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 Nov 1 2009, 12:00 AM
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Okay...so everyday i go to work i have like 50 ppl asking me Hello, How Are You? Some of the ones im close to i ask them....do you really wanna know?  Lol!! But anyways....This is how i feel right now. I feel very sad. Lazy. Empty. I want to cry...but trying not to bc i know if i start i won't be able to stop and i'll end up with a HUGE headache. I feel irritable. And a little bit less aggressive and dangerous than i was feeling yesterday.  I feel ugly and stupid. I kinda feel hateful toward myself. I dyed my hair red to kinda become a new identity...my alter ego...i've had one looooong b4 these celebs start to glamourize them   ...it kinda felt better to change something on me though. I want to jus quit my job. It would be better if they fired me...i guess....i called out sick today bc i seriously don't feel well....and i think i'm gonna stay home tomorrow too. Its too stressful. I just want to throw up already...i feel sick. 
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Nov 1 2009, 06:11 AM
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(((((((((((((SmilingElephant)))))))))))))
If you need to cry, it can be really healing to let it all out.
It can be good to let out how you feel, therapeutic.
It can be frustrating telling others how you feel when they ask, but I just say I am fine, or moody, or tired or grumpy, irritated.
I just keep it short and don't tell them why.
Trace
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Listen in deep silence. Be very still and open your mind.... Sink deep into the peace that waits for you beyond the frantic, riotous thoughts and sights and sounds of this insane world. - A course of miracles.
True beauty must come, must be grown, from within.... - Ralph W Trine.Faith is the true belief we have in hope and hope is the thing that keeps us going to have faith
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Nov 1 2009, 01:10 PM
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Hi Smiling,
I can understand your frustrations when others ask that question but most of the time I to just keep it short and simple by saying I'm good and how are you? a little tired and just plain ole not up to par, anybody that knows me well and are willing to talk with me about it then I will talk to but I don't let too many people that close to me as I'm pretty picky as to whom I share myself with.
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Nurturing As we plant the seeds for a flower bed, we must nurture those seeds by watering and weeding so that the flowers may become beautiful and strong. Without the nurturing they may whither away.
As we plant the seeds for our gardens to grow our foods, we must nurture those seeds with watering and weeding so that the garden may give plenty of the food we need. Without the nurturing we may go hungry.
As humans we have seeds planted within our hearts, souls and minds, those seeds must also be nurtured with tender love and care so that we may feel, see and think better. Like weeding the flowers and gardens we must also weed out the bad thoughts and feelings that we suffer with any type of illnesses. Give yourself some nurturing and let others support that nurturing in weeding out the bad seeds and replacing them with seeds of love and peace of mind, we all have right and the ability to see that the world is a beautiful sight just as the beauty within ourselves. By nurturing, we won't go hungry and whither away with our illnesses.
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Nov 2 2009, 12:51 AM
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I just answer that I'm fine, as that's what most people expect. It seems that the question "How are you?" doesn't have any meaning behind it anymore.  Everyone expects you to say "fine," and if I say "okay," they stop and go, "Only okay?" They're not really interested in why I only say "okay," though; it seems that they wonder why I didn't say "fine" or "good." Sometimes people even walk by me and don't even bother to wait for the answer.
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"Shall I part my hair behind? Do I dare eat a peach?
I shall wear white flannel trousers, and walk upon the beach.
I have heard the mermaids singing, each to each."---from T.S. Eliot's "The Love Song of J. Alfred Prufrock"
"Memory believes before knowing remembers. Believes longer than recollects, longer than knowing even wonders."---from William Faulkner's Light in August
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Nov 2 2009, 03:32 PM
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Hi Smiling,
How are you doing today?
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Nurturing As we plant the seeds for a flower bed, we must nurture those seeds by watering and weeding so that the flowers may become beautiful and strong. Without the nurturing they may whither away.
As we plant the seeds for our gardens to grow our foods, we must nurture those seeds with watering and weeding so that the garden may give plenty of the food we need. Without the nurturing we may go hungry.
As humans we have seeds planted within our hearts, souls and minds, those seeds must also be nurtured with tender love and care so that we may feel, see and think better. Like weeding the flowers and gardens we must also weed out the bad thoughts and feelings that we suffer with any type of illnesses. Give yourself some nurturing and let others support that nurturing in weeding out the bad seeds and replacing them with seeds of love and peace of mind, we all have right and the ability to see that the world is a beautiful sight just as the beauty within ourselves. By nurturing, we won't go hungry and whither away with our illnesses.
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Nov 2 2009, 08:45 PM
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How are you doing today?
I couldn't be any better, I'm as good as i can be.
All true for any one of us here.....
Heidi
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Nov 7 2009, 10:47 AM
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QUOTE (SmilingElephant @ Nov 1 2009, 05:00 AM)  Okay...so everyday i go to work i have like 50 ppl asking me Hello, How Are You? Some of the ones im close to i ask them....do you really wanna know? Lol!! But anyways....This is how i feel right now. I feel very sad. Lazy. Empty. I want to cry...but trying not to bc i know if i start i won't be able to stop and i'll end up with a HUGE headache. I feel irritable. And a little bit less aggressive and dangerous than i was feeling yesterday. I feel ugly and stupid. I kinda feel hateful toward myself. I dyed my hair red to kinda become a new identity...my alter ego...i've had one looooong b4 these celebs start to glamourize them ...it kinda felt better to change something on me though. I want to jus quit my job. It would be better if they fired me...i guess....i called out sick today bc i seriously don't feel well....and i think i'm gonna stay home tomorrow too. Its too stressful. I just want to throw up already...i feel sick. hnow i say not too good really and if they ask why i tell them. if they arent really interested after that i just try and not let it get to mee. after all they asked didnt they.i smiling elephant, hope youre feeling better today. when people used to ask me how i was feeling i just used to say oh ok thanks but
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Nov 10 2009, 11:35 PM
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How am i? I am SO depressed. I was so excited about getting a little dog and now i can't bc all of a sudden my mom and dad have an agreement with our landlord about having no pets. On top of that she went to my job and told my co-workers that i'm not responsible enough....only bc she knows im like family with everyone at work and she had to get my sister's class ring today. That was so embarassing.   I just wanna go cry my eyeballs out bc on top of that its been a stupid day and i jus don't like myself. I don't like anything. I don't like anybody....i'm all alone, i have no boyfriend...no real friends...nothing....what do i have to live for? I'm so mad.
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Nov 11 2009, 01:25 AM
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((((((((((Smiling)))))))))))))
I'm so sorry, that must have been terribly embarrassing. It's so hard to believe that someone especially a family member to come to your work and do that in front of everybody, no wonder your so mad and it is understanding. I'm sorry about not getting your dog as I know how comforting they can be for those of us who suffer from depression. You are still you and you can still have a full life a head of you. I know it's been a bad day, a really bad day. I do hope that things will start looking up for you soon. Hopefully you can get some rest tonight and start fresh in the morning.
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Nurturing As we plant the seeds for a flower bed, we must nurture those seeds by watering and weeding so that the flowers may become beautiful and strong. Without the nurturing they may whither away.
As we plant the seeds for our gardens to grow our foods, we must nurture those seeds with watering and weeding so that the garden may give plenty of the food we need. Without the nurturing we may go hungry.
As humans we have seeds planted within our hearts, souls and minds, those seeds must also be nurtured with tender love and care so that we may feel, see and think better. Like weeding the flowers and gardens we must also weed out the bad thoughts and feelings that we suffer with any type of illnesses. Give yourself some nurturing and let others support that nurturing in weeding out the bad seeds and replacing them with seeds of love and peace of mind, we all have right and the ability to see that the world is a beautiful sight just as the beauty within ourselves. By nurturing, we won't go hungry and whither away with our illnesses.
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Nov 11 2009, 01:58 AM
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QUOTE (SmilingElephant @ Nov 11 2009, 12:35 AM) How am i? I am SO depressed. I was so excited about getting a little dog and now i can't bc all of a sudden my mom and dad have an agreement with our landlord about having no pets. On top of that she went to my job and told my co-workers that i'm not responsible enough....only bc she knows im like family with everyone at work and she had to get my sister's class ring today. That was so embarassing. I just wanna go cry my eyeballs out bc on top of that its been a stupid day and i jus don't like myself. I don't like anything. I don't like anybody....i'm all alone, i have no boyfriend...no real friends...nothing....what do i have to live for? I'm so mad. (((((((SmilingElephant)))))))))) Omg I can understand how you r feeling I HATE it when people ask others how are you and expect to hear Im good or great otherwise they will ignore them, last week one of my good friends asked me how am I? I asked her do she wanna know? she said only positive things I was little pi**ed off with her and said im sorry to tell you Im feeling crap she went like oh you need to stop think negative all the time. Thats sucks about ur mum,maybe you should try and have a talk with her about how you r feeling? Just wondering are you seeing counsellor? sorry if you have already said it on your post didnt get the chance to read all your posts. Im always here if you need someone to talk, PM me :) Butterfly
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Nov 11 2009, 11:40 PM
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QUOTE (XxButterflyxX @ Nov 11 2009, 01:58 AM) QUOTE (SmilingElephant @ Nov 11 2009, 12:35 AM) How am i? I am SO depressed. I was so excited about getting a little dog and now i can't bc all of a sudden my mom and dad have an agreement with our landlord about having no pets. On top of that she went to my job and told my co-workers that i'm not responsible enough....only bc she knows im like family with everyone at work and she had to get my sister's class ring today. That was so embarassing. I just wanna go cry my eyeballs out bc on top of that its been a stupid day and i jus don't like myself. I don't like anything. I don't like anybody....i'm all alone, i have no boyfriend...no real friends...nothing....what do i have to live for? I'm so mad. (((((((SmilingElephant)))))))))) Omg I can understand how you r feeling I HATE it when people ask others how are you and expect to hear Im good or great otherwise they will ignore them, last week one of my good friends asked me how am I? I asked her do she wanna know? she said only positive things I was little pi**ed off with her and said im sorry to tell you Im feeling crap she went like oh you need to stop think negative all the time. Thats sucks about ur mum,maybe you should try and have a talk with her about how you r feeling? Just wondering are you seeing counsellor? sorry if you have already said it on your post didnt get the chance to read all your posts. Im always here if you need someone to talk, PM me :) Butterfly I have not seen a counselor yet....tomorrow im going to finally set up an appointment...everytime i try its been on my luchbreak and the office closes at 5...so i'm off tomorrow...gonna do it then. I was a bad girl last nite....i self medicated and i still haven't told anybody today that that's why im so sluggish today. I felt so lonely last nite...lying in my bed...room so silent...bed so cold. Nobody to talk to. I cried myself to sleep. It all just sucks.
This post has been edited by SecretMist: Nov 13 2009, 01:00 AM
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Nov 12 2009, 01:32 AM
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QUOTE (SmilingElephant @ Nov 12 2009, 12:40 AM) QUOTE (XxButterflyxX @ Nov 11 2009, 01:58 AM) QUOTE (SmilingElephant @ Nov 11 2009, 12:35 AM) How am i? I am SO depressed. I was so excited about getting a little dog and now i can't bc all of a sudden my mom and dad have an agreement with our landlord about having no pets. On top of that she went to my job and told my co-workers that i'm not responsible enough....only bc she knows im like family with everyone at work and she had to get my sister's class ring today. That was so embarassing. I just wanna go cry my eyeballs out bc on top of that its been a stupid day and i jus don't like myself. I don't like anything. I don't like anybody....i'm all alone, i have no boyfriend...no real friends...nothing....what do i have to live for? I'm so mad. (((((((SmilingElephant)))))))))) Omg I can understand how you r feeling I HATE it when people ask others how are you and expect to hear Im good or great otherwise they will ignore them, last week one of my good friends asked me how am I? I asked her do she wanna know? she said only positive things I was little pi**ed off with her and said im sorry to tell you Im feeling crap she went like oh you need to stop think negative all the time. Thats sucks about ur mum,maybe you should try and have a talk with her about how you r feeling? Just wondering are you seeing counsellor? sorry if you have already said it on your post didnt get the chance to read all your posts. Im always here if you need someone to talk, PM me :) Butterfly I have not seen a counselor yet....tomorrow im going to finally set up an appointment...everytime i try its been on my luchbreak and the office closes at 5...so i'm off tomorrow...gonna do it then. I was a bad girl last nite....i self medicated and i still haven't told anybody today that that's why im so sluggish today. I felt so lonely last nite...lying in my bed...room so silent...bed so cold. Nobody to talk to. I cried myself to sleep. It all just sucks. :( Do you have anyone u could talk to eg ur family or any close friends? maybe u could talk to some hotline
This post has been edited by SecretMist: Nov 13 2009, 01:01 AM
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