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      Proclamation 9433 of April 28, 2016 National Mental Health Awareness Month, 2016 A Proclamation Nearly 44 million American adults, and millions of children, experience mental health conditions each year, including depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, and post-traumatic stress. Although we have made progress expanding mental health coverage and elevating the conversation about mental health, too many people still do not get the help they need. Our Nation is founded on the belief that we must look out for one another—and whether it affects our family members, friends, co-workers, or those unknown to us—we do a service for each other when we reach out and help those struggling with mental health issues. This month, we renew our commitment to ridding our society of the stigma associated with mental illness, encourage those living with mental health conditions to get the help they need, and reaffirm our pledge to ensure those who need help have access to the support, acceptance, and resources they deserve. In the last 7 years, our country has made extraordinary progress in expanding mental health coverage for more people across America. The Affordable Care Act prohibits insurance companies from discriminating against people based on pre-existing conditions, requires coverage of mental health and substance use disorder services in individual and small group markets, and expands mental health and substance use disorder parity policies, which are estimated to help more than 60 million Americans. Nearly 15 million more Americans have gained Medicaid coverage since October 2013, significantly improving access to mental health care. And because of more than $100 million in funding from the Affordable Care Act, community health centers have expanded behavioral health services for nearly 900,000 people nationwide over the past 2 years. Still, far too few Americans experiencing mental illnesses do not receive the care and treatment they need. That is why my most recent Budget proposal includes a new half-billion dollar investment to improve access to mental health care, engage individuals with serious mental illness in care, and help ensure behavioral health care systems work for everyone. Our Nation has made strong advances in improving prevention, increasing early intervention, and expanding treatment of mental illnesses. Earlier this year, I established a Mental Health and Substance Use Disorder Parity Task Force, which aims to ensure that coverage for mental health benefits is comparable to coverage for medical and surgical care, improve understanding of the requirements of the law, and expand compliance with it. Mental health should be treated as part of a person's overall health, and we must ensure individuals living with mental health conditions can get the treatment they need. My Administration also continues to invest in science and research through the BRAIN initiative to enhance our understanding of the complexities of the human brain and to make it easier to diagnose and treat mental health disorders early. One of our most profound obligations as a Nation is to support the men and women in uniform who return home and continue fighting battles against mental illness. Last year, I signed the Clay Hunt SAV Act, which fills critical gaps in serving veterans with post-traumatic stress and other illnesses, increases peer support and outreach, and recruits more talented individuals to work on mental health issues at the Department of Veterans Affairs. This law will make it easier for veterans to get the care they need when they need it. All Americans, including service members, can get immediate assistance by calling the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK or by calling 1-800-662-HELP. During National Mental Health Awareness Month, we recognize those Americans who live with mental illness and substance use disorders, and we pledge solidarity with their families who need our support as well. Let us strive to ensure people living with mental health conditions know that they are not alone, that hope exists, and that the possibility of healing and thriving is real. Together, we can help everyone get the support they need to recover as they continue along the journey to get well. NOW, THEREFORE, I, BARACK OBAMA, President of the United States of America, by virtue of the authority vested in me by the Constitution and the laws of the United States, do hereby proclaim May 2016 as National Mental Health Awareness Month. I call upon citizens, government agencies, organizations, health care providers, and research institutions to raise mental health awareness and continue helping Americans live longer, healthier lives. IN WITNESS WHEREOF, I have hereunto set my hand this twenty-eighth day of April, in the year of our Lord two thousand sixteen, and of the Independence of the United States of America the two hundred and fortieth.  
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Depression And Anxiety Affecting New Job And Vice Versa

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Hello - I am new to this forum and thank you for reading my post.

Since a kid, I have suffered from depression and anxiety, plus lots of related conditions. Some years they are better, some worse. For the last 5 years things have been the best ever as I was working part time and engaged in community work and also pursuing my dream career, so I was enjoying life.

Things got tough financially so 6 months ago I accepted a full time office job. It was a big step for me, as most of my life I have been a freelancer. After 20 years' freelancing, I knew it would be a challenge working in a very large, open plan office. My employer also kind of knew that, too. But now things are really getting to me and my depression and anxiety are the worst they've ever been, even making me have occasional suicidal thoughts.

My agoraphobia is really bad and I am very self conscious, so such a large, open and noisy office isn't helping me focus on my work

EVERY day my hands shake, I vomit at least once, I cry in the toilets at work, suffer mild panic attacks at my desk, on the phone, in meetings, anywhere - which make my IBS worse.

The actual workload I'm given would be tough but manageable for most people, but because I feel so trapped, it feels like a mountain to me

Since I started the job, I've been too tired and depressed to even see or call my friends, so I'm quite lonely now

Two close friends have died in this time, too, my home got flooded which caused lots of stress, my motorbike (which I use to get to work) has needed taking to the repair shop every Saturday for the last few weeks but I can't afford a new one so have no choice, all my hobbies and activities have been canned as I have no time or energy for them (and they are all things which only happen Monday to Friday, so can't be done on weekends).

I did disclose my depression and anxiety before I started the job, and had a heart to heart talk with my boss 2 months in, when I first started to find it hard. My boss is really nice but he tells me I have one more month to sort my life out and fix my depression and anxiety, or it will become a HR issue, as he's kind of tired of me reaching out to him every 2 months when everything builds up.

I have so many deep-rooted issues going on since childhood, which I do mask well most of the time, that it will take tens of counselling sessions. I don't have the time or money for counselling so will try to find free help or read books, but it's going to take me more than a month. My doctor doesn't want to put me on medication as he says it will numb my intellectual and creative mind. Herbal medication didn't help (St John's Wort and so on) and nor did CBT.

My husband who also works long hours, is fully behind me resigning from this job so I can seek proper help and get my life back on track, pursuing the career I did really enjoy. He knows the pay was poor, but he could see it made me so happy, so wants the old me back.

The big hurdle for me now is how to resign so my boss doesn't resent me and the office atmosphere isn't frosty, as this will make my self consciousness and anxiety even worse?

Thanks for reading!

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inamess,

First off, welcome. Make yourself at home and hopefully your participation here can help.

As for the job, well remember one thing - a worker is replaceable, you are not! If your boss knows of the situation, well then will it come as a shock if you do decide to resign? They will find someone to replace you, trust me. If you can speak to him and give the reasons, giving them a chance to find a replacement, will it be better all round? You need to do what is best for you! If that means a reduced pay packet but a happier you, well then go for it. It is clear that this role is not suiting you, but in life, that'll be the case. At least you had the bravery to try out was iit suitable or not.

Sit down sometime this week and work out yourself a plan. Then, go to the boss and apologise for the hassle and maybe state that you will help train in a replacement. You are being proactive - do not forget that.

Sure it will be arrkward for the fist few minutes but think of the reasons why you are doing this. You are not running, but going to a happier work environment that suits you. Office work is not for everyone as is working down a coal mine or doing night shifts. You have to find your niche, which is what you are doing.

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HR and Bosses only understand to a point. They are merely concerned with an efficient worker. So just put in a resignation letter and don't worry about him. If he wants to act poorly in your final two weeks that is his issue to deal with and a reflection on him, not you. If you have vacation or any paid leave time then use it. If things look like they are going to be bad, obtain a doctors note that states you need to vacate your position immediately.

Just a question. Would a very low dose of a medication possibly help? Depression greatly effects my intellectual and creative minds. Granted I am not better in those regards on medication, but I don't see the harm in seeing if a low dose would give you the little bit of a boost you need without effecting you too much.

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Thanks very much for your replies.

I accept what you both say - bosses and HR have to accept my decision and should be professional with me in the notice period, and they can and will find someone to replace me.

Low medication may be an option, yes, but I don't want it to just provide a patch to enable me to limp on in this job atmosphere/environment/role which makes me miserable. HR said no to me moving desks to somewhere I feel more comfortable and I'm not allowed to work from home if I feel really bad. They suggested I take all my vacation time now, to get fully better in the next 2 weeks, so I can come back a new person. I don't think so... (I'd feel worse for not having any vacation left after February, for a start!)

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My boss has now been telling my coworkers that I'm feeling better now, as he has lengthened a few deadlines for me. Hmm, I don't think deep anxiety and depression from childhood, made worse by the office environment, disappears in a few days! But now it'll make me look bad if I resign...

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No it won't. When you resign they will realize that your boss was incorrect. Many people do not understand health issues that they cannot see. I assume that these are people who you will never see again once you resign. Do not worry about what you think and take care of yourself!

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