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Posted 30 May 2009 - 11:59 AM

A. A marked and persistant fear of one or more social or performance situations in which the person is exposed to unfamiliar people or to possible scrutiny by others. The individual fears that he or she will act in a way (or show anxiety symptoms) that will be humiliating or embarrassing.

B. Exposure to the feared social situation almost invariably provokes anxiety, which may take the form of a situationally bound or situationally predisposed Panic Attack.

C. The person recognizes that the fear is excessive or unreasonable.

D. The feared social or preformance situations are avoided or else are endured with intense anxiety or distress.

E. The avoidance, anxious anticipation, or distress in the feared social or preformance situation(s) interferes significantly with the person's normal routine, occupational (academic) functioning, or social activities or relationships, or there is marked distress about having the phobia.

G. The fear or avoidance is not due to the direct physiological effects of a substance (e.g. a drug of abuse, a medication) or a general medical condition and is not better accounted for by another mental disorder.

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Social Anxiety Fact Sheet


Social Anxiety Disorder (social phobia) is the third largest mental health care problem in the world.

Latest government epidemiological data show social anxiety affects over 7% of the population at any given time. The lifetime prevalence rate (i.e., the chances of developing social anxiety disorder at any time during the lifespan) stands at above 13%.

Definition: Social anxiety is the fear of social situations that involve interaction with other people. Put another way, social anxiety is the fear and anxiety of being judged and evaluated by other people. If a person usually becomes anxious in social situations, but seems fine when they are alone, then "social anxiety" may be the problem.

Perceptions: People with social anxiety are many times seen by others as being shy, quiet, backward, withdrawn, inhibited, unfriendly, nervous, aloof, and disinterested. People with social anxiety want to be "normal" socially, they want to make friends and they want to be involved and engaged in social interactions.

Having social anxiety prevents people from being able to do the things they want to do. People with social anxiety want to be friendly, open, and sociable. It is fear (anxiety) that holds them back from participating.

Social anxiety is a fully treatable condition and can be overcome.

Triggering Symptoms: People with social anxiety usually experience significant distress in the following situations:

Being introduced to other people

Being teased or criticized

Being the center of attention

Being watched or observed while doing something

Having to say something in a formal, public situation

Meeting people in authority ("important people/authority figures")

Feeling insecure and out of place in social situations ("I don’t know what to say.")

Embarrassing easily (e.g., blushing, shaking)

Meeting other peoples’ eyes

Swallowing, writing, talking, making phone calls if in public



This list is not a complete list of symptoms -- other symptoms may be associated with social anxiety as well.

Emotional Symptoms: The feelings that accompany social anxiety include anxiety, intense fear, nervousness, automatic negative thinking cycles, racing heart, blushing, excessive sweating, dry throat and mouth, trembling, and muscle twitches.

Constant, intense anxiety (fear) is the most common feature.

Insight: People with social anxiety know that their anxiety is irrational and does not make logical sense. Nevertheless, thoughts and feelings of anxiety persist and show no signs of going away, without appropriate treatment.

Therapy: Cognitive-behavioral therapy for social anxiety has been markedly successful. Thousands of research studies now indicate that, after CBT, people with social anxiety disorder report a changed life -- one that is no longer controlled by fear and anxiety. Appropriate therapy is markedly successful in changing people's thoughts, beliefs, feelings, and behavior.

National Institutes of Mental Health-funded studies report a very high success rate using cognitive therapy with a behavioral therapy group. Both are essential to alleviating anxiety symptoms associated with social anxiety disorder.

Medication: Social anxiety medication is useful for many, but not all, people with social anxiety disorder. Psychologists and therapists should work with the persons’ medical doctor and/or psychiatrist if at all possible. For cases of generalized social anxiety, research indicates use of the anti-anxiety agents, and certain antidepressants in conjunction with CBT has proven most beneficial. As to antidepressants, the MAOIs have the highest success rate when combined with CBT. Medication without the use of cognitive-behavioral therapy has proven to be only temporarily helpful.

In particular, antidepressant treatment using SSRIs has been shown to be useless.

Prognosis: Markedly good. People completing CBT training report a high success ratio. In the NIMH longitudinal studies, people continued to report progress after the CBT behavioral group therapy was over. We have found that repetition is the key to overcoming social anxiety disorder. Therapy is not difficult. What matters is a person's continuing commitment to getting better.

Treatment Specialties: Social anxiety, as well as the other anxiety disorders, can be successfully treated today. In seeking help for this problem, we recommend searching for a specialist -- someone who understands this problem well and knows how to treat it.

Social anxiety treatment must include an active behavioral therapy group, where members can work on their "fear" hierarchies in the group, and later, in real-life situations.

Differential Diagnosis and Comorbidity: Social anxiety disorder is one of the five major anxiety disorders as listed in the DSM-IV.

Social anxiety is many times mixed up with panic disorder. People with social anxiety do not experience panic attacks, in which the principal fear is of having a medical problem (e.g., heart attack). People with social anxiety realize that it is anxiety and fear that they are experiencing. They may say things like "It was awful and I panicked!", but, when questioned, they are talking about feeling highly anxious. They are not talking about the fear of having a medical problem. People with social anxiety tend not to go to hospital emergency rooms after an anxiety problem. People with panic disorder many times go to hospital emergency rooms, because they feel there is something medically and physically wrong with them.

High rates of alcoholism and other substance abuse, family difficulties and problems, lack of personal relationships, and difficulty in obtaining and continuing with employment are among the everyday problems experienced by many people with social anxiety disorder.

Lack of professional and knowledgeable therapists is the biggest and most relevant problem to overcoming social anxiety. While we know it can be done, and a vast amount of clinical and research evidence supports this, overcoming social anxiety is difficult because of the scarcity of treatment options for people with this persistent anxiety disorder.

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Posted 30 May 2009 - 11:59 AM

From the last Social Phobia Topic



So this weekend has been absolutely terrible for me :( I feel like balling my eyes out right now. In fact I might go do that....

I don't know why my anxieties are getting worse! I've felt anxious and nervous all weekend and have barely eaten a thing, except for a spurt last night where I felt calm. I went to the grocery store today and totally freaked out, felt light headed, uneasy, nauseous, tense muscles, dry mouth. I made it through, but it was hell.

Other than work I haven't really left my house for a week, I think keeping yourself housebound makes things worse. two weeks ago I had no problems at all going shopping, now I do all of a sudden.

I feel terrible I keep ditching my friends!

I used to be SO happy, always on the go, never had any problems. Now my mind has taken over my life in the matter of a few weeks. I hope it's not forever.

Maybe i should up my dose? I'm only on 20mg of Celexa (been 3 weeks) and I'm running out of Lorazepam :( so I need more of that too...is it possible that anxieties sometimes get worse on this drug before they get better? I really just want my life back....maybe I need to expose myself more to the outside world instead of hiding in my house in my PJ's all the time just waiting to get better...



So this weekend has been absolutely terrible for me :( I feel like balling my eyes out right now. In fact I might go do that....

I don't know why my anxieties are getting worse! I've felt anxious and nervous all weekend and have barely eaten a thing, except for a spurt last night where I felt calm. I went to the grocery store today and totally freaked out, felt light headed, uneasy, nauseous, tense muscles, dry mouth. I made it through, but it was hell.

Other than work I haven't really left my house for a week, I think keeping yourself housebound makes things worse. two weeks ago I had no problems at all going shopping, now I do all of a sudden.

I feel terrible I keep ditching my friends!

I used to be SO happy, always on the go, never had any problems. Now my mind has taken over my life in the matter of a few weeks. I hope it's not forever.

Maybe i should up my dose? I'm only on 20mg of Celexa (been 3 weeks) and I'm running out of Lorazepam :( so I need more of that too...is it possible that anxieties sometimes get worse on this drug before they get better? I really just want my life back....maybe I need to expose myself more to the outside world instead of hiding in my house in my PJ's all the time just waiting to get better...


Hi Jerrica

I am sorry that you are strugling right now. Yes there are start up side effects to the meds, they can take up to 8 weeks to work into your system properly. So how you are feeling may pass. If you are really concerned, you can go back to your doc. Have a look in the Celexa Room here for others start up experiences.

Trace



So this weekend has been absolutely terrible for me :( I feel like balling my eyes out right now. In fact I might go do that....

I don't know why my anxieties are getting worse! I've felt anxious and nervous all weekend and have barely eaten a thing, except for a spurt last night where I felt calm. I went to the grocery store today and totally freaked out, felt light headed, uneasy, nauseous, tense muscles, dry mouth. I made it through, but it was hell.

Other than work I haven't really left my house for a week, I think keeping yourself housebound makes things worse. two weeks ago I had no problems at all going shopping, now I do all of a sudden.

I feel terrible I keep ditching my friends!

I used to be SO happy, always on the go, never had any problems. Now my mind has taken over my life in the matter of a few weeks. I hope it's not forever.

Maybe i should up my dose? I'm only on 20mg of Celexa (been 3 weeks) and I'm running out of Lorazepam :( so I need more of that too...is it possible that anxieties sometimes get worse on this drug before they get better? I really just want my life back....maybe I need to expose myself more to the outside world instead of hiding in my house in my PJ's all the time just waiting to get better...


Hi Jerrica

I am sorry that you are strugling right now. Yes there are start up side effects to the meds, they can take up to 8 weeks to work into your system properly. So how you are feeling may pass. If you are really concerned, you can go back to your doc. Have a look in the Celexa Room here for others start up experiences.

Trace


Thanks, I saw my doc today. She wouldn't up my dose yet...she says I have to give it more time. She did give me more Lorazepam to take as needed. I think I know why I'm freaking out so bad now though. My major support person, whom is my best friend and has been getting me through this, god bless him, is going on vacation for a week on wednesday and I don't know what I'm going to do for a whole week without him :( and I think it's causing all sorts of anxieties and anticipation as to how I will cope when he's gone.

I've been living at his place lately, because I feel safe there. Home is not a good place for me (my mom is very unsupportive, brother disrespectful, they just don't understand and make it 10x worse). He did say he would leave me a key to stay there while he's gone but I'm uneasy about being alone right now....

It really sucks when you hate being home and feel like you have nowhere else to go :( BUT it's only a week.....I can do it!



Jerrica

Yes, it is only a week and you can do it. You also have us too. I hope the week goes fast for you.

Trace



I'm 19 and have had problems socializing with people ever since I was little. I can't even stand being around my family for more than 5 minutes, they don't even bother looking at me as I leave the room anymore during a movie or TV show. When I was in school I always got bad grades and constantly stuttered having panic attacks just simply reading something aloud. I didn't get help until about 3 years ago but nothing has helped until recently when i started taking Effexor EX along with Deplin, so far I've noticed improvement but I still can't stand being with people for to long.



Hi Masquerette,

What a difficult position to be in. What thoughts go through your head when you're with people?

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Posted 31 May 2009 - 11:19 PM

From the last Social Phobia Topic



So this weekend has been absolutely terrible for me :( I feel like balling my eyes out right now. In fact I might go do that....

I don't know why my anxieties are getting worse! I've felt anxious and nervous all weekend and have barely eaten a thing, except for a spurt last night where I felt calm. I went to the grocery store today and totally freaked out, felt light headed, uneasy, nauseous, tense muscles, dry mouth. I made it through, but it was hell.

Other than work I haven't really left my house for a week, I think keeping yourself housebound makes things worse. two weeks ago I had no problems at all going shopping, now I do all of a sudden.

I feel terrible I keep ditching my friends!

I used to be SO happy, always on the go, never had any problems. Now my mind has taken over my life in the matter of a few weeks. I hope it's not forever.

Maybe i should up my dose? I'm only on 20mg of Celexa (been 3 weeks) and I'm running out of Lorazepam :( so I need more of that too...is it possible that anxieties sometimes get worse on this drug before they get better? I really just want my life back....maybe I need to expose myself more to the outside world instead of hiding in my house in my PJ's all the time just waiting to get better...



So this weekend has been absolutely terrible for me :( I feel like balling my eyes out right now. In fact I might go do that....

I don't know why my anxieties are getting worse! I've felt anxious and nervous all weekend and have barely eaten a thing, except for a spurt last night where I felt calm. I went to the grocery store today and totally freaked out, felt light headed, uneasy, nauseous, tense muscles, dry mouth. I made it through, but it was hell.

Other than work I haven't really left my house for a week, I think keeping yourself housebound makes things worse. two weeks ago I had no problems at all going shopping, now I do all of a sudden.

I feel terrible I keep ditching my friends!

I used to be SO happy, always on the go, never had any problems. Now my mind has taken over my life in the matter of a few weeks. I hope it's not forever.

Maybe i should up my dose? I'm only on 20mg of Celexa (been 3 weeks) and I'm running out of Lorazepam :( so I need more of that too...is it possible that anxieties sometimes get worse on this drug before they get better? I really just want my life back....maybe I need to expose myself more to the outside world instead of hiding in my house in my PJ's all the time just waiting to get better...


Hi Jerrica

I am sorry that you are strugling right now. Yes there are start up side effects to the meds, they can take up to 8 weeks to work into your system properly. So how you are feeling may pass. If you are really concerned, you can go back to your doc. Have a look in the Celexa Room here for others start up experiences.

Trace



So this weekend has been absolutely terrible for me :( I feel like balling my eyes out right now. In fact I might go do that....

I don't know why my anxieties are getting worse! I've felt anxious and nervous all weekend and have barely eaten a thing, except for a spurt last night where I felt calm. I went to the grocery store today and totally freaked out, felt light headed, uneasy, nauseous, tense muscles, dry mouth. I made it through, but it was hell.

Other than work I haven't really left my house for a week, I think keeping yourself housebound makes things worse. two weeks ago I had no problems at all going shopping, now I do all of a sudden.

I feel terrible I keep ditching my friends!

I used to be SO happy, always on the go, never had any problems. Now my mind has taken over my life in the matter of a few weeks. I hope it's not forever.

Maybe i should up my dose? I'm only on 20mg of Celexa (been 3 weeks) and I'm running out of Lorazepam :( so I need more of that too...is it possible that anxieties sometimes get worse on this drug before they get better? I really just want my life back....maybe I need to expose myself more to the outside world instead of hiding in my house in my PJ's all the time just waiting to get better...


Hi Jerrica

I am sorry that you are strugling right now. Yes there are start up side effects to the meds, they can take up to 8 weeks to work into your system properly. So how you are feeling may pass. If you are really concerned, you can go back to your doc. Have a look in the Celexa Room here for others start up experiences.

Trace


Thanks, I saw my doc today. She wouldn't up my dose yet...she says I have to give it more time. She did give me more Lorazepam to take as needed. I think I know why I'm freaking out so bad now though. My major support person, whom is my best friend and has been getting me through this, god bless him, is going on vacation for a week on wednesday and I don't know what I'm going to do for a whole week without him :( and I think it's causing all sorts of anxieties and anticipation as to how I will cope when he's gone.

I've been living at his place lately, because I feel safe there. Home is not a good place for me (my mom is very unsupportive, brother disrespectful, they just don't understand and make it 10x worse). He did say he would leave me a key to stay there while he's gone but I'm uneasy about being alone right now....

It really sucks when you hate being home and feel like you have nowhere else to go :( BUT it's only a week.....I can do it!



Jerrica

Yes, it is only a week and you can do it. You also have us too. I hope the week goes fast for you.

Trace



I'm 19 and have had problems socializing with people ever since I was little. I can't even stand being around my family for more than 5 minutes, they don't even bother looking at me as I leave the room anymore during a movie or TV show. When I was in school I always got bad grades and constantly stuttered having panic attacks just simply reading something aloud. I didn't get help until about 3 years ago but nothing has helped until recently when i started taking Effexor EX along with Deplin, so far I've noticed improvement but I still can't stand being with people for to long.



Hi Masquerette,

What a difficult position to be in. What thoughts go through your head when you're with people?

xx


Hi, im new on here and let me just say that "this " is a very difficult thing to deal with. I work at a wholesale store (will not name) part-time. Ive been out for a whole month due to stress. Now, i can't even go to the store with out having a major attack. I seem to hate everyone. I get irritated and annoyed and everyone. It takes me days to recover! I have migraines, vision problems....I just need a new brain..

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Posted 01 June 2009 - 02:33 AM

HI Sashapoo :hearts:

It is a very difficult thing to cope with. It mst be tough having a job that deals with the public when you feel like this. Are you in therapy at all?

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Posted 01 June 2009 - 03:19 AM

HI Sashapoo,

Social Anxiety causes low self esteem , lack of confidence and poor self image, and CBT is a good tools to use as the others have said.

Your opinion of yourself is vital and thinking in social anxiety undermines all your positives assets, skills, abilities, achievements and distorts your world. Feeling causes action, o you act how you feel.

Funny thing is it a bit like depression, your reality and thinking get distorted and you are left with a negative perspective on the world. Avoidence creeps in and isolation.

I found the Book - Feeling Good - by David Burns excellent for depression, but a lot of what he days rings true for Social Anxiety.

I hope your Doctor sends you to see a CBT therapist .Best Wishes

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Posted 01 June 2009 - 10:59 PM

HI Sashapoo :hearts:

It is a very difficult thing to cope with. It mst be tough having a job that deals with the public when you feel like this. Are you in therapy at all?

PRT xx

Yes, Im in group therapy and see a therapist.

Right now im thinking im not going to be able to go back. Im preparing for the worst but hoping for the best i guess...


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Posted 02 June 2009 - 11:12 AM

I have just handed my notice in at work. It's a bit scary but if something makes you feel that unhappy then I've decided it's not worth it. Don't know what I'll do instead though... :hearts:
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Posted 03 June 2009 - 04:43 PM

Until I read this I had always just assumed that I was just off. I get extremely upset it social situations that involve anything above like 7or 8 people, the more people the worse it is. It helps some if I know the people but I still freak out. I get extremely angry and agitated and I'll start to lash out at people for ridiculous things like standing too close to me or not getting out of my way fast enough. I really can't help it. I just get so angry and upset that there's nothing anyont can do. I know I'm acting out of line and being ridiculous but there is nothing I can do about it, honestly it makes me fill like a B****


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Posted 06 June 2009 - 05:59 AM

Reading the social anxiety fact sheet has definately made me realise that i'm not the only one who feels this way in public and that i should stop hating myself for being so awkward because i really cannot help it. I've been hating myself for not being 'street smart' enough and for being socially inept.. I definately want to do something about it and I will but i don't know where to go to for help?? :( Cognitive-behavioral therapy sounds like a really a good option and this may sound silly to ask but how much would it cost? Is it expensive??


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Posted 13 July 2009 - 07:19 PM

I experience social anxiety specifically in situations where I'm being watched:

I avoid making or taking phone calls when someone else is in the room.

I avoid speaking in groups and my heart starts pounding if I'm even asked to say my name and a few words.

I don't like having or attending parties.

I'm too scared to get my driver's license because the instructor would be beside me watching as well as the person testing me ... then, of coarse, all of the other drivers on the road watching me.

I need to find a new job but can't think of one that would accommodate my social anxiety. When I start a new job I have moments of sheer panic when I have to answer a phone or use a cash register or deal with a line up of customers. I actually enjoy customer service and I know that these anxious feelings would diminish over time but the initial humiliation is so great that I end up avoiding these sorts of jobs.

I'm afraid to be called upon to take control of any crisis situation. I'm afraid the old woman walking in my direction will trip on the ice and need assistance or god forbid someone need CPR.

I'm always afraid of doing or saying the wrong thing and will beat myself up for years remembering some small foot in mouth moment.

I don't like people watching me cook. I feel like they're saying to themselves "why is she doing it that way? That's not how I would do it"

I'm especially nervous doing things like cooking, eating or making phone calls in front of someone that I'm intimate with because the stakes are just that much higher.

If I'm with another person I tend to let them sort things out, especially if a phone call is involved. This is why I like to do things alone. Because I don't usually have a problem navigating on my own ... since no one is watching me if I screw up.

I don't have a problem looking into people's eyes when I talk to them. I don't worry so much that people won't like me - I worry that they will think I'm stupid and incompetent.

I've listed my triggers, at least the main ones. I'm sure I could come up with a few more. I'd like to hear other people's.


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Posted 25 July 2009 - 01:40 PM

I am a 37 year old man...
i had assumed that by the time i had reached this age i would not have self esteem issues... it is totally ridiculous...

there are a lot of good things about myself... i can be extemely confident at times, especially when with just one person... but often when in group social situations i shrink down to the size of a pea.. social situations now make me so fearful that i do my best to avoid them... Sitting alone in my house...When i am out and drinking i can silence the critical voice and have no problems.. am confident and funny. But when sober the critical me comes back... the return of the pea...

I recently started taking lexapro and find it helps.

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Posted 08 August 2009 - 01:09 PM

I don't go out a lot, basically I'm living a lifeless life.. I think I have BDD too :(

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Posted 02 September 2009 - 10:16 PM

Social anxiety is something that I honestly think never goes away, but I know for a fact that there are many things that can be done to help you learn to cope. For me, it's all been about exposure... doing those things that scare me the most and pushing myself into public situations.

I was getting really bad. See, a few months back, I had to quit my job at Comcast (helping people fix their tvs over the phone) because I was having panic attacks at work. My anxiety was just getting out of control. It was scary.

Then, I began to not even want to leave the house.. was getting really bad agoraphobia. It was hard to come out of it, but I've gotten a lot better and I am here for any of you if you need someone to talk to about it more! I love giving advice and helping others :hearts:

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Anyone found a AD that helps there anxiety ?
I have depression as well but i think anxiety is the main problem
Been on cymbalta now for a bit over a week
no relief yet :(


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Posted 08 September 2009 - 05:07 AM

Anyone found a AD that helps there anxiety ?
I have depression as well but i think anxiety is the main problem
Been on cymbalta now for a bit over a week
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Give the cymbalta some time. It takes up to 8 weeks to see the full effects of an AD.
If it doesn't work, citalopram worked a treat on my anxiety. xx

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Posted 09 September 2009 - 05:12 PM

I have social phobia to certain situations also. In fact, I sound exactly like whitman77... 39 year old female who finds it ridiculous at times that I feel this way. I also have problems in group settings, but not so much the one on one.. My doctor recently prescribed me citalopram for it as well as my panic attacks. I can't believe things have gotten worse and to the point where I fear and dread going into work.. We have a group meeting every day and I get all worked up thinking about going in there. I hate talking in front of others and being put on the spot and the center of attention. Ugh!

I hope the citalopram works, I'm on day 9 today... PRT you have given me some hope.. :hearts:


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Posted 15 September 2009 - 08:22 PM

Hi Peeps....im new here, im glad ive found this Forum..

I too suffer from Social Phobia as well i have since i was 11 years old.
I cant fill out Paper work in front of people, my hands shake terribly. I was normal as an 11 year old could be, when i had this Techer at a private school i went to used to make me do stuff on the board at school. I never had a shakie hand then one day i made a mistake, all the kids laughed and since then ive never been able to do Paper work in front of anyone. Im now 36 years old.

In 1999 i was at rock bottom and it was either get help, or the other option. And i refuse to go down that road. I was in therapy for 1 year and my DR really helped me to accept myself for who i am as a person, i was able to do things i couldnt before and im now in a position that i thought for years id never acheive.
But those fears are still there and when im in my comfort zone i can do paper work in front of ppl and my hands wont shake at all, but when i have to go somewhere were its an unfamiliar surrounding that voice starts in my head, What if you Shake, people are think your Stupid and end up working myself up into quit a state.
Its funny cos if i dont think about it i dont get nervous, like at work if a boss just comes up while i dont expect it and says I need ya Signiture to approve so and so, and i sign and date it with out a problem. It weird. If im out with my mates drinking and having fun, im a totally differant person.

Ive come to the conclusion i think ill always suffer from this, and i think the key to me getting better is me accepting me for who i am, and not worrying what people think of me, and if i shake then who gives a Fxxx. Ive always, as most of us here feel like we are the only people in the world who are differant, and i know how dibillitating this can be to live with.

I wish everyone here all my support and the best. Ciao


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Posted 13 December 2009 - 04:36 AM

The trycyclic antidepressant medication has been used for more than thirty years in the treatment of depression although their mechanisms of action are still not completely understood. During the last years, the selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRI) that specifically interact with this amine have been clinically proved to have simmilar efficiency in the treatment of most of the depressive disorders. Before trying to find “true” antidepressants, we should first shift our attention from their sites of action to their interaction with the G proteins. Certain substances that are now used as antidepressants have also proved efficient in the treatment of other conditions. This is the case of the SSRIs that are being employed in the treatment of the obssesive compulsive disorder (OCD), the MAOIs, effective in the treatment of social phobia and also of the trycyclic antidepressants used to treat generalized anxiety disorder and panic disorder.


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Posted 22 December 2009 - 09:39 AM

I am a 26 year old man. I always thought I would be over my social anxiety by now. Some ways I have gotten better and some ways worse. I am terrified of new situations with new people. I'm terrified of having any responsibilities at my job. I just want my boss to tell me exactly what to do, when to do it so I won't make any mistakes and embarrass myself. I go over and over through my mind everyday all the worst case scenarios of every situation until I feel sick to my stomach and weak. I always have good intentions to talk to people in public and sometimes I get up the nerve but when I go to say something I start fumbling with words and lose my train of thought and get really nervous so I lose all my confidence all over again. I know I'm intelligent, but I doubt every decision I make and I'm so afraid of being ridiculed. I worry I will never succeed in any career because I'm so afraid of all the possible stressful situations I'll run into. I envy people that thrive on the adrenaline they get from "challenging" themselves. I feel I could never be like them. I can't even think of a job I would be suited for anymore. My friendships with my friends are suffering. I can't even look them in the eye when I'm talking and they're my friends whom I trust!


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Posted 23 December 2009 - 06:41 PM

Hello nmalready,

I'm sorry anxiety is causing so many problems for you. You've found a place where people understand just what you're going through. I can relate, as I've been battling anxiety since HS (I'm 39 now). I can tell you that there is hope. Anxiety doesn't have to control you.

You say that you've both improved and gotten worse in social situations. For now, forget the things that have gotten worse. Focus on the ways you've gotten better. Any improvement with coping with anxiety is a huge accomplishment. Good for you, nmalready! :wwww:

When out in public, start small. Don't pick a group of people to have a conversation with. Instead, select one person and try to simply say hello. You'd be surprised at how far baby steps will take you.

I'm sorry work is a panic trigger for you. That must be so difficult because work isn't something you can avoid. Is your job very stressful? How long have you been working there? Has your boss ever given you feedback? If (s)he has, pat yourself on the back for any positive words he offers you. Again, focus on the positive for now.

Are you seeing a doc? In therapy? On meds?

Just hang in there, nmalready. Things really do get better!

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Posted 23 January 2010 - 10:00 PM

I've had social anxiety since I was pretty young and I'm 21 now. I never go anywhere or do anything, partly because of social anxiety but mainly because I don't have anyone to go anywhere with. I'd like to pin it on anxiety and the way I feel when I'm talking to people, but the worst thing is that people just don't want to know me anyway. I haven't had any friends since I was 17, when I was on a young persons psych ward. Those were the best days I can remember, where there were people who at least pretended to like me even if they didn't and I felt like I mattered to someone who wasn't family and didn't have to care. When I came to this site and even when I started typing this I thought that the problem was social anxiety, but I made a promise to myself to be honest even though I'm a compulsive liar, even to myself. I see that anxiety makes things worse. When I do go out, with my brother or sister I'm constantly vomiting and scared that I will throw up and I avoid going anywhere unless there's no way for me to back out of it. But even though the anxieties make me worse, it won't matter if I do get better because I'll still be a boring person the world can well be without.

I came here after spending the night thinking about how I will **** myself and trying to give things another go, but I realise now that even though I'll be around a while longer, I'm just marking time until I go.

I'm sorry for posting this here even though I realised I don't really care about anxiety anymore. I didn't know where else to put it.


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Posted 02 March 2010 - 02:52 PM

I have a bit of a social phobia at the moment, don't want to be around people too much. In work I don't like the people there really, and one person in particualr likes to constantly pull me up on things, criticise, etc. I avoid people contact for fear of scrutiny, and questions, and probing and judging, cos that is one thing humans love to do. I am going through my 'I want to be a recluse, leave me alone' phase, but then you are not an active participant in society and people don't like that. Lexapro and zispin sort of helping, but I could always do with more pharmaceutical assistance I find


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Posted 02 March 2010 - 05:22 PM

I have a bit of a social phobia at the moment, don't want to be around people too much. In work I don't like the people there really, and one person in particualr likes to constantly pull me up on things, criticise, etc. I avoid people contact for fear of scrutiny, and questions, and probing and judging, cos that is one thing humans love to do. I am going through my 'I want to be a recluse, leave me alone' phase, but then you are not an active participant in society and people don't like that. Lexapro and zispin sort of helping, but I could always do with more pharmaceutical assistance I find


Hello dmc,

I'm sorry you've been feeling this way lately. To be perfectly honest, I get that way from time to time, too. I think many of us here at DF can identify with you.

How do you usually handle social anxiety?

When was the last time you spoke to your doc about Lex and Zispin? Maybe it's time to tweak your doses some. Perhaps you should give your doc a call.

Dmc, are you in therapy? Have you ever considered therapy?

Hang in there, dmc. There is a solution out there.

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Posted 02 March 2010 - 10:05 PM

Hi everyone I have the social phobia and I was supposed to start college a few weeks back. It is not easy. I have been given prozac and am in the 5th day. Anxiety is better but full benefit will take a while and hopefully I can get back soon.


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Posted 03 March 2010 - 03:44 AM

Hi everyone I have the social phobia and I was supposed to start college a few weeks back. It is not easy. I have been given prozac and am in the 5th day. Anxiety is better but full benefit will take a while and hopefully I can get back soon.


Hi and Welcome Heartthought

You are definitely not alone here. I am glad that your anxiety is a little better and I hope in time that you will feel a whole lot better.
You may also want to check out the Prozac Room.
Please make yourself feel at home.

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Posted 13 March 2010 - 04:16 PM

Hey guys,
I'm new here so I will explain my situation a bit.
I'm a 26 year old male with social anxiety problems/agoraphobia. It all started 10 years ago when I was in high school, I used to have to get out of class because I thought I felt sick to the stomach and thought I was going to throw up. I eventually figured out it was only stress, so I lived with it. All through college, I absolutly hated going to school because of how I felt. At some point, I couldn't take the bus to go to school anymore (Although I had no problem taking the bus to go back home). Had to ask for rides from my dad (he's the very anxious type as well) who has been really supportive in this. I suffered extreme anxiety especially during exams, always feeling like I was going to vomit and being scared of vomiting in front of people.
I've been working from my place for 5 years now, and feel comfortable doing less stuff than before. I really can't eat at the restaurant anymore, and feel extremely nervous when I go to bars with my friends. Seems like I'm avoiding more and more. I could still hang out with my friends, playing video/board games. I also felt fine doing anything outside. I've been in CBT for 2 years, and it helped a bit. I've been mostly doing exposure therapy. So recently, my friends were planning to go on a trip. Deep inside I know I wanted to go but I was scarred of how I would react there so I didn't go. This kind of opened my eyes... I talked about with my therapist and she told me to get medication. I got prescribed Celexa by two different doctors. I've been on it for 6 days now and every second day I've woke up during the night having nausea. Also, I feel more anxious and haven't seen my friends all week. Just going to the grocery store gave me really bad anxiety. I'm supposed to up it from 10mg to 20mg in two days but I will probably go up to 15. Reading all this, I'm not even sure this is the right drug for me.
I'm not sure what to do, before being on celexa my life was okay. I think my anxiety problem is moderate. I love my job, family and friends, but feel like anxiety is keeping me from living life at the max. I will keep taking the meds for a bit and reevaluate later I guess.
Any thought or comment would be greatly appreciated.
P.S sorry for my broken English
May your day be anxiety free!


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Posted 14 March 2010 - 03:26 PM

HI Sashapoo,

Social Anxiety causes low self esteem , lack of confidence and poor self image, and CBT is a good tools to use as the others have said.

Your opinion of yourself is vital and thinking in social anxiety undermines all your positives assets, skills, abilities, achievements and distorts your world. Feeling causes action, o you act how you feel.

Funny thing is it a bit like depression, your reality and thinking get distorted and you are left with a negative perspective on the world. Avoidence creeps in and isolation.

I found the Book - Feeling Good - by David Burns excellent for depression, but a lot of what he days rings true for Social Anxiety.

I hope your Doctor sends you to see a CBT therapist .Best Wishes

Jim Bow

I also read the book - Feeling Good by David Burns and found to be a very good resourse! However, I skipped the chapter on "perfectionism" because I was afraid it would make me NOT strive to get things done perfectly. :shocked: Now how crazy is that !!!

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Posted 15 March 2010 - 05:40 PM

Hey guys,
I'm new here so I will explain my situation a bit.
I'm a 26 year old male with social anxiety problems/agoraphobia. It all started 10 years ago when I was in high school, I used to have to get out of class because I thought I felt sick to the stomach and thought I was going to throw up. I eventually figured out it was only stress, so I lived with it. All through college, I absolutly hated going to school because of how I felt. At some point, I couldn't take the bus to go to school anymore (Although I had no problem taking the bus to go back home). Had to ask for rides from my dad (he's the very anxious type as well) who has been really supportive in this. I suffered extreme anxiety especially during exams, always feeling like I was going to vomit and being scared of vomiting in front of people.
I've been working from my place for 5 years now, and feel comfortable doing less stuff than before. I really can't eat at the restaurant anymore, and feel extremely nervous when I go to bars with my friends. Seems like I'm avoiding more and more. I could still hang out with my friends, playing video/board games. I also felt fine doing anything outside. I've been in CBT for 2 years, and it helped a bit. I've been mostly doing exposure therapy. So recently, my friends were planning to go on a trip. Deep inside I know I wanted to go but I was scarred of how I would react there so I didn't go. This kind of opened my eyes... I talked about with my therapist and she told me to get medication. I got prescribed Celexa by two different doctors. I've been on it for 6 days now and every second day I've woke up during the night having nausea. Also, I feel more anxious and haven't seen my friends all week. Just going to the grocery store gave me really bad anxiety. I'm supposed to up it from 10mg to 20mg in two days but I will probably go up to 15. Reading all this, I'm not even sure this is the right drug for me.
I'm not sure what to do, before being on celexa my life was okay. I think my anxiety problem is moderate. I love my job, family and friends, but feel like anxiety is keeping me from living life at the max. I will keep taking the meds for a bit and reevaluate later I guess.
Any thought or comment would be greatly appreciated.
P.S sorry for my broken English
May your day be anxiety free!


Hello So Sick,

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I'm happy you joined us! Everyone here understands how you feel. At one point, my anxiety got so bad that I didn't leave my house for 2 entire years. I get what you're going through, So Sick. :wwww:

The nausea you're experiencing at night is probably just a side effect of Celexa. Most SEs wear off in a few weeks.

As for the increased anxiety...it is possible for Celexa to be the cause. I'm not a doc, so I encourage you to speak with yours, preferably both docs who Rxd the med. Ask if you can try an alternate med. Be sure to follow doc's instructions when transitioning from one med to the other.

Could it be possible that your heightened anxiety was brought on by seeking treatment? For the first time, you sought medical advice & meds for your anxiety. Maybe doing so brought the fears that lay at the back of your mind to the foreground, making you more acutely aware of how anxious you are.

Make sense? :huh: What I'm saying is, I sometimes panic when I think that a certain situation might cause anxiety. I have an anxiety attack over the possibility of having an anxiety attack. Do you think this may be something that's happening with you?

It's good to hear how supportive your dad is. Many of us here at DF do not have support systems, as many of our friends & families simply do not understand the nature of the illness. I'm happy that your dad does, that he's there for you.

Remember, So Sick, DF is here for you whenever you need to talk. Please keep us posted. We do care. :sneaky2:

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Posted 06 April 2010 - 04:02 PM

I have major social phobia and have for a while. I pretty much don't go out at all at this point unless I absolutely have to. I'm not working, so it's easy for me. I don't know what the answer is, but once you start slipping it doesn't get easier. People say to force yourself to go out, but I would just rather not if I don't have to. I'd rather be alone which I am most of the time.


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Posted 18 April 2010 - 03:51 PM

I was diagnosed with it along with my depression about 2 years ago. I've got some control over it but it still makes me feel lonely. I manage to go to school and go to therapy and stuff luckily, it gives me some exposure but it surely isn't comfy. I don't feel at ease at school because I'm worried someone is going to see through me or something. I know they won't, but I still feel dread. I can't stand being around my peers, I feel alienated being 19 and still in high school when I'm older than most people in school.

I had to drop out for awhile because it was too overwhelming (my depression definitely made it worse), so I'm behind. I still miss a lot of school, not really because of the anxiety anymore, but it still affects me. ****** sucks.

I feel quite rejected as it is because I got out of a relationship of 2 and a half years (off and on) and still feel beat up because of the chaos that went on during that time. My self-esteem and confidence is shattered because of how mistreated I felt.

It's sick of much of a paradox it is. I know I'm an amazing person, but I don't show it at all around people I don't know. I have so much to offer and I've closed myself off in the fear of total rejection and humiliation, when I know it won't happen, but the social anxiety holds me back.

I'm glad that I know I'm not alone in it though and many others know how it is.


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Posted 29 April 2010 - 12:46 PM

I've found myself getting increasingly agitated when I have to go to school. I no longer have friends, so I see everyone around me in social relationships and feel extremely jealous or upset.

I've had to go home early the last few weeks because I start getting too upset to pay attention. I skip on a daily basis (including right now). I can't stand all the people around, especially since they're all better off than I am.

Being alone for so long has made me forget how to talk to people, giving up any possibility I have to change my current situation. When a person asks me a question or makes a comment to me, I get so excited and nervous that I can barely say anything. The only people I talk to are my family and boyfriend.

It's the painful paradox that anyone with social phobia faces: I desperately want to meet new people, but I can't stand being around them. Three years ago, before I graduated high school, I had a lot of friends and an active social life. Since starting college, my whole life has fallen apart.


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Posted 20 June 2010 - 03:36 AM

Hello, I am new here.

I suffer from Social anxiety, it all started when i started smoking urn. I have quit urn for good now, and I just want my life back.

-I can't look at people in their eyes while speaking to them

-When around people, I feel like they are all looking at me and judging me

-I can't be around people not even one person because I will start to freak out

-My lips get dry when i'm around people and if i don't lick them they will start to bleed

-I start to sweat or feel nerveous when around people

-I have been staying home for the past few months unable to socialize or do anything at all

-I was in the hospital for depression and anxiety but didn't help, also I am currently still taking Seroquel 50mg but nothing

-Basically, my mentally has taken over and is not letting me live my life...I also thought about suicidie.

Please, I need help as soon as possible. What should I do to bring the old me back and enjoy my life like I used to? I used to be very sociable.

Any thoughts/suggestions would be highly appreciated..thank you!


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Posted 21 June 2010 - 05:32 AM

Hello, I am new here.

I suffer from Social anxiety, it all started when i started smoking urn. I have quit urn for good now, and I just want my life back.

-I can't look at people in their eyes while speaking to them

-When around people, I feel like they are all looking at me and judging me

-I can't be around people not even one person because I will start to freak out

-My lips get dry when i'm around people and if i don't lick them they will start to bleed

-I start to sweat or feel nerveous when around people

-I have been staying home for the past few months unable to socialize or do anything at all

-I was in the hospital for depression and anxiety but didn't help, also I am currently still taking Seroquel 50mg but nothing

-Basically, my mentally has taken over and is not letting me live my life...I also thought about suicidie.

Please, I need help as soon as possible. What should I do to bring the old me back and enjoy my life like I used to? I used to be very sociable.

Any thoughts/suggestions would be highly appreciated..thank you!


Hi and Welcome to DF crktp7

I am sorry that you are really battling with social phobia, it can be really crippling and the isolation can make depression even worse.
Can you think of something that triggered you to start feeling this way?
You may want to consider therapy to help you learn coping mechanisms.
Using the internet is a way of helping you to break the isolation and I am glad that you have found us, as being understood and supported can help a lot and it is a starting point.
Please make yourself feel at home.

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Posted 21 June 2010 - 07:36 AM

Isn't it horrible when the meds do practically nothning! Apart from being extremely sensitive to ADs and quite a few types of meds they just don't seem to help my mood at all. I have always known that there is no 'magic pill' or quick-fix, but it's very disheartening to be medicated for over 8 years to no avail.

It really gets me down the majority of the time to be honest; but I do try to keep my chin up and think positively when I am able to. It is *so* D*** hard though, as you know! :D *hugs you* Hang in there, I've been low as hell and when I say low, I mean also not wanting to live. But that's the thing, I don't want to die, it's just too painful to think about going on. It's really a terrible situation to be in battling with your mind like that. I'm thinking of you :D

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Posted 22 June 2010 - 01:42 AM

Thank you guys for the support, I plan on going to the hospital tomorrow to find a psychiatrist..And yes I know what triggered this depression, it was when i started smoking urn..But I quit that stuff I had to learn the hard way that it wasn't good for me.


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Posted 22 June 2010 - 03:50 PM

Thank you guys for the support, I plan on going to the hospital tomorrow to find a psychiatrist..And yes I know what triggered this depression, it was when i started smoking urn..But I quit that stuff I had to learn the hard way that it wasn't good for me.



Hey guy... I just want to second your statement that urn is no good, and tell you that I suffer from much of the same issues you described in my social anxiety disorder. I would definitely seek the help of a (good) psychiatrist who understands the effects that particular drug has on the brain/body (even if you've quit), or how do deal with substance abusers as well as how to deal with anxiety disorders. I have had a bad doctor in the past who put me on lexapro and a sleep med and when they didn't work, told me to "get over it", so I know when something that's supposed to work isn't working that can make it all seem hopeless. I think the Dr. you have can make a world of difference in that regard. Now my Dr. has a no-nonsense substance abuse policy for those who struggle with mental disorders, and based on the information he provided me with, I will never touch it or alcohol again AND I have a lot of hope for the future because I know he will do all that he can to aid me in getting over my issues. The Dr's who actually care often give some of their time to hospitals or clinics, outside of their personal practices...so even without insurance or a lot of cash you can have access to good care, just do your research online to find one. From what I gather, it can take a number of meds before you find one that works for you, and you can become more depressed before you get better... try to be patient and focus on the light at the end of the tunnel.

Are you also trying behavioral therapy or an anxiety support group to break the social anxiety amongst people who share the same issues and may be sensitive to it? It may be hard to get up the gusto to go do it, but I find when I'm around friends that I've known long enough to be somewhat comfortable with (usually a forced situation), I feel GOOD afterwards for having been able to successfully get through a social situation...even if I was a bit awkward or un-nerved during the experience. It seems to be like anything in that you get better with practice, and at least for me it just feels like a step in the right direction... the more you isolate yourself, the less you're receiving a reward in the sense of accomplishment, thus adding to your depressed feelings (learned that on dr. phil, but it totally makes sense). Don't get me wrong, it's HARD to do (the last party I tried to go to my whole body trembled for my first hour there), but in a safe, understanding environment (like an anxiety support group) you may feel good about yourself for just trying.
I hope everything works out for you. :shocked:


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Posted 31 July 2010 - 03:55 AM

Social situations make me snap. More so in the past than now. Have hope everyone, it does ease up. It's a matter of confronting it or perhaps medication can help. Medication can be a trial and error experiment though, but don't lose hope!

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Social phobia is a complex anxiety disorder that manifests intense fear, sometimes accompanied by panic attacks, both before and during social situations. It is difficult to identify a single cause (a person can have more than one factor).





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