people today, and through my office's thin walls I could hear someone gossiping to a new employee about how I'm "rude" and "don't talk to anyone" and the new person giggled. I'd rather this new person make her own conclusions about me than through hearsay, but people are fickle and immature and will take the main group's side. While I'm introverted and prefer to keep to myself, I am open to helping people and will talk to people if they talk to me. But if they keep ostracizing me like that, it's no wonder why I don't want to be bothered half the time. I've had this issue at many jobs I've held, and times I think I should stop working at offices and start working for myself. Something to think about.
  12. Having these crushes also makes it seem as if we have control over our lives in some aspect. Don't have to be hurt, don't have to be rejected. The only men that show me attention are older, uneducated, and have a ton of issues, and I don't get attention from men who are more appropriate. It causes me to withdraw into my crush more. I would like to meet a decent man one day, but I'm so used to having these crushes that I'm not ready to put myself out there and do it.
  13. I browse blogs about my celebrity crush, and find that they're more obsessed than I am. Ironic.
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