I have been a target of bullying for almost all of my life - both online and offline. The other day, I experienced bullying on another forum, so I read up (again) on bullies and whom they target. It's not what you may think - yes, schoolyard bullies may pick on the more vulnerable kid in the pack. But adults? Adults typically bully those whom they envy and those who threaten them or their status in some way. My old boss was like that, and he bullied me.
So I got into it a bit with this member on this other forum, and it got kind of ugly. So I took a break from it all, had a nice evening and a good night's sleep, and this morning I realized that it came down to envy. Yesterday, I had started to wonder - what did I do to deserve this heap of crap from this person? I've done NOTHING except for be myself. And I like myself, very much... in fact, I love who I am! After all, if we cannot love ourselves, we certainly cannot love any other.
And then I had also experienced some serious projection issues on a different mental health forum (other than DF) -- and again, I realized, it's NOT ME, it's THEM.
So, all in all:
It's a GREAT feeling to walk towards my upcoming 50th birthday feeling strong and confident within myself. Yesterday I had been thinking - screw this. I'm going to turn into the biggest B-I-T-C* instead of being the nice, loving, and sweet person I am all the time. But I could never be that way - unless, of course, the situation calls for it, then I will most certainly become a big B. But generally, I could never turn into the type of person I cannot stand to be around. I like my company.
So that's it on bullies. They're green with envy. That's very sad.. FOR THEM. And quite pathetic, especially in an adult.