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#1 cutehobbit

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Posted 08 April 2009 - 10:00 AM

I am strarting to feel depressed again. I quit my job last year because my boss was causing my depression and doing nothing to help me and I have been doing agency work ever since. There can be weeks inbetween temporary assignments and I have been applying for every permanent job out there and I get to interview stage but always get rejected. is this somthing other people experience?Because no seems to want to hire me, I am starting to slide downhill again, after I spent so long and worked so hard to climb up again after my boss ruined me. sorry if its a bit garbled but I am looking for advice.
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#2 lonleysindy

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Posted 08 April 2009 - 10:11 AM

I don't have a job either and can't wait till I am well enough to work again. I had a great job wish I still had it but I lost it because of depression. I used to deal cards at a casino. I miss it so much...$20 per hour to play cards, hardly work. But now I am in debt and you need a licience to deal in canada, they don't like it if you are in debt.

So I am eventually going to go out get anyjob pay off my debts and go back to the casino.

It is going to be hard right now for any-one to find a job....we are in a recession right now. Employers are cutting back. So I would take it so much as rejection right now.

Working validates you as a person that you are a contributing member of society

yes I think that not having a job increase depression. You have no reason to get up each day.
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Posted 08 April 2009 - 03:00 PM

i dont have a job at the moment but im a full time student but i still want to get one again because i miss work, i think it helped me with my depression because i worked in a hosp and it helped me to focus on other peoples health problems instead of my own and it gave me something practical to keep me busy and take my mind off things. yet now i feel too depressed to face work and yet at the same time i know it would prob help so its a bit of a viscious circle. hope u find something permanent soon, (and a better boss). i never told my work about depression coz i dont expect them to understand, but i never let it affect my work so i guess i didnt need them to be accommodating. hmm. i never really found it hard to get jobs but that was before the recession, now its not that im being rejected, its just there arent the jobs to apply for and i keep waiting for them to be advertised but still havnt been. i was rejected for my uni application last yr though so i know how tough rejection is. all you can do is make sure u ask for feedback, sometimes its something simple like u dont have enough experience, there was someone with more experience, or if u think its ur interview technique there are things you can do, books you can read, to help u improve your answers to standard questions and what theyree looking for etc. yea it is a hard time so just be persistant, enthusiastic and flexible (or appear it even if u dont feel it!).

Edited by lizzy100, 08 April 2009 - 03:04 PM.


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Posted 08 April 2009 - 03:59 PM

I was laid off a couple weeks ago and I've been careful about not letting myself getting depressed about it.

sindy is spot on with "Working validates you as a person that you are a contributing member of society"

This aspect of society makes it easy to feel guilty/worthless when not working. What helped was reading a book called The Joy of Not Working. I got it from the library and it's great!

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Posted 08 April 2009 - 08:09 PM

I am strarting to feel depressed again. I quit my job last year because my boss was causing my depression and doing nothing to help me and I have been doing agency work ever since. There can be weeks inbetween temporary assignments and I have been applying for every permanent job out there and I get to interview stage but always get rejected. is this somthing other people experience?Because no seems to want to hire me, I am starting to slide downhill again, after I spent so long and worked so hard to climb up again after my boss ruined me. sorry if its a bit garbled but I am looking for advice.



When you described your situation, I thought you were talking about me , as this mirrors my current cirmcumstance so much !

I left my job in October of last year as I also couldn't stand my boss and could not handle working for her as she was exarcebating my depression to the point of me taking lots of days off and staying at home to avoid her (most unlike me).
So at that time I was sooooooo relieved to be free from there! :hearts:

So, fast forward to now and I still haven't managed to get a job , despite going to many interviews, and applying for different positions. Some of them don't even even let me know how I went, or why I didn't even get the job....just leave me hanging.
Also, my depression isn't helping matters either as I get quite down when I get rejected and end up spending my days in bed or surfing the net.

What perks me up though is that I also look at it from a positive view point...ie, now I am really FREE. Free to enjoy time that I never had whilst I was working. So , have made plans for a holiday next month. It's not always like you will have this free time when you are working or when you land your next job, so why fight it, and just enjoy it . Also sometimes I just think sod the corporate life....it's just full of egos and brown-nosers and horrendous people like my last boss! Easier said than done though, especially from a financial stand point.
Also , this spare time gives me a chance to really tackle my depression and ensure I will be better equiped with better coping skills in case I come across another manager like my last boss.

But, I'm sure you will find something again soon....try not get to down about it and just enjoy your freedom !!!!!!!

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Posted 09 April 2009 - 04:15 AM

I am strarting to feel depressed again. I quit my job last year because my boss was causing my depression and doing nothing to help me and I have been doing agency work ever since. There can be weeks inbetween temporary assignments and I have been applying for every permanent job out there and I get to interview stage but always get rejected. is this somthing other people experience?Because no seems to want to hire me, I am starting to slide downhill again, after I spent so long and worked so hard to climb up again after my boss ruined me. sorry if its a bit garbled but I am looking for advice.


You're definitely not alone... There are people who've been applying for hundreds of jobs over the last year or two, getting rejected each time. There's just no guarantee of finding anything these days. You're getting competition from both the young who are entering the workforce, as well as the older who lost their jobs or retirement accounts; I just read about a 90-year old man who had to come out of retirement to work as a Wal-Mart greeter. Hopefully this situation will improve soon as the economy recovers, but for now, you've just got to keep looking and expect a bit of a longer wait before success.

Edited by anon22ae, 09 April 2009 - 04:16 AM.


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Posted 11 April 2009 - 02:11 AM

yes i got depressed because i dont have a job or anything really to do. i quit my job i had last year because it was causing me too much stress and i was getting to depressed to function, i was able to finish my degree, took me 10+ yrs due to my learning disability and with my bad luck when i graduate and want to get a so called real job there is no jobs out there that i can find that im qualified to do. luckily i live at home with my parents i am 31 yrs old and it depresses me that i have not progressed through life like others my age, lately i have been able to try new things i am taking a web site class one night a week and take music lessons so it does give me something to do just wish it was for the greater good.

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Posted 25 November 2009 - 11:05 AM

I am strarting to feel depressed again. I quit my job last year because my boss was causing my depression and doing nothing to help me and I have been doing agency work ever since. There can be weeks inbetween temporary assignments and I have been applying for every permanent job out there and I get to interview stage but always get rejected. is this somthing other people experience?Because no seems to want to hire me, I am starting to slide downhill again, after I spent so long and worked so hard to climb up again after my boss ruined me. sorry if its a bit garbled but I am looking for advice.


I know how you feel, I was let go from my job 3 years ago I had gotten a new female boss and she came and changed everything and since then I have been looking for a permanaent job i have been temping for 3 years . I even had a temp assignment for 1 year paying very well and it still did not ending up going permanent. I get depress sometime but I try to have a positive outlook and tell my self that my time is coming to find a pernanent job. Now as we approach the holiday season things are slow and I have not worked since september of 2009. I keep getting interviews for temp assignments but nothing seems to come out of them and I am beginning to think that it is me, it is very tight and competive out in the work force and they are making you interview for a temp job which is so riduclious. Once you start temping it is hard to stop because you need the money to survive today :shocked:

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Posted 25 November 2009 - 12:02 PM

I am strarting to feel depressed again. I quit my job last year because my boss was causing my depression and doing nothing to help me and I have been doing agency work ever since. There can be weeks inbetween temporary assignments and I have been applying for every permanent job out there and I get to interview stage but always get rejected. is this somthing other people experience?Because no seems to want to hire me, I am starting to slide downhill again, after I spent so long and worked so hard to climb up again after my boss ruined me. sorry if its a bit garbled but I am looking for advice.

Chip up, you will find another job, and it will probably be a damm sight better than your last one.

Whilst you have some time in between assignments have you thought about a training course of any kind?

Could this even be a great time for a complete chage of direction and pace?

When it comes to interviews, don't forget that there are a LOT of people going for each job at the moment, it's really tough out there. Often there are a few ideal candidates and the things that seperates them are fairly small seemingly insignificant things.

Try not to take rejection for jobs personally, this is unlikely to be a direct reflection on you.

Have you thought about contacting the employers of one of the jobs you were rejected for? Explain to them that you are obviously looking for work and it is really tough at the moment. Say that you were wondering why you didn't get the job and if there any areas you need to improve on in thier eyes. Explain that you were hoping this might help you aith your next application.

I'll bet you 50p that a year from now you'll have a good job and look back on this as just a 'bit of a rough patch'. :shocked:

Edited by _Mark, 25 November 2009 - 12:03 PM.


#10 Argamemnon

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Posted 25 November 2009 - 12:06 PM

yes I think that not having a job increase depression. You have no reason to get up each day.


My problem is that both having a job and not having a job increases my depression, so I can't win.

I hope you will find a job soon, good luck.

Edited by Argamemnon, 25 November 2009 - 12:07 PM.


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Posted 25 November 2009 - 12:46 PM

I am strarting to feel depressed again. I quit my job last year because my boss was causing my depression and doing nothing to help me and I have been doing agency work ever since. There can be weeks inbetween temporary assignments and I have been applying for every permanent job out there and I get to interview stage but always get rejected. is this somthing other people experience?Because no seems to want to hire me, I am starting to slide downhill again, after I spent so long and worked so hard to climb up again after my boss ruined me. sorry if its a bit garbled but I am looking for advice.

Chip up, you will find another job, and it will probably be a damm sight better than your last one.

Whilst you have some time in between assignments have you thought about a training course of any kind?

Could this even be a great time for a complete chage of direction and pace?

When it comes to interviews, don't forget that there are a LOT of people going for each job at the moment, it's really tough out there. Often there are a few ideal candidates and the things that seperates them are fairly small seemingly insignificant things.

Try not to take rejection for jobs personally, this is unlikely to be a direct reflection on you.

Have you thought about contacting the employers of one of the jobs you were rejected for? Explain to them that you are obviously looking for work and it is really tough at the moment. Say that you were wondering why you didn't get the job and if there any areas you need to improve on in thier eyes. Explain that you were hoping this might help you aith your next application.

I'll bet you 50p that a year from now you'll have a good job and look back on this as just a 'bit of a rough patch'. :shocked:




Mark you have very good points here. Getting hired does require setting the mind right before a person goes to interview.. By doing some research on the company a person wants to work with will show the possible employer that you have initiative. When a person can show that by hiring you then that company will increase in value then you will be hired. Anyone may send me some questions if you need more information. with your permission I will post the questions and answers for everyone to benefit
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