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      National Mental Health Awareness Month, 2016   05/01/2016

      Proclamation 9433 of April 28, 2016 National Mental Health Awareness Month, 2016 A Proclamation Nearly 44 million American adults, and millions of children, experience mental health conditions each year, including depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, and post-traumatic stress. Although we have made progress expanding mental health coverage and elevating the conversation about mental health, too many people still do not get the help they need. Our Nation is founded on the belief that we must look out for one another—and whether it affects our family members, friends, co-workers, or those unknown to us—we do a service for each other when we reach out and help those struggling with mental health issues. This month, we renew our commitment to ridding our society of the stigma associated with mental illness, encourage those living with mental health conditions to get the help they need, and reaffirm our pledge to ensure those who need help have access to the support, acceptance, and resources they deserve. In the last 7 years, our country has made extraordinary progress in expanding mental health coverage for more people across America. The Affordable Care Act prohibits insurance companies from discriminating against people based on pre-existing conditions, requires coverage of mental health and substance use disorder services in individual and small group markets, and expands mental health and substance use disorder parity policies, which are estimated to help more than 60 million Americans. Nearly 15 million more Americans have gained Medicaid coverage since October 2013, significantly improving access to mental health care. And because of more than $100 million in funding from the Affordable Care Act, community health centers have expanded behavioral health services for nearly 900,000 people nationwide over the past 2 years. Still, far too few Americans experiencing mental illnesses do not receive the care and treatment they need. That is why my most recent Budget proposal includes a new half-billion dollar investment to improve access to mental health care, engage individuals with serious mental illness in care, and help ensure behavioral health care systems work for everyone. Our Nation has made strong advances in improving prevention, increasing early intervention, and expanding treatment of mental illnesses. Earlier this year, I established a Mental Health and Substance Use Disorder Parity Task Force, which aims to ensure that coverage for mental health benefits is comparable to coverage for medical and surgical care, improve understanding of the requirements of the law, and expand compliance with it. Mental health should be treated as part of a person's overall health, and we must ensure individuals living with mental health conditions can get the treatment they need. My Administration also continues to invest in science and research through the BRAIN initiative to enhance our understanding of the complexities of the human brain and to make it easier to diagnose and treat mental health disorders early. One of our most profound obligations as a Nation is to support the men and women in uniform who return home and continue fighting battles against mental illness. Last year, I signed the Clay Hunt SAV Act, which fills critical gaps in serving veterans with post-traumatic stress and other illnesses, increases peer support and outreach, and recruits more talented individuals to work on mental health issues at the Department of Veterans Affairs. This law will make it easier for veterans to get the care they need when they need it. All Americans, including service members, can get immediate assistance by calling the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK or by calling 1-800-662-HELP. During National Mental Health Awareness Month, we recognize those Americans who live with mental illness and substance use disorders, and we pledge solidarity with their families who need our support as well. Let us strive to ensure people living with mental health conditions know that they are not alone, that hope exists, and that the possibility of healing and thriving is real. Together, we can help everyone get the support they need to recover as they continue along the journey to get well. NOW, THEREFORE, I, BARACK OBAMA, President of the United States of America, by virtue of the authority vested in me by the Constitution and the laws of the United States, do hereby proclaim May 2016 as National Mental Health Awareness Month. I call upon citizens, government agencies, organizations, health care providers, and research institutions to raise mental health awareness and continue helping Americans live longer, healthier lives. IN WITNESS WHEREOF, I have hereunto set my hand this twenty-eighth day of April, in the year of our Lord two thousand sixteen, and of the Independence of the United States of America the two hundred and fortieth.  
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Retreat1975

Calling In Sick To Work For Mental Health Day Off

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This is my third day in a row. I'm feeling the guilt, but I seriously can not go to work. My anxiety is taking a toll, along with my depression.

Somebody tell me that it's ok. I just don't want to feel guilty. I am seeing my doc for a medical certificate again.

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You have a legitimate illness that is making it impossible for you to work. If you had the flu, you'd call in sick, and depression/anxiety is no less real. I'm glad to hear you're seeing your doctor soon. Let go of the guilt and try to rest.

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I've taken "mental heath" days off from work with either a note from my GP or psychiatrist. We all need the occasional break to care for ourself.

Are you seeing a mental health provider for treatment (meds/therapy) of your anxiety/depression? If not, please consider doing so.

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Definitely let go of that guilt. It will probably end up making you feel worse. Try to find something relaxing to do, something that will help take your mind off of all of the stresses in your life.

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I've taken "mental heath" days off from work with either a note from my GP or psychiatrist. We all need the occasional break to care for ourself.

Are you seeing a mental health provider for treatment (meds/therapy) of your anxiety/depression? If not, please consider doing so.

Sheepwoman

Thank you both. :)

I'm seeing a counselor. It's an on and off thing for the last three months. My next appointment c/ her is Sunday. I am planning on returning to work tomorrow. The thing is, there's a lady at my work who questioned me infront of my colleagues about why I was away the 'last' time I was mentally ill. She was quite rude about it. I couldn't stand her presence, and I try to avoid her. I guess I'm feeling the anxiety about seeing her again tomorrow morning. What I'll do is go into work very early, and then avoid the group of people I have to meet in the morning. It gives me such anxiety. You see, I have to pick up my work schedule (patient list) at the office where all the staff congregate. The last thing I need is this woman griping about my leave of absence infront of my coworkers. It's embarrassing and humiliating to me. That is my biggest worry.

How would you deal with a woman like that without revealing that you're suffering from mental health problems?

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Nosy people tick me off. They don't need to know why you were off from work. If you feel a need to,Tell them you were ill and let it go. I've told people like that that it's none of their business why I was off a few days and that I don't ask why they were off and then walk away. Cuts them off immediately and they'll probably not bother you anymore. Your co-workers may respect/appreciate you more for standing up to this obnoxious busy-body. Your co-workers may have the same problem with her. They don't need to know you have MH problems, don't say anything about it.

Sheepwoman

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so get this. 10 years ago or so, person next to me at work says he wasn't sick, he took a mental health day. (probably a nice spring day after a long winter or such.) Good worker, more person related than techincal etc, but ok. I was shocked. That's not done. He went on to other jobs and teams....

Couple years ago he comes back as manager. So, if I take a mental health day during the deep doldrums of winter, I don't feel guilty, I just remember what he did.

If it does become a habit, something to review with your Doc of course!

mm

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I have taken mental health days off numerous times. My husband is my boss so he knows when I just need to chill a few days and get back on track. I still do feel guilty, like I'm not pulling my weight but he understands and trys to reasure me that its okay.

Don't feel guilty.....

Suziee

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You have a legitimate illness that is making it impossible for you to work. If you had the flu, you'd call in sick, and depression/anxiety is no less real.

Every time I feel the guilt attacks coming on, I reread this quote and the responses on this thread. It has helped me quite a bit. I took an entire week off work. I told them I had the flu. The good thing is that somebody two weeks ago took a week off as well, and I don't feel that badly. I can hide my depression from them under the guise that I was physically ill. From a cynical point of view, I know there will be people who are just not going to believe that I was sick. There will be the odd person who will judge me as a malingerer. Whatever. No wonder many people with depression do not want to disclose their illness to coworkers. It's because of the constant worry of being judged and stigmatized that they're using depression as a crutch, an excuse not to go to work.

I am also going to get my bloodworks done. It could be thyroid related, as I am always fatigued.

I just want to say that depression and anxiety-related issues have nearly ruined my career. My supervisor knows I have anxiety, but not depression. The thing is, I can't even recognize myself. I never used to skip work because I was highly anxious (panic attacks) and depressed. I seriously don't even know who I am anymore. My confidence level has dropped significantly, I have trouble sleeping, and I worry excessively about what people think of me in my new job. It's this constant belittling of myself that has driven me to a deep dark corner where I don't want to face my own battles at work. I deal with a tyrant/bully at work, and I also am not feeling connected to my coworkers. I feel so detached, lonely, and I second guess myself all the time at work. It's nuts, literally. I can't handle this constant depression anymore without serious help and support. And that's why I'm going to TRY AGAIN to beat this. Like I haven't been trying for the past two years since it all started. :( I wish depression wouldn't rear its ugly head time and again....and ALWAYS at the WORST time.

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Please don't let that woman intimidate you on your job. If you are in the US, there are HIPPA laws where you can keep medical conditions private (my husband LOVES to throw that up in his boss' face when they ask why he has a doctor's appointment!) You have a right to privacy. The next time that woman says something (I'm not sure if she's your boss or supervisor) just say, "Thank goodness for Hippa, huh?" If she's not a supervisor, let her know your bosses have your doctor's note. That's all that is needed. You shouldn't feel pressure from a coworker to tell them why you have a sick day. And remember, take care of yourself. What good would you be at work having anxiety attacks? Not worth it at all.

I hope you feel better soon.

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'Retreat1975'

You need to do what is best for you... Today marks a week that I have been off work. I got out of the hospital last Saturday for aq terruble Mirgraine Headache. I can tell you I believe it was totally caused by stress and anexiety. I have been stressed at home and at work and my body just couldn't take it.... It made me listen .... It was telling me I needed a break. I finally had no other choice but to listen when the pain was so bad i couldn't lift my head. We have to take care of our selves. I am glad to hear you took the week. Talk with your p doc. Also talk with us as much as you need to. We are always here...

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Its absolutely okay. I took four consecutive days last week, and it helped immensely. Instead of sitting at the office stressing that I wasn't getting my work done, I took PTO, and relaxed.

There is nothing there to feel guilty about.

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Thank you, sweetdream angel. (((hugs))). I will definitely be posting more if I feel like venting. This has helped me tremendously.

Thank you, amaroq. I really appreciate you sharing that. It helps to know I am not the only one taking extended time off. Much appreciated!

Its absolutely okay. I took four consecutive days last week, and it helped immensely. Instead of sitting at the office stressing that I wasn't getting my work done, I took PTO, and relaxed.

There is nothing there to feel guilty about.

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You're welcome!

((((Retreat))))

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Your welcome this is a great place. I have found great comfort and support. Welcome..... We are here for you...

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Here's an update on what's been going on. I went to see my doctor on the weekend, and she recommended that I take a few more weeks off for mental stress leave. My husband came with me to the dr's office so that he could understand how badly my depression and anxiety has affected my life, since working at this hospital. My two boys are ecstatic that I am going to be home with them more often, but I really don't even have the energy to pay attention to their needs. I feel so inadequate right now, and I often wish I could just take off on a mini-vacation in the tropics to unwind, and get away from everyone and everything.

It's hard to believe that depression alone can crush your physical stamina, your mental stamina, and your spirit. I have never felt this badly in my entire life. I used to be a great coworker, always enthusiastic about the next day of work, I got along with people, and I even didn't put too much pressure on myself. I had a natural enthusiasm about life in general.

I am going for some blood works this Saturday to determine whether this is thyroid related, or anything else that may be screwing up my serotonin levels. I can't stand this anymore.

I haven't been back to work yet for almost three weeks, and even when I'm home, I fret about what other people will think of my absence. I can't help associating the stigma of depression with 'weakness', 'failure', 'incompetence', etc. But I try to remember that this disease will run its course for a certain time, and then it will be over. I just hate the relapses. :(

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I'm right there with you, Retreat. **empathy**

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Here's an update on what's been going on. I went to see my doctor on the weekend, and she recommended that I take a few more weeks off for mental stress leave. My husband came with me to the dr's office so that he could understand how badly my depression and anxiety has affected my life, since working at this hospital. My two boys are ecstatic that I am going to be home with them more often, but I really don't even have the energy to pay attention to their needs. I feel so inadequate right now, and I often wish I could just take off on a mini-vacation in the tropics to unwind, and get away from everyone and everything.

It's hard to believe that depression alone can crush your physical stamina, your mental stamina, and your spirit. I have never felt this badly in my entire life. I used to be a great coworker, always enthusiastic about the next day of work, I got along with people, and I even didn't put too much pressure on myself. I had a natural enthusiasm about life in general.

I am going for some blood works this Saturday to determine whether this is thyroid related, or anything else that may be screwing up my serotonin levels. I can't stand this anymore.

I haven't been back to work yet for almost three weeks, and even when I'm home, I fret about what other people will think of my absence. I can't help associating the stigma of depression with 'weakness', 'failure', 'incompetence', etc. But I try to remember that this disease will run its course for a certain time, and then it will be over. I just hate the relapses. :(

Retreat1975 I just read your post and it was almost as though you'd written pretty much word-for-word what I am feeling. Even down to the thyroid and blood tests, had them last week, they came back fine. Now signed off for two weeks.

I am totally here for you.

I know how hard it is not to feel guilty and I really can't give any advice on that because I am just the same so I want to really make you know that you're not alone.

Like others have said the depression is an illness, just like other illnesses.

Stay strong and big hugs xxxx

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((((amaroq))) ((((cowgirl))))

Thank you so much. :)

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