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Bullies are just envious

RiverLight

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I have been a target of bullying for almost all of my life - both online and offline. The other day, I experienced bullying on another forum, so I read up (again) on bullies and whom they target. It's not what you may think - yes, schoolyard bullies may pick on the more vulnerable kid in the pack. But adults? Adults typically bully those whom they envy and those who threaten them or their status in some way. My old boss was like that, and he bullied me. 

So I got into it a bit with this member on this other forum, and it got kind of ugly. So I took a break from it all, had a nice evening and a good night's sleep, and this morning I realized that it came down to envy. Yesterday, I had started to wonder - what did I do to deserve this heap of crap from this person? I've done NOTHING except for be myself. And I like myself, very much... in fact, I love who I am! After all, if we cannot love ourselves, we certainly cannot love any other. 

And then I had also experienced some serious projection issues on a different mental health forum (other than DF) -- and again, I realized, it's NOT ME, it's THEM. 

So, all in all:

It's a GREAT feeling to walk towards my upcoming 50th birthday feeling strong and confident within myself. Yesterday I had been thinking - screw this. I'm going to turn into the biggest B-I-T-C* instead of being the nice, loving, and sweet person I am all the time. But I could never be that way - unless, of course, the situation calls for it, then I will most certainly become a big B. But generally, I could never turn into the type of person I cannot stand to be around. I like my company. 

So that's it on bullies. They're green with envy. That's very sad.. FOR THEM. And quite pathetic, especially in an adult.



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I think the envy is always there even for the bully in school.  The star football player picking on the smart kids knows the day school ends his life most likely ends as well.  9 times out of 10 he'll become an Al Bundy and he knows it so he picks on the ones that he knows will go on to have great lives after school.  That's usually the case.

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36 minutes ago, sober4life said:

I think the envy is always there even for the bully in school.  The star football player picking on the smart kids knows the day school ends his life most likely ends as well.  9 times out of 10 he'll become an Al Bundy and he knows it so he picks on the ones that he knows will go on to have great lives after school.  That's usually the case.

Yep - I believe you're right! 

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Sadly this world REWARDS bullying. How else do you think CEOs & politicians get to those positions...by being the nicest, and sweetest person around? L-O-****ing-L!

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41 minutes ago, samadhiSheol said:

There is no excuse for bullying. 

None. Anyone in any position, bullying, has nothing but contempt from me. 

Same here. 

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