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[extraneous]

I feel like I have no reason to continue my life. Although I'm in a position of privilege, my life is pathetic. I have no friends. I get no enjoyment out of living. I don't connect with other people. I inherited this from my father, whose lifestyle is hell in my opinion. I'm worthless. The funny thing is, I don't have the balls to end it so I'm going to wake up tomorrow morning and continue forcing myself through this misery. I'm 18 years old and I already feel like life has passed me by. I know I have the rest of my life ahead of me, but I don't know if I'lll ever change. My father definitely hasn't, he's just learned to be content with his naive, little bubble of a life and doesn't feel the need to have a social life. A life like that is definitely not enough to keep me around.

Edited by extraneous, 08 September 2012 - 10:38 PM.

[TwilightZephyr]

Well my life has change a lot since I was 18. And yeah not everyone's life changes a lot, but some of those changes you have to make yourself. You are not your father....so do know that. And friends and social life can be a difficult thing to not have in your life. Have you tried different ways of going out and making friends and having a social life. It's always awkward at first but by following your interests you can usually find some like minds But I have also found that sometimes you also have to be the one that keeps the different relationships going in your life.

[Dingadilly]

" I know I have the rest of my life ahead of me, but I don't know if I'lll ever change"

Everyone here pretty much I daresay either has currently or has experienced in the past something akin to such thoughts.

The good news as I see it, is that you have alot of time. What you lack is perhaps, motivation to do so? or the confidence / belief that you are capable of such change.
Commonly said in such circles as these is the line "things will get better" I personally find that pretty unsinspiring and altogether far too vague to be helpful.

Your father I safely presume is somewhat older than yourself and therefore has gone through his crazy 20s and 30s etc, met people, made friends, fought with others, discarded the ones he didnt want, lost contact with others .
His position in life is of his own fashioning. But he has had far more chances to change that over the time he has lived.

You, with all due respect are on the first bricks of this wonderful yellow brick road. You mention your father a lot in your post, but relativley little about yourself. Clearly you seem to blame your current situation on him via inheritence.

Change perhaps might be a good thing for you. If you still live with your father, moving out, creating some space between the two of you might help you to begin forging your own lifestyle rather than focusing on the parts of his that you dislike that you recognise in your own reflection.

Not being able to connect with people is something I can personally relate to, however as of late I have come to the semi conclusive action of asking myself, "What have I done to try and connect? Have I been out where other people can talk to me? Have I made myself unapproachable? (stern face, head inside an ipod etc) How many times has someone told me that there not interested in talking to me?

Just my thoughts,

If any of them are of help, well then I'd be pleased for both of us

Regards

Ding