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allalone6

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ive been wanting to write but just feel like its so monotonous. its all the same. im sad, im lonely, im still all alone, still not a mother, still friendless and nothing seems to change. 
 
I volunteer, i join meet-up groups, im plastered on multiple dating sites. I continuously reach out to acquaintances despite being ignored. Sometimes i think i try too hard, but then sometimes think im not doing all i can. 
 
maybe instead of trying to change my life, i should just embrace it and learn to cope with it. 
 
i dont know what im doing wrong or what i should work on to be/get better. im lost. and i cant ask anyone for directions. 
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I agree with what @Floor2017 said. As long as there's a remote possibility for change you owe it to yourself. 

Have you spoken to a therapist about all this? It might be helpful to get some advice from someone who knows you in person. Sometimes when we try very hard it can come off as needy or desperate which tends to creep people out and push them away. Not saying this is the case but sometimes it's helpful to get a neutral perspective because we often end up sabotaging our own efforts without being aware of it. Can be something as little as poor body language that implies poor self-esteem... 

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36 minutes ago, lonelyforeigner said:

I agree with what @Floor2017 said. As long as there's a remote possibility for change you owe it to yourself. 

Have you spoken to a therapist about all this? It might be helpful to get some advice from someone who knows you in person. Sometimes when we try very hard it can come off as needy or desperate which tends to creep people out and push them away. Not saying this is the case but sometimes it's helpful to get a neutral perspective because we often end up sabotaging our own efforts without being aware of it. Can be something as little as poor body language that implies poor self-esteem... 

@lonelyforeginer and @allalone6 

I've read a couple of posts and blogs of you guys and I can relate to some of your stories especially when it comes to being lonely. I became more lonely around this year when most of people in my life drifted off and I became more isolated. I mean I guess it still helps since I have a child but when he's not around, I don't have anyone to talk to. I feel like I've became an invisible ghost over the years. So if you guys don't mind, feel free to message me. Just to chat. Talk about daily stuff or whatever. Thank you. 

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On 12/26/2018 at 12:51 PM, lonelyforeigner said:

I agree with what @Floor2017 said. As long as there's a remote possibility for change you owe it to yourself. 

Have you spoken to a therapist about all this? It might be helpful to get some advice from someone who knows you in person. Sometimes when we try very hard it can come off as needy or desperate which tends to creep people out and push them away. Not saying this is the case but sometimes it's helpful to get a neutral perspective because we often end up sabotaging our own efforts without being aware of it. Can be something as little as poor body language that implies poor self-esteem... 

I know all too well how my needy behavior has scared people away...ive done it to two very good friends, and both friendships are dead. I dont tell anyone about my depression. only one acquaintance knows but i dont discuss it. I learned a couple of years ago that I will never let another sole know what im feeling. I slap on that smile and happy attitude and pretend everything is fine. 

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11 minutes ago, allalone6 said:

I know all too well how my needy behavior has scared people away...ive done it to two very good friends, and both friendships are dead. I dont tell anyone about my depression. only one acquaintance knows but i dont discuss it. I learned a couple of years ago that I will never let another sole know what im feeling. I slap on that smile and happy attitude and pretend everything is fine. 

Sometimes it is best not to share your personal feelings with other people

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