My Mother Is Depressed, I Need To Know How To Help Her
Posted 13 June 2010 - 10:54 AM
I know it gets better as the kids get older, she has admitted to having post-partum depression (even with me, who she says was her easiest baby). But I also know that she lost her father when she was very young. Her mother (my grandmother) spiraled into depression and was never there for her. My mother lost her sister to cancer almost 2 years ago now. I think that has also helped to trigger this. I have also read that a form of post-partum depression can affect adoptive parents. This combination is probably just making things worse.
At times I think it's not that bad and I should just ride it out. I did with my other siblings, and things got better. But I am afraid that when my mother doesn't have baby issues to obsess about and use as her emotional crutch, it will be something else, something bigger.
I am here because I need someone to talk to, and because I want to take a proactive role in helping my mother out of this. I remember the way her and my father used to be, and I want to see them be that way again. I know they love each other, but, like me, my father doesn't know what to do and so they just wind up arguing.
My mother says that she has the most beautiful family in the world- four beautiful kids, and a husband who loves her and would give his life for his family. (He would.) But right now, we appear to have everything when we actually do not.
How do I get my family back????
Posted 13 June 2010 - 01:57 PM
I really applaud you for giving your mother support and wanting to help her! It may be helpful for you to read about depression the Portal (top tool bar) and pinned items toward the top of the Depression Central forum. Depression is caused when some of the chemicals in the brain are not functioning properly. Here are scans of the brains of a depressed person and a person without depression:
Depression is not something that one can just snap out of or think themselves out of. Medications are developed to correct the imbalance. There are other things that help with depression. The typical methods that help are eating a healthy diet with plenty of fruits and vegetables and exercise. Also, B vitamins and purified fish oil are two suppliments that can help. There are also some herbal suppliments that some people take. Alternatives to medications are discussed in the One Step At A Time forum. You can look there for pinned items with information and topics where members talk about what they are doing.
Posted 21 June 2010 - 12:53 PM
You have been given some excellent advice by Iowa. Getting better from depression naturally can take some considerable time . It is documented that even without treatment most people would get better after about 9 months or less. Unfortunately for someone like your Mother I don't think this will be the case.
There are some very effective medications for the treatment of depression and they are a bit hit and miss at the start to get the right one.
Tis forum is testament to the effectiveness of those various treatment and medications that work effectively.
I congratulate you as a daughter for being so supportive and it sounds lie you have a very loving and caring family. In my personal opinion I would make an appointment and start getting effective treatment for your mother.
My Best Wishes
Edited by jimbow15, 21 June 2010 - 12:55 PM.
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