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[justmeh]

I suppose I am just a bag of problems cooperating with each other, so the result is even worse. I have suffered through most of my life, honestly, I don't think I can ever be really happy, I always have problems "pending" in my mind. I usually don't feel good, and easily fall into depressive mood.

I'm introvert and a loner (thanks to my acne, and perhaps higher iq) and I like it. However, when I'm with people, I've noticed that I laugh obsessively. You know, I do the kind of smile people do when they are expecting something very funny to happen almost all the time. My facial muscles are contracted. I also find many things funny, including memories, comments, etc., and I laugh a lot, staying in that weird facial posture. I don't know why do I do that, in fact, I hate myself for that - I must leave an impression of person who is careless about his life, not a "sexy, serious, mysterious person". I know this might sound weird, but generally people who look like they are on drugs are not very attractive (are they?).

Don't get me wrong - I love to laugh, but I just feel like a joke to my own existence.

What do you think? Is there something wrong with me? I definitely don't like to be that "careless laughing kid".

Edited by justmeh, 03 September 2012 - 07:10 AM.

[Epictetus]

Hi Justmeh,

Wow. It sounds like you and me are similiar. I tend to see the funny side of things. But for me it happens all the time, whether I am alone or with others. I've kind of accepted it as part of my own unique individuality and quirkiness. If it is adversely affecting your life, you can also seek out the help of a psychotherapist who can help you.

Sometimes little things one hardly notices can have an effect on humor too. I've noticed that any caffeine brings out an almost unconquerable humor in me. And there is a substance in some diet products which might be a dopamine enhancer. This seems to also make me humorous beyond human tolerance. I don't know about you, but these two substances "seem to" have a profound effect on me. In a sense, they are drugs, legal drugs: caffeine and aspartame. Aspartame in some diet products contains phenylalanine which "might" increase dopamine levels in the brain. There is a fierce debate on it. And the various scientific studies confound each other. None of the studies have answered the questions to the satisfaction of all. So the jury is still out on aspartame. Caffeine is definitely a stimulant though. You might also want to see a doctor for a medical check since excessive humor might be related to something organic going on in you. All the best to you Justmeh.

Edited by Ep1ctetus, 03 September 2012 - 11:31 AM.

[Lisa15]

I've always had a great sense of humor, but I use it often in a self-deprecating way. Sort of like launching a preemptory attack, making fun of myself before anyone else has a chance to. I try to avoid sarcasm, except when applied to myself. People generally see me as having a great sense of humor and laughing easily and appropriately. A few people who have become close friends, however, see through my self-deprecating humor and call me on it. Making fun of myself has been my defense mechanism since I can remember, and I do it because I agree with what I believe others actually think of me, that I am worthless, defective, etc., but making a joke of it lessens the impact it has on others. I see through my own humor and loathe myself for it, and knowing that a select few also know the truth saddens me.

[justmeh]

Thank you for your replies.


Ep1ctetus: I will cut usage of substances you mentioned for some time, so I can see whether it has any effect on me. I don't think that I eat/drink something I shouldn't. I think it's more of a character/mental problem.





Lisa15: I don't think that you're worthless. I don't laugh at myself, nor I laugh in inappropriate situations, I simply laugh too loudly, too much, too often, and with that weird facial posture.

Edited by justmeh, 03 September 2012 - 02:01 PM.