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I wish i had friends to turn down to, at least it would mean i had some kinda worth to someone other then my dyning mother.

Are you still working allalone6? Because if you are then props to you for being able to get yourself out into that kind of interactive situation. I know that avoidance syndrome well, heck I think we all do here, and I believe it's something that will stick with anyone suffering from mental health issues. However going by personal experience, I used to do this far more commonly than I do now. Since getting officially diagnosed and telling my main friends and family about the issues, I feel comfortable enough with myself and them, to at least attempt going out until I feel unwell later. But I can also predict more accurately now how bad I will be before venturing out the comfort of my room.

I would say don't beat yourself up for avoiding situations, but try to find the right situations that you are comfortable with enough to draw yourself out more little by little. This requires a lot of self-awareness and even at times some nudging ('I feel terrible but I'll go to my friend's... ah I feel better now, I'm glad I came round'), just take it in steps and try to get whatever support you can from your friends :)

17 hours ago, My empire of dirt said:

I wish i had friends to turn down to, at least it would mean i had some kinda worth to someone other then my dyning mother.

I know what you mean, i wish i had friends to turn down too. sometimes i think i deserve this kinda of life...that maybe i did something wrong along the way

4 hours ago, ParaDoxiPaladin said:

Are you still working allalone6? Because if you are then props to you for being able to get yourself out into that kind of interactive situation. I know that avoidance syndrome well, heck I think we all do here, and I believe it's something that will stick with anyone suffering from mental health issues. However going by personal experience, I used to do this far more commonly than I do now. Since getting officially diagnosed and telling my main friends and family about the issues, I feel comfortable enough with myself and them, to at least attempt going out until I feel unwell later. But I can also predict more accurately now how bad I will be before venturing out the comfort of my room.

I would say don't beat yourself up for avoiding situations, but try to find the right situations that you are comfortable with enough to draw yourself out more little by little. This requires a lot of self-awareness and even at times some nudging ('I feel terrible but I'll go to my friend's... ah I feel better now, I'm glad I came round'), just take it in steps and try to get whatever support you can from your friends :)

still working...but i sit at silence at work or sometimes the entire 8 hours alone. i dont have any friends, so my days of support are long gone. im a self supporter...but even i have my days that i cant be bothered

Ah I see. I often used to do the same until I ended up in a job where avoidance was wasn't possible; one of the reasons why I resigned. Work presents plenty of opportunities to nudge out of this state, though of course it is by no means 'easy'. I notice that when I've been in my bedroom for a few days without seeing anyone, interacting with anyone at all becomes outrageously difficult at first before it gets a little easier again. Years ago I was barely able to talk to shop staff on my own. Practises like exercise can give you independence and confidence eventually, as can the simple act of logging on here. If you ever want to chat please feel free to send me a message :)