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  1. 8 points

    Does it matter?

    Before I leave, I decided to make a quick stop to the blogs since there weren't many posts in the depression central. Usually, what I do in times like these is take a few days off and come back. It gets lonely, sure. But it helps realize what I want to be as a human being. You are correct that what we do matters. Actions speak louder than words.
  2. 8 points

    Does it matter?

    All my hugs and sympathies are now officially tenfold.
  3. 6 points

    Close Call

    Great words, Man of Sorrows. Jalen you are just to young to end what can and most likely will be a fantastic life/future...
  4. 6 points
    Man of Sorrows

    Close Call

    Don't let the depression win. You are in control of your life, not this illness. You are in control. Reach out and get the help you need. You can overcome this. I believe in you.
  5. 6 points
    Absolutely! I think so, I think I'm going through a transitional phase from picking not so great people and figuring out how responsible I am for some stuff to getting rid of unhealthy people and wanting something better. Though I certainly don't want to compromise myself again it's not worth risking falling into the hole of depression. But the conflict is.. am I setting unrealistically high standards to the point where I'm not allowing anyone in? or is there a point where you must settle? I don't want to get told how to wash my clothes, when to use a coaster, whether I can laugh very loud or not (controlling guy), i dont want to be 2nd to drugs (drug addict guy), i dont want to lose myself esteem either (..ex who caused my 1st round of depression-long story but he was a fraud as in he took up an identity to hide from a string of women he had kids with, as in new name, address, operated by cash, impregnated 3 women during our relationship, he used people). Then again, everyone I know and hang out with is married or elderly. And the new people I meet are the same. great people though. I like that you brought up a good question Gisele, bc now I'm pondering. and that's always good.
  6. 6 points


    This reminds me of a concept in CBT called TRAP. It stands for Trigger-Response-Avoidance Pattern. In your story, the trigger was the angry lady, the response was a depressed mood, and the avoidance was laying down in your bed for hours. While studying CBT I learned that that kind of avoidance only makes feelings worse and spiral down. I learned to find alternate, healthier responses to triggers, that stop the downward spiral. The idea is to replace the TRAP by a TRAC, which means Trigger-Response-Alternate Coping. What could you have done other than lay down in your bed for hours that would have been healthier?
  7. 5 points

    Close Call

    Jalen...im so happy it didnt happen. please please call a crisis line in your area or 1 800 273 TALK. im very concerned about you. you can depend on us here too although timing could be an issue. so please call hugs as always Nat
  8. 5 points

    Cuts You Up

    I would ask my doctor for a different medication.
  9. 5 points

    2Nd July

    this afternoon i baked cookies for little. she liked them and we didnt cry today <3
  10. 4 points
    If I could, I would give you some of my energy and motivation to get started. Getting started is the hardest part. I wish you all the best!
  11. 4 points

    No longer

    I sure feel for you. I have unipolar depression so I can’t relate to your hypomania but for the rest ... I’m a master of the art. I live a lonely life. And often I feel that if I still had my husband around, I wouldn’t be depressed. But then I remember how it was just as hard when he Was around. Maybe worse - because of expectations I couldn’t meet. I’m in a very dark place now and have been for a long time, so I can only empathize with you. With whatever is left of my heart. I prayed earlier. Intensely. But what use is prayer without faith? Real faith? Blessings and strength to you dear fellow warrior.
  12. 4 points

    Absorbed in Self hate

    @samadhiSheol You are an amazing and awesome person. I'm sorry that you're in a self-loathing state too. You aren't a douchebag, you are so nice and kind. I am working on getting help right now, and I guess soon enough I might be getting some. Try to love yourself, for me. Even if just for a minute. Best Wishes, -Jalen
  13. 4 points

    So bad.

    I hate to break it to you honey, but you have NEVER, EVER failed me. You have supported me, listened to me, cared for me when I needed it. Close your eyes and breathe. In through the nose, out through the mouth. (I was advised to do this after a really bad car accident. It helps calm you down.) Nice big breath in, then out. Is there a hotline where you are? Search online. Please find one. A real, live voice will help you now. Please. Don't leave us.
  14. 4 points

    Just a poem.

    And Jalen gives light And rights dark wrongs And Jalen gives life When singing these songs The dark was in, and now its out For brother Jalen, I punch and shout!
  15. 4 points

    Just a poem.

    Damn buddy, this is some pretty dark stuff...it's not a bad poem though! I hate that you were feeling this way...I really think your active conscious and your high level of self-awareness put you in a very small category of people. Most people don't know why the hell they do/say/feel anything, and they don't care to know. You're not like that, and it makes you different. That being different can make you feel alone, a lot of the time. But I'm here to tell you that you're not alone. I understand you, I know who you are, and I love you as a person. I'm grateful every day to have such an awesome friend - no, brother - in my life. Our friendship is something I value and cherish, man. So when you feel like no one would miss you if you were gone, think of me. I'd be heartbroken if I lost you, homie. Besides, you're an invaluable partner to have for surviving the apocalypse. The value of that alone makes you worth the price of admission
  16. 4 points

    Christmas Edition

    lol that was hilarious. I hope your Christmas will be good. AND YAY YOU GET THAT IPHONE 7!!!
  17. 4 points


    I relate so much!! I am also afraid of falling asleep ... and during those times when I am awake, I think I have figured out why I am afraid. I am so afraid of failure that I cannot even start a task, because if I do and I fail, then it will simply prove that I am truly a failure ... thus I procrastinate and don't do what I am supposed to do. Thus, at night, I start to think of all the things that I failed to do, go into a self-blame conversation with myself and because I did not do anything, I get anxious and am afraid of the next day coming, because if means another day finished and I didn't do anything and deep down, I know I will not do anything the next day as well ... and because all this makes soooo much sense, my brain decides that I should not sleep ... because ... wait .. I don't know anymore... I can't think nor focus ... nor make any sense ... due to lack of sleep :(((((( my point is, have you tried to really figure out why you refuse to let yourself fall asleep ... why you are afraid to go to sleep? I believe that we know ourselves pretty well... but for some reason we often refuse to be honest with ourselves... for many reasons ... too much painful .. is often the main reason why we refuse to be honest with ourselves... sorry for this long txt ... I am dizzy and making sense is difficult. ps - your poem made me laugh out loud!!! you should write more ... keep them all and publish it one day! I would buy :)
  18. 4 points


    Dude... Sometimes, our emotions are so far from logical, it's crazy. Highs and lows, alternating from feeling up up up and down down down...it's too much to handle, sometimes. I know a bit about your situation, and I know your options for dealing with this stuff are really limited. I just want to give you some real, honest encouragement that's not total BS...you're honestly doing everything you can right now. I really believe that. You're fighting as hard as a person can, you're being honest...the value of that cannot be oversold. Your honesty is going to be your biggest ally in the fight to level out and find some emotional stability. Just keep using your support system, and like I was saying earlier, you will find your groove and level out. A lot of people with this problem really worry me and I don't have much hope for a full recovery...but I know for sure that if you hang in there, you will be fine. You'll be better than fine. I'm always in your corner, buddy, and I'm not going anywhere. Hang in there, guy. You're doing a great job.
  19. 4 points

    Being Carter

    Thank you for the positivity :) we all need it, regardless of what other people might say. it is not because we suffer, that we need to see everyone else down as well. so thank you!
  20. 4 points


    Hi MayRyan, just wanted to say sorry that you had to go through it :( I felt the same way as you did when I had my A levels a month ago and I felt like I was going to disappoint everyone. Exams were all coming at once, and it was non-stop torture. Everyone was minding their own business and I had no one to talk to because I felt like nobody could understand how i felt. Honestly, it was so hard to study because I could barely remember what I read and most of the time I slept because I couldn't take the stress. As you are in the midst of your exams, you can always PM us when you need someone to talk to. I do just want to say that these exams will not define who you are as a person. :)
  21. 4 points


    My heart is breaking for you I don't have any practical advice...you're already in therapy, which means you are probably on a medical treatment plan as well. The only thing you can do is try to build a healthy support system to get you through the rough patches, and it sounds like you are definitely going through one of the roughest of patches right now. Just know that even if nobody else cares, a random guy in Mississippi is holding a good thought for you. I wish you very well and I hope you're able to come out on the other side of this soon. If there's anything I can do, my door is always open on DF - PM me, don't be a stranger if you need to bend an ear.
  22. 4 points
    @herbaI think you're a very self-aware person with a lot going for you, despite inherent roadblocks and obstacles. I'm really glad you've got a loving and supportive partner, it really does make all the difference in saving our lives when we don't feel like we're worth saving. I'm gonna follow you and check up on you, because I feel like maybe I could learn a lot from you. You actually have something to say.
  23. 4 points
    I'm dumb dumb at interpersonal relationshippery, but being as I used to have an acquaintance who went out of her way to help me out, and was constantly supportive, I have an opinion to express. I went through a hard decision with her. She did try to be a friend, and did try to support me when I felt terrible. But then she would belittle my opinions, treat my ideas like garbage, show zero respect for me when she wasn't in the mood to be nice. And she'd never really apologize for it. She had this basic ... I dunno ... feeling around her I guess ... that I should be thankful for her friendship because I was a social dumpster fire. At times it was like she would completely forget that I had social anxiety and would become one of "those" people. The ones who don't understand that social anxiety is a thing and not an act. And she would do this stuff sober. I can't say there are similarities here between my stuff and yours or that I really understand your situation at all, but ultimately in mine I had to let her spread her bitterness and fly away. If a person makes you feel bad and doesn't seem to care, regardless of who they have been for you in the past, they don't have to stay anyway because they helped you before. This changes, of course, if they were going through a rough patch or some life disaster that might make them P**kly. It's always nice to pay back the kindness. I guess my bad advice for this column is to say that a toxic wart is a toxic wart, even if it used to be a beauty mark.
  24. 4 points
    I know. I'm just tired of all the games and for what? men who tend to be selfish :/ i appreciate your words of encouragement. for a minute there I thought it was just being irrational and defensive. I don't know anymore
  25. 4 points
    Perhaps he realized what an insensitive thing he said and is trying to redeem his actions? Or maybe he just has the old-fashioned mentality that there must be something wrong with you if you are 30-something and still single. Whatever the case, don't let one person's opinion get to you. You stand your ground. I remember the dating game not too long ago, and reading your entries brought back horrific memories. My dear, I do not envy you during this phase. However, PLEASE DON'T SETTLE AND GET LOCKED IN WITH SOMEONE YOU DON'T KNOW! Sorry I shouted. :-) But really, please don't be hasty. There are a lot of weirdos out there... and liars... and cheaters... and worse....
  26. 4 points

    How are we supposed to help each other

    I don't think people come to DF to be 'fixed', or even 'helped' necessarily, but to find comfort in the camaraderie of others who are suffering similarly. I would also submit that many here are inspired to carry on and keep striving to fight this terrible illness by just reading and empathizing with the trials and tribulations of others.
  27. 4 points

    Cuts You Up

    (((Lady Mozzer))) I'm so sorry you've been struggling my friend. I'm here if you need me. -AG
  28. 4 points
    in the shadows

    When I'm Depressed...

    You are no burden, and you are no annoyance , its ok to cry , you are not alone AG I care we all care for you,
  29. 4 points

    My Latest Depression And Anxiety

  30. 4 points

    The Noise Inside

    i get horrible feelings of not having anywhere to fit around anybody. i am sorry you feel this as well i wish i knew what to say to make it feel better :( big hugs
  31. 4 points


    That woman is no better than you, try not to let someone like that put you in this state of mind. In fact, next time if someone acts like that just knock something else off the rack and make it look really obvious. Then tell her, "Now you have something to be annoyed at." We already have enough to deal with in our lives without people like this adding to it. I hope these feelings pass quickly for you and tomorrow is a better day.
  32. 4 points

    The Life

    Ohhh, you're talking about the Lifescript™! :D Or at least, that's what they call it in some circles. Especially the idea that everyone NEEDS to have kids, part. We all grow up with this idea that we have to follow the Lifescript to be "happy". Haven't they been peddling this crap since at least the 50s? You don't have to bother with it. Not only that, there are healthy online communities full of happy people (couples, too!), who are proud to disassociate themselves from it. People will scream and cry and moan if you no longer wish to follow their precious Lifescript, but you may well end up a much happier person if you don't. Because you're right - the house, the job, the 2.5 kids, the trophy wife/husband, the golden retriever with the bandanna, the car, the boat - it's not for everyone, and it's not necessary to be happy. You'll more than likely meet the right person eventually, and you'll be loved. Meantime - the hell with the Lifescript and all of its guilting. You don't need it. I hope you find the right person who will love you soon, so you both can figure out which path you'd be most comfortable with. :)
  33. 3 points
    Rose Chavez

    The Absurdity of Me

    @JD4010 This is actually something that I think a lot of us can relate to!!! Such a great post to share and thank you for doing so!!! This is a prime example of the beginnings of or unfortunately the daily life of reclusion. You have become a prisoner to your surroundings!!! You are not ****ed up, you are unique, private and suffering. Piece by piece, bit by bit,area by smallest area....attack it...out of the blue!!! You will start to feel better even in the tiniest of accomplishment!!! Do this for yourself!!! *I put myself through this with our monthly inspections to the point of vomit inducing anxiety and turmoil!!! It was horrifying!!! I do not fault myself nor feel guilt any longer. I just let it go and realized I am doing my best and that is all that matters!!! YOU GOT THIS FRIEND!!!
  34. 3 points

    Das Ende

    Thank you both, @HeraldofAndraste and @Stencils118 for your kind words. There are times that talking leads nowhere. Sometimes..we have to be alone, face the abyss so to speak, whatever the outcome. I'm still here.
  35. 3 points

    Das Ende

    You seem to feel very deeply and for that I thank you for saying it out loud. Why you may ask? I feel deeply about things too and I'm glad I've found people like you who feel the same way as I do. It's so lonely not being about to talk to someone without feeling you'll be judged or ridiculed. Whatever is bothering you, we can talk about it, talk through it with eachother, the more you talk about it with someone like you the better it can start to feel. Just talk to us.. or me. We don't judge, we just understand and can help you.
  36. 3 points

    Christmas Edition

    spawns of satan aka children - so true
  37. 3 points

    Leaving DF for Now ~ Farewell and Thank You

    thanks, lex, and take good care of yourself!!!
  38. 3 points

    Hail Santa.

    ...merry christmas btw
  39. 3 points


    I sure will keep y'all in my thoughts and I might even try out a prayer or two for you! I can tell you from experience that anxiety level during the day is directly related to the amount and quality of sleep you get at night. Insomnia = anxiety. Hopefully her doctor is one of the good ones and treats the insomnia first. If you guys can get her sleeping right, chances are great that her anxiety symptoms will fix themselves. Good luck to you, your mama, and everybody else in your family!
  40. 3 points

    Ideal Wedding

    As usual, this is like pro-level funny. It's kinda cool that you're planning your bizarre wedding already...I'm stoked that I'm a guy, this seems like a real pain in the ass. I shall make my girl do all the hard work on this, but if she forces opinions out of my, I will grudgingly give them. I want her to dress me, tell me what to do and where to stand, and just ignore everybody in the room but her. As long as she shows up, the wedding will be perfect, to me =P How's that for corny? Oh and I'm ignoring the single toilet at your wedding and claiming a bush outside. Because the odds are EVER IN MY FAVOR.
  41. 3 points

    Being Carter

    I agree completely with NHZ. I'm glad to see you doing better than in a long time. Best Wishes, -Your Friend Jalen
  42. 3 points

    Why even try

    That's what people who don't understand depression can never grasp. All of the platitudes and promises and bullsh*t about things getting better. When you're truly, hopelessly depressed, it's not like you're deluded. It's like everybody else is delusional, but you can see the truth...that its all a big nothing. It's playing in a football game where you're losing 200-0 at halftime...it's like why the **** even go out for the second half? They'll never understand what it's like to feel like your best option is to forfeit at life. What really p**ses me off about depression is that it robs the world of people that would otherwise have so much to offer. We spend all of our time, money, and energy dealing with this disease instead of making a positive difference. And I think deep down, we all know we could/should be doing so much more, but we've got this soul-spider sucking up all of the good stuff and leaving us a numb husk. True, good people are a rare commodity in this world. You're one of them. And it's depressing/infuriating to see this disease doing this to you. I hate it.
  43. 3 points

    Tired Son/ Lonely Man

    You.re no monster, Empire. If your father treated you like sxxt, you're nothing like him. You won't agree I know. But you ARE Fxxxing Awsome. You are important to me. And though we're both just pseudonyms online(and I really DON'T have a soul) I MEAN IT. I don.t know if things get better or not.. But you're no monster. World would be a better place with more people around like you. People who actually care.
  44. 3 points
    Please don't be afraid of positive.. And keep those memes coming! You'll get there.
  45. 3 points

    suicidal, but does it matter?

    It sure does matter. I notice when people stop posting on here. And thenthen I begin to worry a little. I might not check in because I'm wrapped up in my own sh*t but damn it I care. I get picturing your death. I've done this recently. Wanting to go tge same way as my dad and hated that I'd have to wait 30 more years since I think my body is like his. I'm so happy to have let that go recently. You're not weak. You're not a loser. Could you imagine a regular Joe blow going through what you go through? They wouldn't last 6 hours let alone 6 years. Try to get out there and do something for someone. Online or not. See how it makes you feel. Do something for you...for me it's intense exercise (intense for me that is since I'm out of shape). Just those two things. Try them for a while. See where it takes you. Pm me anytime buddy.
  46. 3 points

    Still On Disability

    I can understand you are feeling hopeless, but it's apparent you are doing everything to fight, and that's the right attitude. You have a lot of strength in you, and you are supported by excellent professionals, that's a great recipe to go through major obstacles.
  47. 3 points

    Short Pay Std

    im sorry the insurance isnt playing fair hope it improves soon.
  48. 3 points
    Lady Mozzer

    Some Thoughts, Etc.

    Hey AG When I am depressed I my body also aches and I feel terrible.I hope you feel better soon.Sending out big hugs ((((AloneGuy))))
  49. 3 points

    I Did Something Tough Today

    you should be proud of yourself for taking a stand, you need to look after you as well. i hope that you hear from insurance soon!!
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