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  1. 4 points
    Acrowley

    I Did It

    Hi everyone. This is just a post to tell you people that I told my school counsellor about my depression. I'm talking to my parents with her tomorrow. So, yeah, that's about it. Just felt like telling someone.
  2. 2 points
    funnyhowthatworks

    God And Violence

    I am an atheist, so I don't know how much I can help with reconciling these things with your belief in god. All I can say is that the above posters make very well reasoned arguments, and there is a lot to be said for them. My perspective, for what it's worth, is that it's never a bad thing to reassess. By that I mean take a step back and examine your faith, and if you find it doesn't work for you then try something else. If it's causing you distress it's not a good thing. Maybe you'll decide on atheism as I did, or maybe your own faith will be reaffirmed stronger than before. Perhaps you'll find comfort in Buddhism or Islam, I don't know. But you should aim to find peace when reconciling your spirituality with the world around you. Perhaps I'm being too simplistic, I'm no authority. I wish you the best wherever you end up.
  3. 2 points
    wintergrace

    3 Problems I Will Never Have...

    I'll never be without the unconditional love of a dog. I'll never get rid of my sweet tooth...ice cream is too good! I'll never feel alone. My family is too supportive for that.
  4. 2 points
    TroubledMunky

    3 Problems I Will Never Have...

    1) I'll never be hated for being too handsome 2) I'll always be able to see the stage at concerts (im 6'5") 3) I was struggling with two - i can't find a third!
  5. 1 point
    Megan286

    3 Problems I Will Never Have...

    Here's a thread to make you feel a little better. List three problems that you know you will never have. List anything you want-- these can be serious, random, funny, well thought out, or quick responses. 1. I can always eat (Even when I'm sick I can always eat. I can always find at least one thing on the menu, too.) 2. I'm not mean (I'm not naturally mean spirited, so in general I don't have to worry about not being able to stand someone or others wanting to fight or ignore me.) 3. I will never fall out of love-- "for better or for worse" will be a piece of cake for me. I'll be there! (They don't exactly know it but I still love my only two loves... with all my heart, no matter what. Couldn't help it if I tried, and I've tried...) ...Knock on wood!...
  6. 1 point
    TroubledMunky

    I Did It

    You know what might be a good idea? Write it down. Get your feelings about everything on paper - how you REALLY feel. Just write it down. A page, two pages, it doesnt matter. Don't hold back. That way, you can just hand the note to the psychologist when youfirst meet them, let them read it, and then take the conversation from there. It wont be unusual to them, and you wont look strange for doing so. I think this is actually a great idea and could really help.
  7. 1 point
    Thank you so much for your help again, Trace. I also sent you a PM. :)
  8. 1 point
    teasips

    Pure Kindness

    http://youtu.be/nnYRhanK3XA Cried myself silly watching this video. There is still hope in this world. There's nothing like unconditional kindness and compassion.
  9. 1 point
    Violet31

    3 Problems I Will Never Have...

    Be careful, Trace. :) I know a woman in Iceland who just had her first baby at ... guess what... 56! The baby is fine. My great-grandmother had most of her children in her forties, the last one at 49.
  10. 1 point
    Trace

    3 Problems I Will Never Have...

    This is a good topic. I will never be in labour again......thank goodness! I will never have appendicitis again......Its gone! I will never have tonsillitis again...they are out too.
  11. 1 point
    Trace

    Don't Even Thinki Can Look.

    Hi Grace You are not a loser, these things take time and we all have moments. I am glad that you are starting to feel better. Trace
  12. 1 point
    DreamAgain

    3 Problems I Will Never Have...

    I will never be skinny or at least not until I die and my body decays and all that is left is skin and bone...ewww I will never be young again..unless God resurrects me and restores my youth. I will never have another baby unless it is a miraculous birth because I have had a hysterectomy. I will never stop loving...I will always find something to love. I might think of more later....
  13. 1 point
    kopperlis123

    3 Problems I Will Never Have...

    Think I may be in love with this.
  14. 1 point
    Here's my take...I'm not sure anyone is really normal all the time. Everyone has problems, sometimes very serious problems, depression, some of the time or once in a while in life. I don't know anyone (adult) who hasn't gone through at least one trauma in their life. Obviously, there are people who have had much more serious mental problems, including breakdowns and that falls into a different category but I wouldn't get too caught up categorizing one's self. For example, most of my life I considered myself rather normal although I come to find out I have been anything normal, although I have admirably been functional despite being molested, abused, had a mother dying and ill most of my childhood, had to cook, clean and take care of my family's needs as a small child, got yelled at and abused, married an abusive husband...had one trauma after another, physical problems...chronic pain, working non-stop, raised a family on my own. I have held numerous responsible positions as a corporate executive for a large company for many years and been quite successful. I am now unemployed and have no income. So I have been on both sides of the economic scale as well. Normal? No. My husband, most would say is normal...but under the surface, NOT normal. He also had some kind of abuse as a child, was beaten by father, abused and mistreated. Had several serious issues growing up as a child getting along in school with other children. Ended up in the military...again serious issues...made it throuigh...still faces issues but he processes things more matter of fact than I do. He graples with his own self-esteem but does not wear it on his shoulder or to anyone. He opened up to me once about his deepest darkest issues but probably never again. I guess what I am trying to say is don't get too caught up with who is normal and whether you should date someone who is normal vs mentally ill...I think if you meet someone and work on your relationship you will find that everyone has had mental issues at some time, some worse than others. The main thing is that you can keep the lines of communication open and discuss problems and work them out with love and understanding. So, keep an open mind. You life partner might be out there and you don't want to miss him/her. Take care and keep posting. I found this to be a fascinating subject.
  15. 1 point
    Lisa15

    3 Problems I Will Never Have...

    Here's one more: I will never be without the unconditional love of a cat (thanks for the idea, Wintergrace!).
  16. 1 point
    Pepsi109

    Dealing With A Traumatic Event

    I'm having a problem dealing with an event that happened last night. I helped save a possum that otherwise would have been roadkill. I love animals so much. I work part-time at Petsmart and I volunteer at a rescue organization for cats, so finding an injured animal and trying to save it somehow has really affected me. Here's the story: Last night after going to a grocery store, I saw a possum on the side of the road close to the white line, alive, and prayed for its safety on my way home. I had to go back to the store for something I had forgotten and I saw it again, this time practically on the white line. I couldn't take the thought of it being hit and injured so I stopped, got out a large umbrella, went over and tried to push it back towards the woods. It was wet, wouldn't move, and it's left eye and tail were injured somehow. I didn't know what to do. I went on my phone and looked up the number for my local SPCA wildlife department, got them on the line, and they said they would come and pick it up. I was instructed to find a box and put it over the possum until they got there. Just as I crossed the street to get a small box out of my trunk, a car hit the animal and I watched in horror as squealed in pain. When I got back to the side it was on, it was bleeding from its mouth, its hands had been run over, and I started to cry uncontrollably, saying, "I'm sorry, I'm so sorry." I waited at least 30 minutes in the rain and cold until the SPCA lady got there and she took it in a carrier back to be treated. She said I could call and check on it to see if it made it through the night. I haven't been able to yet, but I will call them, although I'm afraid to find out. Now, I feel so numb and depressed. It's hard for me not to think about what happened and see the poor possum's face and all the blood. I did everything I could and yet I felt so helpless. How does one deal with this kind of thing? :verysad3:
  17. 1 point
    wintergrace

    Dealing With A Traumatic Event

    What a kind soul you have. Most people would never have given it a second thought. Whether it lived or not, its life was made better because of you. Take comfort in that.
  18. 1 point
    Thanks LaurynJcat. That does make me feel better. This is my first time in therapy, so it feels weird telling someone these things which I've never told anyone else. Thanks HRiddle. That makes a lot of sense. I really hope this person can help me out of this dark place. The stuff I told her really was a big part of what has been haunting me.
  19. 1 point
    MommyofPrecious

    40+ People

    Rosegirl, thank you so much for the quote, and I am not at all offended by your convictions/beliefs. Here, we say "don't cast pearls before swine," so you were actually correct both times. It is usually meant to say that we shouldn't give or offer something of value to those who don't appreciate the value, but it never occurred to me that I was of value until you put it in perspective. So, yes, I will not sell myself cheaply, thank you. However, I still have more work to do on setting boundaries.... I am also glad you are feeling better. The flu tore through our classroom a couple of weeks ago, but seems to be over. For some reason, I don't often get sick anymore, or if I do, not as severely. I think it must be some OCD tendencies (hand washing, table washing, steering wheel washing, you name it, it's had the "antibacterial wipe treatment"). One of the students calls me a germaphone. For all the teeth grinders and clenchers - thanks, CrazyGuy for stepping in with some help, as it can really wreak havoc with cracked teeth, etc. I wonder if the mouth guards just haven't reached every country? I don't know why I don't grind, maybe because I have a crossbite that couldn't be corrected (for long) orthodontically, and my teeth don't really meet well enough to grind. I save all my stress for migraines! Well, my interview for the permanent part-time day job is tomorrow morning, wish me luck and good cognitive functioning. Some of the medication I take makes me forgetful and occasionally causes temporary confusion - not good things when I'm trying to sell myself. I hope all is well with everyone, take care. M of P
  20. 1 point
    onmyown

    3 Problems I Will Never Have...

    1. I'll never have to get married again -twice is my limit. (Copied MommyofPrecious on this one) 2.Oh, I'll never have to get divorced again after this one. 3. I'll never have to eat anything that grosses me out too bad. 4. I'll never have to eat meat unless I want to. It took me hours to come up with anything after first reading this thread. If I hadn't copied the first one I doubt I could come up with any more. Yeah, there's an expression that sticks in my mind: "Never say never" so it was hard to figure "safe" nevers. LOL
  21. 1 point
    I was going to put that in, M of P. But I was recently at an engagement party to celebrate a work college third serious relationship. They are both 62 years old and have both been married twice. They told me they have never been as happy - and then they went on a romantic cruise. Both had made oaths not to marry for the third time... but they are organizing the wedding!
  22. 1 point
    I'll never have to get married again - twice is my limit!!! I'll never have to eat liver or brussels sprouts again, because I'm all grown up and don't have to be a good example anymore. Can't think of anymore "happy" nevers....
  23. 1 point
    Violet31

    Your Clothing Style?

    I love light scarves on men. Check out those Calvin Klein and Jean Paul Gaulthier ones.
  24. 1 point
    Violet31

    Your Clothing Style?

    I like your black and white theme, DreamAgain. :) Here is something I picked up from 1950´s movies. Take a white top or a sweater and wear it with a sheer black scarve. That is just so classy. And I like to wear my tops and sweaters with shorts and tights, but it´s also wonderful with a long, plain skirt. I have a long, black skirt... and the icing on the cake: Pink tights and black boots.
  25. 1 point
    ArthurP

    Please, Help Me Hanging On

    Struggling, I know you don't believe this, but stopping the texts is actually a step forward. As bad as you feel now it's not as bad as sending texts out and getting no response.
  26. 1 point
    struggling to live

    Please, Help Me Hanging On

    Onmyown, thank you for sharing. it must have taken you lots of strength to go and hold the baby. im glad you got also some good feeling from it. i think it would be for me the right thing to do, but for now i cant even answer her texts. i just want her out of my life. i actually feel better without her. and im sorry about it, but thats the truth. Arthur, i love the way you put it: "building blocks". i guess thats what im trying to do with volleyball. thank you for encouraging me. there is another thing thats been on my mind that i'd like to do... make someone read some stuff i've written. some kind of poetry. but im so ashamed to even think anyone could be interested in reading it or even finding it decent. These days im so tired i often feel like giving up, but im holding on, also thanks to you and this wonderful forum. im so happy i've found you. THANK YOU EVERYONE FOR YOU SUPPORT.
  27. 1 point
    shyboots

    Animals and depression

    Tin foil? I put tin foil in a corner where my cat liked to scratch, for about a week, he doesn't scratch there as much now, although not totally stopped!! Have you tried feliway? Scratching is a territory marking thing, feliway makes cats feel more secure in their territory so may feel less need to scratch. Also, make sure when he scratches somewhere you approve of, give him lots of praise and treats, and try to ignore the bad behaviour as it could be attention seeking. Give attention for the behaviours that you approve of & ignore the others. Also, you could try a citrus smelling spray, cats tend not to like citrus smells so look in a pet shop for a spray that you can use around pets & put a little on the area you want to discourage. But he may just move on to another area...!
  28. 1 point
    Jeroen

    Please, Help Me Hanging On

    Hi, struggling_to_live. I'm sorry you're having such a hard time. Treatment does work though. You, like every other human being on this planet, deserve a helping hand.
  29. 1 point
    ArthurP

    Please, Help Me Hanging On

    For some of us therapy is more painful than others because you have to dig into old issues like a having to go into your leg and dig out a piece of shrapnel that's in there. Just remind yourself even though the pain of digging it out seems to hurt more than just leaving it in did, this pain is finite. It will end. The pain of leaving it there, however, would be forever. You are strong enough to get it out. If you weren't you wouldn't have started trying to help yourself from the beginning. You wouldn't be here. It takes strength to ask for help. You. Are. Strong.
  30. 1 point
    andrewfootos

    Onine Therapy?

    Just to update, I decided to sign up for a program. It was the aforementioned $249 one, each week is dedicated to a different stage and issue regarding depression. They have worksheets that need to be filled out, almost like a school program, a journal that the therapist regularly looks at and comments on, and a live chat during the weekdays that are included in the pricing. I'll keep everyone updated on how this works. I'm not going into it thinking it will solve everything, but it's an interesting think to try.
  31. 1 point
    mimsy

    Anyone try Emsam yet?

    Hi Lauren ~ I'm sorry you're feeling so bad - I know it's hard to remember (and I hate sounding trite), but force yourself to believe that things will not always be so awful. I can only give my experience w/ EMSAM; was on it (6 mg and then 12 mg - didn't seem to make a big difference to me) for months (less than a year though), was off it for a while and now have been back on it (6mg) for about 5 months or so. The first time I started taking it, the biggest difference I noticed was that my social anxiety was reduced a lot - I felt like I lost a lot of self consciousness and I talked with people w/ a lot more ease. Still had depression symptoms w/r/t lack of motivation, etc though. And I had gained weight on the 12 mg, went back to the 6 mg since hadn't noticed a difference in depression anyway at the higher dose. This time (so for like 5 months now) I definitely felt relief once I restarted it, after just a couple of days. (But you are supposed to give it 1-2 months to "work"). I was just losing my mind completely at that time, and I was so grateful for that relief when I restarted it. Now that I'm more stable on it again, hm, I think I feel comfortable saying that it helps cope w/ daily life, for sure. I haven't really noticed the same benefits w/ social situations though this time. And definitely I still have crying episodes, but I do believe they are fewer and shorter than if I were not on the drug. (Sometimes a little crying is good I think since it means you're not just numbed out to everything -- however, not crying all the time like you are experiencing - I know that is just plain suffering and again I'm sorry, I relate, I understand - please hang in there!) Another good thing w/ EMSAM is the lack of side effects (for me anyway). I personally would not be able to do an oral MAOI due to the diet limitations, especially since I don't feel like the mood improvement w/ EMSAM is so dramatic to give up my favorite foods (like cheese).....I have never tried the oral ones though; maybe they do work so much better that all the dietary mods are worth it. I think I do have a sort of hangup like "but that isn't FAIR that I should not be able to get relief from depression without giving up so many foods and having to worry about it all the time!" - ya, I know, that is like thinking like a baby - as if there is ANYTHING fair about depression. Can't help it though..... So, if I were you Lauren, I would let your doc know that you are still crying very easily and see. S/he might recommend you give it more of a chance since you are seeing some small signs, but if things are unbearable then you might not be able to do that. One thing though, trying 20 meds within 1.5 years sounds like they all must have been very short trials, when most antidepressants take 1-2 months to get to stabilization of brain chemicals -- it seems weird to me that your doc would have you switch so frequently, especially when side effects are almost always worse in those initial couple of weeks. I would do some reading and maybe even ask a different doc if that seems odd to them......that's a lot of hell to put yourself through (I know you know that) but it seems like 1 month trials are more typical to see if good results outweigh the bad......... I wouldn't worry too much about the patch curling a little on the edges as long as it is staying on.....I find alcohol (or astringent) works best for prepping the skin (never tried the hydro peroxide though, but it is "wetter" so I would think it would be harder to get the skin really dry, which is key) -- also I wear my patch on my upper thighs, which are covered in baby hair (ya no, I don't shave above the knee - but I'm lucky to have fine hair!) so maybe that is another reason I don't have problems w/ the patches staying on - even through showers or in hot weather........ Hope some of this helps. Talk to your doc and do your own reading too -- unfortunately, you have to be the one to figure a lot of this out, since (at least in my experience) docs don't have the time to devote to analyzing every person enough to really brainstorm the best path - a lot is up to you. It sucks, I know, but it's true.......Good luck and I hope you start feeling better. ~ Mimsy
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