Socializing When Depressed
Posted 04 December 2012 - 02:51 AM
Posted 04 December 2012 - 03:00 AM
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Posted 04 December 2012 - 03:31 AM
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Posted 04 December 2012 - 08:16 AM
Sometimes it does help. I can go out and be content to take a back seat and just find out what everyone else has been up to, without putting forward anything about my self. And yes, it is exhausting, but I generally feel glad I made the effort, because I feel just that little bit more connected to the world. And other times I know it would be a really bad idea to even try. I guess it means one has to work out which they think would be more beneficial on the day...
Posted 04 December 2012 - 08:39 AM
Posted 04 December 2012 - 09:28 AM
William Styron, Darkness Visible
Posted 05 December 2012 - 11:41 AM
Put me in a group larger than that and I am one miserable person wanting to get out of there.
I just had a flashback though I have forgotten. Years ago at work I would sometimes have to make quality control aduit result presentations to department managers (mostly men) and even the mill and operations manager. At first I was so stressed out that I couldn't sleep the night before the presentation. The thought of little old me telling all of these "big wheels" what they were doing wrong in their departments
absolutely freaked me out.
But one day I mysteriously had the idea of what I terned "rationalizing the big wheels," or making myself feel that they were not any more important or better than I was. And that was to close my eyes and visualize these department managers walking into the room wearing ladies make-up, lipstick, jewelry, with heir hair frizzed, and click-clacking in high heel shoes, carrying a purse over their arm, and being otherwise completely nude!
I became so good at the virtual visualization game that sometimes as I was making my presentation and going around the room making eye-contact with everyone, that I would sometimes almost burst out
laughing at how that person would look in high heel shoes and carrying a purse. And after practicing that little "rationalizing" defense before each presentation, I became less tense and stressed out.
But I forget to think about my virtualization game in social events now. Maybe I need to practive it more often and perhaps it will help me in the "have to go" social events.
Sorry, I just remembered that little story and wanted to share it. It may not work for others, or make any sense, but if it helps just one person, I will be happy that I shared it.
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