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  1. 21 hours ago, Depressedgurl007 said:

    This is so hard whenever things happen, n we go back to think what would our therapist say. But I think sometimes small things happen and they do feel catastrophic to us and we can’t help our feelings. Maybe the only thing we can do is to try to turn the feelings from catastrophic to unpleasant… 

    I wish my dumb brain would learn to differentiate instead of constantly being "CRISIS MODE" forever 😢 I wonder, even if I get out of my current situation, if things will actually get better, or my brain will just always be sad and anxious. Sigh.

  2. On 6/23/2022 at 1:53 PM, Extremebeginner said:

    I would be putting out some feelers for some food as compensation, lol. South Asian food, particularly Indian is so deliciously tasty.......

    Unfortunately my family doesn't get along with them 🤷‍♀️

    On 6/23/2022 at 7:13 PM, duck said:

    Sorry to hear you have to deal with the noise wedding.   I hope the reduce their noise soon.   

    They're actually getting louder lol (day 8)... 😬

  3. 4 hours ago, sober4life said:

    Well who wouldn't be mad living next to that?  6 day wedding celebration who does that?  It's very obnoxious!

    It's an Indian wedding. Most of my neighbors are South Asian, but in all my years living here I don't know anyone whose had celebrations this long or loud before. Fell asleep after midnight last night and I don't know how I did it, they were still going strong 😬

  4. I have been struggling with ignoring my next-door neighbors multi-day wedding festivities but it has been so loud...they are on their sixth day now. It is like living next to a club from 6 to midnight. I have no idea how all of them aren't deaf at this point.

    My therapist says I need to differentiate between "unpleasant" and "catastrophic". This is "unpleasant". I have other issues that are much closer to catastrophic.

  5. Phoned local distress line for the first time today after some stuff happened. She didn't give me any new advice but just talking to someone helped me calm down a bit. If I could, I'd go to the hospital, but I have to look after my dad so that's not really a choice.

  6. I was talking to my younger brother about dreams last night and he said he dreamed about places he's never been before, big and wide open spaces, and that he would be flying or running and could actually feel it.

    Meanwhile, I usually dream about our awful house, or places that are very crowded or cluttered. The only sense I usually have is hearing - usually loud bangs or yelling.

    A good dream can really mentally reset me but I get them so rarely. It makes me understand more why he seems, at least in some ways, more mentally resilient than me.

  7. Thinking about my cousin who died last year a month after her mom died. She had mental health issues and lived at home and was very close to her mom. They both died of pneumonia. I heard from other family that she just didn't want to live anymore after her mom died. And I think about how people can just get to such a desolate place that even their body gives up. I was so sad for my cousin but also for her brother and sisters too.

    I was wondering how much further down I would have to go to reach that point. I don't have much interest in fighting for my life anymore.



  8. I would like to hire someone for one year to take care of all my problems. A personal assistant on steroids.

    If I'm having issues with someone, they could act as an intermediary or stand-in. If I need an errand done, they'll go do it. They'll do the caregiving stuff for my Dad. They'll cook. They'll act as an as-needed therapist and life coach. They'll figure out ways for me to live a more efficient and happier life. They'll stand up for me when I'm being bullied. They'll help me achieve my goals. They'll be there next to me when I need support. They'll make sure things still get done even when I'm at my lowest.

    I would pay a lot of money for something like this.

  9. DoorDash delivered my food to the wrong house so I went to get it and now I'm worried that I'm gonna get accused of being a porch pirate...I left a note under an Amazon box that was also there but what if someone steals the Amazon box and then blames me...

    I'm genuinely worried I might get charged with a crime for this. I Googled it after and it said it's considered illegal trespassing even if the items are yours. Dear Lord...

  10. 49 minutes ago, womanofthelight said:

    Feeling dazed and confused.  Listening to music I love, but cannot seem to find the right music to inspire the writing of my novel.  I have a lot of pages and words, but need to add a few scenes, characters and just can't seem to do it.  I wrote a nonfiction book a few years ago which was easily inspirable because it was a travelogue of sorts, about the shift in spirit that comes with the connection to nature.  (The stars of the book were places out west, which I long to see again . . .  🚗 )  Hell's bells . . . 

    I recently started writing again because I came across this AI writing app. If I get stuck, I let the app write something (you can edit it afterwards if you're iffy on the idea of something else writing for you, but it doesn't matter for me since my stuff isn't publishable). It's fun, kinda like having another person to bounce off ideas. Often the stuff it comes up with is nonsensical but will trigger a light switch in my head. The app I use is Dreamily but I know there's a few others like AIDungeon or NovelAI.

    I watch walking videos on youtube to "transport" myself to places around the world (I like a channel called Rambalac because they do a lot of Japan walking vids).

  11. Dreamt I was in New York and people blamed me for pushing Lisa Kudrow and they all started chasing me. Then I ran through a park where people were pouring gasoline everywhere and setting it on fire, so I lost my chasers amidst the smoke and fire.

    Honestly, a pleasant and exciting dream lol. The only part of the dream I disliked was the very beginning (before the Lisa Kudrow part) where I was trying to make friends with neighbors and they rejected me 🤷‍♀️

    Good dreams are nice but they're usually a harbinger for upcoming stress in real life, which did happen 😒

  12. 7 hours ago, Depressedgurl007 said:

    Today is a public holiday here and my mother in law’s house is having visitors and I’m holed up in “my” room cos I don’t want to socialise with them at all. Thus feeling like everyone hates me. Well. I guess that’s better than having to entertain people who I don’t know how to talk to and staring into space while they talk. Sigh. 

    I hope they didn't stay too long, I don't particularly like having houseguests either (even under good circumstances).

  13. On 4/6/2022 at 6:30 PM, evalynn said:

    Frustrated with all these pills. Thought I forgot to take one, and turns out I (probably) took one too many. And now I'm completely thrown off when I finally had some confidence about getting it right for tomorrow. It doesn't help that most of these pills and round and small and look the same. I can barely read the little numbers on them. I'm so overwhelmed. 

    At my dad's pharmacy, they can sort out your daily pills into blister packs (for free) so you don't have to sort it yourself.

    Alternatively, you could get 7 of those weekly pill organizers and relabel each section for each pill. Then you have one pill organizer for each day of the week. Just sort them all out at the beginning of each week - like meal prep, but for meds.

  14. On 4/20/2022 at 3:46 PM, Extremebeginner said:

    I understand completely…. Don’t want to cast any shadows but therapists have been effected by this virus and other changes too. They are human and suffer from human problems. I’m sure you will be careful in finding the right person to consult with.

    i’m certainly not abusive, but I wouldn’t comment on my insanity level, I think thats a fine line between cleverness and lunacy.

    When I was referring to the insane/abusive part, it was more just getting perspective from outside of my toxic household lol. That wasn't a slight to mental health professionals 🙂

    My last therapist was kinda unprofessional and kooky (like she would eat her lunch during our sessions and tell me about her incontinence problems...), but I wish I had the ability to chat with her again and I still do use some of the techniques I learned with her. I'm looking for someone who does therapy via email, which I realize isn't ideal, but will have to do for my situation.

  15. 3 hours ago, Extremebeginner said:

    You have us all here too if you need outsider perspective.

    other option could be youtube video’s, with your headphones on, maybe?

    For sure, I have a whole "mental health" youtube playlist lol. I will go watch it today.

    I'm just so depressing, and ppl are struggling here too. If you guys offer me support, I wanna be able to offer support as well, and I really just can't right now, so it feels unfair.

    I think after 2 years of this pandemic, I've reached my limit of "inner strength." What I need is someone' who's not insane/abusive to make my life decisions for me. I can't be trusted to make healthy decisions.

  16. Dad managed to deal with COVID okay but now on the tail-end of that, we find out his kidney disease has progressed to stage 4. I am so f'ing tired of everything. Can't even say he tried to make improvements in his life. He didn't, he won't even eat vegetables or cut back on coke or coffee.

    I really do believe there's happiness in life, just not for me. Sometimes people just have lives that are meant for suffering. I turn 35 soon and have nothing to show for it. I should've left home when I was 18 and not looked back. I would've told younger me to never sacrifice myself for family...it ain't worth it. They will take everything from you and still ask "what about me?"

    It is my brother's birthday today and I want to be happy for him but I'm just full of anger and bitterness.

  17. Researching "email counseling."

    Sounds stupid and like a way to steal money from the mentally ill tbh, but I have no privacy at my abusive home (i.e. webcam/phone is a no-go) and cannot go to therapy sessions like I used to. I'll at least try a few sessions. I really need to talk to someone with a non-judgmental outsider perspective. Losing my mind.

  18. Feeling intense shame and hopelessness. The future is so bleak. I am so ashamed of what I have "accomplished" in life. I know my friends think I am pathetic and weird. COVID ruined a life that I was just starting to pick up the pieces of.

    I can't just off myself because people depend on me. People who put their own needs first and could care less about what sacrifices I've had to make. This is torture.

    And yet I know I shouldn't complain. People have it much worse. Just makes me feel even more like a jerk.

    But this all feels like a prison, has felt like this for many years. I'd rather just get the chair at this point.

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