More Happy Being Miserable?
Posted 14 July 2012 - 11:49 PM
Posted 17 July 2012 - 04:18 AM
I guess you get used to feeling a certain way, it sort of becomes your norm or even your comfort zone. When that changes, you don't feel like you, you feel different and that can make you feel uncomfortable. You may want to try some form of therapy to help you with the change.
Listen in deep silence. Be very still and open your mind.... Sink deep into the peace that waits for you beyond the frantic, riotous thoughts and sights and sounds of this insane world. - A course of miracles.
True beauty must come, must be grown, from within.... - Ralph W Trine.
Posted 17 July 2012 - 02:33 PM
Is it just me, or do you ever feel happier when you're struggling? I'm so used to having some kind of conflict in my life that it becomes the norm for me. Problems with intimate relationships, work, friends. But when things start going smoothly, I start to question everything. I start questioning myself and how I feel about what I'm doing in life and who I am. And I get really really down about it. I can't shake the feeling. I just feel as though I'm bound to screw myself over, it's just waiting to happen to me again. And I feel as though I have no feelings, as though I'm numb. I just don't really care about anyone. I want to care but it's as though I'm not there anymore. The spark of life has kind of died. I need something or someone to fix in order to be happy, then I won't have to focus on what's wrong with me and just get down about all the problems that make up the person I am. Maybe there isn't an abnormal amount of things that are wrong with me, and it's all in my head? But I just don't know how to change my way of thinking. It feels like I'll do something drastic, like emotionally hurt someone close to me or quit my job just to have some kind of unease back in my life. And I feel as though it's just too good to be true. How do I get out of this? Why can't I appreciate that things are finally going my way?
I can definitely relate to this.
It is a common thing with depression, though. It's hard to feel great over achievements and to see what kind of person you really are. I am dealing with the same, so I can't really suggest anything other than try therapy like Trace recommended. Find something that works for you.
I think a lot of people have a struggle between two sides, one that wants everything to go well and another side that wants things to get worse. Maybe because when things go bad you don't have to think highly of yourself, since it's easier to see the bad than all the good?
Eventhough I can't suggest anything, maybe it feels a bit better knowing that you are definitely not alone in feeling this way. With persistance, you'll get through this. If you're in a relationship right now, make that an incentive to work on things more, perhaps?
I'm just offering a subtle suggestion, as I won't be able to provide something very insightful.
Posted 18 July 2012 - 12:07 AM
Posted 18 July 2012 - 11:21 PM
I think the best thing to do is to focus on any kind of passion, or work. For me I'm trying to work on my art and cartooning, creating things can give a sense of fulfilment. Personally I recommend being artistic in some kind of way, or finding a new kind of hobby or anything like that can be really helpful, just something that can break the cycle it sounds like you've created.
Hope any of this helps
Posted 19 July 2012 - 01:50 PM
Posted 20 July 2012 - 03:05 PM
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