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[Lizzy]

What do you *want* out of life?  What big difference will make boredom disappear?

[scarletworld]

yes, i understand, confusion.

i think it's what happens to me. for me, it's not really boredome at all. it's the inability to be satisfied with anything. like nothing holds interest any longer.

can't say i've figured out healthy ways to deal with this, tho...

[misfit]

I know what you are feeling confusion. Bordem is my worst enemy. Yeah, I paint, read, have a computer etc, but those are not things I always feel like doing. Sometimes I want to go out with my friends, but not to the same old places. It's wierd.
 What I have been doing lately is FORCING myself to do things. I know that I am not going to have any fun tonight unless I take the bus/subway into the city. It's been beautiful all week here, but now we have been hit by a stupid snowstorm!!!   (Hello is it not April!?!?!) So I am reluctant to hit the 45 minute bus ride into the city, then the subway which is like another half hour. But if I don't do that, I will sit here at home with nothing to do, and that leads me to feeling sorry for myself, getting p***** off 'cause I have no REAL friends here anymore, and angry that I am single and by staying home I am surely not going to meet anyone. So...though I don't want to head out in this sh*tty weather...I guess I will have to make myself, if I want to have any kind of enjoyable life.
 The thing I am learning lately, is it is actually much easier to be depressed. Being happy takes a lot of effort...a lot of fight. So that's what I have to do.
 Look at the things that would make you happy, and the things that would make you not feel board...then look at what you have to do to achieve them. Most of all, don't give up. If for a few weeks you call friends and no one wants to do anything, do give up, just keep trying. And maybe look into clubs, or poetry readings or something, just find somewhere you can meet people.
 I am still working on all this...it is hard, as I said it takes a lot of effort on my part...but it pays off.
Hang in their buddy
Misfit  

[cat]

I know that feeling. Iv learned that sometimes I just have to force myself to get out and do something even though inside I dread the thought.When your bored and/or alone it gives you lots of time to dwell and your thoughts take on a life of there own.What do you enjoy doing? If your friends are to busy....ahh who needs em!
                                                  Cat  

[quietCherub]

Well, all I can say is to find some things to do.  Make them up... I just had spring break and well, I don't really have many good friends right now so I didn't have anyone to meet up with, so I just came up with things to do.  I know its difficult, especially if you really just don't have anything that needs to be done immediately, or if you've already gotten used to being bored at home.  Is the weather nice?  Maybe take a walk/run, take some pictures, go for a drive, or make up errands -- sounds silly, but thats kind of what I did. Go to the library, I dunno, it depends on what you usually like to do.   :)

[Confusion]

Doesn't seem like anyone understands me here. I'm sooooooooo bored of everything, i have a tv, books, i write poetry and songs, i have a playsation, listen to music, talk to people on the phone. But i'm sooooooooooooooo bored. CAN'T ANYONE UNDERSTAND???

[littleblackduck]

I understand boredom.  I get that sometimes.  It goes in cycles for me.  When you are bored, nothing sounds appealing or good.  For me, the only cure has been waiting it out.  For me it passes.  Sometimes in hours or sometimes in a day or two.
Sometimes I attempt to escape by TV or internet... Does not really work.  Sometimes ebay or shopping is the cure, sometimes not.  Boredom is sucky.  If that is possible.  It is just inescapable at times.  Sometimes what is boredom for me is when I know I need to do something but don't want to do it.  That can happen at work or at home.  Sometimes it is on a day off when just nothing sounds appealing and I feel guilty for doing "nothing" on a day off.

Boredom is like when there is everything in the world to stimulate you but nothing does.

Something else that seems like a paradox to me: I can be incredibly busy and bored at the same time.  Must be a Gemini thing with the twin personality?  

I wish I could tell you how to beat it.  Honestly, I never have, except by waiting until it passes.

I bet a lot of substance problems stem from boredom.  Maybe not.  Anyway, talk more to us if you are still bored.  I find boredom to be a fascinating subject!

[Confusion]

I've almost had two weeks off work for easter and have not been in contact with any of my friends, they all can't be bothered to meet up or would rather meet up with "other" friends. So i've been at home all day everyday bored out of my skull, it's getting to th point where i'm so depressed i've lost the will to do anything. I really hate everything.

[Lizzy]

I don't understand boredom.  

You have a computer; presumably a TV; parks to walk in; a cycle to ride [hire one if necessary]; go swimming; library; cinema; you can read/write/listen to music.

Yes boredom does lead to depression.  But what do you *want* out of life.  Everything has to be earned.  Friendship has to be worked at.  Some friends don't last; others endure.  So if they haven't phoned you, what stops you phoning them.

Join a charity and volunteer your services .........

When I was housebound with depression and anxiety I couldn't do anything - didn't read, couldn't follow a story line on TV, couldn't have friends round, couldn't eat: so everything I am able to do is a big bonus.  Get out there and enjoy: it's not going to be full of life and laughter every minute of the day but make the most of what you *have* got!

[WaffleBoy]

I've always found excercise to be a good cure to boredom.  You just gotta get yourself out there and do it.  One problem about boredom is that you tend to feel fatigued after awhile, but you'll be much better off once you get out there and get the blood pumping. :)

[Jkm]

You need to karate chop youself out of the house and visit your friends.  You mood isn't going to change unless you do something to help it along.  Other people are great to be around when you have the blues and feel unmotivated.

[Confusion]

Being in love might do. To have a great part in one of the shows that i do. To have friends who are sensitive, kind, and always there for me like i'm there for anyone in need of it.

[Lizzy]

'in love' doesn't last: it's a huge adrenaline rush which is good for us: but unless there is friendship, shared interest, tolerance etc. it fades away.  Friendship needs building on; which in itself can relieve boredom.  

You have to work up through the ranks in showbusiness: it is *not* easy.  I started in the chorus line and was after 3 years given a small role when I sang a solo; leading on to bigger parts, Yum-Yum being my favourite  :D   So get involved more: get stuck into all aspects of the show and let people see that you are really interested.  That can start conversations with those who have the ways into a more satisfying part.

Maybe you are too available to others who you think are 'in need'?  It's easy to mis-interpret someone saying they feel depressed and offer help when all they mean is that they feel 'fed-up': the next day they might be fine again so that it seems they are pushing your help away.  

Start taking care of YOU.  Start planning what you *want* in life then go out and grab it.  It's hard sometimes when anxiety/depression keeps us housebound to believe we will ever be capable again - so little steps  :;):