I Keep Wondering What If?
Posted 14 July 2012 - 10:15 AM
Anyway I keep asking myself, what if I would have went for the drive at a different time? Maybe my anxiety would have never flared up. I know this is prolly no help and it sucks, but I can't stop questioning myself
Posted 14 July 2012 - 11:21 AM
Sorry you had that experience. I've had it to. I was once tailgated by a gang waving guns. And believe me, I went through the "what if" anxiety for days after that. There are some tricks I learned on how to deal with anxiety. I'm happy to share them with you if I haven't already.
Anxiety can also be a problem with the health of the brain. So a visit to a doctor is my best advice.
There is some medical evidence that anxiety is caused by a brain system which controls the release of stress hormones in the adrenal glands. This system can sometimes malfunction and be unable to stop signalling. The result is that your brain and other body systems are flooded with stress hormones almost continuously. There are medications to help with this. Acute stress, as for example, when I was being tailgated by a gang waving guns is beneficial to the body. It is good that it overrides everything else in emergencies. But being bathed in stress hormones 24/7 injures the brain. There is some medical evidence of this. A visit to the doc can help.
Sorry you went through this. As I read your post, I flashed back on my own experience. I send you my best wishes this day. Have a nice weekend Ted. I think your post will help other people going through the "what ifs". Thanks.
Edited by Ep1ctetus, 14 July 2012 - 11:22 AM.
"A man is really ethical when he obeys the constraint laid on him to help all life which he is able to help, and when he goes out of his way to avoid injuring anything living. He does not ask how far this or that life deserves compassion as valuable in itself, how far it is capable of feeling. To him, life itself is sacred. He shatters no ice crystal that sparkles in the sun, tears no leaf from its tree, breaks off no flower, and is careful not to crush any insect as he walks. If he works by lamplight on a summer evening, he prefers to keep the window shut and breathe stifling air rather than see insect after insect fall on his table with singed and sinking wings. If he goes out into the street after a rain storm and sees a worm which has strayed there, he reflects that it will surely dry up in the sunlight, if it does not quickly regain the damp soil into which it can creep, and so he helps it back to the lush grass. Should he pass an insect which has fallen into a pool, he spares the time to reach it a leaf or a stalk on which it may clamor and save itself. Animals suffer as much as we do. We must fight against the spirit of unconscious cruelty with which we treat the animals. " Dr. Albert Schweitzer.
"Compassion, in which all ethics must take root, can only attain its full breadth and depth if it embraces all living creatures and does not limit itself to mankind." Dr. Albert Scheweiter.
Posted 14 July 2012 - 09:49 PM
Have you tried talking with a doctor about it? Ep1ctetus has some great points. I was able to reduce some of my own anxiety after talking with my doctor and coming up with a plan to dealing with it.
Other ways I deal with anxiety is talking it out with a loved one and doing everything I can to relax and take my mind off it. This is sometimes hard but I do my best! I'll take a nap, read a book, blast some music, and the passage of time usually lessens my anxiety of the situation. I'll still get intrusive what-if thoughts of things even years later, but I'm able to fend them off with distraction and relaxation.
I am wishing the best for you! Just remember life has variables and is unpredictable, that's just the nature of life. You can't always help things that happen, even if you think you should be able to! This happened to you and it wasn't fun, but it doesn't define you or your life. :) keep living and you'll be ok!
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