Hi Spiritsage Relationships are not easy, especially when dealing with bipolar, as it can change your perception at times. I am sorry that you have lost this woman, I realize that it hurts, but in time it will heal. You can use this experience to strengthen future relationships. The trick is two way communication and honesty. It sounds like she was being triggered at times, which made her scared. I do not know if the two of you are still in touch, but in order to move forward you may need to not have contact with her, so that you can let go and move forward. Also perhaps try writing a blog or keeping a journal. It can help get the thoughts out there without affecting the other person. Sometimes others just don't know what to do with how you are feeling, or they don't understand it and when people don't understand something it often turns to fear. Trace