Therapy

ACTIVE LISTENING

"I know you think you understand what you thought I said, but I'm not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I really meant." “I know you think you understand what you thought I said, but I’m not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I really meant.”

1. You think about 4 times faster than a person usually talks. Do you use this excess time to think about other things while you are keeping track of the conversation?

2. Do you listen primarily for facts, rather than ideas, when someone is speaking?

3. Do you avoid listening to things you feel will be too difficult to understand?

4. Can you tell from a person’s appearance and delivery that he/she won’t have anything worthwhile to say?

5. When somebody is talking to you, do you try to make him/her think you are paying attention when you are not?

6. Do certain words or phrases prejudice you so that you cannot listen objectively?

7. Do you turn your thought to other subjects when you believe a speaker will have nothing particulary interesting to say?

8. When you are listening to some one, are you easily distracted by outside sights and sounds?

9. When you are puzzled or annoyed by what someone says, do you try to get the question straightened out immediately, eithe in your own mind or by interrupting the speaker?

10. Do you catch yourself concentrating in a conversation more on what you are going to say when it’s your turn to speak than on what the speaker is saying?

Hmmmm!!! Does this mean that all of us are guilty of bad listening habits at one time or another? YES!!! Maybe the following information will give you some ideas on how to be a more effective listener. Good luck!!!

The average person spends about 70% of each day engaged in some type of communication. More specificately, we spend 54.93% speaking, 13.27% reading and only 8.4% writing each day. Listening is an art. To be performed well, we must not confuse LISTENING with HEARING. Many of us who consider ourselves good listeners might only be good hearers. HEARING IS THE PHYSIOLOGICAL PROCESS of recognizing sound waves as they enter passively into the ear and is pretty much unavoidable. LISTENING, on the other hand, is an ACTIVE process demanding as much, if not more, MENTAL EFFORT and concentration than speaking.

Hearing is with our ears, listening is with our minds. If you only hear people, you are probably missing valuable information, suggestion, and ideas.

by Sheepwoman

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