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[Slayingbubblez]

Ive never had any freinds and things got worst last time i was in school (6th grade). I found out about some disorders and couldnt do gym, so people asked me why i didnt do gym, why i didnt eat lunch, why i wore sweatshirts every day. I understood the curiosity so i explained thinking thats all over, but then everyday i got pushed down stairs and into lockers to test my endurance. I was so sick i only went for 5 months and the rest was homebound. I wouldve gone all stoolie on them but the teachers didnt support me because i missed so much school, with 3 doctors notes they refused an iep. So after all hell broke lose i did cyber school this year but am now heading to a charter school. Im scared that this will happen, and even more so since its a performing arts school it will be competitive. This year i have more to carry my sexuality, self harm, eating disorder, iep, im going to stand out even more this time, this school doesnt even have a queer straight alliance. I want to start one but even more ill stick out. Thinking about te future i realize im so much in the minority how can i ever fulfill my dreams? I cant get support from family i have no freinds and so can someone tell me how the hell does this get better?

[AquaViolet]

Hi Slayingbubblez, and welcome to DF! We are glad to have you here. This is a wonderful community, filled with caring, understanding people.
You will receive a lot of emotional support here.
There is an Eating Disorders Room here, and a password protected Self Injury Room, and a GLBT Room here as well. (This Room is not password protected.)
If you think the SI Room may be helpful for you, just pm a mod or Admin for the passwords once you have 5 or more quality posts.
You can always come here to DF for encouragement, emotional support, and a listening ear. We are here for you!
You are NOT alone.
You can fufill all your dreams despite being in the minority. Just believe in yourself.
Please continue to post here, and take care.

[lindahurt]

Hello Slayingbubblez

I can relate to some of your issues and hope you are able to get counseling to help work through them. I was bullied and suffer with an eating disorder as well, but counseling and medical attention are a necessity if its affecting your ability to function and follow through with accomplishing your goals.

Sounds like you want to succeed and you will, but don't have the kind of support your need work through things and stay motivated. Perhaps your parents can get you medical help like seeing a therapist and so forth. I think you can benefit a lot from it.

Give the friendship issue sometime. Eventually, you'll find your niche and cross pathways with others who can relate and enjoy friendships. I wish you the best in school.

Lindahurt

[ya4df]

Hello Slayingbubblez,

You asked...

"how can i ever fulfill my dreams?" In a word: persistance.

how the hell does this get better? In an other word: Perseverance.

Two simple words that are, to me at least, both simple and clear cut yet convoluted at the same time, as far as for realizing your dreams and seeing your way to things getting better.

When people ask me questions about my behaviors or habits thats none of their business, I pull one of two routines: (i) First method: Vague answer and then quickly ask him/her a question, right as their in the middle of answering, ask another question, or if they don't answer the first, ask it again, or ask another. But I keep the pressure up and keep it on them. (ii) Second method: Be blunt. I will say something like, 'That's none of your business'. Or slightly subtle 'Aren't you the Nosy Nelly today'. Etc. Then quickly turn to someone else and start talking, ignoring the first person.

In both cases the key is to maintain eye contact, smile while doing this and keep an even tone of voice. Personally, I hate doing the second option but I've learned people will treat you exactly how you let them treat you.

As for making and having friends, I've learned it's true like the saying: if you have 1 true friend you are rich indeed, if you have 2 true (really genuine) friends, you are wealthy beyond imagination. When I was younger I thought this can't be true, people have more friends than one or two. Then I learned the bar for friendship must and should be set high. That's my opinion. As such, I keep many acquaintences for the various interests and hobbies I have, but only a very few geninuine friends. So ponder all the interests you have and seek out others like minded.

Best of luck and Peace be upon You.