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  1. I've been reading a lot (and watching videos) about self-help during quarantine. I just finished one that I would thoroughly recommend - Tiny Habits by BJ Fogg. Right now I would put myself in the severe depression category and am in an emotionally abusive household, but I've been able to implement some habits because of this book and it has helped stabilize my mood. Do I feel amazing? Absolutely not. I can't even say I'm hopeful for the future. But I make my bed in the morning, I've been checking things off of my to-do list that have been there for months, and have figured out some effective coping mechanisms (i.e. tiny habits) to reduce my anxiety. And I did it in a way that feels maintainable. It's a book I'd recommend if a lot of advice out there seems too overwhelming or vague, or if just getting out of bed feels impossible.
  2. I'm not super hopeful about my life after COVID either. It's like one long dark tunnel opening out into a slightly less darker tunnel.
  3. Aquaman What a corny movie, my goodness Although there's one really amazing scene that made me think this would have been great if it was adapted into a horror flick.
  4. What We Do In the Shadows (tv series) Good comedy to watch when depressed (well, for me haha)
  5. Alberta has had some terrible weather this year, and it looks like we are on our way to becoming the COVID hotspot in Canada. Just want to stick my head in the toilet
  6. High five! That's awesome, it would be good if HR people could read it
  7. I'm sorry. What an incredibly stressful situation. I hope the construction will finish quickly, at least that will be one problem gone.
  8. I was trying to think of sites where regular people can post articles...I know there are some but am not sure which ones. I've been really curious about the mental effects the quarantine is having, but most articles deal with the isolated or the non-isolated (not both), and don't highlight the similarities between the two situations. That's why I liked your write-up, actually helped me to keep perspective
  9. This is an excellent overview of how different people (at least in US and Canada) are coping with the situation. I feel like you should post it somewhere it will get more views.
  10. Why Does He Do That? About the thought process of abusive men. Really hard to read when you are in the midst of it irl, but a lot of interesting and important info so far.
  11. I had another cousin pass away this past week (due to a motorcycle accident this time). It's already been devastating enough but my oldest brother has made things 100x more stressful. He doesn't care about anyone or anything but himself...how do you interact with a person who lacks empathy, morals, or compassion? I don't know what to do to help my Dad because he will not kick him out, even in the midst of a pandemic. My dad is so broken. I will be moving out as soon as Dad can start going out safely on his own again. I know I'm not going to **** myself, but I thought of writing a note and started crying. I just want all the pain to stop and I don't know how to make it stop. Not just mine but people that I love. All I see is pain and suffering. I don't even care if I hurt anymore, I just want my dad and other brother to be happy. And it seems impossible.
  12. Things have been awful enough I'm crying daily again and been having chest pains. Being happy seems impossible so I'm trying to get excited about how much more terrible everything can get. A grim future seems much more attainable for someone like me tbh.
  13. That does sound very confusing! Does this happen all the time or only sometimes? Have you talked to anyone about this? A therapist or doctor would be able to help (or recommend someone who could). It is really hard to deal with mental issues alone.
  14. The construction will not last forever. It's okay to be anxious about strangers in your home, especially with COVID-19. I feel more depressed every day. I recommend ear plugs and loud music. People here are very understanding. You can say as much - or as little - as you want. The universe will do what it wants, no matter what we say on this forum. Why is your depression confusing you?
  15. It's a website/app. They have volunteer listeners who you can text with (you can also pay for actual therapists, but I've never done that). There's usually quite a few volunteers so it doesn't take too long to get matched with someone. I have had more good luck than bad with their listeners so it's worth a shot.
  16. I use 7cups and chat with the listeners on there when things get especially rough (especially if it's the middle of the night). It's not perfect, but it helps.
  17. That's true. He would probably be scared for you more than himself. With hpv, guys can get the vaccine and use protection too. That's an adjustment, not a dealbreaker. I had a coworker a long time ago who was upset with this girl he was seeing not because she had an std (he was actually okay with that), but because she told him after they had unprotected sex. Right now you are dreading something that might not even happen, and I know that is a horrible feeling. It's better to find out from the person themselves, even if it hurts. At least you will know for real.
  18. Sorry if I came across as dismissive, I didn't mean it that way. Why do you think it's a make-or-break thing? Do you think he will be angry or scared?
  19. I always read your posts and always feel you deserve so much more than you've been given. You've mentioned before your concerns about your boyfriend, so it's not like he doesn't come with his own baggage. And accepting a child that's not yours is a big thing, for some even bigger than knowing you have hpv. Almost half of sexually active people get HPV in their life, it doesn't have the same stigma as other STDs. It's important to tell him so you guys can take proper precautions for his health as well. I hope you guys can carve out a better life.
  20. She Used to Be Mine cover by annapantsu I have a hard time crying but I just spent like 15 minutes crying until I felt nauseous listening to this song. She's imperfect, but she tries She is good, but she lies She is hard on herself She is broken and won't ask for help She is messy, but she's kind She is lonely most of the time She is all of this mixed up and baked in a beautiful pie She is gone, but she used to be mine
  21. Knives Out. Wasn't expecting much, but it's the most fun I've had watching a movie since Hot Fuzz. Ana de Armas is like an adorable baby bunny in this. Super recommend. I like Rob Zombie's aesthetic and I don't mind he casts his wife in everything Didn't like his version of Halloween though.
  22. Decluttering, reading, playing through Steam games, and this month my goal is to get stuff prepared/photographed for selling on eBay. But mostly slowly falling apart mentally
  23. America is insane, and I am not talking about the protesters. A police state that imposes its hypocritical views about democracy, freedom, and equality on other countries. Not to be outdone, in Canada the cops are also shooting rubber bullets and tear gas at peaceful protesters. Neither country should be telling others how to live when our own countries are so broken. I'm supposed to be outraged because a building got burned down? Cops are ******* innocent people in their homes and on the streets, shooting tear gas and rubber bullets at peaceful protesters and journalists, ruining people's lives on false charges. And they do it confidently while they know people are filming. Nah. I don't agree with destroying the buildings of local businesses, but I will side with the vandals over the killers every single time. People weren't listening before. They're listening now.
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