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Family Fundamentals: Happy holidays? Cope with stress, tension

Holiday Stress

I’m dreading the holidays. Something always happens and I usually become very upset. Is there anything I can do to de-stress and actually enjoy myself this year?

First, you’re not alone. The holiday “blues” often stem from the demands of the season — shopping (on a deadline, no less), parties, family obligations, housecleaning, decorating, houseguests — you name it, there’s always something extra to sap your time and energy.

It’s also often a time many people feel lonely or soberly self-reflective as the year draws to a close. Combine that with fatigue, financial stress, and disappointments stemming from unrealistic expectations, and you have a solid mix for stress, tension and even depression.

The National Mental Health Association and the Mayo Clinic offer tips for coping during the holidays. Among them are:

— Be realistic about time and traditions. Be sure to pace yourself during the holidays. Remember, you don’t have to accept every invitation. Prioritize your activities, and make sure you have the time and energy to enjoy the ones that are most important to you. And be sure you don’t get so caught up in yearning for the “good old days” that you can’t enjoy today’s festivities. Traditions change over time, no matter how enjoyable they once were. Try something new; you might find you like it.

— Accept that it’s OK to feel sad or lonely. These are common feelings this time of year, especially if a loved one has recently died or you’ve been through another stressful situation. If you feel this way, know that it’s normal and that you don’t have to force yourself to be happy just because it’s the holidays.

— Reach out to others. If you’re hosting the family gathering this year, get help for meal preparation and clean-up. If you feel alone and have few obligations on your time, try volunteering at a local church or organization. Reaching out to family and friends; contacting someone you haven’t heard from for awhile; and getting involved in larger causes can get you the support and companionship you may be looking for.

— Keep up healthy habits. Holidays shouldn’t be your excuse to overindulge on sweets, snacks or alcohol. Some indulgence is OK, but going overboard can lead to additional stress, guilt, and, in the case of alcohol, depression. Be sure to build in time for both physical activity and sleep.

SOURCE:-
Mental Health Association’s site at http://www.nmha.org

By Martha Filipic, News and Media Relations — Ohio State University

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