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      National Mental Health Awareness Month, 2016   05/01/2016

      Proclamation 9433 of April 28, 2016 National Mental Health Awareness Month, 2016 A Proclamation Nearly 44 million American adults, and millions of children, experience mental health conditions each year, including depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, and post-traumatic stress. Although we have made progress expanding mental health coverage and elevating the conversation about mental health, too many people still do not get the help they need. Our Nation is founded on the belief that we must look out for one another—and whether it affects our family members, friends, co-workers, or those unknown to us—we do a service for each other when we reach out and help those struggling with mental health issues. This month, we renew our commitment to ridding our society of the stigma associated with mental illness, encourage those living with mental health conditions to get the help they need, and reaffirm our pledge to ensure those who need help have access to the support, acceptance, and resources they deserve. In the last 7 years, our country has made extraordinary progress in expanding mental health coverage for more people across America. The Affordable Care Act prohibits insurance companies from discriminating against people based on pre-existing conditions, requires coverage of mental health and substance use disorder services in individual and small group markets, and expands mental health and substance use disorder parity policies, which are estimated to help more than 60 million Americans. Nearly 15 million more Americans have gained Medicaid coverage since October 2013, significantly improving access to mental health care. And because of more than $100 million in funding from the Affordable Care Act, community health centers have expanded behavioral health services for nearly 900,000 people nationwide over the past 2 years. Still, far too few Americans experiencing mental illnesses do not receive the care and treatment they need. That is why my most recent Budget proposal includes a new half-billion dollar investment to improve access to mental health care, engage individuals with serious mental illness in care, and help ensure behavioral health care systems work for everyone. Our Nation has made strong advances in improving prevention, increasing early intervention, and expanding treatment of mental illnesses. Earlier this year, I established a Mental Health and Substance Use Disorder Parity Task Force, which aims to ensure that coverage for mental health benefits is comparable to coverage for medical and surgical care, improve understanding of the requirements of the law, and expand compliance with it. Mental health should be treated as part of a person's overall health, and we must ensure individuals living with mental health conditions can get the treatment they need. My Administration also continues to invest in science and research through the BRAIN initiative to enhance our understanding of the complexities of the human brain and to make it easier to diagnose and treat mental health disorders early. One of our most profound obligations as a Nation is to support the men and women in uniform who return home and continue fighting battles against mental illness. Last year, I signed the Clay Hunt SAV Act, which fills critical gaps in serving veterans with post-traumatic stress and other illnesses, increases peer support and outreach, and recruits more talented individuals to work on mental health issues at the Department of Veterans Affairs. This law will make it easier for veterans to get the care they need when they need it. All Americans, including service members, can get immediate assistance by calling the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK or by calling 1-800-662-HELP. During National Mental Health Awareness Month, we recognize those Americans who live with mental illness and substance use disorders, and we pledge solidarity with their families who need our support as well. Let us strive to ensure people living with mental health conditions know that they are not alone, that hope exists, and that the possibility of healing and thriving is real. Together, we can help everyone get the support they need to recover as they continue along the journey to get well. NOW, THEREFORE, I, BARACK OBAMA, President of the United States of America, by virtue of the authority vested in me by the Constitution and the laws of the United States, do hereby proclaim May 2016 as National Mental Health Awareness Month. I call upon citizens, government agencies, organizations, health care providers, and research institutions to raise mental health awareness and continue helping Americans live longer, healthier lives. IN WITNESS WHEREOF, I have hereunto set my hand this twenty-eighth day of April, in the year of our Lord two thousand sixteen, and of the Independence of the United States of America the two hundred and fortieth.  
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My situation probably seems worse to me but if anyone is willing to read on and can perhaps relate to or reply (even if it

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((((((((((Bomazu)))))))))))))

I am so sorry for everything you have gone through, and all of the fears you face. Things obviously haven't been easy for you.

You say you've tried meds and therapy... how long ago was this? Maybe the meds you were on weren't the right ones for you and you should give it a go again? or maybe your therapist wasn't the right one for you as well?

I know what its like to be in that darkness. But let me tell you there IS a silver lining. And you will find it!! You just have to nip this depression thing in the bud! Lots of people here have been through countless numbers of meds and therapists before they found the right fits for them. You just need to keep fighting and find your way out.

I believe there is someone out there for everyone, so your ex may not have been the one for you. I know you think she was perfect for you, but I believe there is someone better! and you will be hit with that love like a ton of bricks.

I wish you nothing but the best. Please keep posting and let us know how you are doing!

Looking Up :hearts:

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Sending you :hearts: and strength to keep going.

I dont really have any words at the moment, a bit speachless at the moment, but I am glad you wrote it as I can see your reaching out for help, advice something, to stop the loneliness the pain inside and we are here to help you through this part of your life.

Please keep posting and adding your thoughts,

Your an important person to us

:bump: and more :shocked: Isabeau

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:hearts:

Did you ever stop to think how ironic it is that you are terrified of dying... yet you aren't really living?

I KNOW it feels right now like your life is completely empty, that there's nothing worth looking forward to... I think many of us have had our hearts broken before. And no matter what anybody tells you, NO ONE could possibly understand your pain, right? I know how it feels. It's terrible. You can't eat, you can't sleep, but you HAVE to move on, you HAVE to keep breathing, you HAVE to keep looking for positive things to keep living for.

You speak of problems in terms of jobs and friends. It sounds to me like you need a drastic life change. Take responsibility for your life. Maybe you should go back to school, pursue another career, try some new things you've always wanted to try but were always afraid to. Hey, if you're at the bottom of your rope, it can't hurt, right?

I hope you start to feel better. Feel free to message me whenever you want to talk.

<3 Jenn

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Thanks for the replies~ to be honest, I was scared to check for replies to my post. After posting this topic I felt embarrassed and guilty for potentially coming across as just another person with a list of problems and being selfish for wanting to get them off my chest. I honestly don't know if to feel like that was just stupid of me or if people secretly agree? I guess I'll never know.

Looking Up: thankyou. I've been off meds for about 4 or 5 years. I would be lying if I said I felt they ever did anything positive for me so I'm reluctant to go back to them. Also having my girlfriend there for me for the last 5 years proved to be far more supportive than anything else I've tried, so I can't help but feel a new intimate relationship with a 'near perfect partner' is the only thing that will lift me back up. Although then I get depressed over the thought of a 'near perfect partner' being near impossible to find..

I was seeing a therapist, again, about 4 years ago. It started off positive but I found after the initial sessions of explaining my problems, I found it hard to know what to talk about, but perhaps this was duer to the fact I was feeling a little better in myself?

More recently, I went back to university two years ago and was seeing the university's own counsellor for several sessions. I was finding it very difficult to make friends at the time (in fact I never made any close friends up until the end of the 2 years). As with the therapy, it felt good to share my issues onto someone else, but didn't trust who I was speaking with...

I'll let you know if situations change..

Isabeau: Thanks. I appreciate the positive words. Sorry if I'm over analysing but I can imagine it's difficult for most to know how to react when someone effectively says 'my life is ruined and I have no future', but I really appreciate the fact you took the time to reply.

Jenn: Yes- I do realize how ironic it is to be both scared of dying, but scared of living! Frustrating and depressing too. Your advice of a drastic life change sounds exactly like what I'm after. I've been thinking today how a change of lifestyle and and particularly a change in attitude might help at least solve one or two of my problems. One issue that contributes to difficulties making relationships is the fact I am hooked up on wanting to be 'normal'. Today I seriously contemplated the option of accepting myself for who I am and not worry about the rest of society's expectations, then there' a chance I could find maybe a little happiness. Easier said than done and it wouldn't solve everything, but it's a positive thought at least.

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Bomazu Your very :hearts:

Thinking of you and hoping today is better day for you

Isabeau

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Also having my girlfriend there for me for the last 5 years proved to be far more supportive than anything else I've tried, so I can't help but feel a new intimate relationship with a 'near perfect partner' is the only thing that will lift me back up. Although then I get depressed over the thought of a 'near perfect partner' being near impossible to find..

All I can really say to this is "no". No, she did not lift you up. You had a whole in your heart and she plugged it. That was all. Some people fill the void with drugs, some with alcohol, some with work, and some, like you, with love. But how much is it REALLY love if, really, all you're truly looking for is someone to make you feel whole? I know their were feelings involved, memories, work, emotional time, actual time, and energy involved, but really look at the truth of the situation. The cliche is annoying but true: you can't love someone else until you love yourself. I would say the absolute worst thing you could do for yourself right now would be to get into another relationship, to even *look*.

You need to work on YOU. You need to take responsibility for YOU. Stop depending on other people to fix you. They can't. People come and go. You, you're stuck with yourself for eternity. Losing people is really hard. Having your heart broken is really hard. But you can't fall apart. Love contributes to happiness, but you don't need to be in love to be happy. The reason why it helps is because its positive. Find other positive things in this world, because, as hard as it is to believe sometimes, there are positive things.

And I may be young, but I can still guarantee you that if you love yourself before starting another relationship, that a) you're going to attract more people (friends and girlfriends~!) and b) your relationships are going to be so much better.

Or you can take the easy route and just try to plug it up again. But you'll just come right back to this dark place. You don't have to come back here again. You can work your way out. And I think that if you fight this, you'll also get a lot of confidence in yourself. You *can* do this.

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Thanks.

Jenn: I've been thinking about your last message for an hour now. You have some good points, but now I'm feeling confussed and haven't come to any conclusions. I'll take a break for now..

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Hi :hearts:

I know this is an old topic, but I thought I'd add some insight, since you kindly replied to my post.

For of all, don't feel at all guilty for writing out your problems on this forum, everyone does it, and when we feel depressed, we often feel extremely guilty, but we need to vent out problems, however small or big as a form of understanding them ourselves.

It seems like the way you felt with your girlfriend was in some way for you the atidote for your depression, and now she's gone it feels like a large part of your life is gone and feel even more depressed. I think perhaps you put too much a part of yourself into the relationship, and didn't be as independent as you could be. I on the other hand, just don't enter into relationships when I feel depressed, so I'm like the other extreme lol. Maybe, it would be great if you could have some time out not having a girlfriend, then you can learn to be yourself on your own, so when you do meet a girl, your relationship can be more like an extra bonus.

I don't know if this is for you, but I'm just concentrating on getting better again and getting my life together before I even attempt to get a boyfriend, that would be like the last icing on the cake for me. I'm gonna get myself on some tablets that work better for me (hopefully!), keep doing all that I do anyway to get myself better (therapy, excercise, healthy eating etc.), and work at my degree and then hopefully I'll start to get better, when I'm starting to get better I'll go out with my friends when I feel Ok. Then when I do feel better again (however long that's gonna take *sigh*, if I feel like it, I'll think about guys or a boyfriend again.

I think you should think about going on tablets again, they are so good, it does take ages to get it right, but make sure when you're trying to get better you lead as normal a life as possible if you're well enough- that's the mistake I made, I was at home all the time not doing much, so I felt better as thought I was.

I hope you start to feel better soon,

Goldstarxx

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